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What's the difference between a 1 on 1 social and a date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought.

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

You don't understand the concept of swinging do you? As a woman who is part of a couple I also have a single fem profile and always always always have a social first - it s out the liars, idiots, fakes and downright dangerous. Try thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

But I don't want to date people so why would I go on a dating site?

A social for me is a coffee meet to check each other out, see whether we are compatable enough to plan a play meet. Those are my rules and how I chose to have socials.

So by your definition OP everyone who has socials shouldn't be here? Do you realise how many genuine people would be left? Comical!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a date if nobody is looking for a relationship!

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By *unseeker64Woman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"You don't understand the concept of swinging do you? As a woman who is part of a couple I also have a single fem profile and always always always have a social first - it s out the liars, idiots, fakes and downright dangerous. Try thinking about it "

That's exactly what I was going to say.

I like sex but I have to have a connection etc and also if I guy is willing to meet socially first he's willing to invest time and with that will surely be better sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't understand the concept of swinging do you? As a woman who is part of a couple I also have a single fem profile and always always always have a social first - it s out the liars, idiots, fakes and downright dangerous. Try thinking about it

That's exactly what I was going to say.

I like sex but I have to have a connection etc and also if I guy is willing to meet socially first he's willing to invest time and with that will surely be better sex?"

Seconded

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have socials basically to see if the guy is someone I'd like to have sex with. In no way do I consider that 'a date'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said above you can't judge what a person is like or if there anything like there pics from fab. So a social is the best way to make sure you all like each other are who you say you are if you just turned up to play and they weren't like there pics or a complete arse it would be a tricky and embarrassing to get out of there.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

A social isn't much different than a date just a nice chat to meet someone face to face over a drink / coffee. Also ensure they say who they are and if you both feel happy to play with each other.

Your not gonna invite some random stranger into your home or consider booking a hotel without meeting them before hand?? Is like a security / verification and peace of mind process more than anything too.

I enjoy them nice to meet someone new gain a friend even ifnothing happens. But I wouldn't agree with the comment about go on a dating site if you insist on socials before playing. Way too many wierdos fakes and time wasters on here....

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By *aughtychopsCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

It's a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a safety issue for me, as a single female. Plus, I want to see if there is a sexual connection. I would feel awkward going into an initial meet, with the expectation of a play at the end of it, to then have to say to their face that I'm not interested (not knowing their reaction), or to have them tell me they don't fancy me. Socials are more relaxed as an initial face to face contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP is obviously a fuck n go guy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

We all use fab differently, none of us is stranger than anyone else in that respect

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By *ollypop2000Woman
over a year ago

Derby

A social isn't a date! It's a interview lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

"

No, they're a social outing, the intention of the parties is what makes them dates, otherwise I've done a lot of dating of friends and family members. Going out in public with someone you might want to go further with makes perfect sense, it's about being safer than meeting in private , establishing they are what they say they area and seeing if the spark most of us are looking for is there. You might need a rethink on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some call it a social,

others suggest it's a date.

you say "tomato" others say "to may toe"

It's a fine line ....

shares a lot of similarities, the basic concept, starts off exactly the same.

Is there attraction, could I, would I?

The next bit, is down to what you're both looking for, why you're on Fabs & what do you expect, a date or a social?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

A social is meeting someone to see if they are sane in person, smell nice, match up with their pics and description on here, if there is a physical attraction and if you want to fuck them.

A date is meeting up with a person to see if they are someone that you could possibly spend the rest of your life with.... or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a date if nobody is looking for a relationship! "

This.

OP, how long after you've met someone do you expect your cock to be in them?

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By *r and Mrs DebaucheryCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Does it even matter if they are the same? Those that meet up for socials are obviously happy to do so, live and let live.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

P.S.

What is bowfin??

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By *SPrincessWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere near you


"P.S.

What is bowfin??"

Bowfin = something that makes you feel sick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A social is meeting someone to see if they are sane in person, smell nice, match up with their pics and description on here, if there is a physical attraction and if you want to fuck them.

A date is meeting up with a person to see if they are someone that you could possibly spend the rest of your life with.... or not."

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

So what are your expectations then? Do you expect a complete stranger to accommodate you and promise sex without meeting you first?

Have you ever thought that a single female likes to have the safety measure of meeting in public first?

Or is that all a waste of time for you?

If you want the promise of sex without meeting first, I would suggest you go down another route, but it may just cost you more than a cup of coffee or a glass of wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to date so won't use dating sites. I much prefer a social first to see if I fancy someone in person and want to take it further into the bedroom.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Nah ta. I'll keep using this site. I'm not looking for romance or a relationship.

When I meet a couple for a drink I'm not planning on moving in with them and working out how we can all get married.

OP, I think the intent is what creates the difference. I meet my friends for coffee; I don't want to date them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S.

What is bowfin??

Bowfin = something that makes you feel sick "

I wondered too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one meet and the couple didn't want a social. Besides making the situation very nerve wracking for my first meet, I didn't actually fancy the female upon meeting so I left. A social would of been more appropriate, and hoping my first is on the horizon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To my mind a social is a transaction where you have a friendly meet down the pub to see if you're all agreed on if you're going to fuck or not.

A date is a sensual sexy chase where you meet as potential playmates who, depending on whether your game is good enough, you may be able to seduce into fucking you.

The former is passive and unseductive, a necessary transaction before anything sexy happens. The latter is active and seductive, an integral part of play itself. That's why I'd always prefer a date over a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A social is meeting someone to see if they are sane in person, smell nice, match up with their pics and description on here, if there is a physical attraction and if you want to fuck them.

A date is meeting up with a person to see if they are someone that you could possibly spend the rest of your life with.... or not."

Laughing. Oh the irony......

I can see a basic flaw in this explanation, of the latter.... given that several who've followed through on dates, using this mindset & ended up on fabs...

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"You don't understand the concept of swinging do you? As a woman who is part of a couple I also have a single fem profile and always always always have a social first - it s out the liars, idiots, fakes and downright dangerous. Try thinking about it "

same here..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

That's a lot of incorrect assumptions OP, perhaps swinging is a concept that escapes you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a date if nobody is looking for a relationship! "

Hit the nail on the

Exactly this. OP do we just let you turn up without having me you and let you fuck me? give over .. seriously?

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Just because we're swingers doesn't mean we meet a complete stranger, drop knix and go all out? we always have some level of social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social 1st for safety reasons. I'm not looking to date, but I want to check that we each find one another attractive in the flesh, Thats a two way thing. If someone doesn't want to meet for a social, I won't take things any further. It's never been an issue thus far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials/dates , it's all part of the foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

As a single woman it makes sense to have a social, from a safety point of view if nothing else

Dating could not be further from my mind

Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a safety issue for me, as a single female. Plus, I want to see if there is a sexual connection. I would feel awkward going into an initial meet, with the expectation of a play at the end of it, to then have to say to their face that I'm not interested (not knowing their reaction), or to have them tell me they don't fancy me. Socials are more relaxed as an initial face to face contact. "
But you don't meet lol, us blokes missing out big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought.

But I don't want to date people so why would I go on a dating site?

A social for me is a coffee meet to check each other out, see whether we are compatable enough to plan a play meet. Those are my rules and how I chose to have socials.

So by your definition OP everyone who has socials shouldn't be here? Do you realise how many genuine people would be left? Comical!!"

some socials have a teasy ending -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a date if nobody is looking for a relationship!

This.

OP, how long after you've met someone do you expect your cock to be in them? "
Ha ha ha, think we need a like button in the forums

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

A date is much more about the chit chat, do you want to see them again with a view to a relationship.

A social is covering your back.

I wouldn't end many dates with arrangements to have sex next time!

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"You don't understand the concept of swinging do you? As a woman who is part of a couple I also have a single fem profile and always always always have a social first - it s out the liars, idiots, fakes and downright dangerous. Try thinking about it

That's exactly what I was going to say.

I like sex but I have to have a connection etc and also if I guy is willing to meet socially first he's willing to invest time and with that will surely be better sex?

Seconded "

Thirded

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As usual the Op has never even come back to his own thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

Your profile says your happy to go on a social meet.. have a coffee???

Strange!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To my mind a social is a transaction where you have a friendly meet down the pub to see if you're all agreed on if you're going to fuck or not.

A date is a sensual sexy chase where you meet as potential playmates who, depending on whether your game is good enough, you may be able to seduce into fucking you.

The former is passive and unseductive, a necessary transaction before anything sexy happens. The latter is active and seductive, an integral part of play itself. That's why I'd always prefer a date over a social "

I like the way you think (and great minds think alike)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It just make's sense to have a social first to make sure both parties feel an attraction.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

A date is a job interview to see if you might possibly be compatible partners.

A social is a job interview to see if you might possibly have sex with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

I like socials for many of the reasons mentioned above but also because I like people.

I would happily meet another guy off fab for a coffee and chat, so how would this be a date?? And no I'm not fab straight

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Social is just meeting up for a meal or coffee with no strings attached, a date is above but with chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social is just meeting up for a meal or coffee with no strings attached, a date is above but with chemistry."

Wouldn't you want some chemistry with someone you we're going to meet again for sex?

I think the whole branding as a social/date or whatever is unnecessary, it's just meeting up with someone to see if you're compatible.. even the reasoning isn't that different really.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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it is a date. but if you don't wanna have a date then why not use an escort site?

same logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."
to be honest when on as a single female I felt exactly the same. I just didn't want to do socials as dont want to date.

Ive since realised that it is different and just a way to meet but i prefer still to meet at a club and chat there rather than a totally separate social

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"A social isn't a date! It's a interview lol "

Noooooo

Don't call it an interview. I now have visions of three people sat in front of me, lights very bright, paper shuffling, lots of questions I know the answer to but nothing is coming out of my mouth.

Can I have a drink please

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Why the need to label it

If you don't want to do them then move on to the next profile, but respect peoples wishes who do want them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read alot of veris that describe 1 on 1 social meets and tbh virtually every one sounds like a date.

Going for a coffee, a drink, dinner are all dates.

So I suppose this leads me to think that people who insist on socials every time and especially the serial social people should maybe use an online dating site.

I've no issue with people using fab for this btw. Just think it's maybe a little strange and wondered what everyone else thought."

I have no issues with using the term 'date' in the swing scene. In fact the other mainstream swingers site has the word 'dating' in its title, thus recognising IMO that dating is a relevant part of swinging. My husband and I have met single men together and occasionally we will meet people alone. Either way, the meet will include a 'date' like experience. Why don't we use a dating site? Because we are swingers, therefore a swingers site is the best place for us.

Mrs

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