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you ever thought your other half is or has cheated through this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you tried to find them or seen them and kept hush and don't know how or what to say or do? What was your suspicion and what did you do?

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By *ittle miss belleWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I know first hand of being cheated on through this site, it hurt because I couldn't understand his reasoning for it! I would've been more than happy to set up a couples profile and for him to meet alone. But he chose to be dishonest and go behind my back, I had a gut feeling, set up a new profile and caught him out within 10 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need with us. We both get what we enjoy being here together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No need with us. We both get what we enjoy being here together. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my hubby is on here. With my full knowledge and consent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know my hubby is on here. With my full knowledge and consent. "
was he on here before you tho, or not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No need with us. We both get what we enjoy being here together. "
fair play to you both, if it works and your happy, that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you tried to find them or seen them and kept hush and don't know how or what to say or do? What was your suspicion and what did you do? "
just met a guy I know last time I saw him happy as Larry he went home caught his wife of 20 years in bed with his best mate .......hes not in a good place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know my hubby is on here. With my full knowledge and consent. was he on here before you tho, or not? "

No we joined at about the same time. After we'd already opened our relationship.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Good question

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Good question "

I haven't by the way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know first hand of being cheated on through this site, it hurt because I couldn't understand his reasoning for it! I would've been more than happy to set up a couples profile and for him to meet alone. But he chose to be dishonest and go behind my back, I had a gut feeling, set up a new profile and caught him out within 10 minutes "
so I take you broke up for his dishonesty? You say he would have had ur consent if he asked u to join him as a couple yeah, but I suppose it was hard for him or any man to ask that because of the reaction they might get lol would u have definitely said yes at the time! ! If so I thought you might have forgave him and said don't leave me out this time silly. Lol men are scared to ask their partners stuff like that so they make mistakes.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No, he'd be silly too I'd recognise his member.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good question

I haven't by the way!"
ask me something tho, I'm a good listener and have good answers cause I tell it how it is lol,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a guy on here who I know for a fact is cheating. Weird situation. He was already on here with his wife - they played as a couple and alone. Then they separated and came back on on a single profile. Then he left as he met a girl outside of fab (we have mutual friends on Facebook and I saw his relationship status pop up). The other day I saw his ex wife back on arranging a meet with him. So he's cheating on his new girlfriend with his ex wife and whoever else he meets on here. What a complicated life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no concerns where at all as we are enjoying what we do together very much

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It feels like the ultimate betrayal via here and yes lots of people have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I want to get it out there because I've spoken to a few women on here and it happens alot, m hoping people see this and think. Then go and ask their partners and be true with each other, because u could be missing out a good joint time here together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a guy on here who I know for a fact is cheating. Weird situation. He was already on here with his wife - they played as a couple and alone. Then they separated and came back on on a single profile. Then he left as he met a girl outside of fab (we have mutual friends on Facebook and I saw his relationship status pop up). The other day I saw his ex wife back on arranging a meet with him. So he's cheating on his new girlfriend with his ex wife and whoever else he meets on here. What a complicated life!"
yeah I've actually seen this in real life along with my friends. Swinging is not for everyone, it may seem it at the time, but then jealously and then starts betrayal! ! It's a shame. U see if u look at the lines in between that story is all they needed was a small break from each other but for that others hearts will be broken. When they split then time went by. They finally met on here again and to them that would have felt like they were dating again, that buzz came back like when they first met u know. And u could say the other people who they dated on their break were time passing props

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know first hand of being cheated on through this site, it hurt because I couldn't understand his reasoning for it! I would've been more than happy to set up a couples profile and for him to meet alone. But he chose to be dishonest and go behind my back, I had a gut feeling, set up a new profile and caught him out within 10 minutes "

Same thing but took me 8 hours to catch him he'd already been verified by two previous meets and had a silver accouny! Then said he'd only come back on to see if I had!! I forgave him as he deleted it as soon as I confronted him but it was doomed and only lasted another turbulent two weeks.

Grass on here always seems greener I suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to my knowledge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. He has absolutely no reason to do so. All I need to know is who he plans to meet and approximately what time will he return home

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to get it out there because I've spoken to a few women on here and it happens alot, m hoping people see this and think. Then go and ask their partners and be true with each other, because u could be missing out a good joint time here together "

Unfortunately, for some, the real kick is in the deceit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. He has absolutely no reason to do so. All I need to know is who he plans to meet and approximately what time will he return home

- Mrs. J -"
cool lol is that your rules is it that is fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not to my knowledge! "
I think you will be alright mate lol he would be daft to have you as a couple on here and then go solo behind your back, I mean he's pretty much made isn't he. Swinging partner who is stunning. You will have no worries. If in doubt ask him.

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Its how i found the site. My ex was cheating with a ex partner on here that she was with before we got together etc. 8yrs together and i found out after 5yrs but she denied it. So i set up a account and chatted to the cpls account, got pics of them together that they sent. So she is a ex. Been on here nearly 10yrs+ and she knows after i told her but she dont think im up for stuff like that. Oh well.....life goes on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its how i found the site. My ex was cheating with a ex partner on here that she was with before we got together etc. 8yrs together and i found out after 5yrs but she denied it. So i set up a account and chatted to the cpls account, got pics of them together that they sent. So she is a ex. Been on here nearly 10yrs+ and she knows after i told her but she dont think im up for stuff like that. Oh well.....life goes on "
why don't she think your not up to or into stuff like that, u must have give her the impression ur not interested

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship."
yea I see it all the time this is why I've wrote this. People need to talk more to each other. They will be supprised what maybe achieved

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Its how i found the site. My ex was cheating with a ex partner on here that she was with before we got together etc. 8yrs together and i found out after 5yrs but she denied it. So i set up a account and chatted to the cpls account, got pics of them together that they sent. So she is a ex. Been on here nearly 10yrs+ and she knows after i told her but she dont think im up for stuff like that. Oh well.....life goes on why don't she think your not up to or into stuff like that, u must have give her the impression ur not interested "

Think cause i was the shy type. She loved sex, bit of a greedy girl. And yes i satisfied her but she thought i didnt know. Blamed it on her ex she was on here with

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Have you tried to find them or seen them and kept hush and don't know how or what to say or do? What was your suspicion and what did you do? just met a guy I know last time I saw him happy as Larry he went home caught his wife of 20 years in bed with his best mate .......hes not in a good place "

He should have joined them and given his wife a great time

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship."

You women are just sneaky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. He has absolutely no reason to do so. All I need to know is who he plans to meet and approximately what time will he return home

- Mrs. J - cool lol is that your rules is it that is fair enough "

Yep, he is my husband, I care about him and we both have similar rules for each other's safety

You won't understand this

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. He has absolutely no reason to do so. All I need to know is who he plans to meet and approximately what time will he return home

- Mrs. J - cool lol is that your rules is it that is fair enough

Yep, he is my husband, I care about him and we both have similar rules for each other's safety

You won't understand this

- Mrs. J -"
yep I totally do. And il leave it as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here open honesty was a requirement of opening our relationship. I can at least try to handle what I know about. If he cheated on me the trust would be broken and that would be the end of our marriage.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship.yea I see it all the time this is why I've wrote this. People need to talk more to each other. They will be supprised what maybe achieved "

Apparently he thought he knew me well enough and i would never be up for it.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship.

You women are just sneaky "

I knew he was and had met off here, even knew his profile name which is why i set the profile up.

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Yep i know i was cheated on through this site. I set up a profile and he messaged me, wasnt until wed spoke for a few days that i then told him it was me and ended the relationship.

You women are just sneaky

I knew he was and had met off here, even knew his profile name which is why i set the profile up. "

I was the same, knew my ex's profile etc. Well thanks to her ive met some good friends off here and had good fun too

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I know first hand of being cheated on through this site, it hurt because I couldn't understand his reasoning for it! I would've been more than happy to set up a couples profile and for him to meet alone. But he chose to be dishonest and go behind my back, I had a gut feeling, set up a new profile and caught him out within 10 minutes "

This happened to me as well....we actually had a couples profile and yet he still decided to do it.....divvy twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

T has her own profile. If I'm honest it's such a turn on knowing fella's want her. Nothing better than her going off to work, coming back horny where she has been saucy all day knowing I'm getting the benefits .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what is the best way or ways you could catch someone cheating for those out there who need help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"T has her own profile. If I'm honest it's such a turn on knowing fella's want her. Nothing better than her going off to work, coming back horny where she has been saucy all day knowing I'm getting the benefits .

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I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have another half I think it will be someone who swings so no need for cheating, or maybe that's naive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have another half I think it will be someone who swings so no need for cheating, or maybe that's naive."

Naive... you can have incredible sex and openness with your partner but that wont stop them if they get off on their ego being stroked by others. It's not about what's missing in your sex life or relationship it's more to do with them needing attention from others to valadate their attentiveness then they learn the hard way it wasnt worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractiveness

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My partner is on here but doesnt use it. Im so interested i dont even know what his username is

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No i havent and would hope never to

i think if someone is a cheat,they will do it regardless of being in a swinging relationship.

Seen lots of threads started about it,some people just cheat because they can.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope don't do other halves

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

The First Lady I met on here was part of a couple. She met me alone and advised me not to mention it in a message to their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me as been single a long time.

But I have seen my ex on here cheating on his current partner.

I caught him out numerous times when we were together using other wedsites and setting up profiles behind my back.

I guess he will never change.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Is it only me or is it common for some people to claim, " I only set up this profile to see what so and so was up to"?

You are on here/ Craigslist/ pof/ badu etc he/she is on as well. What gives you the moral high ground to claim you only singned on to catch him/her out?

Keep fucking him/her or fuck off.

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By *hristine and MarieCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Somewhere north of Spalding

I found them and pretended to be another woman on here, got right up to arranging a meet and they still tried to deny it when challenged!

Anyway we're now on here as a couple, and she's still a very naughty girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex had a singles profile unknown to me that the used for cheating, he's doing the same with new mrs now

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"My ex had a singles profile unknown to me that the used for cheating, he's doing the same with new mrs now"

Keeping tabs on the ex eh?!? Ex eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No need with us. We both get what we enjoy being here together. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a good friend who's girlfriend caught him on a similar swingers site to this but in a different country.

He had arranged a meet only for his new girlfriend to turn up, she had told him a friend had told her, he was on the site. She set up a profile cause he was an established memeber and wanted to see if he was actively meeting, they chatted, exchanged pics and arranged a meet.

He often said to me after, with desire in his eye, I'd love to know which one of her friends told her.

I told him, more than likely, it wasn't one of her girlfriends , it was probably a dude she knew/worked with, who liked her, probably friend zoned by her too and that's who told her about it.

"Ohhhh your seeing him still, and you really like him.

So your into swing too?

No!!!

Well I heard he's on swinger sites

You didn't know that?"

Fuck!!!! Guys can be proper little bitches,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex had a singles profile unknown to me that the used for cheating, he's doing the same with new mrs now

Keeping tabs on the ex eh?!? Ex eh?"

Not at all... he followed me etc when I first rejoined. I also get messages from people who remember us as a cpl

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

My other half plays on here alone but at the least she sends me a pic of the action even if she didn't tell me she was nesting. Works for us and turns us both on

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"My ex had a singles profile unknown to me that the used for cheating, he's doing the same with new mrs now

Keeping tabs on the ex eh?!? Ex eh?

Not at all... he followed me etc when I first rejoined. I also get messages from people who remember us as a cpl"

I wouldnt mind following you around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex had a singles profile unknown to me that the used for cheating, he's doing the same with new mrs now"

My ex is doing the same. I just blocked him on here.

They'll eventually find out anyway.

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By *14nickyCouple
over a year ago

surrey

We are in a very open relationship ,I let him go to clubs with out me and I have meet a few guys by myself ,so he has no need to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spoke to ppl here who swing so there partner doesn't cheat, for me that's giving the green light to do whatever u want. Swinging should be what both want and not to add spice to a dead relationship

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I would be a useless cheater, I just love sharing my naughty thoughts with my other half.

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By *cjacoupleCouple
over a year ago

wakefield


"I've spoke to ppl here who swing so there partner doesn't cheat, for me that's giving the green light to do whatever u want. Swinging should be what both want and not to add spice to a dead relationship"

U get a lot of couple's like this. It's like 1 is pushing the other into it its wrong.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Eventually, in every partnership, the will always be a power broker who will push these things. The method of pushing is another matter.

Don't be fooled, one will lead and the other will follow either whole heartedly, with some misgivings, or just trudge along. Unfortunately, such is life.

Just my opinion. I am no sexologist .

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I know first hand of being cheated on through this site, it hurt because I couldn't understand his reasoning for it! I would've been more than happy to set up a couples profile and for him to meet alone. But he chose to be dishonest and go behind my back, I had a gut feeling, set up a new profile and caught him out within 10 minutes so I take you broke up for his dishonesty? You say he would have had ur consent if he asked u to join him as a couple yeah, but I suppose it was hard for him or any man to ask that because of the reaction they might get lol would u have definitely said yes at the time! ! If so I thought you might have forgave him and said don't leave me out this time silly. Lol men are scared to ask their partners stuff like that so they make mistakes. "

You're gone but spot on.

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I've spoke to ppl here who swing so there partner doesn't cheat, for me that's giving the green light to do whatever u want. Swinging should be what both want and not to add spice to a dead relationship"

That is not nice. The fun is mutual or surely it does not work. I agree it has to work for both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but would have ripped his face off and left her. That's 1 thing you don't do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I'm single when I swing ... don't do drama! much easier being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a really sad thought isn't it, but a cheat is a cheat, the thrill and buzz is 2 much so swing will only fill the gaps, still gonna cheat x

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm so glad I'm single when I swing ... don't do drama! much easier being single "

Totally agree Had an FB for 5 months who insisted he wanted us to be exclusive only to find he created another profile mere days after he got a contract working away

Swinging is much more honest and it's why I prefer it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I was seeing, who I met on here allegedly made a profile after we'd agreed to leave to 'check if I was here'

Total pile of manure of an excuse IMO, so I assume yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was on here and met someone and continued a boyfriend girlfriend relationship with her. I didn't find out about it until after we had split up, he had a baby with someone else while we were together so unfortunately not a great time for me.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Someone I was seeing, who I met on here allegedly made a profile after we'd agreed to leave to 'check if I was here'

Total pile of manure of an excuse IMO, so I assume yes. "

Yep total bull... they'd have hidden it if it was just for that!

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By *uriouscouplexxx500Couple
over a year ago

centre


"My other half plays on here alone but at the least she sends me a pic of the action even if she didn't tell me she was nesting. Works for us and turns us both on "

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