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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a few meets now where the lady doesn't kiss it's too intimate for her.

I really like a good passionate snog, it's a big part if good sex.

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is important for us. Feels a bit sterile otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the male of the couple and one of my boundaries for us is no kissing, for the same reason- it's too intimate. However this would not be an issue for my partner.

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By *arkside2698Man
over a year ago

luton


"I've had a few meets now where the lady doesn't kiss it's too intimate for her.

I really like a good passionate snog, it's a big part if good sex.

How about you?"

If it was a condition of a meet that there would be no kissing, I'd turn down the meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kissing is important for us. Feels a bit sterile otherwise."

Im with you on this. I understand the other view but it does make for a bit of a cum and go scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a deal breaker for me, no kissing no meeting

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Kissing is a must.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like kissing but I have done meets with no kissing

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

No passionate kissing, then no meet.

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By *ig daddy 1969Man
over a year ago

manchester

Yes

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

Definitely kissing

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

We used to have a no kissing rule but gave it up, when you are a bit disinhibited and in the throws of passion its hard to be constantly managing rules, especially something as vanilla as kissing (although we understand that some peeps see that as special).

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Wouldnt attend a meet if no kissing allowed.. but equally respect their views

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Kissing is paramount to great sex for me, so no kissing and it's not happening!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes Yes YES!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to kiss helps spark it all off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is paramount to great sex for me, so no kissing and it's not happening!! "
agreed me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant beat kissing, such a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing is a massive turn off for me xx

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By *igerlilycubWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Definitely kissing. I love passionate lip smacking, tongue tingling kisses

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Have to have kissing

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Sex is intimate so without kissing,it's a bit robotic for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice to have some views from couple's ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a nice snog!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, yes, yes, and yes.

Sex feels too cold and mechanical otherwise, and it wouldn't feel sexy enough.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I have only once had an encounter with a woman who had this rule, it was most odd. But from my experience it would appear that the Ledgand about this is greater than the reality.

I think i would pass on a meet if the person told me this rule was in place ahead of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both love kissing and don't quite understand how people say it is too intimate but will suck a cock or lick a pussy? Not knocking someone who has this rule just wouldn't be for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Kissing! Are you mad?? Si thi! Tatty bye!

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Much prefer a lovely snog but can distract myself in other ways if the vibe is right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have only once had an encounter with a woman who had this rule, it was most odd. But from my experience it would appear that the Ledgand about this is greater than the reality.

I think i would pass on a meet if the person told me this rule was in place ahead of meeting."

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a deal breaker for me, no kissing no meeting "

Same here. It makes for a very passionate meet if kissing is involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is very important to me I wouldn't meet if a guy wouldn't kiss me

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Definitely yes ...

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I've had a few meets now where the lady doesn't kiss it's too intimate for her.

I really like a good passionate snog, it's a big part if good sex.

How about you?"

Had only one meet (in France) where the guy wouldn't kiss! I felt like a prostitute. Never again! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be nice to have some views from couple's ?"

We both feel kissing is important to get the juices flowing... if we were chatting to a meet and they said no kissing we would turn down the meet.

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

No kidding no meet for me just too sterile and just can't get into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have this on our profile. It is must for us but there are lots of couples who won't kiss. Personally, I don't see it as anymore intimate than oral sex or penetrative sex for that matter but each to their own!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have said it before and will say it again...kissing is the ultimate turn on for me, so any sexual experience would be seriously lacking without it.

You just can't beat those initial tentative kisses that grow in intensity to full on wide mouthed, tongues clashing, yearning lustiness as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for us, no kissing, no meet. Even worse if one person of another couple does kiss and one doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing for me is an important part of passionate play and I don't see how kissing is considered too intimate when sex isn't? It does confuse me at times when I see profiles with a no kissing rule, as for me personally that is like saying no passion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is an absolute must for me xx

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

A meet without kissing would be totally pointless as far as I'm concerned. It's one of the best bits, if not THE best bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks as if I am on my own here but from the comments so far there are those that dont don't. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looks as if I am on my own here but from the comments so far there are those that dont don't. X"

Do you let people know up front that it's not for you? One of the worst meets for me is when I go in for a kiss and the lady turns her head away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good god yes please - have rejected profiles if they dont kiss - huge part of the play for me -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand people who dont kiss during a meet. Like I can understand if its reserved for the partner, but it just makes the sex feel so cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a man won't or can't kiss then sorry not for me. I'm a very passionate kisser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a yes from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes!

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Kissing for me is an important part of passionate play and I don't see how kissing is considered too intimate when sex isn't? It does confuse me at times when I see profiles with a no kissing rule, as for me personally that is like saying no passion."

I couldn't meet without kissing... end of!

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)


"Kissing for me is an important part of passionate play and I don't see how kissing is considered too intimate when sex isn't? It does confuse me at times when I see profiles with a no kissing rule, as for me personally that is like saying no passion.

I couldn't meet without kissing... end of! "

So with you Red.. other wise it just feels wrong and a task

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely. ..its the litmus test for anything more. No kissing no meet. Simple

I don't understand those who say it's too intimate yet they'll be fucked by complete strangers at a club or party....which part is too intimate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing..No meet

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Love kissing,

Best part teasing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks as if I am on my own here but from the comments so far there are those that dont don't. X

Do you let people know up front that it's not for you? One of the worst meets for me is when I go in for a kiss and the lady turns her head away. "

Yes we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always enjoyed kissing , makes the mood more intense

Unless they want you to be a pure savage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puckers up for lots of kisses xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh definitely got to kiss, hot passionate kisses preferably pinned up against a wall or mirror

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ooh i love kissing. I've never met anyone who won't kiss and don't think i could.

I had a wonderful meet last week with a FB. We went for a wander around the park and an ice cream. We spent ages making out on a park bench like naughty teenagers

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By *ixstringMan
over a year ago

preston

I'm DEFINATELY a fan of kissing, just not the same without it! no bigger turn on for than kissing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a sloppy kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kisses

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I dont kiss on the mouth and i respect that alot of people feel that its robotic without, but however i make up for that in other ways, i dont expect other people to understand but i dont like to kiss yes due to the intimacy of it and because ive only ever kissed guys ive been in love with, not even guys ive been seeing in a date form have even had a kiss from me....but as i said i try to make up for it in other ways so that it doesnt feel like im just there to ride their cock and leave, i like to be intimate in other ways like massaging them or rubing my hands and body all over them in a sensual way before actually doing anything etc...

alot of guys have been more than happy with this

and those who say no kiss no meet, thats fine i just dont meet them...

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Definitely has to be kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, from head to toe.

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By *wingleWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Hell yes, the build-up has to be ALL about kissing!

I've heard some couple meets don't like to kiss the new partner. I can understand this - keep something special just for that couple - but what if you get caught up in the heat of the moment?? Is that likely to put an end to play full-stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont kiss on the mouth and i respect that alot of people feel that its robotic without, but however i make up for that in other ways, i dont expect other people to understand but i dont like to kiss yes due to the intimacy of it and because ive only ever kissed guys ive been in love with, not even guys ive been seeing in a date form have even had a kiss from me....but as i said i try to make up for it in other ways so that it doesnt feel like im just there to ride their cock and leave, i like to be intimate in other ways like massaging them or rubing my hands and body all over them in a sensual way before actually doing anything etc...

alot of guys have been more than happy with this

and those who say no kiss no meet, thats fine i just dont meet them..."

Glad to see I'm not on my own

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings


"I dont kiss on the mouth and i respect that alot of people feel that its robotic without, but however i make up for that in other ways, i dont expect other people to understand but i dont like to kiss yes due to the intimacy of it and because ive only ever kissed guys ive been in love with, not even guys ive been seeing in a date form have even had a kiss from me....but as i said i try to make up for it in other ways so that it doesnt feel like im just there to ride their cock and leave, i like to be intimate in other ways like massaging them or rubing my hands and body all over them in a sensual way before actually doing anything etc...

alot of guys have been more than happy with this

and those who say no kiss no meet, thats fine i just dont meet them...

Glad to see I'm not on my own "

i was starting to think that about me lol so yay its not just me woohoo hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a deal breaker for me, no kissing no meeting "

This. Says so on my profile too.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"It's a deal breaker for me, no kissing no meeting

This. Says so on my profile too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be nice to have some views from couple's ?"

Mr likes to kiss but isn't bothered if it's not on offer. I (Mrs) only likes to kiss women. For me kissing is very intimate and personal, whereas sex is just that.

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By *omox077Couple
over a year ago

grays

Definitely yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always their is no alternative if you want to have great sex ,if you want to have ok sexy keeps your upper lips to yourself

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

Got to have kissing! I had a MMF with these guys that turned out to be escorts ( I didn't have to pay them!) and one once everything started wouldn't kiss - it's the weirdest thing ever to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always their is no alternative if you want to have great sex ,if you want to have ok sexy keeps your upper lips to yourself "

That is only your opinion though. When I (Mrs) was active on the scene I had lots of amazing sex but never kissed.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We had this rule when we first started then changed our mind as we couldent get into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I've had meets with couples in the past who preferred to only kiss their partners, I always prefer kissing to be a part of not just foreplay, but the whole experience.

Kissing to get everything going, kissing while you're getting it on, kissing afterwards when you're all finished and basking in the afterglow.... all good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sex without the kissing just does not seem right to me. that being said i can completely understand those that dont.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It depends on the scenario too , mf , ffm, mmf, mfmf.

We don't have a hang up about it either way. But for example in an mfmf , with a non-kissing couple, the girls kissed, so the situation didn't really arise, and in ffm our meets have always started off with ff first so things have already got very hot anyway. But we all kiss in our particular case anyway.

If it were two singles meeting I imagine it would be odd, or a single woman being invited by an mf couple would feel excluded / extra part if she couldn't kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuckkkkkk yesssssssssss

At bmfc on Friday a guys hot kissing is what made me cum .. turns me on soooo bad . Meets without kissing for me are cold and mechanical xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes. Nothing gets me turned on more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God kissing is a must or it feels to mechanical i love to kiss enough said

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think I might start asking if kissing is on or off the agenda from now on!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a big part of the whole experience ....which is also important that there is a definite attraction both ways .....makes the whole experience that much more pleasurable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't do it without kissing. Just not me ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always their is no alternative if you want to have great sex ,if you want to have ok sexy keeps your upper lips to yourself

That is only your opinion though. When I (Mrs) was active on the scene I had lots of amazing sex but never kissed."

Well said.

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By *uestandpinkCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

kissing is a good lead up to things…gets things started well… can not understand others that don't like to but each to their own we guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pucker up ladies

Lips available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always their is no alternative if you want to have great sex ,if you want to have ok sexy keeps your upper lips to yourself

That is only your opinion though. When I (Mrs) was active on the scene I had lots of amazing sex but never kissed."
of course its my opinion but many have the same opinion I think you will find ,kissing is an integral part of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless without.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this thread so far only 3 negative votes for no kissing so I think the consensus favours my opinion dont you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have not shared kissing yet but Mrs will kiss another woman. We are each others firsts with everything as we met in school and are not yet ready to share kissing . We know this isn't for everyone but we also say never say never lol

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We love having sex with both ladies and guys but we are not in love with them. We are in love with each other and we reserve kissing on the lips as our very private way of expressing love for each other.

Kissing elsewhere is fine but any attempt to kiss on the lips would bring the meet to an end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us kissing is a MUST!

Both love it Xx Makes playtime a lot more enjoyable, intimate and passionate Xx

Which is why we think some people don't like it on meets but like we said ITS A MUST FOR US Xx

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"In this thread so far only 3 negative votes for no kissing so I think the consensus favours my opinion dont you ?"

We kiss, but remember these aren't votes to see what's right or wrong.

The only thing that is right, is what is right for everybody on the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good smooch with a sexy lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wome who dont kiss have their reasons, but I cant take it further without passionate kissing. That said, sex, bj, oral in my opinion is far more intimate than kissing. Kissing doesnt always lead to oral or sex.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I love kissing ... as long as my meet has good teeth ... and fresh breath .... I once met a man with no front teeth ..... there was no way I was going to kiss ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're great believers ongoing with the flow. We keep rules to a minimum. If we don't like something we won't do it, but better to keep an open mind we think.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"In this thread so far only 3 negative votes for no kissing so I think the consensus favours my opinion dont you ?"

Yes its a well established opinion on fab that very few people don't kiss.

We put on our profile that we don't so that anyone who finds it vital doesn't contact us (providing of course that they actually read it).

When it comes to sex surely it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks as long as its legal and consensual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes yes yes!

If you're going to get intimate with my lady bits then you'd better kiss me and make me want every part of you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes yes yes!

If you're going to get intimate with my lady bits then you'd better kiss me and make me want every part of you too.

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ha ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must as it really turns us on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love having sex with both ladies and guys but we are not in love with them. We are in love with each other and we reserve kissing on the lips as our very private way of expressing love for each other.

Kissing elsewhere is fine but any attempt to kiss on the lips would bring the meet to an end. "

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I love kissing so it's essential for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In this thread so far only 3 negative votes for no kissing so I think the consensus favours my opinion dont you ?"

You make it sound as if the non kissers are in the wrong ?? Surely it's individual choice and not a matter of opinion that one choice is correct over the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love having sex with both ladies and guys but we are not in love with them. We are in love with each other and we reserve kissing on the lips as our very private way of expressing love for each other.

Kissing elsewhere is fine but any attempt to kiss on the lips would bring the meet to an end.

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kinda sad really but its somes way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor "

Did you? I'm not offended to be compared to a prostitute they're only ordinary people doing a job after all but it always surprises me that a simple choice about what I allow to happen to my body causes such a reaction.

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By *urvylover2791Man
over a year ago

carlisle

Its a important part in the build upto passion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had meets in the past where kissing was a big no-no.

Found that it kills the mood for me, and does turn it into a "using a woman as a piece of meat" type feel about it all.

These days I wouldn't knowingly arrange a meet if kissing was off the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She likes to kiss, it's all part of Sarah's way of enjoying it. I don't like to kiss on the lips. Anywhere else is fine, no particular reason other than I just prefer not too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks as if I am on my own here but from the comments so far there are those that dont don't. X"
not on your own. I Dont enjoy it with other men as a general rule. I find it makes me feel uncomfortable. There have been occasional exceptions ( normally where i feel comfortable and relaxed) but ite never really been an issue as guys dont really try to kiss anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to kiss I find it sensual ... plus good kissers on the top lips usually do a fantastic job on the bottom lips) xx

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By *owncouple5Couple
over a year ago

near Belfast

We both love kissing, it's such a important part of the meet.

Great to get the play started.. Wouldn't enjoy it if we didnt lock lips! Lol

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes,its a very in the moment passionate connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor

Did you? I'm not offended to be compared to a prostitute they're only ordinary people doing a job after all but it always surprises me that a simple choice about what I allow to happen to my body causes such a reaction."
it doesn't make sense does it. You can have preferences about every thing else but not enjoy kissing and its suddenly on par with being an escort or cold.. yet can count on one hand the times ive had to say no kissing or turn away.. as reality is majority of guys dont bother

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"Same for us, no kissing, no meet. Even worse if one person of another couple does kiss and one doesn't."

I would like to kiss that sexy arse.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor

Did you? I'm not offended to be compared to a prostitute they're only ordinary people doing a job after all but it always surprises me that a simple choice about what I allow to happen to my body causes such a reaction. it doesn't make sense does it. You can have preferences about every thing else but not enjoy kissing and its suddenly on par with being an escort or cold.. yet can count on one hand the times ive had to say no kissing or turn away.. as reality is majority of guys dont bother "

It was only after reading threads like this that we included that we don't kiss on our profile because only one man had ever tried to kiss me. We have to remember that the forums aren't necessarily representative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor

Did you? I'm not offended to be compared to a prostitute they're only ordinary people doing a job after all but it always surprises me that a simple choice about what I allow to happen to my body causes such a reaction. it doesn't make sense does it. You can have preferences about every thing else but not enjoy kissing and its suddenly on par with being an escort or cold.. yet can count on one hand the times ive had to say no kissing or turn away.. as reality is majority of guys dont bother

It was only after reading threads like this that we included that we don't kiss on our profile because only one man had ever tried to kiss me. We have to remember that the forums aren't necessarily representative. "

It honestly makes me feel at times that maybe there is something wrong with me but ive tried and many times its actually turned my stomach and made me feel very uncomfortable and totally turned me off.

Mr loves to kiss and I have no issue there.. and if I enjoyed it he would have no issues with me.. in fact he wishes I would but with very few exceptions it turns me off not on

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree kissing is essential.luckily I have never been put in this situation YET.I thought only prostitutes act in this manor

Did you? I'm not offended to be compared to a prostitute they're only ordinary people doing a job after all but it always surprises me that a simple choice about what I allow to happen to my body causes such a reaction. it doesn't make sense does it. You can have preferences about every thing else but not enjoy kissing and its suddenly on par with being an escort or cold.. yet can count on one hand the times ive had to say no kissing or turn away.. as reality is majority of guys dont bother

It was only after reading threads like this that we included that we don't kiss on our profile because only one man had ever tried to kiss me. We have to remember that the forums aren't necessarily representative.

It honestly makes me feel at times that maybe there is something wrong with me but ive tried and many times its actually turned my stomach and made me feel very uncomfortable and totally turned me off.

Mr loves to kiss and I have no issue there.. and if I enjoyed it he would have no issues with me.. in fact he wishes I would but with very few exceptions it turns me off not on"

There's nothing wrong with anyone who likes or doesn't like something sexual thats legal and consensual.

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By *oiner43Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Kissing is a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but I'm here for intimacy not mechanics

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Each to their own but I'm here for intimacy not mechanics"

We're here for pleasure with open minded and accepting people

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I've met girls at clubs who don't kiss and it definitely takes a lot of the fun out of the experience. I think it's the most important part of foreplay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few meets now where the lady doesn't kiss it's too intimate for her.

I really like a good passionate snog, it's a big part if good sex.

How about you?"

Hell yes.......... kissing is paramount to us. It's like having trifle without the dream topping otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own but I'm here for intimacy not mechanics

We're here for pleasure with open minded and accepting people "

Hence the inclusion of 'each to their own' I thought..

It wasn't intended as a criticism and I can see why couples may choose to put that in the 'just for us' category, it's just not for me.

From an outside perspective, being the third can be a difficult position to be in sometimes (being literally the third wheel) and in my mind, that could amplify that feeling quite considerably.

Totally not a judgement though, nobody should be here to do that.. apologies if it came across that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with previous posters, kissing is really intimate and passionate, without passion and intimacy sex is nothing more than a couple of animals breeding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird.

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By *layPrincessDaddyBearCouple
over a year ago

Bracknell

Yes kissing and cum swapping go hand in hand

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not that I don't like kissing, I do and it's an important part of our lovemaking, my partner orgasms through kissing. I am not interested in kissing another female though I am happy for my partner to kiss another female. If I was single I would be looking to kiss but in my relationship I reserve my kisses for my partner. It's what we prefer, and we make potential playmates aware of this. I don't think we should be criticised or judged for our preferences as we don't judge or criticise others peoples preferences.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Each to their own but I'm here for intimacy not mechanics

We're here for pleasure with open minded and accepting people

Hence the inclusion of 'each to their own' I thought..

It wasn't intended as a criticism and I can see why couples may choose to put that in the 'just for us' category, it's just not for me.

From an outside perspective, being the third can be a difficult position to be in sometimes (being literally the third wheel) and in my mind, that could amplify that feeling quite considerably.

Totally not a judgement though, nobody should be here to do that.. apologies if it came across that way.

"

apology not necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be a big yes

Kissing is everything - it starts it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a snog... gets the juices flowing.

Pen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby also feels kissing is too intimate. Me I like a good snog and actually enjoy make out without it leading to sex. Sounds so high school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing would equal no meeting for us. It's such a big part of foreplay for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird. "
I didn't kiss as a single either.. and never had an issue. Seems plenty of guys were happy to skip to having their cock sucked.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird. "

"Hanging out the back of someone else's wife" is hardly intimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird. I didn't kiss as a single either.. and never had an issue. Seems plenty of guys were happy to skip to having their cock sucked. "

Ha best comeback ever and I would have to agree with you I don't think I would be stopping you from doing that either. I'm neither for or against kissing it's down to the individual and there preferences suppose I just don't see kissing as any more Intimate than sex but every one is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird.

"Hanging out the back of someone else's wife" is hardly intimate. "

How dare you that's about as intimate and romantic as you can get next you will be telling me that lambrini isn't champagne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing works for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird.

"Hanging out the back of someone else's wife" is hardly intimate.

How dare you that's about as intimate and romantic as you can get next you will be telling me that lambrini isn't champagne "

I've got news for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really understand how kissing can be seen as to intimate and sex isn't. I have noticed it seems to be couples that post no kissing rule's and I imagine it's to keep kissing just there thing which is fair enough but to say it's to intimate when you have just been hanging out the back of some one else's wife is bit weird.

"Hanging out the back of someone else's wife" is hardly intimate.

How dare you that's about as intimate and romantic as you can get next you will be telling me that lambrini isn't champagne

I've got news for you... "

Ha don't tell me some time's it's best not to know the truth

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them."

Is casual sex about intimacy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?"
see I dont think it is or not for me.. I freak if someone tries it that isn't my partner x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?"

It can be x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy? see I dont think it is or not for me.. I freak if someone tries it that isn't my partner x "

It seems that not kissing is very much connected in people's minds with lack of intimacy. I'm not sure that casual sex with virtual strangers is ever intimate in any meaningful sense.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?

It can be x"

I think I probably define intimacy differently to many.

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By *robertsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

When we started out my wife said from the start she wouldn't want to kiss so I went with it . To be fair I had a feeling our first was our type of guy who she would feel attracted to so thought it would change when they met , i was spot on . Kissing took place and for a cuckold husband to watch his wife kissing another guy it's a huge turn on , without it something would have been missing and that goes for both of us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really seen kissing as particularly intimate. But that's because I was a kissing tart from the age of thirteen until I lost my virginity at 17. Basically snogged my way through secondary school. Then after my first sexual relationship I started snogging my way through university, with the occasional shag thrown in for those who I wanted to be more intimate with. I must have kissed hundreds of men without fucking them (maybe I was a prick tease though lol), so as a result I consider kissing fairly meaningless unless I care for the person. I do get though that sex minus kissing is a less intimate experience. Don't know if that's good or bad? If I am treating a guy like a dildo I will spend less time kissing him (sometimes I am guilty of forgetting to kiss), compared to if I am fuckng a guy who is I really like.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says it all on my profile

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

I would struggle to get the party started without kissing...

:-/

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sat on a forum where most of the accepted social norms around sex and relationships don't exist.. debating the importance of kissing

With not even a hint of irony lol

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By *andDeeCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Kissing is for just between us in our book unless it's between girls. For us, Kissing/snogging is about passionate loving between two people who are in love. Would be different for single guys and girls.

Sex with a guy or couple is just that for us. Using each other for pure unadulterated getting your rocks off fucking. Same goes for anal. I love seeing my wife going down on a guy or girl and even being fucked by a guy. I'm not in to penetrating a female and it's something Dee wouldn't want to see ether.

Guess it's all about what does it and what doesn't do it for yourselves as a couple.

Some may think it's a bit one sided but that's how we are and what we enjoy. At the end of the day, that's what being a couple is all about. Knowing what turns you and your partner on and what doesn't. Whatever floats your boat.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?"

You can have intimacy in casual sex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?

You can have intimacy in casual sex"

I couldn't, I have to know someone really well to feel intimacy. I don't think of intimacy as a physical thing though,maybe thats where I'm getting confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the mouth and tongue should be regarded as sexual organs. It's an important part of sex, and vital in making love!

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By *akahCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Kissing is a must for both of us. It helps break the ice and it would all feel a bit false in our opinion otherwise. But each to their own I suppose we all have different rules.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Yes most definitely. And for those who think why.. because I'm not a robot and without kissing it seems very stage and unnatural to me

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By *inkpanther773Man
over a year ago

leigh

Absolute kissing a must, it gets things going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "Kissing is too intimate" argument is a strange one.

"Put your cock in my wife ... hang on, did you just kiss her? No I'm sorry, that's just too intimate, now get back in her pussy"

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By *inkpanther773Man
over a year ago

leigh


"The "Kissing is too intimate" argument is a strange one.

"Put your cock in my wife ... hang on, did you just kiss her? No I'm sorry, that's just too intimate, now get back in her pussy"

"

Totally agree

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"The "Kissing is too intimate" argument is a strange one.

"Put your cock in my wife ... hang on, did you just kiss her? No I'm sorry, that's just too intimate, now get back in her pussy"

"

Lmfbao

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I can actually understand the argument that it is too intimite for some...

but I wouldn't meet without kissing. too much of a turn on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can actually understand the argument that it is too intimite for some...

but I wouldn't meet without kissing. too much of a turn on! "

I honestly can't. Can you explain it? People kiss on the check all the time. People see mouths all the time, nothing sexual going on. What's more intimate than putting your dick inside a woman? I just don't see the logic.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I can actually understand the argument that it is too intimite for some...

but I wouldn't meet without kissing. too much of a turn on!

I honestly can't. Can you explain it? People kiss on the check all the time. People see mouths all the time, nothing sexual going on. What's more intimate than putting your dick inside a woman? I just don't see the logic."

can't really explain it. same as sensual sex is more intimite than faster/harder sex for me. it's more of a connection to the other person rather than a connection to the other body I would say... if that makes any sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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can't really explain it. same as sensual sex is more intimite than faster/harder sex for me. it's more of a connection to the other person rather than a connection to the other body I would say... if that makes any sense?"

I don't really get it, but to each their own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I can actually understand the argument that it is too intimite for some...

but I wouldn't meet without kissing. too much of a turn on!

I honestly can't. Can you explain it? People kiss on the check all the time. People see mouths all the time, nothing sexual going on. What's more intimate than putting your dick inside a woman? I just don't see the logic."

I don't see putting your dick inside a woman as intimate if that's all it is. I only feel intimacy if I have a close emotional connection with someone.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

This thread shows up some quite distasteful attitudes.

We kiss, so aren't being defensive.

How is it acceptable to rip into other peoples sexual preferences? Some posters are genuinely interested in the reasons people don't kiss. Others (mostly single men) seem to think its ok to post snide, insulting comments about it.

Peoples sexual emotions are complicated, subtle and often illogical.

I'd suggest anyone why thinks it's ok to insult other peoples emotions with crass, deriding comments isn't suited to swinging.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few meets now where the lady doesn't kiss it's too intimate for her.

I really like a good passionate snog, it's a big part if good sex.

How about you?"

Kissing is not as intimate as fucking or eating pussy is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it is part of the meet, how can you be intimate enough to fuck someone with out kissing them.

Is casual sex about intimacy?

It can be x

I think I probably define intimacy differently to many."

So do I by the look of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do, on most occasions

- Mrs. J -

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