FabSwingers.com forum: FWB and stress

By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

now as someone who has a few fwbs

i try to make sure such a friendship with me is as stress free as possible because such friendships are about fun times together that creat great lasting memories.

on them grounds I'm often forced to bite my tongue when my fwbs lean on me when there stressed not by work or family but by other fwbs of theirs .

this stress can often impact our fun together and that's when i have to bite my tongue and just be a rock of support for them because i don't want to say something that will heap more stress onto them .

fwbs relationships are meant to be about fun after all sadly it seems from my own experiences not everyone thinks like this .

am i in the minority when it comes to not being the type of person to make my problems in life the problems of my fwbs as well .

now i could give clear examples people but that would be a breach of trust so that off the table .

so my question is has anyone else with a few fwbs ever noticed the problems of their fwb other fbws impacting on their fwb and in turn on the fun you have together .

if so how do you handle it like i do be supportive rock saying nothing negative about their other friends with benefits when really you want to let rip and say out then as its not about stress its about fun and they have clearly crossed a line .

which of coarse i would never say as that is clearly crossing a line i have no real right to cross in my opinion no matter how strongly i feel about how the behaviour of another fwb is impacting on my fwb .

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"now as someone who has a few fwbs

i try to make sure such a friendship with me is as stress free as possible because such friendships are about fun times together that creat great lasting memories.

on them grounds I'm often forced to bite my tongue when my fwbs lean on me when there stressed not by work or family but by other fwbs of theirs .

fwbs relationships are meant to be about fun after all sadly it seems from my own experiences not everyone thinks like this .

am i in the minority when it comes to not being the type of person to make my problems in life the problems of my fwbs as well .

now i could give clear examples people but that would be a breach of trust so that off the table .

so my question is has anyone else with a few fwbs ever noticed the problems of their fwb other fbws impacting on their fwb and in turn on the fun you have together .

I guess it depends a little on how big the "friend" element is in the FWB equation.

If you are real friends then I think sharing and supporting that person are important. Maybe less so if the benefits bit is the real glue...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term fwb suggests you're friends. Friends should be there for the rough as well as the bouncy sex.

Sounds like you're not so much a friend. Perhaps fuck buddy applies here. That's what I'd consider what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are a friend I care about them. That comes before the sexual aspect every time. If I am able to help a friend I'll do it. Sounds like you do too so props for that, but just accept it as part of being a good person.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oh yeah, that's all part of the fun, I always end up playing agony aunt and advising on the handling of all the loony women in their life, and they've even phoned me to chat in support for an hour at 2am when I was in a meltdown lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's one question I can't answer i only have one fwb that's the way I like it. X

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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"The term fwb suggests you're friends. Friends should be there for the rough as well as the bouncy sex.

Sounds like you're not so much a friend. Perhaps fuck buddy applies here. That's what I'd consider what you want."

by the definition there are emotions involved which means i must try and stay objective and not apply pressure which will result in more stress

I'm lucky i form long lasting by long lasting i mean fwb that last years .

due to this fact i often see the stress caused by other fwbs and because I'm emotional attached i have to bite my tongue

but at the same time try and be a strong pair of shoulders ,a calm voice when inside in boiling other the fact where after hearing the full story

i view as a fucking prats basically using emotions such as kind heartedness and the word friendship for personal gain .

in turn causing my fwbs to feel stress as they try to be a good friends to the other fwbs in their life's .

this annoys for fucking living daylights out of me for obvious reasons based around the fact i care the same kind of caring that is causing my fwb the stress in the first place .

just because someone cares about you doesn't in my world give you the right to do or behave in a way that can be considered emotional back mail .

such behaviour causes stress as someone tries to be a good friend because they feel that's the right thing which is not necessary the best thing to do or what they really want in the first place .

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Fwbs should in my opinion be supportive to one another, to a degree. Once it's starts to impact on my fun or starts to stress me out it would be time to rethink that particular relationship and possibly even walk away. Like you said this is supposed to be fun

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