FabSwingers.com forum: Is swinging really a "lifestyle" if you're not living it openly?

By *roticGoddessXX OP Woman
over a year ago

Richmond

Honest question....what are your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest question....what are your thoughts?"

Hmmm, good question. Define living it openly?

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

@Living openly' kind of implies that it is anybody elses business what you do with your life...

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By *roticGoddessXX OP Woman
over a year ago

Richmond

Just a question of semantics, and people's opinions.

I know a couple who are openly swingers in their community/friends/family. For them, swinging is a lifestyle.

As for me, several of my friends and a family member know I've been involved in swinging and that it's how I met my BF. I wouldn't define swinging as a Lifestyle for me, simply as one choice I've made in how I live my life.

I'm simply curious as to how others perceive it, as I've neard it referred to many times here as a lifestyle. For me, being vegetarian is a lifestyle for me, not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can imagine it's quite liberating to be open about it. But we could never imagine being that ourselves. Some of my wife's friends know we have an 'open relationship' but that's about it.

I think some people say lifestyle as they don't like the term swinger.

Lifestyle also seems to apply to people who love the socialising side as much as the sex, if not more so. Which doesn't really apply to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, quite agree. 'Lifestyle' is a bit grand, its more on the lines of a hobby, interest, pastime or a sort of 'sport' if you will.

You wouldn't describe other leisure activities such as going to the races, cinema or having a nightout on the town as a 'lifestyle' would you?

Its all down to the way you wish to think of it I suppose. Only thing that matters is enjoying it.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Not so long ago it was called "Lifestyle" and the quarterly mag I still get has always used that title.

I read these forums (another great mag) regularly, and my overall opinion is that modern swingers actually think they invented it.

The only things that have changed are the ready availability of the internet, plus it was a interest conducted by writing letters, and there were a class of people who couldn't be bothered,but also people who thought writing letters normal.

Now we have a situation whereas every "Jeremy-Kyle-Style-swinger" thinks watching his wife being fucked is better than playing on his JSA financed x-box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No."
very constructive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so long ago it was called "Lifestyle" and the quarterly mag I still get has always used that title.

I read these forums (another great mag) regularly, and my overall opinion is that modern swingers actually think they invented it.

Now we have a situation whereas every "Jeremy-Kyle-Style-swinger" thinks watching his wife being fucked is better than playing on his JSA financed x-box. "

Wow, harsh but fair. I like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest question....what are your thoughts?"

Is it more of a question or who you share personal information with? On a need to know basis. That doesn't mean you aren't open about it, as such.

I don't want to compare swinging with religion, but just because someone doesn't know which religion I am doesn't me an atheist.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It might be called, or used to be called The Lifestyle.

But for us it isnt a way of life. It's just something we do for fun now and then. The rest of our life goes on as before.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i'm not sure. on the one hand sex tends to be a fairly intimate and private thing, and i know swinging isn't only about sex (for many people) so in theory the social part of swinging should possibly fit into your life.

like if you really have made swinging friends surely it's ok to have them meet your other friends who are not swingers?

i guess a lot get off on having a secret life also and that's part of the thrill, so why would they want to expose anything.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

I'm quite open about being a swinger All my friends are aware

However, I wouldn't call it a lifestyle as such it's more what occupies a lot of my leisure time

It does get referred to as my "alternative lifestyle" on occasion by others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's not a lifestyle anyway, it's a enhancement that we enjoy occasionally for ours and other mutual satisfaction.

I was on here with my ex and it became a lifestyle as our friends, social life was all swinging based and the only things we did i.e. Nights out etc were to do with swinging.

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By *wingtolifeCouple
over a year ago

who knows

for some its a lifestlye as much as trainspotting for others.

think everyone has their own take on it.

to be honest i hate the term swinger. prefer libertine

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"for some its a lifestlye as much as trainspotting for others.

think everyone has their own take on it.

to be honest i hate the term swinger. prefer libertine"

I just tell everyone I'm a hedonist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term lifestyle even more than I hate the term swinger.

I suppose the term Lifestyle does make it sound like the mythical Swingers from the olden days. Where they can't have a conversation without mentioning sex and can't be near someone without flirting and making suggestive gestures.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I hate the term lifestyle even more than I hate the term swinger.

Reading that made me giggle Not because I always flirt and talk about sex in normal company, just ever since joining fab if I spot someone in normal life I suspect might be a swinger I have this habit of using the word fab a lot in sentences to see if there's a nanosecond of registration on their faces!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Honest question....what are your thoughts?"

Yes, swinging has never been something that is paraded in public it has always been a private pastime for those in the know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is swinging really a "lifestyle" if you're not living it openly?"

What a great question! Kind of thing those scholars at Sydney University would love to answer no doubt.

Is swinging a lifestyle in the same way being a goth is a lifestyle?

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