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By *anba2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

burbage

We are trying to organise our first party.... So far it is proving rather frustrating getting couples to commit.... Does anyone have any experience or advice? We have invited more than twice the amount we feel would make a good party but half have said they can't make it and still waiting on others replies....

Suki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are trying to organise our first party.... So far it is proving rather frustrating getting couples to commit.... Does anyone have any experience or advice? We have invited more than twice the amount we feel would make a good party but half have said they can't make it and still waiting on others replies....

Suki"

Request:

face pictures

mobile numbers

And ring for verification.

That's about as much as you can realistically do. Yeah, and you might have to invite twice as many people in order to get the numbers you wanted.

Which is a bitch obviously, but better to err on the side of too much, than too little. Best to make your arrangements as flexible as you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The parties I have been to have all went with a bang and been splendidly organised!

The pointers I'd take from them (in addition to the good advice offered by the poster above) are to have a party theme, this gives it an identity and are easy to come up with such as costume parties (roman being easy to achieve) or parties based around games, though the rules should be flexible and not set in stone.

Also pick potential attendees who are already verified as they're more likely to turn up, and those who have (most of them at least) been to parties before, they are less likely to get nerves and bottle it at the last minute.

Above all have fun guys! Its always an accomplishment tothrow a successful party in the vanilla world so the satisfaction and pleasure gained from hosting a delicious event for pleasures of the flesh as well as mingling are tenfold x

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By *anba2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

burbage

Thanks for comments.... We have invited more than we need and have met most of them personally or selected them off friends verifications. Just worried nobody will turn up..... Not had any definites yet out of all the invites.... Maybe we are just not as popular as we would like to be.....Think I am going to have to widen my net/search... Lol.

Good job I am off work for a few weeks to sort it all.

Suki

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Firstly, I don't think you've invited nearly as many people as you need to. In my experience, for every one to ring the door bell, two have to have said that they will be coming. For every two who say that they will be coming, you have to have had four letters read. For every four letters read, you have to send eight invitations out. (the rule of halves)

Secondly, have a look at your profile. How many people will be put off by your comment "if you think you may be bigger/fatter than us and/or uglier/less attractive than us, then think again before you press send....as we are not interested". Beauty etc is all very subjective, and even the best looking people sometimes feel insecure about their looks etc. A lot of very attractive people will be put off by this because they won't be sure if they are carrying an ounce too much for your likeing, or that you will kick them out because they are blonde and you prefer brunettes, or whatever. I don't think that your photos help people with their decision making process either. How can a guy think he's uglier or not than your man if all there is, is a cock shot?

Thirdly, what car parking arrangements do you have in place? Every couple that comes along will need a parking space close by. I know it's a problem where I live, and I keep my invitations limited as a result. Hiding more than 15 cars in my neighbourhood is bloomin' difficult here, so I hope it's either no problem where you live or that you have an answer to it.

Fourthly, give people 4-6 weeks notice. It's amazing how many people need time to orgainise baby sitters, work rotas, shift patterns etc, and that needs as much time as possible.

Lastly, meet people at clubs, get to know them, and invite them. At least you know what you are getting that way. You'll double your chances by inviting people who you know rather than doing a "cold call" on the interweb.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Planning a party is fristrating and time comsuming so prepare for the hard work and try to keep a list of potentials/definites/maybes with names if given, numbers and locaitons.

All sounds complex but helps to keep track of who you have already asked and what they said.

Remember a lot of people will edge their bets till the last moment in case something 'better' comes up...sad but true.

Some will ask to know who else is coming...you may wish to avoid falling into the trap of giving names of others out so people don't become picky.

When you chat to them try to tell them a bit about what to expect...i.e. have some people played together before, where the play area is (bedroom, lounge etc), your expectations of safe sex/bareback which ever is your preference (this can be a big deal if people turn up to find some playing bareback and can stop some from playing). Ask them to bring a supply of condoms for the pot too and provide bins for the used ones so you don't have to go round picking them up afterwards!

You might want to consider laying on some nibbles for energy levels mid play and ask people to supply what they would like to drink. Supplying bottled water is a good idea and soft drinks.

Then, when guests arrive, brief introductions (by profile name if that is couple's preferences, not everyone wants to use their real names), supply drinks...then chill and enjoy the party.

Remember, it is for your pleasure as much as theirs.

Good luck

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Firstly, I don't think you've invited nearly as many people as you need to. In my experience, for every one to ring the door bell, two have to have said that they will be coming. For every two who say that they will be coming, you have to have had four letters read. For every four letters read, you have to send eight invitations out. (the rule of halves)

Secondly, have a look at your profile. How many people will be put off by your comment "if you think you may be bigger/fatter than us and/or uglier/less attractive than us, then think again before you press send....as we are not interested". Beauty etc is all very subjective, and even the best looking people sometimes feel insecure about their looks etc. A lot of very attractive people will be put off by this because they won't be sure if they are carrying an ounce too much for your likeing, or that you will kick them out because they are blonde and you prefer brunettes, or whatever. I don't think that your photos help people with their decision making process either. How can a guy think he's uglier or not than your man if all there is, is a cock shot?

Thirdly, what car parking arrangements do you have in place? Every couple that comes along will need a parking space close by. I know it's a problem where I live, and I keep my invitations limited as a result. Hiding more than 15 cars in my neighbourhood is bloomin' difficult here, so I hope it's either no problem where you live or that you have an answer to it.

Fourthly, give people 4-6 weeks notice. It's amazing how many people need time to orgainise baby sitters, work rotas, shift patterns etc, and that needs as much time as possible.

Lastly, meet people at clubs, get to know them, and invite them. At least you know what you are getting that way. You'll double your chances by inviting people who you know rather than doing a "cold call" on the interweb.

"

I love this advice, especially about the 'looks' comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if i was having a party at my home i would only invite people i know and trusted or people who had met people i knew and who i trusted to only recomend decent people

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


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Secondly, have a look at your profile. How many people will be put off by your comment "if you think you may be bigger/fatter than us and/or uglier/less attractive than us, then think again before you press send....as we are not interested". Beauty etc is all very subjective, and even the best looking people sometimes feel insecure about their looks etc. A lot of very attractive people will be put off by this because they won't be sure if they are carrying an ounce too much for your likeing, or that you will kick them out because they are blonde and you prefer brunettes, or whatever. I don't think that your photos help people with their decision making process either. How can a guy think he's uglier or not than your man if all there is, is a cock shot?

"

I have to agree with this. After reading your profile, anyone who attends your party will obviously consider themselves equally as slim and attractive as you - or even better! That's a lot of big egos in one location! Any lesser mortals may find that an intimidating prospect.

Good luck with it though - I'm sure that, following the very good advice you've been given on here, your party will be a success and attended by fab's finest.

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By *anba2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

burbage

This is more or less what we have done... Kind of thought we had met enough couples to host a party for them all but having originally said they would be up for it, are now not able to make it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is more or less what we have done... Kind of thought we had met enough couples to host a party for them all but having originally said they would be up for it, are now not able to make it.

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hmmm this will happen when you are new on the party scene methinks. If the first round goes well then you will get better know.

Ourselves, we find parties have a completely different dynamic to our preferred small group fun and so only attend them occasionally to widen our contacts.

Saying that we have had group fun sessions where too many couples turned up (we squashed them in .) and had one where everybody cancelled before or at the last minute and we ended up going out to a club!

Swings n roundabouts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i tried once to get something off the ground and never again - it was me that ended up looking the dick !

a couple of impromptu, not planned in advance, 3sums have proved to be far less stressful and just as much fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

better of going to a social at a club i think lol

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By *anba2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

burbage

Thanks for your views on this.... Had 1 definite now.... Not much of a party yet.... Will give it a few more days and a bit more effort then make a decision whether it's worth it!

Suki

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