FabSwingers.com forum: Wife wants to entertain male co-worker..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks H has had a large crush and a strong desire for a male Co-worker for a little while now... she's not an office dolly, but works outside as a gardener so gets hot, sweaty and dirty often, as do her collagues.

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Now, im totally supportive of her going for it and actively encourage her to hint as often as possible and take any chances he offers - hearing the stories of what they could have done makes my body shiver with excitement.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks H has had a large crush and a strong desire for a male Co-worker for a little while now... she's not an office dolly, but works outside as a gardener so gets hot, sweaty and dirty often, as do her collagues.

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

I would suggest keeping relationships at work professional, same reasons why you don't fuck a house mate. If anything goes bad.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is this to be a one off or a regular thing? If she wouldn't feel awkward about it afterwards and you can rely on the guy not to make her position untenable go for it. To be honest I would never mix this type of fantasy with work there's way too much potential for things to go badly wrong. Your call though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a can of worms to me!

Can't be worth risking her work environment turning into a nightmare for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it's best to keep work and play separate in all honesty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks folks... this is my predicament. I know how badly she wants/needs him, we talk about the prospect often, and it never fails to get the juices flowing in both of us.

From what she's said of how they talk and hey on at work, add well add the simple fact he's suggested pizza and a movie together or going to the gym/for a run, o have my suspicions that his feelingsmay be mutual despite them never taking about anything sexual..

We've thought about the consequences a bit and knew what's at stake, but we'd set out for our to be a one off. If things take a turn for the better then that might have to change, but the job is also a priority.

Having said that, why should she be 'at fault' if anything were to go wrong and it got complicated and he completely rejects the idea?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

You're obviously enjoying the fantasy, I would leave it there. Have seen these scenarios go wrong, so much so that one party was moved out of the workplace. Depends how much she values her job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say it's best to keep work and play separate in all honesty "

Nah! It can be fun...believe me'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks folks... this is my predicament. I know how badly she wants/needs him, we talk about the prospect often, and it never fails to get the juices flowing in both of us.

Having said that, why should she be 'at fault' if anything were to go wrong and it got complicated and he completely rejects the idea?"

Sounds like the guy at work is crushing on H and if he gets it once, chances are he will want again. What would H rather have a friend at work or someone who is a jealous mess that can't keep his distance?

Strongly recommend leaving things at work professional and try to find an alternative vice. Like me perhaps?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks folks... this is my predicament. I know how badly she wants/needs him, we talk about the prospect often, and it never fails to get the juices flowing in both of us.

Having said that, why should she be 'at fault' if anything were to go wrong and it got complicated and he completely rejects the idea?"

What would the terms of this encounter be? The guy has no idea what's going on and that's unkind, he's probably thinking theres a romantic interest here. If both of you really want this to happen be fair with the guy and include him in the discussion. He then has the opportunity to agree or not knowing exactly what he's getting in to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok - you've had four responses, all of which advising to not mix work and pleasure!!

She wants/needs him so badly??? That sounds worrying already - and sounds like she's getting fixated on him and you on the idea of it? It sounds like it's the easy option to be honest - she already knows him etc etc so the 'vetting' has already been done vs. meeting someone off here for example. Would you both get the same thrill if she did meet someone more anonymous - or is it the fact that you both already know him that makes it more exciting?

She wouldn't be at fault for making a move. But if it happens and then turns sour, is it going to make her work life unbearable, or if he does reject, is the 'gossip' likely to make it round to all the other colleagues and still make her work life unbearable.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

This has disaster written all over it. Go and have fun at a club or through fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok - you've had four responses, all of which advising to not mix work and pleasure!!

She wants/needs him so badly??? That sounds worrying already

Thought this too...

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

Worms and plenty of them.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

If you guys meant it as a one off then choose a complete stranger, someone you can both just forget about and consider a box ticked. You must be crazy to be thinking about someone close by and what happens if they get hooked on the thrill of it all? Then you've got a regular FB so unless you fancy being cuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A crush will eventually go lusting after a work colleague is hardly a rare thing.

If your wife likes her job I think you both should look elsewhere for a bit of fun.

The male in question is clueless and could be horrified to find out her hubby wants him to fuck her.

Males have feelings also so treat him with some respect would be my advice.

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville

If she feels so strongly about this co-worker, is there a possibility she could fall for him? It's one of the risks of choosing a sexual partner who one of the couple see regularly.

There's also the possibility of having a bad time at work if it goes badly, is he trustworthy? Will he tell everyone? So on and so forth.

If you've both discussed these possibilities and are sure you want to go down that route with a close work colleague, then make him aware of the situation that he's likely to be involved in so he can make an informed decision.

Good luck either way OP ????

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville

"If she feels so strongly about this co-worker, is there a possibility she could fall for him? It's one of the risks of choosing a sexual partner who one of the couple see regularly.

There's also the possibility of having a bad time at work if it goes badly, is he trustworthy? Will he tell everyone? So on and so forth.

Good luck either way OP ????"

Those question marks were meant to be a thumbs up and smiley face haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say it's best to keep work and play separate in all honesty "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She fancies him, he's interested in seeing her outside of the work setting and you have tacitly by way of fantasizing with her about them fucking given your approval?

Whatever we say I think it's in the lap of the gods now, good luck OP x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

In my experience never mix work and personal life, it's bound to go wrong.

Anyway good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A crush will eventually go lusting after a work colleague is hardly a rare thing.

If your wife likes her job I think you both should look elsewhere for a bit of fun.

The male in question is clueless and could be horrified to find out her hubby wants him to fuck her.

Males have feelings also so treat him with some respect would be my advice."

totally agree many fantasies are best left as exactly that.

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

She should go for it. Get that pizza then screw his brains out. Tell him hubby will kill them both if he finds out. Can guarantee no rumours will spread around work and everyone gets what they want.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My personal preference is to keep things professional at work. Just remember that if your wife has something with this man and it later ends...they may still have to work together. Some people can do that, some cannot. Remember your wife and this guy are both human beings.

Having said all that, my wife's first lover was a work colleague. It kind of worked out. They had some great times for a couple of years before he got into a monogamous relationship. BUT...he still wants her, and she won't cheat. 14 years on they still both work for the same organisation but he transferred to a different building a couple of miles away (not his choice, but it actually was better for them). Prior to the transfer he was trying to entice my wife, sometimes at the risk of being seen by bosses.

So...not a disaster by any means, they remain friends up to a point...but it would now be very difficult for them to actually work together in the same space.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

You both seem like a lovely couple. I've slept with several coworkers over the years so speaking from experience, it's NO big deal really. The only thing you have to figure out is whether it would be an issue for you if he went ahead and spoke about it to others. If he's sensible he won't but some guys might. Me personally, I couldn't give a hoot if any of them talked and they all know that. None did but I know that I have a bit of a reputation and I don't give a toss. If that's not an issue for you then go for it, chances are you both will love the whole thing. As for being scared of rejection, looking at her she's not likely to get rejected (unless he's gay !)

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

We have a similar dilemma however it's slightly different, wonder what people think about it. Sorry for the hijack op.

Mrs was contacted by a guy on her single profile.

When she looked at the pic's she said that it was a guy from work.

We agreed to leave it be and although he didn't know who she is we advised that she recognised him and we should leave it.

Although he said he would be ok with it he respected what we asked.

However!

After chatting with Mrs many times she said she would love to "have him" .

He doesn't work with her regularly he actually only comes to her place of work every couple of months and then she rarely sees him.

So there is no worries about seeing him daily.

Mrs is in the process of moving department anyway and where she works it employs about a thousand staff so a pretty big place.

Personally my gut feeling is go for it.

The other problem is that we cannot remember his username and profile.

Can of worms or not?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't be comfortable manipulating another person who wasn't in possession of all the facts. This guy shouldn't be an unknowing accessory to someone's game.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have a similar dilemma however it's slightly different, wonder what people think about it. Sorry for the hijack op.

Mrs was contacted by a guy on her single profile.

When she looked at the pic's she said that it was a guy from work.

We agreed to leave it be and although he didn't know who she is we advised that she recognised him and we should leave it.

Although he said he would be ok with it he respected what we asked.

However!

After chatting with Mrs many times she said she would love to "have him" .

He doesn't work with her regularly he actually only comes to her place of work every couple of months and then she rarely sees him.

So there is no worries about seeing him daily.

Mrs is in the process of moving department anyway and where she works it employs about a thousand staff so a pretty big place.

Personally my gut feeling is go for it.

The other problem is that we cannot remember his username and profile.

Can of worms or not? "

Every meet is potentially a can of worms. Does the guy know you're aware and approve?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't be comfortable manipulating another person who wasn't in possession of all the facts. This guy shouldn't be an unknowing accessory to someone's game."

The guy certainly wouldn't be a blind pawn in our game, we've agreed that if anything were to go ahead, then we'd tell definitely him everything up front - no holds barred, so that means him being aware that it's absolutely no strings, no romance, no chance of a relationship at all. Hopefully making sure he knows where the line is drawn and what H wants from any fun - pure unadulterated sex and NOTHING else.

If he's happy with that and understands to keep quiet about it at work (he's not the kind to go blabbing as I understand) then I think that solves a few issues, but the dilemma still stands.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I wouldn't be comfortable manipulating another person who wasn't in possession of all the facts. This guy shouldn't be an unknowing accessory to someone's game.

If he's happy with that and understands to keep quiet about it at work (he's not the kind to go blabbing as I understand) then I think that solves a few issues, but the dilemma still stands."

I see. As far as he knows at the moment though it's a flirtation between him and your wife that you know nothing about or that you're fully aware of? I suppose if things progressed to the point where you did both say that you wanted your partner to have sex with him he would have the opportunity to say yes or no. It's at that point also that the possibility of him being so surprised at the situation that he says to his mates and other colleagues "you'll never guess what just happened to me".

There's only one way to find out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see. As far as he knows at the moment though it's a flirtation between him and your wife that you know nothing about or that you're fully aware of?"

Yep, exactly that. But we're ckear we wouldn't progress without him knowing all the facts.

I suppose if things progressed to the point where you did both say that you wanted your partner to have sex with him he would have the opportunity to say yes or no. It's at that point also that the possibility of him being so surprised at the situation that he says to his mates and other colleagues "you'll never guess what just happened to me".

There's only one way to find out."

Yes indeed, a very likely outcome, and one that we're very wary of, especially with a possibility of the situation turning sour afterwards. Hence the dilemma and my caution towards rushing into anything.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I wouldn't be comfortable manipulating another person who wasn't in possession of all the facts. This guy shouldn't be an unknowing accessory to someone's game.

If he's happy with that and understands to keep quiet about it at work (he's not the kind to go blabbing as I understand) then I think that solves a few issues, but the dilemma still stands."

The first thing any guy getting a fuck from a co worker will do is go for a pint after work and tell their mates they've just fucked a co-worker, to not to tell anybody but they told him to keep it quiet and she would fuck him again, that they had all these rules.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Tell her to douche - she's gonna get fucked in the arse you might as well do it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of our strict rules.....no one from work!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell her to douche - she's gonna get fucked in the arse you might as well do it properly

Whatever your reason for this comment, it's not exactly helpful.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Tell her to douche - she's gonna get fucked in the arse you might as well do it properly

Whatever your reason for this comment, it's not exactly helpful."

You've made your mind up, you know what the other guy is going to do. You have your fantasy and she wants to do it. Just giving advice on something you might not have thought about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some very good advice above and especially from 'nicecouple' , who kindly gave me their opinion on a very similar position me and my wife are in . While it's not happening at her work but more of a sports club I can see it being a very very similar situation.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's some very good advice above and especially from 'nicecouple' , who kindly gave me their opinion on a very similar position me and my wife are in . While it's not happening at her work but more of a sports club I can see it being a very very similar situation. "

I hope it helped but as with here it is only our opinion, doesn't mean it's right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hope it helped but as with here it is only our opinion, doesn't mean it's right

Your advice is very helpful, and I must thank you both for it. The situation is very v tricky, but we both feel it's something we want to do, either with this gent or another.

Obviously, with this bloke there's a lot of lines that could easily be crossed inadvertently and that's the risk errr need to assess - is it worth the possible fallout if things go bad. Only H can work that out, it's her place of work not mine, and she'll have to deal with any consequences.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd keep business and pleasure separate no matter how tempting it looks at this moment in time. As Fairport Convention once sang 'time will show the wiser'

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By *wingtolifeCouple
over a year ago

who knows

weve had sexual encounters with colleagues in the past, nothing has came back to haunt us yet. although they have all been female,not sure if they talked or not, no idea but my wife attracts them it was just pure sex and noyhing more than that, we are still friends too. We have never been romantically involved with them. pizza and a movie sounds like a date though. Id be pissed off if a colleague was asking my wife out on a date (if he knew she was married) all depends what scenario you want to play and how deep down the rabbit hole you want go too. good luck whichever you choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to be attracted to play mates and have mutual sexual energy. But from what you have said the relationship seems to be blossoming on a different level to swinging maybe more on the mans side as he is unaware of your fantasy and oblivious to your life style. It will probably end in tears..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choose another single male. There are enough on here that will seduce your mind, body and soul if given half the chance. Some lovely, genuine nice guys too.

Good luck X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

Can of worms mate.

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Don't touch it with a barge pole! When we first got into swinging Wifey had a fling with a guy from her work. Great fun for a while but he got very needy and demanding so she broke it off. Made things very difficult at work for her. Made us a lot more choosy who we play with.

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hi there OPs. How did things go for you? I hope it worked out for you all and you had more luck than we did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is, she's incredibly introverted when it comes to making the first move and wants it so much she's scared of the v rejection.

Here's the problem - am I right to encourage her going after a colleague, or is this just a massive can of worms we'll both regret opening?

S"
how important is the job?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very classy a saying, but very apt:

Don't sh!t where you eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a BIG NO NO,like the saying says, if it's too good to be true it usually is.

Work comes first and after it has happened he will either keep coming for more , or get worked up and jealous if he can't have it.

Keep it friendly and professional .

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

Said it on here already. Go for it !! . The worst that happens is someone tells her hubby lol. Would love to see the amateur acting of shock horror on hubbys face. She goes back to work and says hubby is wonderful and forgiven her. 2 weeks and its all blown over. But hubby kicks shit outa guy for telling lol . My opinion

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Said it on here already. Go for it !! . The worst that happens is someone tells her hubby lol. Would love to see the amateur acting of shock horror on hubbys face. She goes back to work and says hubby is wonderful and forgiven her. 2 weeks and its all blown over. But hubby kicks shit outa guy for telling lol . My opinion "

No. The worst that can happen is the co-worker blabs the whole thing to the rest of the company making life very uncomfortable for both the OP and his wife.

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

No. The worst that can happen is the co-worker blabs the whole thing to the rest of the company making life very uncomfortable for both the OP and his wife."

Yep i addressed this possibility in an earlier post on here lol

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By *arygoMan
over a year ago

Corwen

Yes go for it !!!!. I had exactly the same scenario years ago, best thing we done, our sex life was amazing and her lover is still our friend.

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By *rfhondamanMan
over a year ago

flintshire

I encoraged my wife to go for it, she was alway mentioning his name, I always told her to go out to partys wearing low cut tops n no bra . in the end it worked , he fucked her in his hotel room, I wanted all the details but didnt get all , n she says it only happened the once but i'm not conviced. Oh Bollocks got a hard on now!!

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By *rfhondamanMan
over a year ago

flintshire

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Would she be honest with the guy and tell him you knew all about it and encouraged it as you're swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work and pleasure don't mix.

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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago

Blantyre

"I encoraged my wife to go for it, she was alway mentioning his name, I always told her to go out to partys wearing low cut tops n no bra . in the end it worked , he fucked her in his hotel room, I wanted all the details but didnt get all , n she says it only happened the once but i'm not conviced. Oh Bollocks got a hard on now!!

Lmfao

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I wish I worked with her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish I worked with her! "
are you male or female of couple ?

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