FabSwingers.com forum: Not getting much luck on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wonder if I could get some advice as to why I'm not getting any luck on here. I have tried most things now. I have been verified, I have been on cam, have posted on forums and sent endless messages out. I'm probably opening myself up for abuse here but any good advice would be helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder if I could get some advice as to why I'm not getting any luck on here. I have tried most things now. I have been verified, I have been on cam, have posted on forums and sent endless messages out. I'm probably opening myself up for abuse here but any good advice would be helpful"

Have you tried lowering your standards, works fir a lot of guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe ur just an ugly bugger

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe ur just an ugly bugger

sorry, am sure ur not, but couldn't resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off."
would thought this to

its all about Patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off."

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

maybe ur just an ugly bugger

sorry, am sure ur not, but couldn't resist

I would say im better than average ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problem"
but most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

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By *ommyandbrengunnCouple
over a year ago

sin city

the most obvious thing people will say is that it's probably because you are openly cheating on your partner.

We wouldn't knowingly meet a cheater, and a lot of others feel the same.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I am very honest, you come across as desperate.

it is either blackberry pins or asian ladies and those seem to be the 2 subject you ever post about.

no offence meant whatsoever... maybe try engaging more.

and of course, there is the married thing, but least you note it, so people can choose.

good luck anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it"

Utter rubbish!!

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By *ommyandbrengunnCouple
over a year ago

sin city

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problem"

I would have thought that you would have realised it's not an equal contest in the swinging world.

Generally, women aren't judged the same way as guys are.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it"

interesting thought...so most single married women on here their husbands know...how do you work that out?

Ah because they say so? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the fun comes in waves ,i had loads of fun to start now its a little lacking but no need to get hung up about it , just sit back and enjoy the chat / social bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

interesting thought...so most single married women on here their husbands know...how do you work that out?

Ah because they say so? lol"
actually no it says on there profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problem

I would have thought that you would have realised it's not an equal contest in the swinging world.

Generally, women aren't judged the same way as guys are."

I figured women would like honesty as I tried before without posting it but I think honesty is always the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!"
sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i no

so its not rubbish as you say

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Generally, women aren't judged the same way as guys are."

and now you have set off every red flag and alarm in my house...

have a look on here, there are a lot of people that will treat people the same regardless... so if you don't maybe that in reality says a lot more about you that you'd care to admit....

back to the OP

the fact you are playing without your partners knowledge, whether you like it or not, IS going to be a huge factor for a lot of people..... some will, a lot wont!

and then like _iew said, you do come across as a tad desperate at times... and to be honest i have Cringed at some of the stuff you have said in the past.... so i can imagine what others may have thought

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problem"

But YOU are NOT the Unicorn! We don't meet attached singles of any type! But it seems that morals go out of the window when a couple get the chance to meet up with a single fem! We have turned down two such fems from here because we think honesty is important.

Yeah, there are people who would meet up with you, it has happened already.. Just be patient and it will happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys have the impression that it will be easy to pull on a sex site.

For some, it will be, but it will come down to how you go about it.

If you struggle to pull in the "real world", you will struggle here too.

Why not ask your other half if she's interested in joining you?

You never know, she might like shagging other blokes just as much as you want to shag other women.

I can guarantee that she wont struggle to get a shag though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say"

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

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erm yes i do

dont you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if I am very honest, you come across as desperate.

it is either blackberry pins or asian ladies and those seem to be the 2 subject you ever post about.

no offence meant whatsoever... maybe try engaging more.

and of course, there is the married thing, but least you note it, so people can choose.

good luck anyway."

From the female perspective here, i would agree with the above comment. No offence OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a rabbits foot tied round the tadger !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you? "

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree that the married thing would put us off,but there are people on here that do meet married singles.

You have had a couple of meets and thats better than a lot of guys on here but you got to remember that there are thousands of guys on here,couples and especially single fems are the minority thats why a lot of guys don't get as many meets as they would like.

Good luck xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

again maybe that says a lot more about you that you'd care to admit....

me personally.. I have turned down meets because I have been in that situation, and if I was on the other end of that situation I'd be devestated....

but i knew what would happen to this thread when i saw the persons profile... and i don't think it is like to remain open for very long......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you?

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

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50% u sure about that

you met all from uk?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to agree that the married thing would put us off,but there are people on here that do meet married singles.

Good luck xx"

That's true, the guys to out number the girls on here and we all probably going after the same girls.

I would like to meet a couple though as not been with one yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

again maybe that says a lot more about you that you'd care to admit....

me personally.. I have turned down meets because I have been in that situation, and if I was on the other end of that situation I'd be devestated....

but i knew what would happen to this thread when i saw the persons profile... and i don't think it is like to remain open for very long......"

why????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you?

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

50% u sure about that

you met all from uk?

Well I would think hes sure. Since he is baseing his figures on people HE has met!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try putting at top of your profile "This site is full of w###ers timewasters and losers".

Not sure it works or not but have seen it on a fair few profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you?

Nope, I dont have time to analyse every profile on here, what I do know is that at least 50 % of the women I have met on here have been married or attached and there partner had no knowledge at all.

50% u sure about that

you met all from uk?

Well I would think hes sure. Since he is baseing his figures on people HE has met!

"
think your right

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

why????"

because these type of threads concerning married people playing away without consent tend to turn into fights... thats why I just say:

"look..so people aren't going to be interested because..."

and try to leave it at that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried lowering your standards, works fir a lot of guys on here

What a great piece of advice that is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why????

because these type of threads concerning married people playing away without consent tend to turn into fights... thats why I just say:

"look..so people aren't going to be interested because..."

and try to leave it at that...

you are very wise young Jedi!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well im going to say the married thing dont help ...but you said it , its for other people to choose wether they want to play or not . im not here to judge on that . i would try and search and the forums ... a lot of similar threads come up , so a lot of the same answers . usuall common sense stuff really ....be patient , dont be pushy and have a thick skin , got to remember there are a ton of single guys on here , couples and women can afford to be very choosy about who they play with . best of luck .

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Have to agree that the married thing would put us off,but there are people on here that do meet married singles.

Good luck xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid my initial reaction when reading your profile and that you are married, is to switch off, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried lowering your standards, works fir a lot of guys on here

What a great piece of advice that is

Thanks, I always try to help

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Have you tried lowering your standards, works fir a lot of guys on here

If so, I'm in there!! Woo hoo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried lowering your standards, works fir a lot of guys on here

Very good

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Hmmmm I see the OP post alot with meet requests with him and his fuck buddy, so I assuemd he was getting plenty of luck. If not on here, at least with his fuck buddy!

I guess its easy come easy go on here. And yes, even us so in demand single bi women have dry spells now and then. yes, its true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time of year too, schools close kids are at home, so daytime fun is a No No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even us so in demand single bi women have dry spells now and then. yes, its true!"

Looking at your verifications, your last dry spell was in 1987

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u`d prolly have better luck just goin out on sat night and gettin shitfaced bro

try it

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Lots of guys have the impression that it will be easy to pull on a sex site.

For some, it will be, but it will come down to how you go about it.

If you struggle to pull in the "real world", you will struggle here too.

Why not ask your other half if she's interested in joining you?

You never know, she might like shagging other blokes just as much as you want to shag other women.

I can guarantee that she wont struggle to get a shag though

I like your style

Mistress x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"even us so in demand single bi women have dry spells now and then. yes, its true!

Looking at your verifications, your last dry spell was in 1987

There's been the odd week when I onyl got one or two lays. I consider that a poor week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"u`d prolly have better luck just goin out on sat night and gettin shitfaced bro

try it"

I have to agree... a shitfaced man is very high on today's to do list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I figured women would like honesty as I tried before without posting it but I think honesty is always the best policy. "

It is.. I prefer to know if a playmate is married or not... Basically I prefer married playmates..

And there are plenty out there that will appreciate your honesty.. just hang in there..

I am on as a single bi female for the most.. yes I have restrictions... but even I struggle at times.

Katie , with her Masters consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even us so in demand single bi women have dry spells now and then. yes, its true!

Looking at your verifications, your last dry spell was in 1987

There's been the odd week when I onyl got one or two lays. I consider that a poor week.

Brilliant

But now you've made the op feel even worse

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"even us so in demand single bi women have dry spells now and then. yes, its true!

Looking at your verifications, your last dry spell was in 1987

There's been the odd week when I onyl got one or two lays. I consider that a poor week.

Brilliant

But now you've made the op feel even worse

Really....

Ah well, he'll live!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you? "

You've really read every one of the profiles on FAB?

WoW, how long did it take you to get through the thousands upon thousands of profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you?

You've really read every one of the profiles on FAB?

WoW, how long did it take you to get through the thousands upon thousands of profiles? "
you obviously don't have a clue

i read all profiles before i sent mail out i dont read EVERY 1 in the whole site as you put it,

i go by my local area no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont get any interest either. we should all join a club

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you?

You've really read every one of the profiles on FAB?

WoW, how long did it take you to get through the thousands upon thousands of profiles?

you obviously don't have a clue

i read all profiles before i sent mail out i dont read EVERY 1 in the whole site as you put it,

i go by my local area no more"

ooppss sorry I read it the way you typed it and you said you did read every profile on here in reply to the question you were asked - so apologies!

PS - I do have a clue every now and again ye know!

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

As a single fem I wouldn't meet you as your married which to me means your dishonest so why should I trust you. Also as I have a pick of lovely single guys on here why would I want the hassle of a married man especially as your looking for a regular meet.

I'm not Asian so that would put me off.

Your cock pic would also put me off. I would look for a clear face pic to see if your my type before answering any messages.

I hope this helps you to understand why you've not had much luck! I don't think it's down to luck but more likely down to putting the effort in. If I feel this way then I'm sure that many others will too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a single fem I wouldn't meet you as your married which to me means your dishonest so why should I trust you. Also as I have a pick of lovely single guys on here why would I want the hassle of a married man especially as your looking for a regular meet.

I'm not Asian so that would put me off.

Your cock pic would also put me off. I would look for a clear face pic to see if your my type before answering any messages.

Thanks for the feed back.

The fact that I have told you I'm married means I'm honest and secondly you dont need to trust me as I'm not getting in a relationship with you. I'm here to have fun not worry about if you trust me or not.

My face pic is on my private gallery as I have already said I'm married and cant be to careful.

So i have put the effort in but thanks anyway

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Thanks for the feed back.

My face pic is on my private gallery as I have already said I'm married and cant be to careful.

So i have put the effort in but thanks anyway"

No1.. Just because you say you are married, it doesn't make you honest (and this is the very thing Fabio was saying about) You are NOT being honest with the one person who should bet at the top of your list! Your partner!

No 2.. Of course someone has to trust you before meeting up! You could be a mad axe murderer for all they know. Most single fems won't meet unless they feel comfortable with you and that means trust in some shape!

Seems like you have fallen into the single guy trap! You think you can come on to a site like this (because it's free so no papertrail!) and cos the women are swingers, you will get as many shags as you want! Well, there are some on here I have no doubts that have a "shag anything" mentality, but a minority!

As someone else pointed out earlier.. You would be better off at the pub on a Saturday night

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP...after your last reply I really don't think you are after advice unless it is something you want to hear....so I will refrain.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Thanks for the feed back.

My face pic is on my private gallery as I have already said I'm married and cant be to careful.

So i have put the effort in but thanks anyway"

can i just say something here...

yes you have been in a sense honest here.. so people can make up there minds as to whether they want to meet you or not...

but the thing that did raise red flags and alarm bells with me is the "trust" element....

of course there has to be a degree of trust in this, be that safety, or just knowing a person... its not really even about being/looking for a relationship, that i think is a red herring in the conversation...

that last sentence in the 1st paragraph really does bug me for some reason ,whether that is just bravado, or that's how you really feel, but like rugby said... you want to hear what you want to hear, I don't think anyone is really going to be able to help you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it"

and you know that how ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the feed back.

The fact that I have told you I'm married means I'm honest"

Would your wife agree with that statement?

You can't say you are honest when cheating on somebody else. Which applies to any married man cheating on his wife, including myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

there are plenty of women doing just the same to their husbands so I'm sure that not the problembut most women who are married on here

there husband no about it

Utter rubbish!!sorry how its rubbish

do you bother to read there profiles thats how i

so its not rubbish as you say

Realy, you have managed to read every profile on here???

erm yes i do

dont you? "

so that means that every female on here that she says she is single is telling the truth then just the same that every single guy on here that says he is single is telling the truth then cool ive cracked it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Knew i would be open to abuseon here oh well

The fact that im verified should insteal some trust for the ladies.

Love the fact some people are so judgemental

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Knew i would be open to abuseon here oh well

The fact that im verified should insteal some trust for the ladies.

Love the fact some people are so judgemental"

"The fact that I have told you I'm married means I'm honest and secondly you dont need to trust me as I'm not getting in a relationship with you. I'm here to have fun not worry about if you trust me or not."

your words.... no one elses...

and you wonder why people raise red flags....

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

I'm not judging you I was just telling you the reasons why I wouldn't meet you which is what you asked for.

To me to cheat on a partner is to be dishonest. Sure you must understand that. I wouldn't trust you as if you can lie to the person you love/married to why should I trust that you would be honest with me.

To me swinging is a place to have no strings attached sex with consenting adults and not cheating on others behind their backs. Why would I and others like me choose to play with someone who from the start is bound to be complicated as you say u want a regular meet - sounds more like affair to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're a man that's cheating on his wife... that will put many women off.

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I figured women would like honesty as I tried before without posting it but I think honesty is always the best policy. "

I think you've done the right thing to be honest. But I also wouldn't meet you because of your wife. But I appreciate the opportunity to make that choice.

Plenty prefer married men because they feel there is less chance of people wanting more etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Knew i would be open to abuseon here oh well

The fact that im verified should insteal some trust for the ladies.

Love the fact some people are so judgemental"

It's not just about trust though.

I've played with men who later turned out to be married. I can now spot them because there are certain giveaway behaviours - last minute cancellations, running off earlier than expected after a phone call, being restricted in when they can meet etc

I don't ask for strings but I do feel I deserve better than someone who's "mate" will ring with an emergency 20 mins after they arrive or who disappears after less than an hour when they know that's not how I like to meet.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Knew i would be open to abuseon here oh well

The fact that im verified should insteal some trust for the ladies.

Love the fact some people are so judgemental"

You didn't get abused. You were given answers to why people thought you were struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who was on here (and other sites) as part of a couple and years ago was on several sites as a single male, and who has yet to have a meet this time round, the only (possibly best) advice I can give is stay patient, stay polite and don't give up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anything wrong with your profile its informative and ok does have a little bit of a fantasy going on that doesnt exclude any female - we all have fantasies. You explain your situation for others to make a choice if that situation is something that doesnt exceed their boundaries so I am at a loss as to why you're not getting results. Its probably nothing you are doing and more to do with the number of men to women on the site. Its about the only thing that stops a guy from getting the amount of meets he would like. I believe someone will come along eventually. Good luck.

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