FabSwingers.com forum: Wine and dine or straight down to it?

By *hirazx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

Well me personally depends on the person you're talking to so for me both however I do like the wine n dine some occasions as the build up is really good.

On the other hand turning up for fun is also a huge turn on x

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By *orkieboy 99Man
over a year ago

york

Meet for soc and drinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

Hey Shiraz I think it depends on who you're meeting and the build up to that initial meet. I've done both and had a great time and in the other hand it's also not worked out as good, but I'd say it's down to who you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't want to meet for dinner, but yeah a few social drinks are a must just to see if there's that attraction there before any play.

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By *orkieboy 99Man
over a year ago

york

Sounds good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

something in between is good for us...we're not looking to wine and dine anyone...that term suggests a particular approach that isn't on our agenda... but if a social meet to get to know someone includes eating a drinking in a pleasant setting, we're happy with that...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Usually straight down to it

after a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

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I wouldn't ever expect or want a meet to wine and dine.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Straight down to it.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Straight down to it after the initial chit chat....I have already done all my checks and know I want to do them before I agreed to meet. I have no interest in dates so the wine & dine thing would just be weird

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I only ever do a social meet first and it normally extends to a few drinks I have had dinner/lunch a few times but the bill has always been split 50/50

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

I like to pack a hamper of tasty food and drink to have while we have sex.

Fancy a pricknic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine and dine definitely sounds more like a date! A few drinks as a social fine - more than that and I'd say you're in different territory. But then it depends on what you've discussed previously!

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By *illy big bolloxMan
over a year ago

Newark

Wine and dine or just drinks and a chat..... but occassionally straight down to it.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Usually straight down to it

after a social

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't think of anything worse than being wined and dined...that's not what I'm here for.

As another poster said, before a meet I will have done my research, established a connection and made sure there's an attraction before we're even in the same room, so after a few drinks in private I'm generally happy to proceed to the bedroom

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

A few drinks to see if there's chemistry

I'd never dine with someone off Fab unless it was an FB I knew well and we understood each other

I tried it once with someone I had met a few times and I got the distinct impression the lines were getting blurred for him after the second time we did it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straight down to it after the initial chit chat....I have already done all my checks and know I want to do them before I agreed to meet. I have no interest in dates so the wine & dine thing would just be weird

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and im good with that you naughty pair

....Leexx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which meet do you prefer? Are women more respected if they want to go on a 'date' first rather than just meeting and playing? I would like to know what your opinions are on this matter

I wouldn't ever expect or want a meet to wine and dine. "
you expect me to do that with you ....lol

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By *hirazx OP Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes I totally agree with this. I just thought I was missing out on something haha

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Social first for us. A few drinks and a chat to see if we all shared the same chemistry.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We swing to fulfil our sexual fantasies. Wining and dining are not part of those fantasies- we can wine and dine with our vanilla friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine snd dine first then im yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We swing to fulfil our sexual fantasies. Wining and dining are not part of those fantasies- we can wine and dine with our vanilla friends."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. ..this for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been informed by one lovely lady on here that I'm owed a fine dining experience at her pussy (her words, not mine).

So, dine while getting down to it I guess

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

A coffee/tea social meet for me. Not a date, a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine and dine is always preferred but time can be an issue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think any man on here respects women more for wanting to eat or drink before sex. Some men like to have a drink or a meal before sex, as part of the build up.

I like a couple of drinks in a bar before sex, but it's not a requirement. Food is a definite no, unless it's at least 4 hours prior to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We swing to fulfil our sexual fantasies. Wining and dining are not part of those fantasies- we can wine and dine with our vanilla friends."

Same for the us.

But ultimately I respect someone's preferences, if someone wants to just get down it or be wined or dined, it's their choice.

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By *ixenSubminxiveWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I tend to have a social meet first but just drinks to see if we click. It's very rare that I've eaten with somebody on a meet, the few occasions that I have we've had a really good connection first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer a 'date' like experience prior to sex. This is usually drinks in a pub, but there has been lunch or dinner. We also regular have our playmates over to our house for dinner and a glass of bubbly. We treat our playmates as friends, and we find we get treated well in return.

Mrs

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Depends on our mood. I suffer from nerves a lot and can freeze if things go too slowly. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just straight down to it, it's a swingers website not tinder, which I aslo use purely for sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on our mood. I suffer from nerves a lot and can freeze if things go too slowly. xx

Yes I can relate to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just straight down to it, it's a swingers website not tinder, which I aslo use purely for sex!

I always find it odd when people say that one should use something Tinder if they want a date. That's of no use to us, because couples aren't allowed on Tinder or any of the dating site. So we have to use a swinging site for what we want.

Mrs

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Definate social first ..

I found out the hard way when I've turned up and a lady is a few stone heavier than her pics .

A total turn off for me ..

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By *iss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

All depends on my mood most of my single meets had been straight down to it,only a few have been drinks 1st but when I played on my couple profile we always did a social 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it all depends on what the both of yous are looking for and what the sexual chemistry is like between yous, just through chat on here the bedroom could be the first meet. But on the other hand a social is good too what happens next could be all sorts off fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally happy to get straight to it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally depends?

With previous meets, then I've gone for food and drinks, but then I'm usually staying over.

With someone new, I wouldn't do food. Last thing I want to do is the bedroom olympics completely bloated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We prefer a 'date' like experience prior to sex. This is usually drinks in a pub, but there has been lunch or dinner. We also regular have our playmates over to our house for dinner and a glass of bubbly. We treat our playmates as friends, and we find we get treated well in return.

Mrs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine and dine to me sounds like a date.

For me I much prefer straight down to it after a great build up. If the chemistry is there, no point in beating about the bush (no pun intended lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer a social meet first. Face to face flirting always adds to the build up before playing.

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By *outhend secretWoman
over a year ago

southend

Come in get cock out and play I rarely meet twice and get all the loving I need at home thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We treat our playmates as friends, and we find we get treated well in return.

Mrs "

This is perfectly achievable without the "date" experience. A lot of you seem to assume that because some meet purely for sex that it's cold and clinical and there's no social interaction at all. That couldn't be more wrong. I do all my social interaction in between getting hot and sweaty and have made some great friends along the way without ever seeing them dressed

This comment isn't aimed at those I've quoted it's just a general observation of several comments I've seen on my time on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference is social/drinks but I wouldn't exclude wine & dine. I don't like sex on a full stomach.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

Considering I'm not a salad ordering kinda girl: starter, steak, and pudding before we head on for a play is probably not a good idea. Only action that we'll see is him bringing me a cup of tea in bed and rubbing my belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We treat our playmates as friends, and we find we get treated well in return.

Mrs

This comment isn't aimed at those I've quoted it's just a general observation of several comments I've seen on my time on the forum. "

It is indeed achievable, and we have had a lot of fun in party situations like this. But for private meets we like more. A date is part of the sexual experience for us, and I don't understand why by its so frowned upon on Fab. I think we're unusual. I get the impression most people would only have a social meet the first time.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We treat our playmates as friends, and we find we get treated well in return.

Mrs

This comment isn't aimed at those I've quoted it's just a general observation of several comments I've seen on my time on the forum.

Mrs"

Totally agree with you there. A date is part of the experience and I like to know what makes the other party tick - builds up the excitement for me if we do gel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Considering I'm not a salad ordering kinda girl: starter, steak, and pudding before we head on for a play is probably not a good idea. Only action that we'll see is him bringing me a cup of tea in bed and rubbing my belly

Haha, yes know what you mean there. The first night of our honeymoon we didn't do any shagging due to going crazy with the nice food in the all inclusive hotel.

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