FabSwingers.com forum: what would you do if

By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

you have a meet planned with your FWB your looking forward to the sex a lot but obviously there's more to your friendship that just the sex hence why they are your FWB.

so you meet you can tell your FWB is not really in the mood for the sex .obviously they have had a very stressful week and their minds not in the right place for full on sex .

do you

A.... carry on anyway even though you sense they are not fully into it after the first 30 minutes of warm up play .

or B ....do you stop play and say hay I can tell your not fully into this at this time lets just have a cuddle and chat today .

well people which will it be ...?

after all most fwb I've ever known would go through with it to please me but I've always stopped play when I sense the vibes not right or like they normally are .

ps this is just a question for you to ponder over .like I said i would stop play in fact i have in the past and I've never been in the slightest bothered by the fact I felt the need to .

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i wouldn't force sex onto someone not into it.

and, personally, taking away that pressure for sex might make me more likely to be in the mood in a bit.

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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"i wouldn't force sex onto someone not into it.

and, personally, taking away that pressure for sex might make me more likely to be in the mood in a bit."

good answer but their are times when the flesh maybe willing but the mind is not really there ,on such occasions it is possible to force a play partner to orgasm through knowledge of their body and mental triggers.

but I prefer to stop play because such orgasms can induce a short sharp migraine in the temple from the orgasm.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The fwbs I've had have made me forget about my stresses while I'm with them tbh.

But in answer to your question B

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yeah stick telly on and grab the snacks...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i wouldn't force sex onto someone not into it.

and, personally, taking away that pressure for sex might make me more likely to be in the mood in a bit.

but I prefer to stop play because such orgasms can induce a short sharp migraine in the temple from the orgasm. "

i think you're into some BDSM stuff i'm not knowledgeable in. but it makes sense if the brain isn't focused enough on sex then it's not gonna be as enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah stick telly on and grab the snacks..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give them a massage, make a cup of tea, ask what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have a meet planned with your FWB your looking forward to the sex a lot but obviously there's more to your friendship that just the sex hence why they are your FWB.

so you meet you can tell your FWB is not really in the mood for the sex .obviously they have had a very stressful week and their minds not in the right place for full on sex .

do you

A.... carry on anyway even though you sense they are not fully into it after the first 30 minutes of warm up play .

or B ....do you stop play and say hay I can tell your not fully into this at this time lets just have a cuddle and chat today .

well people which will it be ...?

after all most fwb I've ever known would go through with it to please me but I've always stopped play when I sense the vibes not right or like they normally are .

ps this is just a question for you to ponder over .like I said i would stop play in fact i have in the past and I've never been in the slightest bothered by the fact I felt the need to .

Tell her to man the fuck up

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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"you have a meet planned with your FWB your looking forward to the sex a lot but obviously there's more to your friendship that just the sex hence why they are your FWB.

so you meet you can tell your FWB is not really in the mood for the sex .obviously they have had a very stressful week and their minds not in the right place for full on sex .

do you

A.... carry on anyway even though you sense they are not fully into it after the first 30 minutes of warm up play .

or B ....do you stop play and say hay I can tell your not fully into this at this time lets just have a cuddle and chat today .

well people which will it be ...?

after all most fwb I've ever known would go through with it to please me but I've always stopped play when I sense the vibes not right or like they normally are .

ps this is just a question for you to ponder over .like I said i would stop play in fact i have in the past and I've never been in the slightest bothered by the fact I felt the need to .

Tell her to man the fuck up"

bet you have heard that few to many times hay hence your spiteful answer .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B, minus the cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you have a meet planned with your FWB your looking forward to the sex a lot but obviously there's more to your friendship that just the sex hence why they are your FWB.

so you meet you can tell your FWB is not really in the mood for the sex .obviously they have had a very stressful week and their minds not in the right place for full on sex .

do you

A.... carry on anyway even though you sense they are not fully into it after the first 30 minutes of warm up play .

or B ....do you stop play and say hay I can tell your not fully into this at this time lets just have a cuddle and chat today .

well people which will it be ...?

after all most fwb I've ever known would go through with it to please me but I've always stopped play when I sense the vibes not right or like they normally are .

ps this is just a question for you to ponder over .like I said i would stop play in fact i have in the past and I've never been in the slightest bothered by the fact I felt the need to .

Tell her to man the fuck up

bet you have heard that few to many times hay hence your spiteful answer . "

No spite, I'm just a piss taker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely B, though I'm not sure I'd make it so obvious I could tell, I'd rather take the pressure off them and make out it was myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her to man the fuck up"

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I'd focus on the 'F' part of 'FWB' and go with B.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Despite it starting with an initial meet on fab, once you becomes FWBs they're a friend first and foremost to me

If my FWB had a bad day I'd do whatever made them feel better... venting about it, massage, chilling out over a movie, sex

Besides, why would you want to have sex with someone clearly not in the mood anyway? That's a total turn off to me and incredibly selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah stick telly on and grab the snacks..."

This

Although probably with a glass of something too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give them a massage, make a cup of tea, ask what they want."

This is the best answer, massages can change my day and shows you care. I care about all my friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Masses are the best way to get to know each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely B - if you can tell they're not feeling it then of course you need to stop.

What you do next depends how big the F part in FWB is! if they are truly a friend you'd want to find out what's troubling them etc. If it's just an ongoing physical relationship then maybe less to avoid blurring any lines !

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