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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." Snap  I also find the ones I do connect with don't live anywhere near me | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex " Actually you are rigbt | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." I know exactly what you mean. I've been accused of being too fussy, but hey, I know what I like and what I want so why not? | |||
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"I hear you and of course nobody should ever jump into bed with anyone else unless entirely sure, but in my experience I have got the feel of most of the people I agree to meet before the social. In most cases, the social affirms that yes, I like them enough to want to engage in NSA sex with them if they feel the same way. Of course, there will be exceptions and not everyone is as they seem when you actually meet in person or the chemistry might not simply be there, but if it's happening with the overwhelming majority of your socials it might suggest that your due diligence / pre-vetting is off kilter somewhat? " Well I don't do webcam,kik or give out mobile so I can only go by pics and their chat on here tbh. However saying that I have enjoyed many of the social meets immensely so I shouldn't really complain. But I live in hope! | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." Simple solution. You're doing it wrong. Stop having socials and start going on dates. Make it clear to the guy that you're looking to play after the date if you get on and tell him to come with the intention of seducing you. The results will be night and day | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me. Simple solution. You're doing it wrong. Stop having socials and start going on dates. Make it clear to the guy that you're looking to play after the date if you get on and tell him to come with the intention of seducing you. The results will be night and day " Nah I like social meets. Dates are for people who hope for relationships which I dont want. Just haven't fancied the guys I met apart from two | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me. Simple solution. You're doing it wrong. Stop having socials and start going on dates. Make it clear to the guy that you're looking to play after the date if you get on and tell him to come with the intention of seducing you. The results will be night and day Nah I like social meets. Dates are for people who hope for relationships which I dont want. Just haven't fancied the guys I met apart from two" This isn't just a problem you encounter, good luck with your quest | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." You are right about it being hard to find someone to connect with in a deeper sense. But it is not a shame in asking for something you want, it is hard, but I hope you find what you are looking for soon. Just keep swimming | |||
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 I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social | |||
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""Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience!" This is exactly what I was getting at. If you band the word "social" around you're likely to get anything from sitting in a pub and being interrogated over whether you're good enough to fuck or, worse still, helping someone put their kid to bed. By making it clear you're happy to meet beforehand but that you want to treat it as a date you send a clear sign that they have to make an effort to be alluring and seductive. It's no longer an interview. It's something naughty and flirtatious, foreplay before possible play later. Sure this is how some people treat socials anyway. But I've found few do. Once you've made it clear they've actually got to put some effort in, that the games are already afoot the moment you meet, and that fucking you isn't a simple transaction, you'll suddenly find all these average ok nice friendly people... become a lot more sexy  | |||
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""Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience! This is exactly what I was getting at. If you band the word "social" around you're likely to get anything from sitting in a pub and being interrogated over whether you're good enough to fuck or, worse still, helping someone put their kid to bed. By making it clear you're happy to meet beforehand but that you want to treat it as a date you send a clear sign that they have to make an effort to be alluring and seductive. It's no longer an interview. It's something naughty and flirtatious, foreplay before possible play later. Sure this is how some people treat socials anyway. But I've found few do. Once you've made it clear they've actually got to put some effort in, that the games are already afoot the moment you meet, and that fucking you isn't a simple transaction, you'll suddenly find all these average ok nice friendly people... become a lot more sexy "But how do you suggest that in the beginning though? If a guy messages me and I'm interested and say something like 'looking forward to our date' won't he be thinking 'shit, she's looking for a relationship!'? | |||
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" Nah I like social meets. Dates are for people who hope for relationships which I dont want. Just haven't fancied the guys I met apart from two" Of course you like socials you sound like the typical insecure female who needs her ego stroked and uses socials for that purpose. You are not a swinger but simply an insecure tease. If that sounds harsh sorry; but perhaps if you had refrained for insulting women who enjoy sex on your profile we might have formed a different opinion of you | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex " For us, the social is for breaking the ice but swinging is ultimately about the sex. | |||
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"But how do you suggest that in the beginning though? If a guy messages me and I'm interested and say something like 'looking forward to our date' won't he be thinking 'shit, she's looking for a relationship!'?" I can't speak for you but below is an example of what my partner and I would put either on our profile or in an early message. I don't have to bother with this as a single male because most women already make the effort to be alluring and I can just turn up and treat it like a date. It's usually the blokes (sorry guys) who have absolutely no idea and turn up as if they were going to watch footy with a mate. "We like to have a social beforehand but prefer to treat it like a flirtatious date. As such, please dress to impress and come with the intention of charming and seducing us back to ours/yours" I would say I hope that helps but I can assure you I KNOW that'll help xx | |||
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"But how do you suggest that in the beginning though? If a guy messages me and I'm interested and say something like 'looking forward to our date' won't he be thinking 'shit, she's looking for a relationship!'? I can't speak for you but below is an example of what my partner and I would put either on our profile or in an early message. I don't have to bother with this as a single male because most women already make the effort to be alluring and I can just turn up and treat it like a date. It's usually the blokes (sorry guys) who have absolutely no idea and turn up as if they were going to watch footy with a mate. "We like to have a social beforehand but prefer to treat it like a flirtatious date. As such, please dress to impress and come with the intention of charming and seducing us back to ours/yours" I would say I hope that helps but I can assure you I KNOW that'll help xx"That's great, thank you  | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex For us, the social is for breaking the ice but swinging is ultimately about the sex. " Exactly this | |||
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"Try Facebook, not many people wanting sex on there." No thanks most active there in my area below 18 not good idea lol | |||
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" Nah I like social meets. Dates are for people who hope for relationships which I dont want. Just haven't fancied the guys I met apart from two Of course you like socials you sound like the typical insecure female who needs her ego stroked and uses socials for that purpose. You are not a swinger but simply an insecure tease. If that sounds harsh sorry; but perhaps if you had refrained for insulting women who enjoy sex on your profile we might have formed a different opinion of you " I completely agree with this! I've just read your profile, and not to be rude but you sound up your own arse. Everyone should be confident. But then there's arrogant And the part about the local bike....wow that's harsh! How are you measuring that? Because you've had many meets yourself. So what makes for the local bike? We all have our own preferences, but you've got a rather large check list there. And I'm sure it's putting people off. Maybe try and dial it down a little. | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex For us, the social is for breaking the ice but swinging is ultimately about the sex. " This.
This is not speaking for this couple, just the intimation of the comment.
If you go on social it is because you have enjoyed and exchanged messages - you have seen face and profile pictures and liked them. People can treat socials like interviews or for their own ends aside from swinging, rather than enjoying it and making sure they are who they say they are.
I dislike socials for this reason, you can dislike any number of things like their hair, their dress, their accent, a slip or the tongue, lateness, maybe being expected to pay, the distance travelled, eagerness, anything may say they are not for you but in another situation they could be wildfire in the bedroom.
It is quite likely those you are meeting are just as conscious/nervous they are in a social environment and too you wouldn't ordinarily ask you out, i.e. nobody is perfect (nobody would ask a couple out). You are meeting because you formerly enjoy a liberated attitude toward sex.
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"But how do you suggest that in the beginning though? If a guy messages me and I'm interested and say something like 'looking forward to our date' won't he be thinking 'shit, she's looking for a relationship!'? I can't speak for you but below is an example of what my partner and I would put either on our profile or in an early message. I don't have to bother with this as a single male because most women already make the effort to be alluring and I can just turn up and treat it like a date. It's usually the blokes (sorry guys) who have absolutely no idea and turn up as if they were going to watch footy with a mate. "We like to have a social beforehand but prefer to treat it like a flirtatious date. As such, please dress to impress and come with the intention of charming and seducing us back to ours/yours" I would say I hope that helps but I can assure you I KNOW that'll help xx"That's a great idea!  | |||
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"I've just had a social tonight with someone I've been getting on with for a few weeks via kik. I was so looking forward to meeting him but when I did he wasn't what I imagined from his pic and there was no attraction there. To make matters worse he asked me out right if I fancied him and put me on the spot. I couldn't lie and told him no then he started asking why what's wrong with him I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social " his ego got burnt. Serves him right, he shouldn't ask the question if he wasn't prepared to here the truth. | |||
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"I'm keeping an eye on this thread with great interest, Tracey has hit the nail on the head with a problem I hadn't even realised I was having. Chatting with someone on here is all well and good but you need to meet someone to know if the chemistry is there. However the idea of having a social as just a means of checking your potential playmate is for real is kinda a turn-off. I'd never really thought that you would be able to get a actual "dates" through FAB but am very excited by that idea! A good date is just extended foreplay - flirting does more for me than aimlessly thrusting away for hours! "Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience!" 95% of the time I insist on the date experience. It probably means I get less meets but I don't care  | |||
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""Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience! This is exactly what I was getting at. If you band the word "social" around you're likely to get anything from sitting in a pub and being interrogated over whether you're good enough to fuck or, worse still, helping someone put their kid to bed. By making it clear you're happy to meet beforehand but that you want to treat it as a date you send a clear sign that they have to make an effort to be alluring and seductive. It's no longer an interview. It's something naughty and flirtatious, foreplay before possible play later. Sure this is how some people treat socials anyway. But I've found few do. Once you've made it clear they've actually got to put some effort in, that the games are already afoot the moment you meet, and that fucking you isn't a simple transaction, you'll suddenly find all these average ok nice friendly people... become a lot more sexy " | |||
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""Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience! This is exactly what I was getting at. If you band the word "social" around you're likely to get anything from sitting in a pub and being interrogated over whether you're good enough to fuck or, worse still, helping someone put their kid to bed. By making it clear you're happy to meet beforehand but that you want to treat it as a date you send a clear sign that they have to make an effort to be alluring and seductive. It's no longer an interview. It's something naughty and flirtatious, foreplay before possible play later. Sure this is how some people treat socials anyway. But I've found few do. Once you've made it clear they've actually got to put some effort in, that the games are already afoot the moment you meet, and that fucking you isn't a simple transaction, you'll suddenly find all these average ok nice friendly people... become a lot more sexy
But how do you suggest that in the beginning though? If a guy messages me and I'm interested and say something like 'looking forward to our date' won't he be thinking 'shit, she's looking for a relationship!'?"You can still call it a meet. Don't get hung up about the language (I did for years and just told them that a meet is a date by another name). | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex For us, the social is for breaking the ice but swinging is ultimately about the sex. This.
This is not speaking for this couple, just the intimation of the comment.
If you go on social it is because you have enjoyed and exchanged messages - you have seen face and profile pictures and liked them. People can treat socials like interviews or for their own ends aside from swinging, rather than enjoying it and making sure they are who they say they are.
I dislike socials for this reason, you can dislike any number of things like their hair, their dress, their accent, a slip or the tongue, lateness, maybe being expected to pay, the distance travelled, eagerness, anything may say they are not for you but in another situation they could be wildfire in the bedroom.
It is quite likely those you are meeting are just as conscious/nervous they are in a social environment and too you wouldn't ordinarily ask you out, i.e. nobody is perfect (nobody would ask a couple out). You are meeting because you formerly enjoy a liberated attitude toward sex.
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality. "I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality. "I meet guys and have a great deal of interaction with them, I definitely know men have inflated opinions about themselves. It makes me giggle. I'm the opposite and many of my girlfriends are too. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks. "Yep | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I meet guys and have a great deal of interaction with them, I definitely know men have inflated opinions about themselves. It makes me giggle. I'm the opposite and many of my girlfriends are too."I should have put many men. There are indeed some down-to-earth gems here. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks. "Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves. Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab. Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience. Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time."You're welcome to your own opinion but that is all it is. Insecure? Speaking for myself that would be wrong. Of course if I was part of a couple my meets would differ greatly. I am a fan of a guy putting effort into seduction - a fuck and go cannot do that for me. A fuck and go would be less enjoyable than staying at home using my wand. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time."By the way, what is wrong with thinking highly of oneself? Surely that is purely confidence and perhaps a self awareness? Thinking highly of oneself and insecurities don't exactly bode well on the same side of the spectrum  | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time." | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time."Nothing wrong with a bit of self belief. If they are snooty with it then they are easily avoided.
I know seasoned Swingers don't have socials- that's why I always have a social first, so they will avoid me. We're not compatible. No point them wasting time having a coffee with me when they could be balls deep in someone else. | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues." There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex Actually you are rigbt" Agreed. | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." i no this feeling all to well took me two years and plenty of socials to find someone who gave me that I've got to have you feeling . but its best to stay true to yourself than fuck someone you know your not really feeling it with just because its offered to you . truly great sex is all about the connection in my opinion so i prefer to only fuck those i find that connection with . | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
"Lol inexperienced. Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear. I obviously hit a nerve with my statements. Enjoy your lack of sex meets. | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
Oh gosh I feel another patronising "bless" coming on
You are only patronising your own position! Lol
Enjoy your ego "Bless Oops I did it again
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" Nah I like social meets. Dates are for people who hope for relationships which I dont want. Just haven't fancied the guys I met apart from two Of course you like socials you sound like the typical insecure female who needs her ego stroked and uses socials for that purpose. You are not a swinger but simply an insecure tease. If that sounds harsh sorry; but perhaps if you had refrained for insulting women who enjoy sex on your profile we might have formed a different opinion of you " I have never insulted ladies on fab so let's not get personal and make assumptions- You know nothing about me and this forum is for opinion, not name calling. It is totally unnecessary. Also if you have read my Verifications it doesn't exactly point to an insecure tease does it?? I have simply pointed out that I have.met many guys but not fancied many. Problem???? Exactly. | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
Oh gosh I feel another patronising "bless" coming on
You are only patronising your own position! Lol
Enjoy your ego
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"I've just had a social tonight with someone I've been getting on with for a few weeks via kik. I was so looking forward to meeting him but when I did he wasn't what I imagined from his pic and there was no attraction there. To make matters worse he asked me out right if I fancied him and put me on the spot. I couldn't lie and told him no then he started asking why what's wrong with him I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social "Uff, I'd hate to be in that situation. | |||
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"I've just had a social tonight with someone I've been getting on with for a few weeks via kik. I was so looking forward to meeting him but when I did he wasn't what I imagined from his pic and there was no attraction there. To make matters worse he asked me out right if I fancied him and put me on the spot. I couldn't lie and told him no then he started asking why what's wrong with him I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social
Uff, I'd hate to be in that situation."Yeah it wasn't nice and I felt awful especially when he wanted me to give him a detailed explanation why I didn't find him attractive. I was gobsmacked. | |||
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" If you're the kind of woman who's happy to spread her legs if the guy makes the bare minimal effort of turning up, looking half ok, and being prepared to fuck you then any old type of brief meeting over a handshake and a tub of lube should do it for you. " Really? Thats an incredibly ignorant and judgmental thing to say. It's not that black and white. | |||
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"I'm keeping an eye on this thread with great interest, Tracey has hit the nail on the head with a problem I hadn't even realised I was having. Chatting with someone on here is all well and good but you need to meet someone to know if the chemistry is there. However the idea of having a social as just a means of checking your potential playmate is for real is kinda a turn-off. I'd never really thought that you would be able to get a actual "dates" through FAB but am very excited by that idea! A good date is just extended foreplay - flirting does more for me than aimlessly thrusting away for hours! "Proper" dating sites are for people looking for a relationship and that's definitely not me but it doesn't mean that I don't want the date experience!" thats because sites like fab have the whole relationship / sex thing in reverse . in real life , ie not online , you would meet someone face to face first ... before any progress bedroomwise .. | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
Oh gosh I feel another patronising "bless" coming on
You are only patronising your own position! Lol
Enjoy your ego
Bless
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Btw, for someone active in the scene, only three veris... Mine speak for themselves
So you finally decided to look at his profile after all, to see how many veris his got..... "I wanted to see if he could back up his claims, considering he was speaking on behalf of ALL men , sadly evidence was indeed lacking | |||
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"I've just had a social tonight with someone I've been getting on with for a few weeks via kik. I was so looking forward to meeting him but when I did he wasn't what I imagined from his pic and there was no attraction there. To make matters worse he asked me out right if I fancied him and put me on the spot. I couldn't lie and told him no then he started asking why what's wrong with him I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social
Uff, I'd hate to be in that situation.
Yeah it wasn't nice and I felt awful especially when he wanted me to give him a detailed explanation why I didn't find him attractive. I was gobsmacked. "That's why I always want a social within about a week of chatting. No point getting too involved then finding out we don't fancy each other in person. | |||
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" If you're the kind of woman who's happy to spread her legs if the guy makes the bare minimal effort of turning up, looking half ok, and being prepared to fuck you then any old type of brief meeting over a handshake and a tub of lube should do it for you. Really? Thats an incredibly ignorant and judgmental thing to say. It's not that black and white. " To my mind the poster was simply articulating the polar opposites of fab meets. I imagine, for the majority of swingers/users of Fab, the reality lies somewhere between the two. Providing it works out how people want it to, who is to say who is right or wrong? Sadly, people like the narrow minded guy telling me I have insecurities, an ego problem and lack of meets, is simply throwing his toys out of the pram cos I represent a reduction in his pool of availability. Especially when I advertise that my way works (and has done for years). | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time."As a lady playing alone, it's about safety first. I want a social not only to check that they're real and I'm attracted, but to be sure I feel safe. It's not rocket science. | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time."I wouldn't argue with that , we are like this . But it must be different for single women , safety etc...... | |||
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"Lol Some ladies are such fibbers. . They want the date experience and have far too high standards in the sense that they think they are owed Brad Pitt from a swinging site, when in actual reality they are owed Jeremy Beadle. People have such high opinions of themselves, it distorts their perception of reality.
I'd prefer Jeremy Beadle, he's a funny guy. I dislike men that think they are Brad Pitt but actually their attitude stinks.
Some of the comments from certain ladies on this thread clearly shows how highly they think of themselves.
Had tons of meets myself and never had one social from Fab.
Socials are 'usually' wanted by insecure people or people lonely and wanting the date experience.
Most seasoned swingers that I know, couples and females etc don't have socials, they don't need them and see them as a waste of swinging time.
As a lady playing alone, it's about safety first. I want a social not only to check that they're real and I'm attracted, but to be sure I feel safe.
It's not rocket science."But is it brain surgery? | |||
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"For me swinging is social as well as sex Actually you are rigbt" Thank you. Happily, my social skills are considerably better than my sexual skills. At least that's what a veri from a lady I dubbed "damp lettuce" said anyway, but would I be fool enough to show that? No sirree! Social skills, you see? | |||
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"I love the social side of swinging, meeting someone you get on with but don't find the spark with can be just as much fun
And the Tea Parties are great too "We can understand that, but that's why we have vanilla friends, we like to keep the worlds separate. | |||
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"I love the social side of swinging, meeting someone you get on with but don't find the spark with can be just as much fun
And the Tea Parties are great too
We can understand that, but that's why we have vanilla friends, we like to keep the worlds separate. "We can all do as we wish, and some people find great friendship on here. So socials are a valid part of swinging. | |||
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"Try Facebook, not many people wanting sex on there." I know loads of people that have met, had relationships and married from Facebook, yet you never see status saying this is a social media site not a sex or dating site there are other sites for that, people use sites for what they want, not other people's expectations | |||
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"The discussion around meeting for a "date" as opposed to a "social" all seems to assume that it's the guy seducing the girl - what about if I want to use MY seduction skills?! And I totally get that this would seem like a long, drawn out process for the people who are just here for the play meets. That's fair enough. I'm not into the same kinks as some people on here, why should the way I do meets be any different?" | |||
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"I love the social side of swinging, meeting someone you get on with but don't find the spark with can be just as much fun
And the Tea Parties are great too
We can understand that, but that's why we have vanilla friends, we like to keep the worlds separate.
We can all do as we wish, and some people find great friendship on here.
So socials are a valid part of swinging."Thank you. They are. I enjoy social meets! It's always good to meet new faces and if anything develops it's a bonus. | |||
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"Really? Thats an incredibly ignorant and judgmental thing to say. It's not that black and white. " Sorry. You're right. That was a bit harsh of me. As another poster said, I was just painting an extreme image to make a point. I agree that for most swinging women it's something between that they find works for them. What I was trying to show was that guys looking for the former, no matter how hot they look, really aren't bothering with if you want the latter. For some sex is just physical. For others its got a strong mental component. There's no right or wrong. But it's good to recognise which you are and seek out swinging partners with a similar outlook. Asserting that a social should be a seductive date helps clarify which camp the person you're talking to is in. They'll either think it's a total waste of time and effort, as some have suggested on this thread, or they'll jump for joy. Again, neither one is right... But one is right for you and if you find you've been meeting a long line of unsuitable people the chances are you've been looking in the wrong camp | |||
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" I have never insulted ladies on fab so let's not get personal and make assumptions- You know nothing about me and this forum is for opinion, not name calling. It is totally unnecessary. Also if you have read my Verifications it doesn't exactly point to an insecure tease does it?? I have simply pointed out that I have.met many guys but not fancied many. Problem???? Exactly." local bike" on your profile. You may find the expression embarrassing now but you used it so please do not deny using what you wrote on your profile, to do so makes people doubt your integrity | |||
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
Oh gosh I feel another patronising "bless" coming on
You are only patronising your own position! Lol
Enjoy your ego
Bless
Oops I did it again
Btw, for someone active in the scene, only three veris... Mine speak for themselves
So you finally decided to look at his profile after all, to see how many veris his got.....
I wanted to see if he could back up his claims, considering he was speaking on behalf of ALL men , sadly evidence was indeed lacking "Haha you can't argue any ideas and go straight to Ad hominem attacks without realising the simpleton logic you are missing. This account is my forum account. .only a dullard would not realise this. Your ego is horrendus, it's very telling
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"This is the problem. . You assume that a guy wants a fuck and go? You just don't understand sexual meets.. .you do realise that we talk during meets? Haha Laying on a bed after an orgasm talking about the world is part of the fun. Having an I require with you over dinner trying to fulfil your ego just isn't what guys are looking for on a Fab meet. Hence why you have issues. There are guys who just want a fuck and go, so no assumptions needed. There are also guys who want to seduce a woman into bed and that doesn't equate to feeding her ego. So it's pointless telling me what guys want and don't want. All you're pointing out is what you want and don't want. I haven't looked at your profile but you come across as very inexperienced in sexual matters so I would guess you're pretty young or merely inexperienced .
As for having issues? When you've been to med school and spent years in training to become a psychiatrist, then you'll be qualified to comment.
Until then I'll merely say bless your little cotton socks
Lol inexperienced.
Nice try I guess. . But smacks of effort from you I fear.
I obviously hit a nerve with my statements.
Enjoy your lack of sex meets.
Oh gosh I feel another patronising "bless" coming on
You are only patronising your own position! Lol
Enjoy your ego
Bless
Oops I did it again
Btw, for someone active in the scene, only three veris... Mine speak for themselves
So you finally decided to look at his profile after all, to see how many veris his got.....
I wanted to see if he could back up his claims, considering he was speaking on behalf of ALL men , sadly evidence was indeed lacking
Haha you can't argue any ideas and go straight to Ad hominem attacks without realising the simpleton logic you are missing.
This account is my forum account. .only a dullard would not realise this.
Your ego is horrendus, it's very telling
Enjoy you Ego, it needs a large space."Bless, yet again. My sweet, little man, you're mistaking ego for intellect . To help you this is tongue-in-cheek. I actually mean humour. In that context I do so enjoy my humour .
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me." Fucking pricktease | |||
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" I have never insulted ladies on fab so let's not get personal and make assumptions- You know nothing about me and this forum is for opinion, not name calling. It is totally unnecessary. Also if you have read my Verifications it doesn't exactly point to an insecure tease does it?? I have simply pointed out that I have.met many guys but not fancied many. Problem???? Exactly. local bike" on your profile. You may find the expression embarrassing now but you used it so please do not deny using what you wrote on your profile, to do so makes people doubt your integrity " This is turning into a lot of unnecessary dialogue and to be honest we all write our profiles the way we wish. Many folk write their profiles stating their preferences. I am not on here to be engaging in a slanging match with you however and any further comments will be reported accordingly. This is a forum post and not a platform to insult other members! | |||
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"It's a shame but I find I am enjoying the chat and banter with the majority of the social meets but don't want to take it further. It is.much harder than it looks to find someone with that elusive connection on fab. Loads of great guys however but only friends for me. Fucking pricktease "Really??? I think I have the right to express my opinion in a nice way..You are resorting to rudeness and name calling | |||
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"Firstly there is nothing wrong with meeting men for friendship. If you enjoy going out with a man and he enjoys going out with you, but there is no sexual attraction, then that's fine. When I was single I enjoyed meeting numerous men from dating sites for friendship, and occasionally if there was attraction there may have been sex. I called it dating, even though I was not interested in a relationship. I would question whether a swinging/sex site is the place for forming friendships with men, enjoying their company, but not necessarily having sex. In my experience of both types of sites, I feel a dating site would better meet your needs. Secondly, having read your profile, it comes across that you disapprove of swinging and anything that involves having multiple partners or being promiscuous. That's is also perfectly normal - most people in the world disapprove of the lifestyle that swinging and sex sites promotes. But if you feel that way, why have you come to a sex/swinging site? You say that you don't want any men who seek lots of ladies, any men who have slept with with women who have had lots of partners, and anybody who has lots of sex based verifications. Obviously I'm not sure what your definition of 'lots' is, but I would guess that you would not approve of those, like myself, who are active within the swinging lifestyle. Even men on Fab who are not swingers, are here for a reason. I would question how realistic it is to find a man on a sex/swinging site who doesn't seek mulitiple partners or who has never slept with a woman who has had mulitiple partners. I feel men who share your ethos about sex are unlikely to be interested in joining a sex/swing site. Mrs" We all have our opinions. I respect others totally. Please respect mine. | |||
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"I've just had a social tonight with someone I've been getting on with for a few weeks via kik. I was so looking forward to meeting him but when I did he wasn't what I imagined from his pic and there was no attraction there. To make matters worse he asked me out right if I fancied him and put me on the spot. I couldn't lie and told him no then he started asking why what's wrong with him I wanted the ground to swallow me up, now he says it's me being shallow and I shouldn't judge people by their looks. Very awkward social "This is why I always have a social. Imagine,as sure you were of him you had organised a place to play.now that would of be a terrible situation.also hate it when they put you on the spot like that, asking if you fancy them. I hate that,as they never take it well | |||
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"Firstly there is nothing wrong with meeting men for friendship. If you enjoy going out with a man and he enjoys going out with you, but there is no sexual attraction, then that's fine. When I was single I enjoyed meeting numerous men from dating sites for friendship, and occasionally if there was attraction there may have been sex. I called it dating, even though I was not interested in a relationship. I would question whether a swinging/sex site is the place for forming friendships with men, enjoying their company, but not necessarily having sex. In my experience of both types of sites, I feel a dating site would better meet your needs. Secondly, having read your profile, it comes across that you disapprove of swinging and anything that involves having multiple partners or being promiscuous. That's is also perfectly normal - most people in the world disapprove of the lifestyle that swinging and sex sites promotes. But if you feel that way, why have you come to a sex/swinging site? You say that you don't want any men who seek lots of ladies, any men who have slept with with women who have had lots of partners, and anybody who has lots of sex based verifications. Obviously I'm not sure what your definition of 'lots' is, but I would guess that you would not approve of those, like myself, who are active within the swinging lifestyle. Even men on Fab who are not swingers, are here for a reason. I would question how realistic it is to find a man on a sex/swinging site who doesn't seek mulitiple partners or who has never slept with a woman who has had mulitiple partners. I feel men who share your ethos about sex are unlikely to be interested in joining a sex/swing site. Mrs We all have our opinions. I respect others totally. Please respect mine. " I fully respect your opinions about people who have mulitiple partners, and I apologise if I gave you the impression to the contrary. I just didn't understand why you have come to a site where the majority of people either seek mulitiple partners or have mulitiple partners, and wanted to suggest that you may find a greater abundance of men who share your view to sex via a different source. If you've already tried other avenues please accept my apologies. But it worked for me when I was single and looking for similar to you. | |||
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"Firstly there is nothing wrong with meeting men for friendship. If you enjoy going out with a man and he enjoys going out with you, but there is no sexual attraction, then that's fine. When I was single I enjoyed meeting numerous men from dating sites for friendship, and occasionally if there was attraction there may have been sex. I called it dating, even though I was not interested in a relationship. I would question whether a swinging/sex site is the place for forming friendships with men, enjoying their company, but not necessarily having sex. In my experience of both types of sites, I feel a dating site would better meet your needs. Secondly, having read your profile, it comes across that you disapprove of swinging and anything that involves having multiple partners or being promiscuous. That's is also perfectly normal - most people in the world disapprove of the lifestyle that swinging and sex sites promotes. But if you feel that way, why have you come to a sex/swinging site? You say that you don't want any men who seek lots of ladies, any men who have slept with with women who have had lots of partners, and anybody who has lots of sex based verifications. Obviously I'm not sure what your definition of 'lots' is, but I would guess that you would not approve of those, like myself, who are active within the swinging lifestyle. Even men on Fab who are not swingers, are here for a reason. I would question how realistic it is to find a man on a sex/swinging site who doesn't seek mulitiple partners or who has never slept with a woman who has had mulitiple partners. I feel men who share your ethos about sex are unlikely to be interested in joining a sex/swing site. Mrs We all have our opinions. I respect others totally. Please respect mine. I fully respect your opinions about people who have mulitiple partners, and I apologise if I gave you the impression to the contrary. I just didn't understand why you have come to a site where the majority of people either seek mulitiple partners or have mulitiple partners, and wanted to suggest that you may find a greater abundance of men who share your view to sex via a different source. If you've already tried other avenues please accept my apologies. But it worked for me when I was single and looking for similar to you. " Thank you. I have read many of your posts and you always come across very well. I am kind of.in the middle here in that I played a lot several years ago but became disillusioned really with the scene but my circumstances changed and I decided to come back on. I played at parties and clubs with.my old fwb until a year ago ( when he became serious with a lady.He.met on a.conventional dating site) but I find I have.not anyone similar to carry on this with. I have never been attracted to many in the sense i want to play with them. Hope this makes sense! | |||
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"As others have said this social vs date thing is really just a separator between two very different approaches. If you're the kind of woman who's happy to spread her legs if the guy makes the bare minimal effort of turning up, looking half ok, and being prepared to fuck you then any old type of brief meeting over a handshake and a tub of lube should do it for you. If, instead, you're the type of woman who can only really tell if they want to have sex with a guy if they show a little of what's on offer, make efforts to charm and seduce you, and enchant you into feeling horny towards them... make you wet with anticipation. Then you'll need to make it clear that's what you expect from a guy. The side effect of this is that guys who'd rather do the former will pass up on women wanting the latter, and possibly vice versa. This, however, is a good thing. The guys looking for the former simply aren't worth meeting if you're looking for the latter. You have, in effect, separated a large amount of the wheat from the chaff. Unfortunately for the guys wanting the former, few women really want that. Such guys may say you're being pompous and full of yourself by demanding they seduce you. But in reality it's they who've got the wrong end of the stick. If they want sex without seduction they should be looking for prostitutes, not the beautiful free spirited sexy empowered women on here "Well said. I can do hot sex with total strangers I never want to see again. But I find it boring - I'd rather have an intimate, ongoing friendship with someone I really click with socially as well as sexually. If they are not interested in the first I doubt I will be interested in the second. That's not swinging in some people's eyes, but I don't give a stuff lol, it doesn't mean I am dating them either.  | |||
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" This is turning into a lot of unnecessary dialogue and to be honest we all write our profiles the way we wish. Many folk write their profiles stating their preferences. I am not on here to be engaging in a slanging match with you however and any further comments will be reported accordingly. This is a forum post and not a platform to insult other members! " Feel free to report our posts, we stand by every one of them. If you re-read our first one we even said "sorry if this sounds harsh". You deny that you have insulted Fab members yet on you profile you called those women who meet too many men (or words to that effect) as a "local bike". What is that if not an insult? We would have replied to your private message but you sent you response then immediately blocked us leaving the open forum the only place we could respond to the forum message where you addressed what we wrote. We have not entered into a slanging match but we have supported what we first wrote with the fact gleaned from your profile. A forum is a designated space for public expression, we expressed our thoughts about the problem you mentioned in your first post based on your post and your profile. You, rather than debating the point prefer to threaten to report posts you don’t like in an effort to cow us into silence, we prefer polite debate. | |||
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" This is turning into a lot of unnecessary dialogue and to be honest we all write our profiles the way we wish. Many folk write their profiles stating their preferences. I am not on here to be engaging in a slanging match with you however and any further comments will be reported accordingly. This is a forum post and not a platform to insult other members! Feel free to report our posts, we stand by every one of them. If you re-read our first one we even said "sorry if this sounds harsh". You deny that you have insulted Fab members yet on you profile you called those women who meet too many men (or words to that effect) as a "local bike". What is that if not an insult? We would have replied to your private message but you sent you response then immediately blocked us leaving the open forum the only place we could respond to the forum message where you addressed what we wrote. We have not entered into a slanging match but we have supported what we first wrote with the fact gleaned from your profile. A forum is a designated space for public expression, we expressed our thoughts about the problem you mentioned in your first post based on your post and your profile. You, rather than debating the point prefer to threaten to report posts you don’t like in an effort to cow us into silence, we prefer polite debate. " I agree but don't call me insecure and needy etc when you know nothing about me. I have had many great meets with folk in the past with no drama or problems and I never go into forums to make personal remarks to anyone. It isn't fair to do that sorry. I also feel if there is abuse why not report? Many others do! My opening post simply stated I had experienced little chemistry with folk I had met. Simple. Pretty straightforward. You can either agree or disagree but please don't get personal and attack forum users It is something I never ever stoop to with individuals on fab. | |||
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