FabSwingers.com forum: What does NSA mean to you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just sent a message to a single lady introducing myself in the hope maybe something might come of it. I got rejected as my profile text states I'm looking for NSA. Apparently this means an attached bloke looking for a quick fuck?? I know NSA means no strings attached but surely single people can want this as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles "

Surely it doesn't mean no emotions, it purely means no strings. This is different is it not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fuck and go and keep won't meet those that are. I'm seeing a friend and benefits, not NSA / fuck buddies... there is a difference. Funny enough I find no satisfaction from a roll on wham bam thank you mam leg over and go kind of guy.

A no commitment, no hassle, no expectations and stress free friendship with a guy I get on with on a semi to regular basis would be great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The government spying on the people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

National security agency

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it means sex without the tedium or hassle of a relationship

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By *ouble_CreamCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

No Strings Attached to me simply means no commitment, so not a typical 'relationship'. A connection is always necessary for good sex in my opinion, but I can tell if there is a connection from chatting and a social not from whether there are three letters on their profile or not. NSA on a profile wouldn't put me off as I'm aware that as a term it can mean different things to different people so I would just want to discuss expectations with any person I was chatting to.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Nice

Sandwich

Alan

- the bloke who normally serves me a subway at 2am

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

I wouldn't mind another friend with benefits I seem to have a few but there never available lately lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No Strings Attached to me simply means no commitment, so not a typical 'relationship'. A connection is always necessary for good sex in my opinion, but I can tell if there is a connection from chatting and a social not from whether there are three letters on their profile or not. NSA on a profile wouldn't put me off as I'm aware that as a term it can mean different things to different people so I would just want to discuss expectations with any person I was chatting to. "

This is exactly what I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it means zero expectations about anyone having to keep in contact afterwards and especially definitely no kind of bf/gf relationship ship afterwards.

It doesn't necessarily mean there isn't going to be a connection there for me. Not a connection where anyone is going to fall head over heels or expect to definitely see or even talk to that person again, but a fun sexual connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

National sprint association

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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means using each other for sex.

puts me off as well, not even for any attached implication, just i think the guy won't even be that good in bed, no foreplay or anything for me but expect his dick sucked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To me it means zero expectations about anyone having to keep in contact afterwards and especially definitely no kind of bf/gf relationship ship afterwards.

Exactly this! There can be a sexual connection but not one where there is anything beyond.

(Excuse the rather public approach here but as a fellow Hampshire resident and someone close by I would very much like to chat with you and see how we get on. Please pm me if interested).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"means using each other for sex.

puts me off as well, not even for any attached implication, just i think the guy won't even be that good in bed, no foreplay or anything for me but expect his dick sucked."

Foreplay is everything! So crucial. That's where reading profiles is important as this is stated clearly

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"means using each other for sex.

puts me off as well, not even for any attached implication, just i think the guy won't even be that good in bed, no foreplay or anything for me but expect his dick sucked.

Foreplay is everything! So crucial. That's where reading profiles is important as this is stated clearly"

in a world of liars you very easily learn to read between the lines.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Which every future message you send. Hold your breath just in case it pisses the receiver off. Exhale and drink beer if there are xxx's and lol's contained somewhere within.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore single men who state NSA. I am not about to have sex with any man who doesn't feel anything, whatsoever, for me. I am not looking for a relationship as I have a strong one with my husband. But I have no intention of being treated like a free prostitute by some random

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I must have missed something but at what point did NSA mean that a person has no feelings? You can still feel without wanting to have any commitment attachment!

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By *ouble_CreamCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

"I must have missed something but at what point did NSA mean that a person has no feelings? You can still feel without wanting to have any commitment attachment!"

This!

I guess I'm learning that NSA means cut off/cold/ having no emotions/selfish functional sex etc to some people. For me it's never meant any of that. That's just the definition of shit sex! I've even had what I'd call great NSA arrangements with longterm friends with benefits. These have involved genuine care and respect and often resulted in being great friends in a more vanilla way too. There are simply just no strings. Meaning no relationship commitments or expectations and we are free to see other people. But I guess this thread is teaching me I should explain my definition from now on, if I ever use it in a conversation as it has become clear to me that lots of people see it differently. X

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By *ouble_CreamCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

I wonder if some people think of the NSA in relation to the sex rather than to the arrangement. Perhaps you see 'no strings' as equalling 'no frills'?!

I don't think the NSA relates to the kind of sex....but rather to the kind of expectations. It makes me think of a puppet on a string being controlled by another vs there being no strings.

Anyway....Ive said enough, that's a double post now...hopefully that's not punishable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No drama, no pressure a laugh a giggle and great sex

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am on here for NSA. Some are here for more. You'll learn as you go along that some people can't say no nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my sexual partners are no strings, and I'm not attached.

It means we have sex, maybe a little chat, and that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No drama, no pressure a laugh a giggle and great sex

Exactly!

I want great sex.

I don't want to be just a hole - which is how I would feel with someone that bleats on about NSA.

We all know it's NSA already.

I knew I shouldn't have worn the white dress to my last meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wonder if some people think of the NSA in relation to the sex rather than to the arrangement. Perhaps you see 'no strings' as equalling 'no frills'?!

I don't think the NSA relates to the kind of sex....but rather to the kind of expectations. It makes me think of a puppet on a string being controlled by another vs there being no strings.

Anyway....Ive said enough, that's a double post now...hopefully that's not punishable!

Excellent words and exactly what I was getting at!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I agree with you about the definition. To me it means, in contrast to a relationship, there is no obligation in between meets. It does not mean there is no effort or friendship for the duration of the meet, and I regard it that once a meet is a arranged there is an obligation for that commitment to be honoured. However, a lot of single men on Fab have very different view of NSA. To some it means they expect sex with no effort or friendship and if something comes up they will wilfully cancel. To me NSA, by my definition, goes without saying on a swingers site, so the men that feel the need to state the obvious on their profile probably take the view that NSA means 'fuck and go'.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha well I'm screwed then (or not as the case may be!)

To me it purely means that I'm not looking for a relationship - not that I don't feel anything!!

'No strings' - as in we don't have to date, just be two adults having fun. Doesn't mean that it can't be sensual, hot, thrilling sex!! I'm willing to prove this if need be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think this post has taught me that even after a year on here I'm still very inexperienced when it come to fab! I'm learning that things that I thought meant one thing on hear do not mean quite the same. Maybe I'm naive and too trusting but I tend to take what people say as what they mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not the only one learning. We are too. Terms that had a definite meaning to us in the vanilla world, are not so definite here. We have had to elaborate on what we intend to get across

- Mrs. J -

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I thought it was the National Security Association, proved me wrong.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I thought it meant no bondage. Put me off cos I love being tied up and caned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it means no commitment but for me it doesn't mean you don't have a friendship

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Surely NSA means i like & want to have to have sex with you

But I promise i wont stalk you

P.S way to much Wine & Chocolate, slow down a bit .

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Just sent a message to a single lady introducing myself in the hope maybe something might come of it. I got rejected as my profile text states I'm looking for NSA. Apparently this means an attached bloke looking for a quick fuck?? I know NSA means no strings attached but surely single people can want this as well."

To us all it means is the person is happy to meet and play but does not expect any commitment after the meet

In other words the person understands what swinging is

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By *heshire James 76Man
over a year ago

widnes

Yup definitely just means no strings attached.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"I think this post has taught me that even after a year on here I'm still very inexperienced when it come to fab! I'm learning that things that I thought meant one thing on hear do not mean quite the same. Maybe I'm naive and too trusting but I tend to take what people say as what they mean."

I think the point is everyone has their own take on it just as swinging means different things to different people and as always communication is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles

Surely it doesn't mean no emotions, it purely means no strings. This is different is it not?"

Not from my experience. Most guys who have wanted NSA have just wanted a willing pussy available..No involvement whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore single men who state NSA. I am not about to have sex with any man who doesn't feel anything, whatsoever, for me. I am not looking for a relationship as I have a strong one with my husband. But I have no intention of being treated like a free prostitute by some random

- Mrs. J -"

Couldn't have put it better. This is exactly what.many guys are using fab for - looking for a free hooker. That's perfectly fine if the lady feels exactly the same of course but I don't want to be seen as a hooker on fab. So therefore the NSA profiles don't interest me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take that as just purely sex but we all know where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i often put down nsa but it means different thing to people just like most fab tags

to me it means meeting someone for as long as you like with the same passion as any relationship but not tied down like a usual bf gf relationship (some like to see more than one person here) & also not wanting to know about each others private life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who ever says nsa means no emotions obviously hasnt been with people like me who put it in their profile

lots have come out of long relationships and just dont want another hense nsa, no controlling or stalking or lots of rules..... been there like my freedom

and i have regulars who we share lots of passion but we have our own lives outside of fab and give each other that privacy and never influence them

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles

Surely it doesn't mean no emotions, it purely means no strings. This is different is it not?"

If there's emotions then surely that means strings? NSA is just sex no connection or emotions involved just pure physical pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

means keeping a fab relationship seperate to each other's personal private lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to read their profile to get the answers of what someone is looking for. For me nsa fun means they just want to meet and have sex without wanting anything more. Not for me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds the same as a fb or fwb then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet NSA as to me it implies just want a fuck. If I want something with zero emotion involved I'll get my dildo collection out and do the job DIY style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

explain to me why it just means they want a fuck?

isnt that the same as a fuck buddy?

or friends with benefits?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

yes they can just like other people single or not can choose to say no thanks to becoming just another meaningless encounter .

you fee you was disrespected op in my opinion hence your forum post but the truth is you was shown respect by the fact someone had the strength of character to stay true to there own needs and turn you down based off of that fact .

its just a pity all those only looking for NSA don't post it boldly and proudly on there profile op .a fact you should be commended on because you allow those looking for more to pass you on by as you are being true to yourself and therefore with those you interact with

just like the person was being with you and too themselves when they turned you down based on the grounds of you not looking for the same thing as them ,

that's respectful behaviour shown to you op not disrespectful in any way shape or form in my opinion .

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I won't meet NSA as to me it implies just want a fuck. If I want something with zero emotion involved I'll get my dildo collection out and do the job DIY style."

well put tink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives...."

What do you mean by a private life?

I have sex with my husband but I have me-time and me-space away from him too. However, I don't think of it as my private life

- Mrs. J -

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By *reeny777Man
over a year ago

chatham

"so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives...."

Nsa= no requirement for phone calls, messages, meetups etc in between the sex sessions. Those are the "strings" in a relationship. Nsa is the freedom to walk away without explanation or hassle

Fb=. Fuckbuddy, someone you get on with and whose company you enjoy but you only really meet up for sex, not general socialising

Fwb= someone you meet socially, maybe go to the pub with, cinema etc but might end up in bed with as well, without the requirement for a committed relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I agree with you about the definition. To me it means, in contrast to a relationship, there is no obligation in between meets. It does not mean there is no effort or friendship for the duration of the meet, and I regard it that once a meet is a arranged there is an obligation for that commitment to be honoured. However, a lot of single men on Fab have very different view of NSA. To some it means they expect sex with no effort or friendship and if something comes up they will wilfully cancel.

***

To me NSA, by my definition, goes without saying on a swingers site, so the men that feel the need to state the obvious on their profile probably take the view that NSA means 'fuck and go'.

Mrs"

*** Absolutely agree with this end bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives....

What do you mean by a private life?

I have sex with my husband but I have me-time and me-space away from him too. However, I don't think of it as my private life

- Mrs. J -"

some people like to keep their private lives e.g. family, kids, friends, previous fucks, workplace etc out of their fab lives and i respect them for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that terms mean different things to different people. There is no right or wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives....

Nsa= no requirement for phone calls, messages, meetups etc in between the sex sessions. Those are the "strings" in a relationship. Nsa is the freedom to walk away without explanation or hassle

Fb=. Fuckbuddy, someone you get on with and whose company you enjoy but you only really meet up for sex, not general socialising

Fwb= someone you meet socially, maybe go to the pub with, cinema etc but might end up in bed with as well, without the requirement for a committed relationship

hmmm what if they overlap those explanations lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as i had a different thought to the words its now made me go and edit my profile to show fb / fwb instead lol

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

NSA means that there are no ties , no requirements to stay in touch , you are free to play with others with no reprocussions , and the meet is without commitment .

It doesn't mean there are no emotions involved at all though . The best meets are when all parties feel free of any baggage and can just let go . Sheer adrenaline , carnal desire , lust , passion and all that . All of this requires emotion or it isn't real . The emotion is often off the scale during the meet , but is left behind afterwards .

That's NSA for us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so can someone explain the difference between nsa, fb & fwb ?

because they all meet up for sex, lots of passion, chat online, can still hangout together but they both have their own private lives....

What do you mean by a private life?

I have sex with my husband but I have me-time and me-space away from him too. However, I don't think of it as my private life

- Mrs. J -

some people like to keep their private lives e.g. family, kids, friends, previous fucks, workplace etc out of their fab lives and i respect them for that"

But that is mostly true when it comes to most friends, except in the case of one, maybe two, bestest, bestest friends

So, NSA is just a fuck and forget, until the next time. That is exactly what I thought it was

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles

Surely it doesn't mean no emotions, it purely means no strings. This is different is it not?"
Ive got nsa on my profile. No strings no hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA means that there are no ties , no requirements to stay in touch , you are free to play with others with no reprocussions , and the meet is without commitment .

That's NSA for us ."

Exactly. We have a similar view.

This thread just goes to show it's best to avoid vague catch phrases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have came out of a long term relationship with a guy on here and there was no intention on my part to get seriously involved. I was very very fond of him however and he felt the same way but I did not want to take the relationship further. He was never once at my home nor did he even know my surname! It ended because he wanted a serious relationship with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA means that there are no ties , no requirements to stay in touch , you are free to play with others with no reprocussions , and the meet is without commitment .

That's NSA for us .

Exactly. We have a similar view.

This thread just goes to show it's best to avoid vague catch phrases. "

Left behind? I couldn't meet folk in that way for sex. Social yep, easily but great frenzied sex comes with intensity of.emotion and I can't separate the two. If you read my other post you will see however that it doesn't mean I want a conventional boyfriend either! I am a free spirit and intend to remain that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I also say that I find it amazing that folk on here can let a relative stranger into their private abode and yet have no emotions for the person. To me fab and my other 'life' will always be kept apart and I would only meet in a hotel for intimacy. My home is mine only. I don't want anyone on fab to know.mysurname, let alone where I live!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It certainly is that to me

Means no emotions involved and I can't have sex without emotions so won't touch NSA profiles

Surely it doesn't mean no emotions, it purely means no strings. This is different is it not?"

I dont like it as it seems to be a purely subjective term, some see the "strings" as emotional attachment and other see it as no commitment

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By *.1079Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I thought it was the

National Swimming Association

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought it was the

National Swimming Association "

Need Sex Anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Swingers Allowed.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

No dangly bits

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"NSA means that there are no ties , no requirements to stay in touch , you are free to play with others with no reprocussions , and the meet is without commitment .

That's NSA for us .

Exactly. We have a similar view.

This thread just goes to show it's best to avoid vague catch phrases.

Luckily for us we are able to separate the two , but great frenzied sex does involve all the emotions we explained . The fact that we leave them behind after the meet doesn't detract from the pleasure all parties embrace during it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It should mean no strings as in no worries of one trying to turn it into a relationship, no baggage and no jealousy. But as with everything on fab it all gets a bit lost in translation and has ended up being used by people looking for a cum dump, which then puts people off.

On here it's best to spell out exactly what you mean then no one can put two and two together and come up with six..... they'll probably complain your profile is too long winded instead though...sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It should mean no strings as in no worries of one trying to turn it into a relationship, no baggage and no jealousy. But as with everything on fab it all gets a bit lost in translation and has ended up being used by people looking for a cum dump, which then puts people off.

Ooohhh...Cum dump..Another phrase I first heard on fab and which I loathe! However it is appropriate for this thread unfortunately. I do agree that NSA means different things to different people and at the end of the day we are all consenting adults to do as we wish on fab.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Very interesting topic, I am learning a lot of new things from the contributions, I honestly thought that every lady here wanted no strings attached , is there anything we can do as guys to avoid any kind of relationship expectations from the ladies we see regularly or is this impossible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very interesting topic, I am learning a lot of new things from the contributions, I honestly thought that every lady here wanted no strings attached , is there anything we can do as guys to avoid any kind of relationship expectations from the ladies we see regularly or is this impossible? "

By good communication and not making any assumptions

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Hey babe, am really feeling you , will love to meet you xx

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

By good communication and not making any assumptions "

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are just naturally so annoying and egotistical that women won't want relationships with them.

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

NSA surely does not mean wham bam thank you mam; does it not mean I have no expectations of a traditional relationship, emotions are necessary and therefore good because they make sex great. Whereas chocolates, flowers and late night 'night night baby' calls are not to be expected or welcome to be received. A non exclusive relationship where people are free to see who they want, without asking for permission, or seeking forgiveness.

Grown up sex, where everyone knows where they stand, with promises of not falling in love or even using the L word (love not Lesbians).

For us NSA is not fuck and go but be Fab friends but not FB friends, have their number but not call them about anything other than kinky fuckery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't mind another friend with benefits I seem to have a few but there never available lately lol"

Mmm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shit puppet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there"

There are a lot of men out there who feel the same. Takes me ages to shake them off sometimes.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think know your profile is great OP, I'm guessing the lady in question was wanting a little more than nsa.

NSA to me is when you can get together, enjoy each others company, then walk away until the next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think know your profile is great OP, I'm guessing the lady in question was wanting a little more than nsa.

NSA to me is when you can get together, enjoy each others company, then walk away until the next time

Thank you _ady lick.

I agree with your assessment completely.

Shame we're not closer as looking at your profile you are exactly the type of person I'm looking to meet on here!!

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

NSA means to me that is just sex, nothing else involved but I still have to be physically attracted to someone and know we can have good banter and conversation during the time spent together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you are wrong when you thought that everybody is looking for NSA (well most anyway). I think where the confusion is that not everybody has your defintion of NSA. It is used by some men who are looking for a 'fuck n go' experience, so I guess that's what makes some people twitchy when the term 'nsa' is used. My advise is don't put 'nsa' on your profile, because it might be misinterpreted. And in all honesty you don't need to state the obvious - if you are using this site of course you are looking for NSA sex of some description.

Mrs

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By *hitedoveWoman
over a year ago

Croydon

When I meet I want NSA which means although I would need to like you as a person and there would need to be an attraction, any relationship we have doesn't go beyond the meet. There is no venturing into any other parts of my life or yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there"

That's true. I have feelings for all my lovers. But I enjoy those feelings and not let them turn into a string. It would probably be a different matter if I were single though. I have had a guy ( no longer on Fab develop what I suspected were unhealthy feelings for me, so womenare not the only ones that are capable of getting emotionally involved when it's supposed to be NSA.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a fuck and go and keep won't meet those that are. I'm seeing a friend and benefits, not NSA / fuck buddies... there is a difference. Funny enough I find no satisfaction from a roll on wham bam thank you mam leg over and go kind of guy.

A no commitment, no hassle, no expectations and stress free friendship with a guy I get on with on a semi to regular basis would be great. "

This is what I'm looking for

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there"

No she doesn't - most of the men I have had sex since my divorce are not remotely like relationship prospects and I would never think of them that way.

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

To me it means No Strings Attached.

You can become good friends, regular meet, must have feelings, I couldn't even sexually play with someone I wasn't attracted to, or had feelings..... I do care about others!

To me it means I don't want marriage, not looking to have children or be responsible for picking up the pieces in your private life, paying your bills and supporting you.

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

"To me it means No Strings Attached.

You can become good friends, regular meet, must have feelings, I couldn't even sexually play with someone I wasn't attracted to, or had feelings..... I do care about others!

To me it means I don't want marriage, not looking to have children or be responsible for picking up the pieces in your private life, paying your bills and supporting you."

.....forgot to add....

Although not ruling out, long term NSA fun and friendship can still blossom into a loving relationship. Who knows! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA to me means, a one off thing, unlikely to stay in contact or have a repeat meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think people just misspelled NASA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice sexy arse......

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over a year ago

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

That's true. I have feelings for all my lovers. But I enjoy those feelings and not let them turn into a string."

I love having elated desirous feelings for someone. It's a core part of the whole experience for me. Like you, however, I'm happy for them to just stay that, elated desirous feelings, and refrain from letting them get heavy and messy. Like you, I also think I'm only capable of this because I'm already in a relationship. It's a discipline of sorts but it's well worth it imo

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over a year ago

"To me it means No Strings Attached.

You can become good friends, regular meet, must have feelings, I couldn't even sexually play with someone I wasn't attracted to, or had feelings..... I do care about others!

To me it means I don't want marriage, not looking to have children or be responsible for picking up the pieces in your private life, paying your bills and supporting you."

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA means - No Sex Association

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA means that there are no ties , no requirements to stay in touch , you are free to play with others with no reprocussions , and the meet is without commitment .

That's NSA for us ."

This. I adore being passionate off the charts. A meet can be an outlet for totally letting go, for being utterly authentically in deep lust with another, no holding back, totally there, totally theirs... but level headed enough to put it back in its box when the evening is over or the morning comes and kiss and let each other go... no strings attached

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well am opposed to feelings because people are not safe investments in the presence of strong emotions.

I have seen so many ways in which ladies and guys react when they feel there is something there and there is nothing. A lady even told me she would like us to stop using condoms and I said babe, your pussy is sweet but the condoms stays on.

I don't like a fuck and go situation but most times those feelings can lead to regrets when you want to pull away from the association as one of my friends found out.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

No she doesn't - most of the men I have had sex since my divorce are not remotely like relationship prospects and I would never think of them that way."

same for me.

only one guy i've met off fab was relationship material to me and he left over a year ago anyway.

why does not wanting to be left used = relationship? i don't get it.

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By *onJazzyMan
over a year ago

UKwide

Different strokes for different people.

NSA for me is defining the rules of engagement from the start. People should never mistake this with emotions.

Fabswingis full of all sorts of requirements from people. Some like it rough, some in their arse, blindfolded....all sorts.

Personally i enjoy sex and if i do decide i wanna have it with a lady, i try to make sure we both enjoy it regardless whether its a one off or not

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

No she doesn't - most of the men I have had sex since my divorce are not remotely like relationship prospects and I would never think of them that way.

same for me.

only one guy i've met off fab was relationship material to me and he left over a year ago anyway.

why does not wanting to be left used = relationship? i don't get it."

Please explain this feeling babe, I thought you were using the guys cock so why would you feel the guy is leaving you after using you, this feels like vanilla but I may be wrong.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

No she doesn't - most of the men I have had sex since my divorce are not remotely like relationship prospects and I would never think of them that way.

same for me.

only one guy i've met off fab was relationship material to me and he left over a year ago anyway.

why does not wanting to be left used = relationship? i don't get it.

Please explain this feeling babe, I thought you were using the guys cock so why would you feel the guy is leaving you after using you, this feels like vanilla but I may be wrong."

I do not feel as 3sum does, but I can give you a couple of examples. The most common is deception - if someone deceives you to get what they want you feel slimed and used by that regardless. And the other is a bad attitude (callous, disrespectful or inconsiderate) - though if you talk to people long enough before meeting that usually becomes apparent so you can avoid them (unless they practice deception and are good at it). I have walked out of more than one meet when their deception became apparent, or they kept trying to bareback me when I said no.

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over a year ago

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By good communication and not making any assumptions

I think if a lady sleeps with a guy regularly she immediately feels there is something there

No she doesn't - most of the men I have had sex since my divorce are not remotely like relationship prospects and I would never think of them that way.

same for me.

only one guy i've met off fab was relationship material to me and he left over a year ago anyway.

why does not wanting to be left used = relationship? i don't get it.

Please explain this feeling babe, I thought you were using the guys cock so why would you feel the guy is leaving you after using you, this feels like vanilla but I may be wrong."

i'm not even meeting, i find this way of meeting guys now highly unsatifactory.

it's the same for me in the way that i don't look at any meets as potentials for relationships.

i'm not stupid though and would never rule out the possibility of one (hence why i almost had one with one guy off here but i panicked coz the timing was all wrong), it's just that's not what meeting for sex is.

so, i do not get why asking to be respected means that we are looking for a relationship.

and to answer you're actual question you can be left feeling used in a lot of ways. i think plenty guys don't care if we're left used (and it's obvious from their very first message they don't care), and i think plenty of guys are using stupid rules so that we won't become attached to them.

but out of well over 100 guys (many regular) and i only found one to be relationship material for me i don't get why men think we're wanting relationships if we don't want fuck and go? some could be friendship material.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Everyone will see it differently. Best thing is take it off your profile and just state your intentions via message..then you won't offend anyone from them.just reading your profile. I didn't think it ment emotionless but I can see why some would presieve it that way

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I'd call it NSA when you can be totally involved with someone whilst you're with them but then have no 'romantic' contact with them outside of the meet. So no expectations of further meets or sexy messaging. Also no sense of ownership or obligation over them.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"I'd call it NSA when you can be totally involved with someone whilst you're with them but then have no 'romantic' contact with them outside of the meet. So no expectations of further meets or sexy messaging. Also no sense of ownership or obligation over them. "

Yeah that makes sense..rule 101..you'll never please everyone all the time,and trying to do so will almost certainly mean you end up being unhappy

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By *onJazzyMan
over a year ago

UKwide

Lets just say..... it is what it is

"Managing Expectations"

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Ok I understand that feeling of being used now, but ladies you have to realise that ladies on here are very beautiful and very easy to fall for, especially if they have a nice attitude, to avoid falling for anyone I have to approach it like its just sex, I can be in the same room with a lady I like and she will be fucking another guy and it won't bother me cause I have approached it as just sex

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