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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different people do different things. We've found socials work best for those who are happy to swap with "ok enough" people. Turn up and plays are fun for the gamble but we only say that because we haven't been unlucky with them yet.

Our overwhelming preference now is for double dates filled with flirtation as we've found "ok enough" is too low a bar for us and we prefer to feel actual attraction to people before we play with them and this only happens through flirting and seeing if there's chemistry there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do socials first but on the very rare occasion we have met without a social but with someone we have been talking to forever either on here or by phone so we did kinda get to know them first in a way. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social first. Doesn't have to be anything special, a short chat to see if we click and there's a mutual physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We do socials first but on the very rare occasion we have met without a social but with someone we have been talking to forever either on here or by phone so we did kinda get to know them first in a way. ."

we have put meets up for social night out on the pretence that if we have chemistry we can move forward, but people still want to just meet and fuck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag? "

Loads of people do socials first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im happy for a social first, although I have done meets also, it depends on the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im happy for a social first, although I have done meets also, it depends on the circumstances."

when you put a social meet up, people still write to you (I meet for social and back to yours after for a fuck) what part of social meet don't people get?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Im happy for a social first, although I have done meets also, it depends on the circumstances.

when you put a social meet up, people still write to you (I meet for social and back to yours after for a fuck) what part of social meet don't people get?"

We don't put social meets up for that reason. Lots of people think social first means a drink then back to your place.

We make it clear in our profile and arrange socials in neutral settings. Only one guy has ever over stepped the mark.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I prefer a social first. Doesn't have to be anything special, a short chat to see if we click and there's a mutual physical attraction.

"

Just this

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By *illupMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Always a social first ..you have to have some chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first. I had a bit of a rubbish experience jumping straight in with someone and id rather not repeat it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im happy for a social first, although I have done meets also, it depends on the circumstances.

when you put a social meet up, people still write to you (I meet for social and back to yours after for a fuck) what part of social meet don't people get?

We don't put social meets up for that reason. Lots of people think social first means a drink then back to your place.

We make it clear in our profile and arrange socials in neutral settings. Only one guy has ever over stepped the mark."

think that we will have to write that in future

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag? "

I prefer a social or least a Skype chat. I like to know a bit about a person first. Though if a social turns into a meet, that's even better!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I prefer a social first. Doesn't have to be anything special, a short chat to see if we click and there's a mutual physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't do socials.time is precious so don't waste it on small talk

We not here to find friends .we just want the sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't do socials.time is precious so don't waste it on small talk

We not here to find friends .we just want the sex."

I think everyone is different, we like the sex but chemistry is a must,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always suggest a social first, gotta see if you click wth someone before going any further.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always suggest a social first, gotta see if you click wth someone before going any further."

totally agree, not just that but photos and meeting someone in the flesh is totally different, people use different pic or old pics. just nice to meet someone have a drink chill and find out about each other before moving on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to chat on here then meet

Whether that was with my hubby and a cpl or me meeting alone

Now...older and wiser

Always a social 1st...people lie on here so best to be safe than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother with socials myself, after all it is meant to be NSA sex... So, because I like group meets, personal interaction is not important to me... I am not looking to feel the way I would with a potential husband or best friend before sex; I just want a guy who wants to fuck and can without a long courtship and "emotional chemistry"... Thankfully there are some on here like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to chat on here then meet

Whether that was with my hubby and a cpl or me meeting alone

Now...older and wiser

Always a social 1st...people lie on here so best to be safe than sorry

"
agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do socials first but on the very rare occasion we have met without a social but with someone we have been talking to forever either on here or by phone so we did kinda get to know them first in a way. .

we have put meets up for social night out on the pretence that if we have chemistry we can move forward, but people still want to just meet and fuck "
you always get chancers. Still to your guns that it's a social only first. If you all get talking and it leads elsewhere then that's good but people shouldnt pressure anyone if they say social only meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do socials first but on the very rare occasion we have met without a social but with someone we have been talking to forever either on here or by phone so we did kinda get to know them first in a way. .

we have put meets up for social night out on the pretence that if we have chemistry we can move forward, but people still want to just meet and fuck you always get chancers. Still to your guns that it's a social only first. If you all get talking and it leads elsewhere then that's good but people shouldnt pressure anyone if they say social only meet xx"
... meant stick to your guns lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We do socials first but on the very rare occasion we have met without a social but with someone we have been talking to forever either on here or by phone so we did kinda get to know them first in a way. .

we have put meets up for social night out on the pretence that if we have chemistry we can move forward, but people still want to just meet and fuck you always get chancers. Still to your guns that it's a social only first. If you all get talking and it leads elsewhere then that's good but people shouldnt pressure anyone if they say social only meet xx"

anyone who is willing to meet for social without being pushy will almost get our seal of approval if we all click. nothing worse than pushy people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet socially first. I find it makes the fun meets more relaxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet socially first. I find it makes the fun meets more relaxed"
definitely. A couple of drinks. Chatting. Flirting. You soon know if you want to take things further another time x

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I much prefer a social first. I like to get to know someone and meet to see if that spark is there.

I don't really do "arrive, shag, go"....I like longer sessions exploring mutual desires and pleasures.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"

Our overwhelming preference now is for double dates filled with flirtation as we've found "ok enough" is too low a bar for us and we prefer to feel actual attraction to people before we play with them and this only happens through flirting and seeing if there's chemistry there "

That sounds just like a social to me.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Our overwhelming preference now is for double dates filled with flirtation as we've found "ok enough" is too low a bar for us and we prefer to feel actual attraction to people before we play with them and this only happens through flirting and seeing if there's chemistry there

That sounds just like a social to me.

Cal "

Maybe it's just our bad luck but the vast majority of times we've had a social the people we've met haven't lifted a finger to be remotely flirtatious. That's why we've given up on socials and always make it clear it's going to be a flirty date. You only get out of a meet what you put into it and we're done meeting people who are either too scared or too jaded to put any seductive energy into things. At one social I had to help fish the family hamster out of the back of the sofa before they could put their kid to bed... and that wasn't the worst one. We're both far more cheesed off with crappy socials than we are with actual swinging

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

Got chatting to a man on here not long back. He seemed really nice. But he doesn't do socials. Wants to meet and shag straight away. Not for us so we said no. Shame though.

I did think about turning up and judging him very quickly. But i didn't like the idea of that. Especially as hubby and i couldn't discuss him to see what each other thought. What with him being there and everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Got chatting to a man on here not long back. He seemed really nice. But he doesn't do socials. Wants to meet and shag straight away. Not for us so we said no. Shame though.

I did think about turning up and judging him very quickly. But i didn't like the idea of that. Especially as hubby and i couldn't discuss him to see what each other thought. What with him being there and everything. "

i think a social meet is key, people might not want a social but seems many people do,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social first. I've had no problem with those I've met agreeing to one.

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag? "

Some do some don't some will fuck any rigid piece of pink skin or sink their conk into any hole and both these groups have no interest in social meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the social side chatting flirting and having a laugh.if you then move on great if not you have still had a good night out. If you just want sex go to a club and do it lol. Social first every time for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Love the social side chatting flirting and having a laugh.if you then move on great if not you have still had a good night out. If you just want sex go to a club and do it lol. Social first every time for us "

make you right,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No social only meets for us, not interested in an interview then arranging a play meet later on, we are here to play

Our meets generally involve lots of flirting, a drink or two, some banter and if we click and all want to rip each other's clothes off then we do, simple, perfect and lots of fun.

We don't agree with the "they are pushy as they don't want a social first" comment, I don't think anyone has ever accused us of being pushy.

We have done social onlys in the past, they were boring, ridiculous and were social only for a number of reasons ranging from inexperienced swingers wanting to tap us up for info, to couples who had serious jealousy issues so weren't sure if they would ever swing, so to say they were crap evenings and a waste of out time would be an understatement x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first to see if there's any chemistry before we take it further. The next time we meet there's also no awkward moments as we're already acquainted

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Different strokes for different folks. Personally I prefer the social before hand make sure they day who they are.

Plus ensure your able to continue that chemistry from messaging face to face too. Thus happy to play if we both feel comfortable.

Tho never goto a social thinking that your gonna play just enjoy their company and have fun x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


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Maybe it's just our bad luck but the vast majority of times we've had a social the people we've met haven't lifted a finger to be remotely flirtatious. That's why we've given up on socials and always make it clear it's going to be a flirty date. You only get out of a meet what you put into it and we're done meeting people who are either too scared or too jaded to put any seductive energy into things. At one social I had to help fish the family hamster out of the back of the sofa before they could put their kid to bed... and that wasn't the worst one. We're both far more cheesed off with crappy socials than we are with actual swinging "

To me, a social is any meet to see if there's an attraction. But your "socials" sound just the ticket. I suppose the key is to decide what sort of social you're going to have.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first, it's nice to share a few giggles and flirt a little over a glass of wine. If the sparks there then why not take it further hey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a social first feels more relaxed and you can see if your comfortable with each other ,if it leads to more it's a bonus or you might meet and think your not for each other.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag? "

We have busy lives and prefer not to waste time with socialising when we can turn up and shag (as you put it).

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

We like to have a social first so everyone gets to meet and see if we all click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials first are a must. I need to be sure the attraction is mutual and the chemistry and vibe of the messages carries over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't go to a club

Social first

If happy to meet at a club ..play potential

This year we had a great social and the play was dreadful ..

Also great social great sex

Last time we met at home without a social .. they arrived . Announced what time they had to leave .. felt a bit used after

Club meeting is Great option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think socials first is great gives both parties chance to see if they get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely have a social first (but have recently). I'm happy to chat here, then via phone apps, then meet for sex. Sometimes we have a drink and go back to theirs after.

I don't shag, I have more in my repertoire than a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm meeting I always have a social first. I make sure they know it's just a drink and no chance of anything else. Most men don't want that so we don't meet. I'm ok with that because we're not looking for the same things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule we always like to have a social first. No pressure at all then on either side

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a rule we always like to have a social first. No pressure at all then on either side

Kinky "

totally agree, no pressure makes meets more interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good social

I always advertise my meets as socials just wish I could find a few more than I get at the minute

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love a good social

I always advertise my meets as socials just wish I could find a few more than I get at the minute"

socials are great, even if theres no sexual chemistry, but good banter and a laugh ,to me thats what socials are about..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a rule we always like to have a social first. No pressure at all then on either side

Kinky

totally agree, no pressure makes meets more interesting"

Totally agree with this as well

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I only do socials first time

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't do socials. I find them awkward. I chat, listen to my gut feeling, seek the inexplicable sexy extra, choose carefully and meet. Okay had few meets that weren't great but a social wouldn't have made a difference and most of the time it works out great.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

I always want a social first as I like to get to know someone first BUT those socials either move straight onto fun or they never see me again

I'm just not interested in meet and fuck it's way too clinical for me

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By *vetteBondTV/TS
over a year ago

English Riviera

No one will ever get intimate with me unless they can handle being seen out with an obvious tranny first.

Weeds out the fantasists.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag? "

We have plenty of vanilla friends for socials. Swinging for us is a way to play out our sexual fantasies - and those fantasies don't involve discussions of politics, sport, television, music etc etc. That is why we swing in clubs where we can pay with couples and singles who simply share a mutual sexual atteaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is it just me or do people not do social meets first anymore? they just want to turn up and shag?

We have plenty of vanilla friends for socials. Swinging for us is a way to play out our sexual fantasies - and those fantasies don't involve discussions of politics, sport, television, music etc etc. That is why we swing in clubs where we can pay with couples and singles who simply share a mutual sexual atteaction."

You've got a fair point there

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby


"No social only meets for us, not interested in an interview then arranging a play meet later on, we are here to play

Our meets generally involve lots of flirting, a drink or two, some banter and if we click and all want to rip each other's clothes off then we do, simple, perfect and lots of fun.

We don't agree with the "they are pushy as they don't want a social first" comment, I don't think anyone has ever accused us of being pushy.

We have done social onlys in the past, they were boring, ridiculous and were social only for a number of reasons ranging from inexperienced swingers wanting to tap us up for info, to couples who had serious jealousy issues so weren't sure if they would ever swing, so to say they were crap evenings and a waste of out time would be an understatement x"

Just curious. What would you do if one of you just didn't fancy them, because they looked very different to their pic or something? (Or maybe they had very bad breath or something)

Has it ever come up?

This isn't something i could do. So my hat goes off to you in a way. But i quite like a social first. I love the build up.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We always have a social first.We can't be sure that we want to shag you until we've met you.We understand that some don't do socials but we won't be meeting them.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

We've got a meet lined up with a guy we've met socially twice and been chatting to for 12 months. We don't like to rush into things.... If a guy can be still interested after that he's gotta be worth meeting. I suspect most single guys would get bored if it took that long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first

Just to do a weirdo check

They sometimes end up with fun after - but it's nice to leave it for next time and have a little anticipation

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We've got a meet lined up with a guy we've met socially twice and been chatting to for 12 months. We don't like to rush into things.... If a guy can be still interested after that he's gotta be worth meeting. I suspect most single guys would get bored if it took that long."

I suspect most people full stop would get bored if it took that long !

But it's whatever you're happy with at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've got a meet lined up with a guy we've met socially twice and been chatting to for 12 months. We don't like to rush into things.... If a guy can be still interested after that he's gotta be worth meeting. I suspect most single guys would get bored if it took that long."

I don't think it's about getting bored, but I think most quality guys on the swing scene would give up after a certain amount of time. I would also question whether a man's willingness to wait is an accurate measure as to whether they are worth meeting. There might be some very decent guys who failed your 'test', and some idiot who passed the test.

Mrs

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester


"We've got a meet lined up with a guy we've met socially twice and been chatting to for 12 months. We don't like to rush into things.... If a guy can be still interested after that he's gotta be worth meeting. I suspect most single guys would get bored if it took that long.

I don't think it's about getting bored, but I think most quality guys on the swing scene would give up after a certain amount of time. I would also question whether a man's willingness to wait is an accurate measure as to whether they are worth meeting. There might be some very decent guys who failed your 'test', and some idiot who passed the test.

Mrs "

Not really a test just circumstance really. Having met twice and exchanged lots of messages I think it unlikely that an idiot would get a meet with us.

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