FabSwingers.com forum: Name and Shame area.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

been speaking to a few fabbers recently were they have had meets lined up but then no shows.

I think its a good idea that Fab have a name and shame section which others can see. it dwindles out some of the timewasters and makes genuine fabbers cautious...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well that would be good if they were genuine timewasters,but wouldn't work in reality would it. What's to stop me saying I'd arranged a meet with you and you didn't turn up even though we hadn't?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well that would be good if they were genuine timewasters,but wouldn't work in reality would it. What's to stop me saying I'd arranged a meet with you and you didn't turn up even though we hadn't?!"

easy really, if you have the proof in messages that you had a meet arranged, then fab should be the only one who can put that person into a name and shame area. otherwise everyone will name and shame people out of spite..

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

One persons word against another, it couldn't work fairly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame the racists first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One persons word against another, it couldn't work fairly. "

proof is key! if one person messages for example (still on for meeting) but other person don't reply but been online, or blocked you theres your proof, aslong you arrange meets through fab I cant see why I wouldn't work as fab can see all messages

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"One persons word against another, it couldn't work fairly. "

I agree.

Having said that we have arrived at the position where we have now started to put our own private list together of people to avoid.

It has 4 categories - timewasters, fakes, abusive and finally a catch all under the heading weirdos.

There is actually a lot of information floating about between friends on who to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shame the racists first."

don't really see racism on here often, more timewasters and dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put them into the name and shame section!!, they'd just delete the account and come back with a different one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Put them into the name and shame section!!, they'd just delete the account and come back with a different one."

true but then surly Fab need to do something about that. accounts to be confirmed by sms.

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By *onnaDaveCouple
over a year ago

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We agree there should be something set up to warn others,

We had a guy just the other night who chatted for few weeks seemed genuine so arranged a meeting, everything was set,confirmed time etc then received a message just before we were supposed to meet saying sorry something urgent has come up, next thing is we are blocked by him, Wtf!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We agree there should be something set up to warn others,

if it was genuine why would he block you? that's why something should be done, happening to frequent

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"We agree there should be something set up to warn others,

Please send us his name so we can add it to our list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not th8nk the volunteers of fab do eight already? If you block and report then I'm sure they already have a system in place where after a certain amount of reports that person gets their account removed.

PTU xxx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Well that would be good if they were genuine timewasters,but wouldn't work in reality would it. What's to stop me saying I'd arranged a meet with you and you didn't turn up even though we hadn't?!

Well it's not easy,I sometimes take my message's to kik!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you not th8nk the volunteers of fab do eight already? If you block and report then I'm sure they already have a system in place where after a certain amount of reports that person gets their account removed.

PTU xxx"

no,reports don't mean a thing on here,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well that would be good if they were genuine timewasters,but wouldn't work in reality would it. What's to stop me saying I'd arranged a meet with you and you didn't turn up even though we hadn't?!

Well it's not easy,I sometimes take my message's to kik!"

that's why meets should be arranged on fab unless you know that person to use and arrange on kik

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

But both people can say the other didn't turn up. One word against the other,

Unless fab decides to use a tracking system

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Naming and shaming is against fab rules, as has already been said it is open to abuse anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But both people can say the other didn't turn up. One word against the other,

Unless fab decides to use a tracking system "

as previous message, if you have the message to say your meeting but other person ignore, blocks you that's all the proof they need..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Naming and shaming is against fab rules, as has already been said it is open to abuse anyway."

naming and shaming is against there rules, but they want Fab to be a fun site for all then loose the timewasters, fab have a hotlist, why not a shame list..

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

"But both people can say the other didn't turn up. One word against the other,

Unless fab decides to use a tracking system

as previous message, if you have the message to say your meeting but other person ignore, blocks you that's all the proof they need.."

Ignore or blocks don't need to be though?

We could arrange to meet, we didn't turn up but don't block you,

Your sitting waiting for us to show but we have already named and shamed you.

As hard and frustrating as it seems, it's not the way forward

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the best way to deal with it should be the system places like ebay use, you don't pay for a item you get a unpaid strike on account, 3 or more strikes they suspend your account, its that simple

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Well that would be good if they were genuine timewasters,but wouldn't work in reality would it. What's to stop me saying I'd arranged a meet with you and you didn't turn up even though we hadn't?!

Well it's not easy,I sometimes take my message's to kik!

that's why meets should be arranged on fab unless you know that person to use and arrange on kik"

You can't start saying how people should arrange their meets. What if you had arranged a meet and whilst on your way you have an urgent call from a family member and have to turn back. In the meantime your meet has arrived at the destination,he could think you're a timewaster and report you thinking you're lying. Is that ok would he be in his rights to do that?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Admin have said they will never have a name and shame section. If you report any wrong doing Admin can look into it.

I will paste onto the next post what Admin say they do with reports

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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