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By *eetabix123 OP   Man
over a year ago

mold

Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The couples who say that include a married man. It's a tautological minefield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's called informed choice.

I'd also hazard a guess that the couples that wouldn't ask in a club environment possibly wouldn't care?

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

For us clubs minimises the risk of meeting married men as we go on couples nights. Admittedly they may go with a fwb but if we found out, we wouldn't play. Same goes for the ladies. We aren't here to aid cheats. Our preference

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

We don't go to clubs to play with anyone else. In reality it's not possible to be 100% sure that someone is single in any circumstance unless they're honest about it.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

We don't go to clubs to play with anyone else. In reality it's not possible to be 100% sure that someone is single in any circumstance unless they're honest about it."

Agreed

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

I'd say you don't understand that of those couple otherwise you wouldn't want things to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

and your point is what, exactly? the context of your question is unclear. Are you asking if they voluntarily change their own rules in that situation or that they should to accommodate someone they would normally choose to refuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most times you wouldnt know - especially in a club situation on the big beds - and if you asked and they said no - are you going to not believe them - nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's called informed choice.

I'd also hazard a guess that the couples that wouldn't ask in a club environment possibly wouldn't care?"

Exactly this! We do not want to play with cheating people but in a club would not ask someone if they are attached. Always asked on fab when we met off here and backed away if they said they were or even if we just suspected.When you meet in a club you take away the chances of a married/attached man saying will meet then not showing,the wife/partner finding out and bringing you into their marital problems etc.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer non married only because married are often a pain in the arse to arrange meets with - so when I am looking on here I say no married men etc. Not from a moralistic viewpoint but practical.

In a club when they are there in front of you its irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile. "

Agreed because as we all know " Fab straight " is the answer lol

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

I never really get in the heat of the moment at a club. Usually always have a chat. But when it has been in the moment, they have always been with what i assume is their wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never really get in the heat of the moment at a club. Usually always have a chat. But when it has been in the moment, they have always been with what i assume is their wife. "

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By *eetabix123 OP   Man
over a year ago

mold

I wasn't trying to make a point it was just an observation on cpls choice's and as somebody pointed out the same applies to bi men and I guess smokers too

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

How are you supposed to prove your single at a club or anywhere?

A note from ye mom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rely on people being honest. Other than that, sometimes there are telltale signs, but generally, it is not possible to determine if someone is married, attached or single

We are not judgemental but we don't meet married or attached people who are playing without their partner's knowledge and consent

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"For us clubs minimises the risk of meeting married men as we go on couples nights. Admittedly they may go with a fwb but if we found out, we wouldn't play. Same goes for the ladies. We aren't here to aid cheats. Our preference"

Same for us ,we usually chat to couples here first and arrange to meet at a club.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

nottinghamshire


"I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

"

That's because it's perfectly ok for women to cheat but not ok gor men. Clearly

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

That's because it's perfectly ok for women to cheat but not ok gor men. Clearly "

Not always some use the term people to cover women as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about guy's like me who have permission from there wife and she knows everything I do.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"What about guy's like me who have permission from there wife and she knows everything I do."

As your wife is on here too, I don't see a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about guy's like me who have permission from there wife and she knows everything I do.

As your wife is on here too, I don't see a problem. "

You will be surprised how many women and couples don't think that way it's so frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a questionnaire that we ask guys to fill in before play.

It's only a few pages long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The couples who say that include a married man. It's a tautological minefield. "

The couples who say that also say he meets alone but she's not allowed unless a bi fem

The phrase ... One rule for one...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, peoples rules or preferences don't necessarily change, all you're describing is the ability to ask or chat enough to find out.

In terms of the comment about preferences for bi guys / smokers etc etc, people can always lie. It doesn't make the requesters preference wrong.

You might prefer to not meet convicted axe murderers, but that person might lie to you about their conviction. Does it make your preference flawed?

MrB

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

That's because it's perfectly ok for women to cheat but not ok gor men. Clearly "

Since men and women are biologically and neurologically different then i see nothing odd about having different standards for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My former FWB was married to start with, he was upfront about that but lied about pretty much everything else. Once he couldn't meet because he was "in the office" all week. Year or so later, I asked about his office, said he didn't have one. Few weeks later he said he was in his office again! Lol

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

You know,loads of people chat in clubs before getting down now dirty. Clubs aren't one big orgy, they are social places too.... so you get to talk to a person and make a decision to fuck them before they climb on.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

In our experince. Married men seem more restricted. Where they can go. How long. Only certain nights. N can only have quick meets. Not all of them i know. But alot of married guys. Sometimes it can be hard work to arrange a meet with married guy. When they are at a club. Then no probs there.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

The flaw is in the use of language. It's not married people per se that they have problems with, it's aiding and abetting a cheater.

What they SHOULD say on their profile is something along the lines of "We will not (knowingly) play with cheaters." Obviously the cheater may be inclined to lie on reading this so if I was to personally apply that selection criteria, I wouldn't say or ask anything. I would simply assume that everyone WASN'T cheating until proven otherwise.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

That's because it's perfectly ok for women to cheat but not ok gor men. Clearly

Since men and women are biologically and neurologically different then i see nothing odd about having different standards for them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The couples who say that include a married man. It's a tautological minefield.

The couples who say that also say he meets alone but she's not allowed unless a bi fem

The phrase ... One rule for one... "

Some couples make rules to suit themselves. We certainly do; we do not feel the need to appease others here or elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think everyone is entitled to their own thing, some people like or don't like circumstances and others don't really care.

What always makes me laugh though is that it is always about no married men on these subjects and on profiles, and I don't think I've ever seen No married women.

That's because it's perfectly ok for women to cheat but not ok gor men. Clearly

Since men and women are biologically and neurologically different then i see nothing odd about having different standards for them. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i go to a club i always slip my decree nisi in my back pocket just incase ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile. "

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )"

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock. "

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X"

Fair enough, i guess i can think of things that arent visible but would psychologically make me not want to fuck someone

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I wasn't trying to make a point it was just an observation on cpls choice's and as somebody pointed out the same applies to bi men and I guess smokers too "

Straight men as well. I've seen profiles from bi couples who only want to meet bisexual men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X"

I feel the same about bi women. Complete passion killer.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X

I feel the same about bi women. Complete passion killer. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X

I feel the same about bi women. Complete passion killer.

"

I'm serious

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X

I feel the same about bi women. Complete passion killer.

I'm serious

"

I don't find two women unattractive but i also don't find it in the least bit arousing. I'd rather watch a nature programme than lesbian porn to be honest.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

Wtf have clubs got to do with fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a questionnaire that we ask guys to fill in before play.

It's only a few pages long. "

I still don't understand the question about being single on page 14.

I've asked the wife and she doesn't know either. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely

I've often thought the same thing about couples who state "no bi guys" on their profile.

We state that and know that in clubs it may happen and people are dishonest about it but to the best of our ability. Ive stopped play instantly in a case where a guy suddenly boasted about his wife thought he was out with mates and again when a guy that had said he was straight..suddenly showed he was definitely not. ( lets just say he tried to help me suck cock. )

What exactly bothers you about a guy that is bi? They / we are higher STD risk so if it's about reducing risk then i could understand that, but otherwise you'd have no way of knowing that I'm partial to cock.

Honestly it is just a turn off.. if/once I know. X

I feel the same about bi women. Complete passion killer.

I'm serious

I don't find two women unattractive but i also don't find it in the least bit arousing. I'd rather watch a nature programme than lesbian porn to be honest. "

I'm not a watcher of porn. I'm more a nature program kinda person too.

In the flesh two women going at it won't do anything for me in the arousal department. However, two hot guys just kissing gets me really going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Many Cpl profiles on here state that they wont meet married men under no circumstances which is fine and can understand that but how does that work in clubs surely in the heat of the moment as it were, a single guy wouldn't get asked are you married or single surely"

What rules must change?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fan allows the chance of honesty and openness...that's why we all have preferences and settings ...

I'd guess in a club environment those preferences still stand and the said couple can only hope that the person is being honest towards them

That's my take on it

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