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By *ertsguy2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

hertford

I've seen many post about hotwives and the fun they get to have, but I have a few questions.

Who gets to choose who the hotwife gets to play with, is it a joint decision or does HW choose by herself?

Do HW prefer to find their own potential partners or do husbands find potential partners for their HW and is this part of the fun for the husbands?

Do HW prefer to play away from their husbands or do they like their husbands to be involved in some way?

Would the Husband prefer to be involved in some way or do they prefer to send their wives off and wait to hear the details once she returns?

Just a couple of questions, there are a few more but I don't wish to bore everyone's

HG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience, all of the above.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

hertford


"From personal experience, all of the above. "

So you're saying that things can work both ways, either shared input and interaction by the husband and or no input from Hubbie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen many post about hotwives and the fun they get to have, but I have a few questions.

Who gets to choose who the hotwife gets to play with, is it a joint decision or does HW choose by herself?

Do HW prefer to find their own potential partners or do husbands find potential partners for their HW and is this part of the fun for the husbands?

Do HW prefer to play away from their husbands or do they like their husbands to be involved in some way?

Would the Husband prefer to be involved in some way or do they prefer to send their wives off and wait to hear the details once she returns?

Just a couple of questions, there are a few more but I don't wish to bore everyone's

HG

X"

Any or all of those things can happen depending on the couple and how they feel at the time.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

hertford


"I've seen many post about hotwives and the fun they get to have, but I have a few questions.

Who gets to choose who the hotwife gets to play with, is it a joint decision or does HW choose by herself?

Do HW prefer to find their own potential partners or do husbands find potential partners for their HW and is this part of the fun for the husbands?

Do HW prefer to play away from their husbands or do they like their husbands to be involved in some way?

Would the Husband prefer to be involved in some way or do they prefer to send their wives off and wait to hear the details once she returns?

Just a couple of questions, there are a few more but I don't wish to bore everyone's

HG

X

Any or all of those things can happen depending on the couple and how they feel at the time."

Ah ok, so each situation could be different?

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

The hot wife I see tends to have most the say and hubby enjoys going along with it (she is dominate of him but submissive to me)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From personal experience, all of the above.

So you're saying that things can work both ways, either shared input and interaction by the husband and or no input from Hubbie?"

Precisely. I also think that there's an element of hubby thinking 'I'll take what I can get'. Certainly, I've taken it as far as the 'bull' (I hate that term) is comfortable with.

So, for me, the minimum satisfactory outcome is her fucking a guy and she or he taking pictures to send to me. Right through upgrading to a movie, then me in the room, then me joining in with fucking her, as the maximum.

I've no interest in other guys, I just enjoy witnessing and joining in with my wife embracing her inner fuck-god!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! And in our case they are different for different guys.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

As always with this kind of thread, the obvious is left out. The hotwife couple aren't letting the single guy fuck the wife, the partner of the hotwife is letting her fuck the single guy. You should try to understand the dynamic of couples like this. It isn't necessarily a cuck relationship. Their fantasy, their needs, are being fulfilled by this situation. They probably find it both sexually and mentally fulfilling to use this dynamic for their own needs.

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By *ustthe2ofusXXXCouple
over a year ago

coventry


"As always with this kind of thread, the obvious is left out. The hotwife couple aren't letting the single guy fuck the wife, the partner of the hotwife is letting her fuck the single guy. You should try to understand the dynamic of couples like this. It isn't necessarily a cuck relationship. Their fantasy, their needs, are being fulfilled by this situation. They probably find it both sexually and mentally fulfilling to use this dynamic for their own needs. "

very true, what we do is definitely not a cuck relationship. N loves me being involved as much as she is.

We tend to find, well try and find a guy together we both know what she likes and dislikes.

On a meet I'm happy for her to play alone ( once we are comfortable with the guy ) in fact I encourage it more as I think she will relax and enjoy it more in a one on one and I love hearing all the details about it over the following days and N enjoys telling me especially while we are playing. All the mfm meets we have had are awesome and love them so would never refuse her having 2 cocks on the night instead of just a mf meet. We don't really have a set pattern and always just go with the flow as long as we are both happy.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"As always with this kind of thread, the obvious is left out. The hotwife couple aren't letting the single guy fuck the wife, the partner of the hotwife is letting her fuck the single guy. You should try to understand the dynamic of couples like this. It isn't necessarily a cuck relationship. Their fantasy, their needs, are being fulfilled by this situation. They probably find it both sexually and mentally fulfilling to use this dynamic for their own needs. "

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"As always with this kind of thread, the obvious is left out. The hotwife couple aren't letting the single guy fuck the wife, the partner of the hotwife is letting her fuck the single guy. You should try to understand the dynamic of couples like this. It isn't necessarily a cuck relationship. Their fantasy, their needs, are being fulfilled by this situation. They probably find it both sexually and mentally fulfilling to use this dynamic for their own needs. "

This is exactly how it is for us. He is my priority at all times and vis versa.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I generally choose who but, he looks and messages the guy as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely up to her most times but depends on situation. She has 2 fb's where atm I have no involvement that came on to her outside of fab

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By *ertsguy2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

hertford


"As always with this kind of thread, the obvious is left out. The hotwife couple aren't letting the single guy fuck the wife, the partner of the hotwife is letting her fuck the single guy. You should try to understand the dynamic of couples like this. It isn't necessarily a cuck relationship. Their fantasy, their needs, are being fulfilled by this situation. They probably find it both sexually and mentally fulfilling to use this dynamic for their own needs. "

Yes that is how I imagined it would be, either a joint effort/decision making sure everyone is comfortable and happy with decisions being made, and as it's HW doing the fucking she'll always have he last day. I was just curious how much input the hubby has or likes to have! Or is he happy to let his HW have total control over who she fucks and doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we both control everything and no two meets are the same she picks i pick we pick the guy ... sometimes i know its happening (arranged) and sometimes i dont(suprise) and sometimes mrs dont as ill have a guy waiting for her to enjoy

... thats how it works for us different everytime but the end result is the same i allow my wife to do whatever she want sexually as i can too and the best bit is alway after when she tells me the nitty gritty and then we just have the best fun ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we started off, Mr used to advertise on Craig's List for a man to join us. It was his role to make a shortlist of about half a dozen from an initial 50 ish, which he would then present to me and I would have the final say. In the early days we found that we had different tastes in men. He wanted to see me with a young fit stud, but I preferred the men who were similar to my husband. In all honesty we have found that it works better meeting men from a similar walk of life to ourselves. We don't actively look any more as we have a number of friends on the scene. But if we do look, it is much more of a joint decision, and it is essential that my lover and my husband become friends for the arrangement to work. If he feels marginalised in any way, then it doesn't matter how well me and the guy get on, it probably won't work. I leave all new mail from single men for Mr to read first and he will delete any that might offend me. Then every few days we reply together to all the remaining mail. With regards to play, we do a variety - play together, watching taking photos, or me going out on a lone date.

Mrs

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"When we started off, Mr used to advertise on Craig's List for a man to join us. It was his role to make a shortlist of about half a dozen from an initial 50 ish, which he would then present to me and I would have the final say. In the early days we found that we had different tastes in men. He wanted to see me with a young fit stud, but I preferred the men who were similar to my husband. In all honesty we have found that it works better meeting men from a similar walk of life to ourselves. We don't actively look any more as we have a number of friends on the scene. But if we do look, it is much more of a joint decision, and it is essential that my lover and my husband become friends for the arrangement to work. If he feels marginalised in any way, then it doesn't matter how well me and the guy get on, it probably won't work. I leave all new mail from single men for Mr to read first and he will delete any that might offend me. Then every few days we reply together to all the remaining mail. With regards to play, we do a variety - play together, watching taking photos, or me going out on a lone date.

Mrs"

Perfectly said...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every couple I've ever met had a different dynamic. One guy didn't want to meet me. Another wanted to present his wife to me. Another wanted me to masturbate into his wife's panties.

It's sex, anything can happen.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Others have already said this but there is a huge difference between Hotwife scenarios and cuckold scenarios.

We love meeting single guys as much as meeting couples and single girls (they are just all different dynamics). The trouble is many (when chatting) seem confused by the notion of letting your wife fuck another guy and assume it must be because the husband is a cuckold or submissive or something.

Every couple has their own rules and approach as it is all about what turns them on. Mr BIRLDN is always present, often taking pics, and will always join in at some point.

We have tried Mrs BIRLDN meeting a guy solo a few times as yet again another dynamic, but really having ticked that box we are not that bothered about going there again (never say never).

As for who chooses...well we are a couple. WE choose all the people we meet together. Just like we decide all things in life as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The hot wife I see tends to have most the say and hubby enjoys going along with it (she is dominate of him but submissive to me)...

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I see this as what I call a triangular relationship. There is a dynamic between the 3 people and the relationship would cease to exist in that manner if any aspect of that dynamic were to alter. The dynamic doesn't necessarily have to involve sub and Dom relationships as it does with yours, but there has to be something that connects the trio. We've been involved with a number of men in that capacity, but when a true 3-way connection is established it's enormously satisfying for all concerned. We prefer not to treat single men as though they are there for our needs, more do we always hope for that special connection where as a trio we all meet each other's needs.

Mrs

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