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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this?

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By *onyxptMan
over a year ago

st neots, living in Albufeira-Algarve-Portugal


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

Yes ! I know what you mean !

That type of attitude makes it more difficult for single guys like me !

Unfortunately most single guys are not really swingers !

They just perceive swingers as an "easy" lay they want to take advantage of !

A very unfortunate attitude !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

It's possible that they don't understand that Alfie sees his partner as a possession to be shared and they're trying to establish a connection with her as a person. Its also possible that they don't understand that couples like to be approached as a pair.

We like things to work for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a few couples and would never leave the guy out. I love MMF Always more fun xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

In a bi mf couple, the guy is sometimes quite keen to get me involved.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

Prized possession!

Good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can see the OPs point, it frustrates us. But prized possession?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They need to understand the concept of "hotwifing" properly. Many don't!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Well as there is only pictures of you on the profile I would guess you were most likely in charge of it, they are probably making the same assumption

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always!!

We open single men up every so often and it's the same thing every time.

They want to meet now, she has lush tits, they want to fuck her arse, they love her pussy.

Haven't even bothered finding out what her NAME is, they just know she wants to be fucked hard!!

We chat with 1 single male here and so far he hasn't once asked when HE can play with her, only asked when WE are ready to give him a shout.

ONE out of probably hundreds we have found so far that knows how to behave himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as there is only pictures of you on the profile I would guess you were most likely in charge of it, they are probably making the same assumption "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tried many times since being back on here meeting guys most are bi and can't read lol ,and you get stupid lack of response messages

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

It's the difference between decent respectful males with an appreciation of swinging and those without respect or appreciation.

It doesn't take a wizard to work out a couple wants to have a great/amazing sexy mutual encounter just like you should.

I suppose if someone's here for wham-bam encounters to rid a loose urge the latter might not come into it.

Saying that couples/females can assume too much around single males and forget a decent one will equally need the urge, the want in order to meet them.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

Although I love my wife with all my heart , she isn't my prized possession . She is her own person with her own mind , so we meet plenty of guys who find her equally as attractive as I do .

And that's the way we play , the guy gets to enjoy his time with her , and she with him , and I get to see it all happen which is great for all of us .

They guys we meet never feel like I am doing them a favour by sharing my wife . They know the meet is equally about them as it is for us .

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By *ambscouple2015Couple
over a year ago

Not in Wisbech but near


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

Think it's the same single guys that are contacting you that are contacting us lol

Even when I have asked why they don't address us as a couple the usual response is basically? "well its Mrs CC i want to fuck so why should I put any ?effort in to chatting to Mr"

Saying that though we have found a couple of single guys that have treated us as a couple from the first message and 1 of those was the first person we ever met back in 2015, when we first started and will be seeing him again soon

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By *ye SeMan
over a year ago

london


"We find it difficult to meet a guy/guys that we are both willing to meet. We get lots of messages and invites but they just want to speak to or flatter cat, which is great. But they don't seem to understand that it's Alfie that's willing to share his prized possession and they need to respect that. Any other couples find this? "

I get messages from last st of couple but s lot to f the time it seems the lady would like to be indulged be men but the male part is only welling if there inferior. It's a funny one as I know the men are really picky with the ladies that want to join in. Where's the equality lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When communicating with a couple, I'll always assume that the profile is run by them both and messages will be read by them both.

Any decisions regarding meets etc, should be a joint effort and that is recognized by the person messaging.

The ones which piss me off (and will never get a message from me), are the ones where the profile is run solely by the guy, messages are read by him, guys are treated like applicants, to be vetted - expected to jump thru hoops and do allsorts to impress this 'gate guardian', so he might deign to allow acccess to his (probably fictitious) partner.

Men generally aren't qualified to judge what a woman will be attracted to (I'm straight, so I don't have a fucking clue).

There's no way I'd throw away my self-respect, to contact a 'couple', under those conditions.

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