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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow...that sounds fun and not at all egotistical.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously there has to be some sexual attraction it's. It all about looks but if you genuinely do t fancy the other person would you still participate so your partner could enjoy themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just see it as a shag lol.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Only every single time we go to a swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why am I hearing my old schoolmates sniggering "don't like look of yours"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahha so it's not just us then... good to hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the same, if one of us doesn't find one of the couple attractive we don't play, doesn't matter how fit the fit on is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think your right it's just hard to find the perfect mutual match I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap? "

We just don't play in this type of scenario. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap? "
never ever would we consider this and why would you want your partner go with someone they don't find attractive for your personal gain? That's just wrong and disrespectful of your partner.*Mr

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I think your right it's just hard to find the perfect mutual match I guess "

Hard is an understatement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The usual case is we both fancy the female but the mrs isn't attracted to the male

We can't exactly say pull up a chair and watch can we....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think your right it's just hard to find the perfect mutual match I guess

Hard is an understatement "

I feel like I should be insulted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not so much the ugly and fat side it's usually the sexual chemistry side...

Guys aren't as flirty as women and she loves to flirt and build the tension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taking one for the team? It's never going to happen! We like to share the fun, and it's important that we both enjoy ourselves. If we meet a couple and Mr R wants to play but I don't, I'm happy to watch him enjoy himself but won't compromise my own integrity and self-respect by letting someone I'm not into, fuck me. Ever.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep...but I liked playing with her too....I find I am often only attracted to only one of a couple tho

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

We have been very lucky in this respect. We have dicussed taking one for the team but never had to, as yet.

At least we haven't said anything to each other in our after action reviews.....although there was this one time (joking)

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I think your right it's just hard to find the perfect mutual match I guess

Hard is an understatement

I feel like I should be insulted "

Eh? Tis a compliment! - you two are like a needle in a haystack.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife. "

But you're a woman so you think men should get what they are given and be grateful for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think your right it's just hard to find the perfect mutual match I guess

Hard is an understatement

I feel like I should be insulted

Eh? Tis a compliment! - you two are like a needle in a haystack."

Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not so much the ugly and fat side it's usually the sexual chemistry side...

Guys aren't as flirty as women and she loves to flirt and build the tension "

It sounded like you meant physically hot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There has to be an initial attraction but sex is soo much more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife.

But you're a woman so you think men should get what they are given and be grateful for it? "

Where did I say that?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No way on earth would I take one for the team and I wouldn't expect Dick too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in every full swap situation, one half of a couple will be less enthusiastic than the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual case is we both fancy the female but the mrs isn't attracted to the male

We can't exactly say pull up a chair and watch can we.... "

This made me chuckle.......... now I think you could lol

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife.

But you're a woman so you think men should get what they are given and be grateful for it?

Where did I say that?

"

Just amusing that you chose to answer the question with a hypothetical! There are plenty of couples where the guy has aged better than the wife!

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By *ictMattCouple
over a year ago

Bermondsey

Well i think its what happen to us all the time .

I am lucky enought to have an amazingly sexy lady who share my life but unfortunately for her she just have a chubby no so good looking bf. Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, quite a frequent occurrence to be honest.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap? "

Actually yes we did. First couple we met & my other half really fancied her, i to be honest didn't have much of an attraction for the womans bloke. However as i felt like i should break my swinging cherry (& i wanted to go in the hot tub lol) i told him that on this occasion i would take one for the team. Am i glad i did? Hell yes, we had some great sex. Sadly the wife may well have sold herself at the social but she was actually a crap shag.

Karma is great,

Mrs WD40

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we did a couple of times. The woman was so hot, not only did I have to play with her, I absolutely had to watch hubby with her too. Although it wasn't a chore, my main priority was to do what I had to do to get my fantasy achieved. The other occasion I took a hit ironically the tables turned. I found I really enjoyed fucking the gentleman on a frequent basis whereas our partners who originally seemed to like each other were indifferent. Fundamentally though this is why we prefer single men - I like to choose my sex partners.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is probably fairly common in swinging because it's so hard to find another couple where you both equally attracted to the relevant other half. We've tried not to compromise on our standards but unfortunately that's leading to a very frustrated hubby who likes plenty of the ladies but then I have to let him down when I predictably respond 'not my type' when he shows me a photo of the Mr.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Never have and never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This! All the time it's the women that's smoking hot and the male is ok ish. Unless the women wants to meet alone I have to sadly turn them down

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Obviously there has to be some sexual attraction it's. It all about looks but if you genuinely do t fancy the other person would you still participate so your partner could enjoy themselves? "

Simple answer no ..it's about both of you enjoying it as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think in every full swap situation, one half of a couple will be less enthusiastic than the other."

I wouldn't agree with every situation, but yeah, it's much more common than people would care to admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife.

But you're a woman so you think men should get what they are given and be grateful for it?

Where did I say that?

Just amusing that you chose to answer the question with a hypothetical! There are plenty of couples where the guy has aged better than the wife! "

That doesn't tally with what you said though.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap? never ever would we consider this and why would you want your partner go with someone they don't find attractive for your personal gain? That's just wrong and disrespectful of your partner.*Mr "

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife.

But you're a woman so you think men should get what they are given and be grateful for it?

Where did I say that?

Just amusing that you chose to answer the question with a hypothetical! There are plenty of couples where the guy has aged better than the wife!

That doesn't tally with what you said though.

"

It was a question not a statement

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think in every full swap situation, one half of a couple will be less enthusiastic than the other.

I wouldn't agree with every situation, but yeah, it's much more common than people would care to admit. "

I think it might be more common too. Its partly why we have so few meets with couples. We both need to be keen also if we detect the slightest reluctance in either partner of the other couple we step away. Neither of us wants to be the one tolerated so someone's partner can have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both fit and in thier early 30's! give them another 20 years and then see what they think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both fit and in thier early 30's! give them another 20 years and then see what they think "

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No and we both agreed we would only play,if both want to and fancy the other person.

Miss

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This! All the time it's the women that's smoking hot and the male is ok ish. Unless the women wants to meet alone I have to sadly turn them down "

It's not. You just have a subconscious rounding down with men. People project the worst onto men. This is one of the reason that men recieve longer jail time than women for the exact same crime. Negative bias. Women are so sheep like, even on the bell curve they cluster.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"If I were a man I would never expect my partner to fuck an ugly, old, fat man just so I could fuck the hot wife. "

But what if HE is also an ugly fat old man? Surly the wife fucks him all the time, what's the difference?

Hahah

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives "

Is that why there's not one pic of you on profile? never understand couples profiles that only have the lady on them, really stupid.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon


"As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives

Is that why there's not one pic of you on profile? never understand couples profiles that only have the lady on them,

really stupid."

In a nutshell yes ,,,,, but not all of us are on here looking for meets , I wouldn't be so stupid to try and put my ugly fat body out there to be ridiculed

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives

Is that why there's not one pic of you on profile? never understand couples profiles that only have the lady on them, really stupid."

Don't think he came looking for profile criticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only every single time we go to a swingers club"

$avage!

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By *bi_scotlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not quite the same but I did allow myself to get talked into a 'surprise' 3some by a guy I had been meeting occasionally. I was young at the time though and wouldn't allow it to happen again

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives

Is that why there's not one pic of you on profile? never understand couples profiles that only have the lady on them, really stupid."

Peoples choice up to the individual. neither do we have the man on view but if we make a connection and are looking to meet we then send pics ..

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"As the ugly half of a couple it's very difficult reading threads like this ,,,,, yes I know we shouldn't go to clubs and try and enjoy ourselves but even us uglies like a bit of kinkiness in our lives

Is that why there's not one pic of you on profile? never understand couples profiles that only have the lady on them, really stupid.

Peoples choice up to the individual. neither do we have the man on view but if we make a connection and are looking to meet we then send pics .."

We did arrange a hotel meet with a single guy who looked great on here but when he turned up I didn't really fancy him but went through with it ... after when I told Inked he was real upset that I never told him as he would have asked him to go

Wouldn't happen now tho

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

We realised that our tastes and who we might attract are so different that playing with couples was never going to work so now we do not look for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs"

Very interesting. Without specific reference to yourself, do you think part of the reason the four way attraction can be so hard is that within couples one of them has a much higher opinion of their own partner than the average member of the rest of the world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs

Very interesting. Without specific reference to yourself, do you think part of the reason the four way attraction can be so hard is that within couples one of them has a much higher opinion of their own partner than the average member of the rest of the world? "

No I don't think that's something I've particularly noticed. Admittedly we have never actively looked for couples, and the view I expressed above comes from getting to know couples at parties. Most of the time, i see a couple where the lady is stunning, and the man is fine, but not as attractive as the single men we play with.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs

Very interesting. Without specific reference to yourself, do you think part of the reason the four way attraction can be so hard is that within couples one of them has a much higher opinion of their own partner than the average member of the rest of the world?

No I don't think that's something I've particularly noticed. Admittedly we have never actively looked for couples, and the view I expressed above comes from getting to know couples at parties. Most of the time, i see a couple where the lady is stunning, and the man is fine, but not as attractive as the single men we play with. "

That make sense. The basic law of averages would ensure that's the case! We don't meet singletons so i believe what i said exists, but it's more noticable when your sample only includes couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs

Very interesting. Without specific reference to yourself, do you think part of the reason the four way attraction can be so hard is that within couples one of them has a much higher opinion of their own partner than the average member of the rest of the world?

No I don't think that's something I've particularly noticed. Admittedly we have never actively looked for couples, and the view I expressed above comes from getting to know couples at parties. Most of the time, i see a couple where the lady is stunning, and the man is fine, but not as attractive as the single men we play with.

That make sense. The basic law of averages would ensure that's the case! We don't meet singletons so i believe what i said exists, but it's more noticable when your sample only includes couples. "

I think a lot of the problem is age. Women seem to age better than men, or can sex themselves up easier. We have no trouble attracting couples in their late forties and above. But when looking for single men we can bring the age down and get a man before aging process has really set in. A man in his thirties won't mind an older woman, but much harder the other way round.

Mrs

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We believe it is close to impossible to find a couple where I fancy him and he fanicies me, and our partners miraculously fancy each other just as much. Also we don't think we could find a couple who are mutually interested in us, where I desire the man as much as some of the single men we play with. Whereas neither of us will fuck someone if the thought of that turns our stomach, we are fundamentally on the swing scene to have fun. I get kicks out of my husband having a good time with a sexy lady, and I'm not ashamed to admit that I will (within reason) have some fun with a man, whom I wouldn't otherwise play with, in order for that to be achieved. If I were to only play with men I fancied, then it is likely we would only be persuing single men. If we were lucky enough to find a couple where I fancied the man, experience has told us that they would be less interested in us. Most of the time it works well is playing with single men of my choice. But occasionally my husband likes to have fun too, so I will make that happen. Certainly some of the most fun and erotic times we have had, would not have happened if neither of us had been willing to compromise, and although I have fucked men I don't fancy, I have never fucked someone and not had a great time.

Mrs

Very interesting. Without specific reference to yourself, do you think part of the reason the four way attraction can be so hard is that within couples one of them has a much higher opinion of their own partner than the average member of the rest of the world?

No I don't think that's something I've particularly noticed. Admittedly we have never actively looked for couples, and the view I expressed above comes from getting to know couples at parties. Most of the time, i see a couple where the lady is stunning, and the man is fine, but not as attractive as the single men we play with.

That make sense. The basic law of averages would ensure that's the case! We don't meet singletons so i believe what i said exists, but it's more noticable when your sample only includes couples.

I think a lot of the problem is age. Women seem to age better than men, or can sex themselves up easier. We have no trouble attracting couples in their late forties and above. But when looking for single men we can bring the age down and get a man before aging process has really set in. A man in his thirties won't mind an older woman, but much harder the other way round.

Mrs"

There's also a psychology difference, the average woman is fussier than the average man. Our brains developed long before condoms so on some level, the question we ask ourselves is 'do i want to mate with this person'. In history there have been few examples of when a man would answer no to that question, yet a lot of reasons why a woman would have 'no' as the default answer.

So you think women age better than men. Perhaps, but i think we see women as having aged better or looking better when sexed up but that's what our brains are wired to see. Objectively i think men age way better than women on average.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

I didn't mean to come on here and be a party pooper , I just tell it as it is.

Used to get loads of friends requests and can we see a face pic of you both and then nothing,,,,, which is fair enough , I appreciate there has to be a chemistry , but it's hard , hard for the ugly one and just as hard for the good looking half as they might have so much they want to give but get fed up with the eventual rejection .

So for all you beautiful gorgeous couples out there who think it's difficult trying to find friendship on here try it from the other side of the fence , it's not a lotta fun I can tell you

And this is why we tried clubs , so we can get to talk to folk and they can see us for who we are , a fun couple with a wicked sense of humour ...... But we were lucky , we met a couple at Xtasia who we have become best of friends with , they take us for who we are and vice versa ,,,,,, life is good

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

In simple terms. If "hotness" is measured on a scale of one to ten women can easily attract men two or more points higher than themselves. Single men therefore know they have to score high to be successful and anyway for some the quality of their couplings is less important than the quantity. Therefore females can always access good quality men and male partners are judged more harshly than female ones.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"In simple terms. If "hotness" is measured on a scale of one to ten women can easily attract men two or more points higher than themselves. Single men therefore know they have to score high to be successful and anyway for some the quality of their couplings is less important than the quantity. Therefore females can always access good quality men and male partners are judged more harshly than female ones.

"

Totally agree, but even worse I'd say that the average female of the couple rates her own partner 1-2 points higher than the rest of the world does and therefore her baseline is inflated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting thread. The search for the ideal couple seems to be a red herring informed by the romantic myth of an especially compatible foursome. A bit silly really. Maybe some of us will be lucky. But in lieu of that it makes sense to also try playing separately as in a community of 8 couples none may want to swap together but all may find play mates within that 8 by playing separately

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

I would never dream of asking a partner to sleep with someone she wasn't attracted to just so I could play wih his partner and I wouldn't expect to be asked either.

My fwb have already discussed and agreed this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its why we havent played with that many couples. Its hard to establish that attraction across 4 different people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An interesting thread. The search for the ideal couple seems to be a red herring informed by the romantic myth of an especially compatible foursome. A bit silly really. Maybe some of us will be lucky. But in lieu of that it makes sense to also try playing separately as in a community of 8 couples none may want to swap together but all may find play mates within that 8 by playing separately "

Well that's the other way we got round the problem. Haven't done it for a while, but we used to invite a group of likeminded people round for a house party and then hope that people would choose their own partners, instead of sticking strictly to a couple swap.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An interesting thread. The search for the ideal couple seems to be a red herring informed by the romantic myth of an especially compatible foursome. A bit silly really. Maybe some of us will be lucky. But in lieu of that it makes sense to also try playing separately as in a community of 8 couples none may want to swap together but all may find play mates within that 8 by playing separately

Well that's the other way we got round the problem. Haven't done it for a while, but we used to invite a group of likeminded people round for a house party and then hope that people would choose their own partners, instead of sticking strictly to a couple swap.

Mrs"

This would be something that social media would excel in. An "I'd fuck you" flag for each half of a couple to attribute to the half of another couple. Then when the software sees a certain group of couples would all like to fuck each other it alerts you all so you can arrange a party. This is the kind of thing web 2.0 was invented for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we're a live example!

Mrs has the looks, I got the seduction..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep; been there, done it in the past; not doing it anymore because it is soul-destroying

- Mrs. J -

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

That's why I don't play as a couple, it's too slow for me , I absolutely love playing as a single guy, it is far better to me, I am very selective and I like it like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a couple does that then you shouldnt be swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An interesting thread. The search for the ideal couple seems to be a red herring informed by the romantic myth of an especially compatible foursome. A bit silly really. Maybe some of us will be lucky. But in lieu of that it makes sense to also try playing separately as in a community of 8 couples none may want to swap together but all may find play mates within that 8 by playing separately

Well that's the other way we got round the problem. Haven't done it for a while, but we used to invite a group of likeminded people round for a house party and then hope that people would choose their own partners, instead of sticking strictly to a couple swap.

Mrs

This would be something that social media would excel in. An "I'd fuck you" flag for each half of a couple to attribute to the half of another couple. Then when the software sees a certain group of couples would all like to fuck each other it alerts you all so you can arrange a party. This is the kind of thing web 2.0 was invented for "

I like your thinking

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Wouldn't do it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep; been there, done it in the past; not doing it anymore because it is soul-destroying

- Mrs. J -"

Appreciate your honesty. Like I said earlier a lot of people have probably done it but won't admit to it.

We've been close.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

A lot of the discussion has been about looks but i don't think it's taking on for the team if the not-so-great-looking person (s) has another quality that compensates.

Personally I'd rather fuck a 6 who was into it than a 9 who lay there like a fish out of water.*

Admittedly, before i was married i would have gone for the 9 though.

Mr

* terms & conditions apply. Must have teeth, good hygiene and no beard.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

If we meet a couple where one of us and one of them but the other two aren't that attracted we normally wouldn't consider playing. However, we have met couples where one of us and one of them have played while the other two looked on. That can be just as erotic We had one meet where I and the other guy masturbated while we watched Him and her fuck on the bed in front of us. I liked that

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"A lot of the discussion has been about looks but i don't think it's taking on for the team if the not-so-great-looking person (s) has another quality that compensates.

Personally I'd rather fuck a 6 who was into it than a 9 who lay there like a fish out of water.*

Admittedly, before i was married i would have gone for the 9 though.

Mr

* terms & conditions apply. Must have teeth, good hygiene and no beard. "

Good point. We have seen beautiful people in clubs, then seen them later in a playroom and they were as dull as dishwater.

Ps 'must have teeth' is there a minimum number, or is just plural ok?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"A lot of the discussion has been about looks but i don't think it's taking on for the team if the not-so-great-looking person (s) has another quality that compensates.

Personally I'd rather fuck a 6 who was into it than a 9 who lay there like a fish out of water.*

Admittedly, before i was married i would have gone for the 9 though.

Mr

* terms & conditions apply. Must have teeth, good hygiene and no beard.

Good point. We have seen beautiful people in clubs, then seen them later in a playroom and they were as dull as dishwater.

Ps 'must have teeth' is there a minimum number, or is just plural ok? "

We need to see a full dental history for a full swap.

I'm not pretending that i want to fuck unattractive women, but the ideal swap for us is with an attractive couple, that have some skill and enthusiasm in bed and that we would also choose to spend time socially with.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap? "

We find it easier to wear bags over our heads, in case theirs spit, that way no one gets upset

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Good point. We have seen beautiful people in clubs, then seen them later in a playroom and they were as dull as dishwater.

Ps 'must have teeth' is there a minimum number, or is just plural ok?

We need to see a full dental history for a full swap.

I'm not pretending that i want to fuck unattractive women, but the ideal swap for us is with an attractive couple, that have some skill and enthusiasm in bed and that we would also choose to spend time socially with."

I have a full set of teeth, I just leave them in a jar next to the bed when playing

Yes, getting on socially, then going to play, things normally work well like that for us too. Obviously within limits, we are nice people and have plenty of fun meets, but the 25yo super hot couple aren't going to be leaping on us just because we are fun to be around...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever been in a situation where you meet a couple one one half is smoking hot and the other not so...

But either you or your partner really wants to swap knowing your not really feeling your part of the swap?

We find it easier to wear bags over our heads, in case theirs spit, that way no one gets upset "

Health and Safety tip: Before use, cut hole in bag for breathing

We cut holes for vision too

- Mrs. J -

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