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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do the women of fabswingers want?

They say NSA, no dick pics,etc

You play by the rules and don't even get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do the women of fabswingers want?

They say NSA, no dick pics,etc

I play by the rules and don't even get a reply."

I edited it for you, as there are plenty that do get a reply.

No thanks necessary

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe it's just my approach. Should I be more straight to the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do the women of fabswingers want?

They say NSA, no dick pics,etc

You play by the rules and don't even get a reply."

Plenty of men get replies, so maybe it's not the women that are the problem?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"What do the women of fabswingers want?

They say NSA, no dick pics,etc

You play by the rules and don't even get a reply."

Have you seen the film American Psycho,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been here a week.

FAQ's say no reply means not interested. And men majorly outnumber women here so you need to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Plenty of men get replies, so maybe it's not the women that are the problem?

Which is why I asked if it was my approach.

Are you suggesting I adopt the American psycho mentality??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Spunk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been here for years, had one meet.I dont even bother messaging anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing."

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"

Plenty of men get replies, so maybe it's not the women that are the problem?

Which is why I asked if it was my approach.

Are you suggesting I adopt the American psycho mentality??"

I am saying your profile picture reminded me of the film

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Plenty of men get replies, so maybe it's not the women that are the problem?

Which is why I asked if it was my approach.

Are you suggesting I adopt the American psycho mentality??

I am saying your profile picture reminded me of the film "

Haha although Christian Bale looks great in it, it's not really the look I was going for.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

One of the most common complaints men have on here is that they believe they have fulfilled the requirements of the people they have messaged, so why don't they get replies? If you don't get replies it's because you don't fulfil their requirements.

If you are sending well thought out messages then it's only a matter of time. Delete your sent box so you're not constantly checking whether people are reading your messages. Then when you get a reply it will be a nice surprise.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


" I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

If by "general message" you mean something generic...you'll be very lucky to get any response.

The ladies of Fab are all individual human beings and there is no general rule which will have success in opening communications with them. However, success is more likely if you tailor your opening message to them. Read their profile....more than once. Look at their photos...then think...what can I offer this woman?

Write your message specifically to her, perhaps mentioning common interests or what you specifically liked about her profile. Say a little about yourself and what you can offer her.

It also helps to have a more complete profile with a few more pics - though I have seen *much* worse than yours. Also have patience...the average new member takes about 6 months to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)

If by "general message" you mean something generic...you'll be very lucky to get any response.

The ladies of Fab are all individual human beings and there is no general rule which will have success in opening communications with them. However, success is more likely if you tailor your opening message to them. Read their profile....more than once. Look at their photos...then think...what can I offer this woman?

Write your message specifically to her, perhaps mentioning common interests or what you specifically liked about her profile. Say a little about yourself and what you can offer her.

It also helps to have a more complete profile with a few more pics - though I have seen *much* worse than yours. Also have patience...the average new member takes about 6 months to get a meet. "

Thanks pal, I'll take all these on bored and hopefully have better luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say this to a lot of single guys who are only looking for single women. Are you sure a swingers site is the right place for what you are looking for? The ratio of single women to single men is about 1:50. What is the point? You're gorgeous by the way. Shame you aren't into couples - you would do well as a male unicorn.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 09/05/17 21:16:12]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile pic has already been mentioned... Just my opinion, but the first one in your gallery is great. You look friendly, open and very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

Nobody is owed a reply. Read the FAQ's and lose the sense of entitlement. Just cos someone wants NSA doesnt mean she will drop her knickers for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say this to a lot of single guys who are only looking for single women. Are you sure a swingers site is the right place for what you are looking for? The ratio of single women to single men is about 1:50. What is the point? You're gorgeous by the way. Shame you aren't into couples - you would do well as a male unicorn.

Mrs"

Ok take that back. I've now read your profile and it says you like couples. How about checking the couple box on your profile then you will turn up on couples' searches. Also try getting to a club to meet couples. I'll take time with couples though. But try tinder for the single women. Many guys say it's easier to get sex there because the male-female ratios are more even.

Mrs

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

The thing with this site op is you wont always get a reply, no point in taking it personally...would you get snotty if a woman ignored your advances in a club?... No.

You have been on here a week so you're still learning the site.

Polite messages aimed at them....show you have at least read the profile, a nice face shot and show your approachable.

As said get to socials and clubs, a good place to get yourself out there..take part in the forums, you will make friends on here and it can generate some interest too of you come across as a decent bloke.

Most of all, a teflon coat, dont let things stick and enjoy...

Personally if i get a meet, great if not then i can at least enjoy the company on here..less stress, more fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)

Nobody is owed a reply. Read the FAQ's and lose the sense of entitlement. Just cos someone wants NSA doesnt mean she will drop her knickers for you."

I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience they want not to meet me either so it's not just you fella!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Many ladies do not reply to men they're uninterested in. This is because a "sorry, no thanks" message is often met with a reply from the man "Awww why not? Please talk" and more attempts to talk with a lady who has already said she is not interested. Or worse...insults from the guy.

Thus many ladies simply choose not to reply at all. It isn't rude, it's just borne out of experience of pushy guys. The FAQ states that no reply means someone is not interested.

None of us deserves a response or reply.

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


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I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them? "

You have got a sense of entitlement as you expect a reply. If you say Hi to someone on the street its one thing, you might well get a reply. Because the likelihood is that you won't then whip out your dick and ask if they are free for a fuck, say "oh go on we are all after the same thing, what's wrong with me, you're just stuck up" etc.

No reply is a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with no emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Spunk

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Swoon. Sweet talker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though, it's hard to define what we want because we all want different things.

Read the profiles of the ladies who catch your eye.

If they are crap and don't tell you what they seek, read another. It's possibly too easy for us on here and as a result we can get complacent and say soblittle in our profiles that it makes it hard for a guy to see if we'd like him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many ladies do not reply to men they're uninterested in. This is because a "sorry, no thanks" message is often met with a reply from the man "Awww why not? Please talk" and more attempts to talk with a lady who has already said she is not interested. Or worse...insults from the guy.

Thus many ladies simply choose not to reply at all. It isn't rude, it's just borne out of experience of pushy guys. The FAQ states that no reply means someone is not interested.

None of us deserves a response or reply. "

Saved me typing. Thank you

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By *r-1984Man
over a year ago

South west

Try getting out to socials and maybe even a club, generally not being a pushy git and being a nice, decent and polite guy, being able to hold a good conversation helps and not expecting anything, people are here for their own enjoyment, not yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

Maybe you ain't their type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)

Nobody is owed a reply. Read the FAQ's and lose the sense of entitlement. Just cos someone wants NSA doesnt mean she will drop her knickers for you.

I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them? "

What's the point in wasting time and effort replying to people you don't want to meet?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

All I will say OP is that us women tend to look at a profile before deciding to reply or not

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Like others. I tend to not reply if I'm not interested.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many ladies do not reply to men they're uninterested in. This is because a "sorry, no thanks" message is often met with a reply from the man "Awww why not? Please talk" and more attempts to talk with a lady who has already said she is not interested. Or worse...insults from the guy.

Thus many ladies simply choose not to reply at all. It isn't rude, it's just borne out of experience of pushy guys. The FAQ states that no reply means someone is not interested.

None of us deserves a response or reply. "

This. And if you get tens of messages can you imagine the sheer volume! Replying to all is not an option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

Nice looking guy but nothing there that would make want to meet you. Get some imaginative pics. Nooooooo not the cock pics please. Have a look at other profiles. Make it more interesting

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)"

I block all men and just message the ones I like Sick to death of profiles full of cock pics

Also NSA means different things to different people

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton


"What do the women of fabswingers want?

They say NSA, no dick pics,etc

You play by the rules and don't even get a reply."

Try reading their profiles for a start that will tell you what they want. Secondly don't assume that your message stands out some profiles get a lot of messages so there isn't time to reply to every message. In reality there isn't a broad rule for all female profiles and remember women don't often say no thanks because many guys witter and pester with constant but why not?.

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Make your profile stand out,be honest about yourself and wait for the ladies to message you.

The ladies on here do actually message you if they want to.

Failing that get the sky remote out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile pic has already been mentioned... Just my opinion, but the first one in your gallery is great. You look friendly, open and very attractive."

I second that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them?

You have got a sense of entitlement as you expect a reply. If you say Hi to someone on the street its one thing, you might well get a reply. Because the likelihood is that you won't then whip out your dick and ask if they are free for a fuck, say "oh go on we are all after the same thing, what's wrong with me, you're just stuck up" etc.

No reply is a no thanks. "

I don't msg anyone saying those things hence why I asked as a newbie maybe my approach was wrong. But a lot of people gave different advice and opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"individually people will have different rules. don't genenralise all women and don't expect anything off a single one of us, we owe strangers nothing.

I don't expect anything off women except the understanding of what you want. If your profile says looking for NSA or a certain criteria that you match, I'd think personally I'd get a reply from a general message( granted most women on here are bombarded with messages)

Nobody is owed a reply. Read the FAQ's and lose the sense of entitlement. Just cos someone wants NSA doesnt mean she will drop her knickers for you.

I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them? "

A stranger says "hi" in the street, it's because they're being polite/social, and because you're both at the same spot at the same time.

Someone says "hi" on here it generally because they want more, and it isn't just social, and that person has sought them out, why else would you say hi?

In addition, one person saying hi on the street is easy to respond to.

But what if 1 or 2 hundred people said hi on the street, and each one of them expected an answer, and expected you to do it individually? Would you stil have the same opinion?

It's an absolute sense of entitlement as your only looking at this from your own selfish point of view and are annoyed because your needs are not being met, whilst forgetting the needs of those you message.

Posts like this often expose those who have no idea at all of the swinging ethos.

Sadly, you're not in the minority there.

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville


" ...I haven't got a sense of entitlement and wouldn't expect anyone to drop their knickers for me but this is a website to meet likeminded people on isn't it? As I said granted the majority of women on here are probably bombarded with messages but surely a quick sorry not interested wouldn't do any harm? If someone said hi or good morning on the street surely you wouldn't ignore them? "

On the face if it, you're right; politeness would dictate a response...however, some people get hundreds of messages and the sheer volume and time it would take to vet the profile, decide whether they're what they're looking for and then reply would quickly turn it into a full-time job and not fun.

No reply means not interested for whatever their reasons, just move on and try to attract others who may find you what they are looking for.

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