FabSwingers.com forum: First club visit

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was thinking about attending my first club visit,but A,I'm very nervous and B,I don't want be in the same category as some on the very pushy and idiotic few single males that I hear about attending these club..

Your views and comments would be grateful...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Was thinking about attending my first club visit,but A,I'm very nervous and B,I don't want be in the same category as some on the very pushy and idiotic few single males that I hear about attending these club..

Your views and comments would be grateful..."

a)talk to people..... don't just stand there like a lemon....

b)talk to people.... don't follow people round and then sneek up behind them like an assasin

c)talk to people.... don't just whip out ya bits when someone starts playing

everyone is nervous when they first go to a club... but i find just talking and having a normal conversation with people helps.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks,,so just like a first day at school then,,chat chat and more chat with no expectations...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok thanks,,so just like a first day at school then,,chat chat and more chat with no expectations..."

Fabio's advice is spot on. As a couple we like the straight-forward and friendly hello and introduction.

Our top tips for talking to couples would be:

- Don't overstay your welcome. If it's not flowing then just say 'nice to chat, hope to see you later' and move away.

- Don't focus most of your attention on the woman and forget the male half of the couple. If you do, the male might get pissed with you.

- And finally, never pounce on the female when her man's away at the bar or toilet, because when he comes back he'll really be pissed with you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My top tip is smile. Chat to people whether you find them sexually attractive or not. Noone is automatically going to think you want to play with them because your pleasant. If you get into conversation explain its your first time and your a bit nervous. Most people will understand that, we all started someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks,some more good advice cheers...

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

"...... no expectations..."

Glad you said this bit too!

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

Message to Moderator. Close this thread now, before someone spoils it.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

What Fabio said,

And remember if you play with a couple, don't act like the guy isn't there, its his partner your playing with, dont forget that.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Your views and comments would be grateful...

a)talk to people..... don't just stand there like a lemon....

b)talk to people.... don't follow people round and then sneek up behind them like an assasin

c)talk to people.... don't just whip out ya bits when someone starts playing

everyone is nervous when they first go to a club... but i find just talking and having a normal conversation with people helps....."

Couldnt have put it better myself spot on advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabio is spot on.

You get out what you put in. If you have a smile on your face, a happy disposition, talk to people, dont expect that they will play if they have been speaking to you for 10 minutes, talk to both the male and female of the couple.

Im really impressed when a guy will talk to us both equally and if play does happen, than a hug and kiss for the lady and a handshake and a thank you mate for letting me play, to the guy, always goes down well with couples

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

make sure you remove ur socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All good advice - I have a related question on the topic of the OP - and forgive me if its been done in another thread.

I like the idea of a club, but as a social meeting place rather than somewhere to play. It strikes me they are excellent places to have open and honest chats and a good laugh, rather than trying to have a conversation down your local Harvester!

Would you say that going to a club for social meets (but not play) is a good approach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advise above ... One major thing with us, Be friendly and polite to other single males too BUT dont stick with them.

Its so off putting to see a big group of single males ganging up together .. Unless you want a gangbang haha

YES using clubs for the social side is great, We go to a club and only socialize sometimes and we have a few great friends from doing that too, Also we tend to have a much better night at a "club" rather than out in our local area as people in a swing club have something in common, Everyone wants to talk and its just a much better night all round (For us anyway)

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By *iddytoxcplCouple
over a year ago

Stoke/Uttoxeter

Every post above we have to put a tick beside.

Great advise from all

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