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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For me (f) its about the whole scenario. The clothes, the photographs, the talking and flirting etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me! That's what my profile is all about

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

Hi

I agree totally.Like you, i go through a routinue before a meeting. I never do spontaneous meets. For me - its going to the gym the day before, having an early night. Waking up horny. Wearing some very nice clothes , and the anticipation of the meet. Like Classywingers says, - its part of stepping into my stud like alter ego!

Have a meet tomorrow with a lovely couple, and frankly most of this weekend is thinking about tomorrow afternoon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs"

I don't expect anything, I like someone to feel confident and attractive firstly though, there's nothing more attractive than a confident woman... If a ritual and routine helps to do that then it's worth it.

Plus, who doesn't like to see someone in a sexy outfit?!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs"

If I just wanted sex, I'd be back in the vanilla world. I have great expectations from swinging. I want to do everything possible to realise whatever is going on inside my head. Clothing is just the start. I do ask for certain things from my partners but then I am willing to put in at least the same amount of effort in return.

As the saying goes, this is supposed to be fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs

If I just wanted sex, I'd be back in the vanilla world. I have great expectations from swinging. I want to do everything possible to realise whatever is going on inside my head. Clothing is just the start. I do ask for certain things from my partners but then I am willing to put in at least the same amount of effort in return.

As the saying goes, this is supposed to be fun! "

Yes I think that's the different between vanilla dating and swinging (or specifically for me, Hotwifing). When I was single and dating, although I did make an effort with my appearance for a date, I still wore 'normal' clothes. For an evening meet now, I wouldn't dream of wearing anything plainer than an above knee skirt, stockings and heels. Never ever jeans or flat shoes for evening meets. I also take requests from my guys as to want they would like me to wear (though they all seem to ask for the above). The only thing I've put my foot down to is a pencil skirt, because it doesn't suit my shape. But it is imperative that I maintain my Hotwife image, and not be seen as I would be seen if I were dropping the kids off at school. This is all part of the fantasy.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs"

My clothes don't come off so my outfit is important to me.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

I find that what is so attractive about the whole hotwife scenario. That what appears to the outside world is a normal "vanilla", even "prim" lady changes into a "slut". Just like you, I find the the wives I play way with - physically change into sexier clothes as part of that alter ego. Its like me as well - Love the whole build up and getting ready for a meet. Its part of me changing into my alter ego

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs

My clothes don't come off so my outfit is important to me. "

Perfect.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"To me swinging is more that just sex. It's an excuse to dress up and wear sexy clothes. I like to become my alter ego. There is a certain routine I have to go through prior to a meet or going to a party. Certain clothing has to be worn. Who shares my sentiment? And who believes that it's unnecessary to worry to much about appearance and clothing when it's all coming off anyway? What to the men like or expect?

Mrs

If I just wanted sex, I'd be back in the vanilla world. I have great expectations from swinging. I want to do everything possible to realise whatever is going on inside my head. Clothing is just the start. I do ask for certain things from my partners but then I am willing to put in at least the same amount of effort in return.

As the saying goes, this is supposed to be fun!

Yes I think that's the different between vanilla dating and swinging (or specifically for me, Hotwifing). When I was single and dating, although I did make an effort with my appearance for a date, I still wore 'normal' clothes. For an evening meet now, I wouldn't dream of wearing anything plainer than an above knee skirt, stockings and heels. Never ever jeans or flat shoes for evening meets. I also take requests from my guys as to want they would like me to wear (though they all seem to ask for the above). The only thing I've put my foot down to is a pencil skirt, because it doesn't suit my shape. But it is imperative that I maintain my Hotwife image, and not be seen as I would be seen if I were dropping the kids off at school. This is all part of the fantasy.

Mrs"

Sometimes people say I'm a bit demanding but I feel that I have to be in order to bring my vision to reality. A bit like an artist. If I ask for a certain item of clothing (or to assume a certain position or role), it's usually because I have a scenario in mind and wearing that item of clothing makes it not only easier to play, but allows us both to play our roles which adds to the eroticism.

The other problem I have is that I feel that if I have to explain the reason for every request, it may spoil the illusion in a similar way that a magician never divulges the secrets of their act, even if it may be obvious how it has been created. Hence, why I prefer to play more with people that I've built at least a basic level of trust with as opposed to a complete stranger.

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

I agree to,, and it starts from the minute that's something's arranged, be it a meet, club or just a social,, go get a tan if it's gone awol, do my nails,, lots of talking to hubby and the guy we are meeting if that's the case,, go through what I'm wearing on top and underneath,, and have back ups, prepare hand bag incase there is potential fun,, everything leading up to an event is part of the fun,,

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

Totally agree

I am meeting a couple tomorrow - and frankly cant think of anything else. The anticipation and prep are wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet in clubs so the clothing is off

For me swinging is meeting nice fun guys at a club, spending time in a hot tub with them then going to a private room.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

I suppose women dress for the occasion. If me n mrs are going just a club. She would wear stuff that she wudnt do if going out to a non swingging club. Or bar. If we have a meet in a bar then going back to hotel or house. She would still ware nice sexy stuff. But not as revealing. I think a man likes a smart sexy look dress or skirt. Emagination can take over for the guy then. N i pursume its same for women to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to keep my fab life and my actual life separate so it is kind of a split personality i have going on

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By *r and Mrs DebaucheryCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I always make a lot of effort. I plan my outfit days ahead, always dress to impress, lots of flirting and building the anticipation. It's all part of it for me. And I reap the rewards for my efforts.

I once met a woman who turned up in leggings sweatshirt and trainers. I drank my coffee quickly and left.

Mrs D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always make a lot of effort. I plan my outfit days ahead, always dress to impress, lots of flirting and building the anticipation. It's all part of it for me. And I reap the rewards for my efforts.

I once met a woman who turned up in leggings sweatshirt and trainers. I drank my coffee quickly and left.

Mrs D"

Ha i do warn guys that im a casual clothes type person so they are never shocked when i turn up wearing jeans, t shirt and converse. I am extremely clean, smooth lady bits etc, smelling nice with clean hair and nice underwear. No one has ever said no thanks in 12 years of swinging

I have still made an effort of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me (f) its about the whole scenario. The clothes, the photographs, the talking and flirting etc.

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And some just stay as that a fantasy rather than a reality.

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