FabSwingers.com forum: Orgasm issue

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else struggle with this. I'm starting to think I'm not normal.

I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Can with a toy,but on meets it rarely happens. It starts and them doesn't turn into an orgasm

Just wondered if anyone had ant tips?

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By *igharryMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Maybe its like alcohol/drugs. It hits you straight away at first but over time it gets harder?

Maybe try incorporating sex toys in with your meets, To be honest if a girl told me she needed a toy to cum i wouldnt mind and would actually enjoy it.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sometimes it's good to just use your hand. Start of slow and soft and work your way up to the great feeling. Also sometimes it's just better to have all those good feelings and forget about actually having an orgasam. Just enjoy yourself as the more you focus on the end goal the less likely it will happen

Mrs2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I can orgasm....

I can cum/squirt but with the nice bit. ..

I just accept it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what you mean. I just think it's not being relaxed enough.

I've been seeing a regular meet for the past couple of months and have no problem with him. But new ones.....I always struggle. Bit nervous I suppose x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never found it that easy to orgasm without masturbating. I used to enjoy it and call it staying power but I'd like to be able to cum more easily.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe its like alcohol/drugs. It hits you straight away at first but over time it gets harder?

Maybe try incorporating sex toys in with your meets, To be honest if a girl told me she needed a toy to cum i wouldnt mind and would actually enjoy it."

That might be worth a try. I have asked him for another meet and that we maybe use toys.

its been that long since I've had sex with a guy,I've used toys everyday sometimes twice a day. Maybe I should ease off the battery powered friends when I'm on my own?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I can orgasm....

I can cum/squirt but with the nice bit. ..

I just accept it now.

I can orgasm with toys and I can sometimes squirt.

But I've had three meets this year,one of those I came multiple times.

I know I can,its just annoying when it doesn't happen

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

There are therapies quite efficient for that problem. I suggest you to visit a counsellor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe its like alcohol/drugs. It hits you straight away at first but over time it gets harder?

Maybe try incorporating sex toys in with your meets, To be honest if a girl told me she needed a toy to cum i wouldnt mind and would actually enjoy it.

That might be worth a try. I have asked him for another meet and that we maybe use toys.

its been that long since I've had sex with a guy,I've used toys everyday sometimes twice a day. Maybe I should ease off the battery powered friends when I'm on my own?"

Yup! It will be that! Have a break from it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe its like alcohol/drugs. It hits you straight away at first but over time it gets harder?

Maybe try incorporating sex toys in with your meets, To be honest if a girl told me she needed a toy to cum i wouldnt mind and would actually enjoy it.

That might be worth a try. I have asked him for another meet and that we maybe use toys.

its been that long since I've had sex with a guy,I've used toys everyday sometimes twice a day. Maybe I should ease off the battery powered friends when I'm on my own?

Yup! It will be that! Have a break from it "

I'll pack the kit away x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Don't know why you wouldn't use toys during sex - that's what they are there for.

Having said that, I have met women who have had only a handful of orgasms so maybe it depends too on how you/they/the meet is approached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can orgasm with clitoral stimulation when flying solo and I can squirt/cum through penetration but only orgasm through penetration with someone I love...not necessarily that I am in love with tho...I love my fwb and he has no problem leaving me a jibbering wreck...and with fairly dry bed linen too...always good!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If a guy is attentive, and has good oral skills etc also if I take control and I am on top and go a my pace I can orgasm, however, add in even 1 glass of wine, for some reason the orgasm just isn't going to happen, though I still prefer the guy to be attentive.

However, as I have only had sex once this year so far I am starting to think I may start missing this ability

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By *ammy-leeWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

I have to know someone and I don't cum everytme either

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

"Does anyone else struggle with this. I'm starting to think I'm not normal.

I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Can with a toy,but on meets it rarely happens. It starts and them doesn't turn into an orgasm

Just wondered if anyone had ant tips?

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Take toys on meets??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I class my self has been ablecto have 2 different types of orgasm the 1 from my clit that I can only do myself (then can't touch it at all) and the 1 i have with my lover where I gush all over his hand/cock/toy and can keep doing this for hrs. I tend to leave a big wet patch. Both of them I enjoy but I do really enjoy the 1's on my own especially when I can roll over fart and go to sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a lot about the pressure we put on ourselves, I struggle to cum during sex and usually have to finish myself off, the more it happens the more it's on my mind which makes it worse. I know it's particularly bad with new partners. I think meeting people from here make everybody think that they have to be the perfect lover and perform like a Greek god but the reality is is that we are all still human and suffer nerves regardless. Free the mind and the orgasms will follow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd definitely suggest trying to give the toys a break. I've found when I've gotten a new toy and I'm in love with it, it becomes very very easy for your body to get dependent on it !

It's kinda like porn I think where it desensitises you if used all the time.

I'm lucky as I'm lucky enough to orgasm intensely and from various ways but I think the best way is to not stress about it and maybe experiment on your body with different touches and positions and when you find something you like and enjoy, chat to the person you are intimate with and tell him how you liked to be touched.

I think thats a double win as I know I've found telling a partner who I like to Cum and showing him is a bit turn on of itself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there could be many reasons , on new meets maybe its just the need to relax and enjoy,

mildred only orgasms from cowgirl no other way by penetration

she always cums with her toys and mainly uses her toy to finnish with a meet , I and other guys love watching her play with herself so its all good for us, don't be shy to introduce toys into your play most guys we know love watching women play with them selves

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i can cum easily with regular sex with an actual partner, who i'm in a relationship with. they give me time to feel good about fucking them.

on here it's rare a guy will bother to do that so i hardly cum with anyone off fab.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

" I've had three meets this year,one of those I came multiple times.

I know I can, its just annoying when it doesn't happen

Try not to put pressure on yourself to orgasm, go with the flow..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle with this. I'm starting to think I'm not normal.

I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Can with a toy,but on meets it rarely happens. It starts and them doesn't turn into an orgasm

Just wondered if anyone had ant tips?

Lack of intimacy? Maybe you need to feel completely comfortable and at ease with the situation. You might enjoy a meet, but if its with people you vaguely know, then that will mean that there is a deep sense of ......

No, Hold on. That's bollox

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Maybe its like alcohol/drugs. It hits you straight away at first but over time it gets harder?

Maybe try incorporating sex toys in with your meets, To be honest if a girl told me she needed a toy to cum i wouldnt mind and would actually enjoy it.

That might be worth a try. I have asked him for another meet and that we maybe use toys.

its been that long since I've had sex with a guy,I've used toys everyday sometimes twice a day. Maybe I should ease off the battery powered friends when I'm on my own?

Yup! It will be that! Have a break from it

I'll pack the kit away x"

Why? We never have sex without toys. If it makes it better then why would you have inferior sex!?

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I almost never orgasm on meets, which is fine with me as it helps me keep going all night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am a big lover of oral and have met people who said they climaxed easier or only with me but i think a lot of peoples meet person just doesnt spend enough time or effort just on foreplay which doesnt help

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

An inability to orgasm could be down to one of a number of things - but it can often be due to nerves. It's very difficult to cum when one is not relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont use toys never have. I dont know if a woman can become dependent on toys so that when a guy touches her or fucks her she cant orgasm.. im sure this isnt the case. Or maybe its just that you need to allow plenty of time for foreplay .. i dont know. Are you excited .. is there a build up before playing? You have been given a few tips by others on here so, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle with this. I'm starting to think I'm not normal.

I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Can with a toy,but on meets it rarely happens. It starts and them doesn't turn into an orgasm

Just wondered if anyone had ant tips?

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awwww sweety you just need me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try and not think about it - go with the flow and enjoy

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I have trouble now. Can have a week long session and only cum 2-3 times

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"I have trouble now. Can have a week long session and only cum 2-3 times"
weekend lol

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Does anyone else struggle with this. I'm starting to think I'm not normal.

I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Can with a toy,but on meets it rarely happens. It starts and them doesn't turn into an orgasm

Just wondered if anyone had ant tips?

Mrs is the same in the 30 year's together never once cum thru penetrative sex.

I thought it was me, but she has been with Errrr a few guy's some of who have literally fucked her like I have never been able to, some normal sized cocks, some bigger and a few whoppers.

And while the feeling of wanting to cum is there and it almost happening it never quite does.

Oral takes ages, her wand works within minutes sometimes seconds.

And she can now have orgasm after orgasm and goes on have multiple times using the wand.

Don't feel like it's you it's perfectly normal and many many women never have a penetrative orgasm.

A combination of dildo a vibration seems to be the best for my Mrs.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

"I think it's a lot about the pressure we put on ourselves, I struggle to cum during sex and usually have to finish myself off, the more it happens the more it's on my mind which makes it worse. I know it's particularly bad with new partners. I think meeting people from here make everybody think that they have to be the perfect lover and perform like a Greek god but the reality is is that we are all still human and suffer nerves regardless. Free the mind and the orgasms will follow x"

And what a turn on it is to watch(and hear) a man finish himself off

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Keep practising and find what works for you, plus enjoy the fun along the way! Being relaxed and open minded helps as stress and anxiety obviously don't, likewise alcohol helps some but hinders others! Communication is certainly the key, it's nice for your 'partner' to know what works and what doesn't - everyone gets maximum enjoyment!

Over use of toys can desensitize the area so care must be taken or use alternatives as suggested above - it's not a science, more trial and error and hopefully enjoyable too!

Mutual pleasure is the key x

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