FabSwingers.com forum: NSA

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

To me it reads one nighters, pigeon holing an hour or something with someone which is just like a one nighter. Not for me. Of little substance and being treated like I've no feelings or emotions to fulfil someone else's needs and not mine.

What are your views?

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?"

Well you seem to be reading it wrong.

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship.

NSA does not mean having one-nighters or quickies.

I have had NSA fun with countless women, most of whom have become repeats and regular meets; not one nighters.

Most of my meets last for 5 hours or more; not quickies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks.

Gives me an insight. Hence the question x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But isn't that edging to fb or fwb.

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

Well you seem to be reading it wrong.

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship.

NSA does not mean having one-nighters or quickies.

I have had NSA fun with countless women, most of whom have become repeats and regular meets; not one nighters.

Most of my meets last for 5 hours or more; not quickies. "

I agree you are def reading it wrongly

We hubby and i have had a regular NSA relationship woth another couple for years though sadly now they have split up which has left us looking for another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice sexy arse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we here to judge isn't it really ...whatever floats your boat, horses for courses, and should we not be celebrating diversity and choice ..live and let live

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"But isn't that edging to fb or fwb. "

Yes it is kind off edging to a FB, but then a FB is one type of an NSA arrangement.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Your definition of NSA might not be for you, but it is for others. I would run a mile at the first sign of someone wanting to be regular, as to me that means they want to start controlling my meets. One night stands are just what I'm after.

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

We think nsa means just that, one nighters, or one or two times maybe. Just sex and no more. Don't want or need anything else from anyone.

We have got each other for that emotional level.

Too many want to chat or try to stay in touch, especially guys. Persistantly message afterwards thinking that you owe them something more just because you're met them once.

Its why we prefer clubs, tho even three some guys think that they should try to be your friend first.

For us it's just about the excitement of sex with others. Just some didn't get the whole nsa thing.

Of course, everyone is different and all looking for their own thing out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get that.

Sometimes men immediately start the can we do a couple's profile and I do like doing my own thing.

But I also like building on something in my free time with people. Maybe I got it wrong. It will open my mind more to things.

But I suppose it's like anything. You only find out if you ask them x

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By *regboy49Man
over a year ago

Sandhurst

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

Well you seem to be reading it wrong.

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship.

NSA does not mean having one-nighters or quickies.

I have had NSA fun with countless women, most of whom have become repeats and regular meets; not one nighters.

Most of my meets last for 5 hours or more; not quickies. "

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Your definition of NSA might not be for you, but it is for others. I would run a mile at the first sign of someone wanting to be regular, as to me that means they want to start controlling my meets. One night stands are just what I'm after."

Well I did not say NSA means having regulars. One night stands and regulars can all fall under NSA.

If you missed my definition, here is it again:

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Well I did not say NSA means having regulars. One night stands and regulars can all fall under NSA.

If you missed my definition, here is it again:

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship."

I wasn't replying to you. I would have quoted your post if that was the case. I was replying to the OP.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

Well I did not say NSA means having regulars. One night stands and regulars can all fall under NSA.

If you missed my definition, here is it again:

NSA means meeting up for fun, but not getting sucked into commitments & obligations like one would have in a vanilla relationship.

I wasn't replying to you. I would have quoted your post if that was the case. I was replying to the OP."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say for instance you meet and play with people at a club or party - doesnt mean you are treated as though you have no feelings - play with the right people and its just the opposite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"say for instance you meet and play with people at a club or party - doesnt mean you are treated as though you have no feelings - play with the right people and its just the opposite "

Yeah but in a club scene you talk to them first so it warms me up a bit more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"say for instance you meet and play with people at a club or party - doesnt mean you are treated as though you have no feelings - play with the right people and its just the opposite

Yeah but in a club scene you talk to them first so it warms me up a bit more x "

surely you dont read a profile and go straight to shagging ?? talk to them and have a social prior to or a social with play after if agreed - just a bit more prolonged than a club meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think NSA can mean slightly different things to different people OP, so probably worth not writing someone off straight away for using the term.... it may be that their interpretation of it is the same as yours

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?"

guys without that on their profile act like this too.

when i think about NSA though i just think they want to use you and don't really give a shit about you, which is fine if you want to use them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say NSA is an umbrella term for lots of things, from a quick meet to a regular fb/fwb.

Just means no obligation to keep in contact. You still can, but not guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

guys without that on their profile act like this too.

when i think about NSA though i just think they want to use you and don't really give a shit about you, which is fine if you want to use them too."

That's my understanding x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"say for instance you meet and play with people at a club or party - doesnt mean you are treated as though you have no feelings - play with the right people and its just the opposite

Yeah but in a club scene you talk to them first so it warms me up a bit more x

surely you dont read a profile and go straight to shagging ?? talk to them and have a social prior to or a social with play after if agreed - just a bit more prolonged than a club meet"

No course not. But I wouldn't generally start a conversation with an nsa profile. That's the point. Not everyone I chat to results in a meet. This thread shows how different people digest information differently. It's always good to find out other people's opinions.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

For some it's a NSA relationship not what you're describing at all, very rewarding and fulfilling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, NSA means no emotional ties, or commitments. Just great quality sexy time with likeminded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

guys without that on their profile act like this too.

when i think about NSA though i just think they want to use you and don't really give a shit about you, which is fine if you want to use them too.

That's my understanding x "

With respect I beg to differ it's not about caring a shit or not it's about the electricity of the moment the magic it brings ...embrace it ...it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great feedback. It just shows how our thoughts can mislead others.

I may be more open to finding out more. I fall into the NSA bracket of not wanting to bring my personal business into my meet. Or my kids time which is through week. But I would like to be personal with people when I'm with them. So thanks everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct op

I avoid them like the plague. Means fuck and go. Means I won't be interested in you - only your anatomy.

Sex with absolutely no interest emotionally in the person. Basically 'any old cunt suits' as my friend on here states.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

guys without that on their profile act like this too.

when i think about NSA though i just think they want to use you and don't really give a shit about you, which is fine if you want to use them too."

Nailed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you have a choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But you have a choice "

It's anyone disputing that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?"

We see it as meaning "no drama or complications".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm but why the moral high ground

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground "

The weather is much better and things are only wet for the right reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground "

I haven't seen that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as someone wanting sex without having a relationship.

They want to spend time with you on a sexual basis only.

I don't see it that they don't give a shit about you though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

I haven't seen that? "

Its easier to see when you aren't stood on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

The weather is much better and things are only wet for the right reasons

Where at the top or the bottom ..lol xx

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

The weather is much better and things are only wet for the right reasons

Where at the top or the bottom ..lol xx"

At the top, however things are much more desirable at bottom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

The weather is much better and things are only wet for the right reasons

Where at the top or the bottom ..lol xx

At the top, however things are much more desirable at bottom

Ooh pray tell...lol xx

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

The weather is much better and things are only wet for the right reasons

Where at the top or the bottom ..lol xx

At the top, however things are much more desirable at bottom

Ooh pray tell...lol xx

It has rainbow squirting unicorns, single men with more messages and meets they can handle, cheaters at the top of the list of the most desirable on fab, the men hating females getting a taste of their own medicine and couples with an anbundance of playmates to accommodate their every whim

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well I can have a torrid night of passion with some hot tottie I will never need to see again if I feel like it - but I very rarely do nowadays.

But when it comes to regular meets - well I think nsa is bullshit at best - used as an excuse for treating people badly at worst. Once I meet someone regularly I DO feel we are under obligation - to be honest, kind and considerate, respectful, even loyal in many ways. That's what friends ARE, in any walk of life - well I am anyway.

If someone wants me to be there for them, chat several times a day or spend hours on the phone - then yes, that is a considerable emotional investment, we have created a lot of strings, and in my opinion any friendship comes with a duty of care anyway.

With some of the guys I meet regularly this is never even discussed - no need, it should be axiomatic, that IS how decent people behave!!

What there should NOT be is any form of deception, or attempts at domination, manipulation or control. But in my view that is the case for all relationships anyway, however informal - the only things worth having are those freely given.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?"

And yes OP, if I see 'nsa' pushed too strongly on a profile I normally pass on by.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No commitment. No drama. Can both walk away whenever

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I can have a torrid night of passion with some hot tottie I will never need to see again if I feel like it - but I very rarely do nowadays.

With some of the guys I meet regularly this is never even discussed - no need, it should be axiomatic, that IS how decent people behave!!

"
I love this post. Exactly where I think I view my place with people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also dislike the phrase as it infers something unerotic, mechanical, fleeting and unsatisfying. I also think the mix of NSA and swinging has been detrimental to swinging, which used to be about swapping partners for a night of erotic passion but now seems to be about using others to complement your sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

I haven't seen that?

Its easier to see when you aren't stood on it"

You're saying I'm taking the moral high ground?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

I haven't seen that?

Its easier to see when you aren't stood on it

You're saying I'm taking the moral high ground? "

Far be it for me to infer.I was merely pointing out the sutlty of the argument and the potential conflict ...I do believe that tolerance and acceptance in a environment of respect is a good platform for expression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

I haven't seen that?

Its easier to see when you aren't stood on it

You're saying I'm taking the moral high ground?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm but why the moral high ground

I haven't seen that?

Its easier to see when you aren't stood on it

You're saying I'm taking the moral high ground?

totally with you there!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Well I can have a torrid night of passion with some hot tottie I will never need to see again if I feel like it - but I very rarely do nowadays.

With some of the guys I meet regularly this is never even discussed - no need, it should be axiomatic, that IS how decent people behave!!

I love this post. Exactly where I think I view my place with people x "

Good. I do believe 3some is correct in saying this game can be toxic, for singles particularly sometimes.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I can have a torrid night of passion with some hot tottie I will never need to see again if I feel like it - but I very rarely do nowadays.

With some of the guys I meet regularly this is never even discussed - no need, it should be axiomatic, that IS how decent people behave!!

I love this post. Exactly where I think I view my place with people x

Good. I do believe 3some is correct in saying this game can be toxic, for singles particularly sometimes."

i'm sick of guys saying they want a relationship just coz they want bareback (which i would give them anyway if they showed me i could trust them and be completely open with them). they never act like they want one, just a bb fuck when they're available for one. hate how they think i'm stupid though coz i don't believe them, like only one guy i did believe him and that was after meeting him for weeks regularly...and he did leave this site months later when he got into a relationship after what we had went tits up (i fucked it up, not bothered, the timing was all wrong).

anyway i learned (after several times, just to be sure and not coz i am a too trusting idiot

) that you can't trust most people and they are not honest from the off.

i never expected to rely on them, just that level of honesty is not there with most people.

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

"We also dislike the phrase as it infers something unerotic, mechanical, fleeting and unsatisfying. I also think the mix of NSA and swinging has been detrimental to swinging, which used to be about swapping partners for a night of erotic passion but now seems to be about using others to complement your sex life "

And that's what it is for us, we are using others to compliment our sex life tho I'm sure they also get as much fun out of it as well.

Just not as interested in any more from people, we are not looking for friendship or any kind of relationship from others. Just fun and and variety.

Some think that just because you have met them before you should be almost obligated to meet them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does it actually mean.

No strings attached. I get that. But as soon as I read NSA on profiles I'm out.

What are your views?

guys without that on their profile act like this too.

when i think about NSA though i just think they want to use you and don't really give a shit about you, which is fine if you want to use them too."

When I read 'NSA' I think of this too. It puts me right off. I think there's a fine line between 'no strings' and being treated like a wet hole.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I watched part of the date site murder programme tonight, and one commentator said 'These sites are a perfect breeding ground for low empathy expectations such as immediate sex.'

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I watched part of the date site murder programme tonight, and one commentator said 'These sites are a perfect breeding ground for low empathy expectations such as immediate sex.'

dunno if i should watch this, i have trust issues already. found the other programmes i was interested in thanks to your green arrow though.

i'm watching psychopath nights on 4oD right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me NSA just means you want to meet with someone be it once or every week indefinitely but dont want to know about each others personnel lives outside of the meet and dont want to end up in a girlfriend / boyfriend situation

and is that such a bad thing?

has nothing to do with how you treat each other or not giving a shit

when i am with someone myself i treat them no different than if they were my actual partner and give them lots of respect and expect the same back but i say from the first meet that what ever happens i am not here and never will be looking for a full on relationship hense NSA

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