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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really struggling to land my first meet anyone got any tips or pointers ? thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

first port of call would be your profile...

so you had better start again

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"first port of call would be your profile...

so you had better start again "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 months with no verification and being bi will both put women off I'm afraid.

Your profile doesn't say anything about you as a person either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling to land my first meet anyone got any tips or pointers ? thanks "

You say in your profile that you are an experienced swinger. I would just carry on doing whatever it was you did to get that experience you had before.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really struggling to land my first meet anyone got any tips or pointers ? thanks

You say in your profile that you are an experienced swinger. I would just carry on doing whatever it was you did to get that experience you had before.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"9 months with no verification and being bi will both put women off I'm afraid.

Your profile doesn't say anything about you as a person either. "

It might put some women off. But, being a bisexual man on a swingers site, I suspect he isn't just looking for single women. Plenty of bi couples here who welcome bisexual men.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"9 months with no verification and being bi will both put women off I'm afraid.

Your profile doesn't say anything about you as a person either.

It might put some women off. But, being a bisexual man on a swingers site, I suspect he isn't just looking for single women. Plenty of bi couples here who welcome bisexual men.

Mrs"

His profile is written like it's aimed at women..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come on ladies you won't be disappointed" sounds like you're setting them up for an inevitable disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics are good so I'd work on your text

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers guys ! Taking this all in and I'll do my best to change the profile up

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Cheers guys ! Taking this all in and I'll do my best to change the profile up "

If you're serious about improving do a forum search for Profile Advice and read the good bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club. Make friends with someone for a social nothing more who can go with u or take u. Then u can meet people and show them that your genuine and they will pass the word on. Plus your get verifications which help to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go to a club. Make friends with someone for a social nothing more who can go with u or take u. Then u can meet people and show them that your genuine and they will pass the word on. Plus your get verifications which help to. "

Will definitely give this a try cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cheers guys ! Taking this all in and I'll do my best to change the profile up

If you're serious about improving do a forum search for Profile Advice and read the good bits "

Yeah I'll I've a little look through now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave the "I won't bite..." off your profile. It's almost as cringeworthy as the university disclaimer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha that's fair enough I'll take it off now

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Really struggling to land my first meet anyone got any tips or pointers ? thanks

You say in your profile that you are an experienced swinger. I would just carry on doing whatever it was you did to get that experience you had before.

Mrs"

lmao

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By *rish_And_BlondieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool and Ireland

I would absolutely suggest attending a club... you don't necessarily need to play, but socially you will gain respect where you can show off your personality which will definitely be key to you gaining an upper hand above most single guys on here - and with that will come verifications. And verifications will definitely help.

Good luck spud xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would absolutely suggest attending a club... you don't necessarily need to play, but socially you will gain respect where you can show off your personality which will definitely be key to you gaining an upper hand above most single guys on here - and with that will come verifications. And verifications will definitely help.

Good luck spud xxx"

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"first port of call would be your profile...

so you had better start again "

Wow..no advice just a shut down. And here's me thinking the forums were a place to get advice lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably less cock and more face and you'd possibly get places

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Really struggling to land my first meet anyone got any tips or pointers ? thanks "

Get to some socials lad. And depending where you're from. Get to Xtasia. It's the closet one to a normal night club that I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you "

Wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow! "

Sarcasm my good man.........

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man........."

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though. "

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse "

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me "

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?"

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles"

I find it pays to be picky Quality over quantity then you don't end up having disappointing meets either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles

I find it pays to be picky Quality over quantity then you don't end up having disappointing meets either "

And where do I send my application

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles

I find it pays to be picky Quality over quantity then you don't end up having disappointing meets either

And where do I send my application "

If only you lived nearer! Those abs look amazing Mmmm In all seriousness though, my hotlist is full right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles

I find it pays to be picky Quality over quantity then you don't end up having disappointing meets either

And where do I send my application

If only you lived nearer! Those abs look amazing Mmmm In all seriousness though, my hotlist is full right now"

I better be first on reserve lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good you have actually listened to advice here and amended your profile. Most dont and churn out the same post a few weeks later.

You dont have a heading. That stands out on searches and whose looked at me so think of something catchy to tempt an opening of your profile.

You've taken off " bite " thankfully - dont add in work hard play hard, or young hung cum - those are just as bad ! Lol .... this is your sex CV .... work it !

Good non ranty classy updates can also catch the eye and come up on "updates"

Also nice witty kind responses on forums can demonstrate your personality well and again get you noticed x

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is better - I felt you were bragging a bit in it yesterday, and I wondered how experienced you really were on the swing scene, given that you had cause to ask for advise on getting meets.

Paragraph 3 reads badly and doesn't make sense. Also anybody who finds your bisexuality a turn-off, that statement really emphasises it. I would also shorten paragraph 5 and just state that you are not looking for single men. You don't need to justify that statement. If you are bugged by single men then it might be worth blocking them messaging you.

This website is probably not the best site for single women, as there are relatively few here. I think a lot of men find Tinder better for that. But bi couples may well be interested in you, and there are plenty here, so your profile needs to be written to attract those couples. There are a few things that we look for with single male profiles looking for couple play. We ask ourselves if they have done this before, as we don't want to be tearing newbies. If you have threesome experience, might be worth mentioning that (but not in a braggy way). If you are willing to do a social and get to know the couple first, then do mention it as that will be in your favour. My main concern is that you can't accommodate. Where were you expecting to play? Would you be willing to go halves on a hotel, or are to expecting an invite to a couples house. Or maybe club meets would be your solution? Do be proactive on this matter - there's nothing worse than a young guy who leaves it to the couple to sort out.

Reduce the cock pics down to one only. Appreciate men like them, but excessive amounts of cock pics is a turn-off for a lot of women. Torso pics are good. Maybe some clothed or semi clothed pics that show a bit of sex appeal.

Mrs

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse "

Exactly..

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Or..... find the ugliest nastiest looking profile arrange a social turn up and hide it when she's verified you

Wow!

Sarcasm my good man.........

No it wasn't lol. Not a bad idea for a newbie though.

Especially the hiding the veri part! I go through all the verifiers' pics and if they've fucked one minger I'm turned off and move onto the next profile That might just be me though that does that? Who wants to meet someone who'll fuck anything with a pulse

I really don't mind one or two mingers but it's the people who have slag or cumdump in their name that fucking repulse me

Agree with you about the usernames

Also makes me laugh the number of these cumsluts that go on about practicing safe sex but are then quite happy to have loads of guys' cum in their mouths... or do they tbink you can't get STIs from oral?

I see loads (yes pun intended) of these profiles

I find it pays to be picky Quality over quantity then you don't end up having disappointing meets either

And where do I send my application

If only you lived nearer! Those abs look amazing Mmmm In all seriousness though, my hotlist is full right now"

She's luring mate lol

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By *amManJamMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Just talk to people. The art of conversation isn't dead, it just smells funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry been off here a few days thanks for all your advice it'll definitely be taken

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