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By *eznhannah OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

ok this may have already been done in the forum, and may sound a bit shallow, but when browsing looking for potential victims do you check the verifications of the couples you are looking at, we do and find sometimes we are put off by who the potentials have played with,

we dont go by looks alone but somtimes if a couple have played with the exact opposit of what we want out of a couple we just think nah... and move on, even if the couple themselves seem compatible

like i said it may seem a bit shallow, but if for example a couple we are interested in have played with a bareback only couple that would be a no no for us (please please dont start the safe sex debate again we have read it and took it on board) just funny things like that

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By *yruMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Being on another site I will admit as I'm sure a good number are I tend to look at verifications then roam around I don't think it's always case that the user has been with somebody reflects upon themselves .

We all have difference of opinion but the user / users your looking at may be real nice .

They may well have gotten on real well it's the chance of meeting or talking to them yourselves that will decide if you click .Or are we talking of appearance .

In any case if we don't like look or talking to a user we move along I don't think it should put us off .

It might be more ok if users could just show verification on there profile but blank so we can make our own conclusions .

I don't want this to sound out of term just my point of view what do I know I'm new here .

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"ok this may have already been done in the forum, and may sound a bit shallow, but when browsing looking for potential victims do you check the verifications of the couples you are looking at, we do and find sometimes we are put off by who the potentials have played with,

we dont go by looks alone but somtimes if a couple have played with the exact opposit of what we want out of a couple we just think nah... and move on, even if the couple themselves seem compatible

like i said it may seem a bit shallow, but if for example a couple we are interested in have played with a bareback only couple that would be a no no for us (please please dont start the safe sex debate again we have read it and took it on board) just funny things like that "

100% the same here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definatly, i look at a guys verifs, and if he has been with what i class as a minger its a deffo no no, i only meet guys with morals and standards, well, i made an exception with one, lol

he was at a week point, bless him...he's seen the light now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i appreciate what is being said, but i think it fails to take into account the rapport that may have been built up between the individuals before the meet.

I have met some that are not absolute stunners, but through chatting has made the experience worthwhile and I have been glad to have met them.

So yes, you are bloody shallow! hee hee

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me personally, i dont care if guys have built up a rapport for years, if he shags a minger he'l shag owt, yes im shallow and i dont care, i have high standards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i looked at one guys profile who sent me a message i thought hmm he looks nice then i saw who he had shagged,,,,, nuff said ewwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"me personally, i dont care if guys have built up a rapport for years, if he shags a minger he'l shag owt, yes im shallow and i dont care, i have high standards... "

Well, can't really argue with that one!

Ultimately, it is down to the individuals involved who the shag, why they shag them and who won't shag them. I do find it sad though that people look at someone and dismiss them for these reasons, but hey, thats life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"me personally, i dont care if guys have built up a rapport for years, if he shags a minger he'l shag owt, yes im shallow and i dont care, i have high standards...

Well, can't really argue with that one!

Ultimately, it is down to the individuals involved who the shag, why they shag them and who won't shag them. I do find it sad though that people look at someone and dismiss them for these reasons, but hey, thats life."

i think its quite valid to dismiss them for that reason, i would not want to be with someone who will go with ANYTHING for me there has to be some attraction to be able to meet, but with others there just has to be a hole and they will meet anyone i do not want to be involed with they skanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i fully appreciate that view, each to their own. I would say that if the person is good looking enough that you would be interested in meeting them, a few well chosen questions would help determine if they will just fuck anything with a pulse.

Surely if you found they built up a rapport with people, it shows they are not just after bodies, but minds too.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this also comes down to what people perceive from public pictures. I have seen some that have made me go wow, then had private ones sent and then not been impressed and vice versa.

Also, i have seen larger girls that are really really pretty and prefer those to women I don't perceive as pretty, but have bodies to die for.

This is the subjective nature of the topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok this may have already been done in the forum, and may sound a bit shallow, but when browsing looking for potential victims do you check the verifications of the couples you are looking at, we do and find sometimes we are put off by who the potentials have played with,

we dont go by looks alone but somtimes if a couple have played with the exact opposit of what we want out of a couple we just think nah... and move on, even if the couple themselves seem compatible

like i said it may seem a bit shallow, but if for example a couple we are interested in have played with a bareback only couple that would be a no no for us (please please dont start the safe sex debate again we have read it and took it on board) just funny things like that "

Absolutely,call it guilty by association if you like but any bareback pics,meets with "cum sluts",straight guys whose varifications prove they aren't or people who don't display varifications,all set alarm bells ringing.Plus of course,as has already been said,people who'll shag anything.

We don't think its shallow,just safe common sense.

XXXX

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By *eznhannah OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

thanks for all that, having said all that i am talkin about played with verifications, we have a few who we have met but at clubs who are really nice but have never played with them

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By *edhot4blkCouple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i have to say im so shallow if i went for a paddle i wouldnt even get my toes wet...if i see the guys verifications which shows he meets mingers etc he will not be meeting me, i meet guys who are choosey and dont shag any thing just to get off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what i have found funny on the site, and in no way am i insinuating anything to people on this thread or delusions about my own looks, is that those who go on about the quality of the people they won't meet are generally not much to look at themselves.

Once again, just an observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moral dilemmas again!!

If the person you are going to meet falls under all your criteria and you practise safe sex - why do you deem it necessary to judge their previous behaviour??

Is it a high ranking virtue on swinging sites to only have sex with those who have had sex with those you'd have sex with ? ( I know what I mean :P )

Game of celibacy anyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how eloquently put! I was going to call it elitist a bullshit myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Rich - quite - but i'm a laydeh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me its not about the looks of the people they have had sex with, its the amout of people and the amout of people the other person has slept with, if i see one guy and on his verifacions he has been with a woman who has had nearly every bloke of this site, i wont touch him at all,. if people have no respect for themselfs they will have no respect for others, just cos i swing dont mean i have to fuck ever person who i come into contact with... some people disagree tho and their verications prove that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew ... I can see the value in each argument.

Admin!

New search criteria pls.... e.g list only those that have fucked less than five other people and leave out anyone that's been with that slag in the cheap undies and the plastic heels!

There that should do it x x x

Or - leave out GrannyCrumpet cos she's wise enough not to list her verifications like a badge of honour. Ergo pick me and love virginal li'l ole me but .... sheesh.... ya don't know WHAT ive been up to DO ya really?

Iodine Dip and a dose of self responsibility anyone ?

Please someone help me. It's a legit question. How does joining a swingers site and swinging to your hearts content equal a lack of self respect ? Que ?

I'm off for sexual therapy at my abstinence meeting. xx Gran xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love it! The fact that it has changed from looks to numbers makes me laugh.

The average swinger has probably had more partners than the street i live in, but why does that matter.

At least i can't wait until i reach so many that nobody touches me anymore. Will have been fun getting there.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"love it! The fact that it has changed from looks to numbers makes me laugh.

The average swinger has probably had more partners than the street i live in, but why does that matter.

At least i can't wait until i reach so many that nobody touches me anymore. Will have been fun getting there.

X"

you got a lot to say why dont u show me where i said i base things on looks?? if u take a look u will see i have never said for me its their looks.

your very defenisve about this looks thing hun..... wonder why lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has to delete last message as i read your wrong.

It's a legit question. How does joining a swingers site and swinging to your hearts content equal a lack of self respect ?

i think its simple, swinging does not mean poking any old hole no matter of looks and personailty just to get ya kegs on.

for some people yes that is for them but for me and many others its not. i would rather shag a halff minger who aint had sex in a year cos he has not found someone he was attractted to looks/personailty then a fit fella who has shagged everything that moves with no regard to his own tastes and likes cos a any hole is a goal.

so i would rather be prude and not open my legs for anyone just to say i am a swinger and can get laid.

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Sorry but all this makes no sense to us.

We came here to swing and swing we will.

Yes we look at the verifications of those we are interested in meeting but only too see how they got on with other folks, who are we to judge who they find attractive?

We also often look at the verifications of those we have already met and had a great time with - because we find it is a good way of locating other genuine couples to meet ouselves and can ast as a kind of 'ice-breaker'

To show everyone has a differernt idea of what is attractive we bet not one of you could define what is a minger and what is not. Please do try though...

xxxx

Julie & Rich

And to pro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't posess the necessary arrogance to define others.

Thanks for the level headed, rational comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse me, permission to speak??

I don't particularly want to go 'off topic' here but I do have to say that having been on the site for 2 or 3 months now, I do regularly smile at the seeming barriers that women and couples often put up against meeting! On the one hand they say they want to meet, but then they list a load of dos and don'ts, wills and won'ts.

Now obviously, they're perfectly correct in listing likes and dislikes, but then you get queries, as elsewhere in these forums, guys asking for advise as to how they can meet people. So it now seems that besides having a pic, writing a decent profile, etc etc, we now have to restrict the number of people we meet!!!????

What on earth's that all about?? On a swinging site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so from what i gather i have it wrong. swinging is about shaggin as many people as u can no matter what and taste and self respect go out the window cos u want to swing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didn't say you had turned it into looks, but others on the thread have.

I think RichNJudy have hit the nail on the head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excuse me, permission to speak??

I don't particularly want to go 'off topic' here but I do have to say that having been on the site for 2 or 3 months now, I do regularly smile at the seeming barriers that women and couples often put up against meeting! On the one hand they say they want to meet, but then they list a load of dos and don'ts, wills and won'ts.

Now obviously, they're perfectly correct in listing likes and dislikes, but then you get queries, as elsewhere in these forums, guys asking for advise as to how they can meet people. So it now seems that besides having a pic, writing a decent profile, etc etc, we now have to restrict the number of people we meet!!!????

What on earth's that all about?? On a swinging site??

"

no one has said u have to restrict anything, this is my choice not to meet someone who i think will shag a sheep if no one else was around, this is JUST my choice and i do not and KNOW not every one feels like this, and no matter what anyone says to me i wont reconsider myself on this as its my choice to swing how ever i like and the same for u,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmm is it one of those nice Marino sheep with tight curls and a black face ? or your ordinary common or garden Welsh Sheep? I think I would draw the line at a man who had too many Welsh sheep verifying him. Shows great lack of adventure and willingness to experiment. Isn't Sheepiality illegal anyway ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all of us after years spent swinging will eventually have a list of those we have shagged with - its the ones that are in a rush to meet and fuck everyone they can in as quick a time as possible that are to be avoided as far as I'm concerned.

for me self respect is also a big part of things

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By *eznhannah OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

the reason i asked the question to start off with wasnt based on numbers as everyone is different, some have higher drives, some do this as a fun hobby some as a lifestyle so numbers wouldnt put us off, but can understand those who it does,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Moral dilemmas again!!

If the person you are going to meet falls under all your criteria and you practise safe sex - why do you deem it necessary to judge their previous behaviour??

Is it a high ranking virtue on swinging sites to only have sex with those who have had sex with those you'd have sex with ? ( I know what I mean :P )

Game of celibacy anyone ? "

if he shags mingers he doesnt fall under my criteria

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

remember one persons minger is anothers god/godess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"remember one persons minger is anothers god/godess "

your dead right there, wot i class a minger is my opinion only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz. "

i dont know why they get all upset give a pity fuck to cheer um up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz.

i dont know why they get all upset give a pity fuck to cheer um up lol "

eww no ta kitty, i aint into sympathy shags either lol, feel free tho if u wanna

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz.

i dont know why they get all upset give a pity fuck to cheer um up lol "

reminds me of a time just after we started swinging, we were at Chams and a woman asked K if she had ever done a charity F**K, well we thought she wanted sponsorship for a gang bang but what she actually meant was she had been with a 'minger' cos her hubby fancied the pants off the woman in the partnership! god were we embarassed

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

oh and yeah she went with me the next time we saw them ........ I just hope I wasn't the minger she was refering too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz.

i dont know why they get all upset give a pity fuck to cheer um up lol

reminds me of a time just after we started swinging, we were at Chams and a woman asked K if she had ever done a charity F**K, well we thought she wanted sponsorship for a gang bang but what she actually meant was she had been with a 'minger' cos her hubby fancied the pants off the woman in the partnership! god were we embarassed "

omg lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt everyone entitled to there own rules, mine are i dont meet men who shag mingers, if that offends tuff shit, i didn't join this site to go easy on peoples feelings, i joined it to meet the kind of men i look for. Far to many people on here get all defensive when someone says they wont meet xyz.

i dont know why they get all upset give a pity fuck to cheer um up lol

eww no ta kitty, i aint into sympathy shags either lol, feel free tho if u wanna "

no i am sure i will have better sex on my own, but thanks for passing it on ffs lol

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We have played with people that have swong with a fair amount of people, they may full swing but we do not. Al; the people with played with we have liked enjoyed a chat with maybe over several weeks etc. ( at clubs) people do different things when they feel like it.

for example you might feel like shagging five or six guys. as your horny as fuck (if you read the meets section its a common pharse that why i used it.)

so they are totally different to us. as they full swing or enjoy orgies, so if you have done one orgy every three months, and in that orgy the is 4 couples two signle ladies and five guys you could have 11 verications on just one happy evening, the gys may have only rubbed your back, yet they said say thats for a coll horny night. so in one year you could have upto 44 verications and you only been to four parties, yet the is nothing to point this out.

ok i'll get me coat and hide

ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have played with people that have swong with a fair amount of people, they may full swing but we do not. Al; the people with played with we have liked enjoyed a chat with maybe over several weeks etc. ( at clubs) people do different things when they feel like it.

for example you might feel like shagging five or six guys. as your horny as fuck (if you read the meets section its a common pharse that why i used it.)

so they are totally different to us. as they full swing or enjoy orgies, so if you have done one orgy every three months, and in that orgy the is 4 couples two signle ladies and five guys you could have 11 verications on just one happy evening, the gys may have only rubbed your back, yet they said say thats for a coll horny night. so in one year you could have upto 44 verications and you only been to four parties, yet the is nothing to point this out.

ok i'll get me coat and hide

ian"

if a guy only rubbed my back, he'd be getting more than his fekkin coat , pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have played with people that have swong with a fair amount of people, they may full swing but we do not. Al; the people with played with we have liked enjoyed a chat with maybe over several weeks etc. ( at clubs) people do different things when they feel like it.

for example you might feel like shagging five or six guys. as your horny as fuck (if you read the meets section its a common pharse that why i used it.)

so they are totally different to us. as they full swing or enjoy orgies, so if you have done one orgy every three months, and in that orgy the is 4 couples two signle ladies and five guys you could have 11 verications on just one happy evening, the gys may have only rubbed your back, yet they said say thats for a coll horny night. so in one year you could have upto 44 verications and you only been to four parties, yet the is nothing to point this out.

ok i'll get me coat and hide

ian

if a guy only rubbed my back, he'd be getting more than his fekkin coat , pmsl "

only 44 verifs in a year, thats a poor effort lol

glad u cant see all mine

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

always remember you have the choice to publish or not to publish

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

go on then, can i have a little peek pretty please, as you seem our. ( i nearlt said mine to the other half whacked me. ) am not in BDSM LOL

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

puresilk, am sure all men would loveto do more than rub your back.

Would you like me to mow your lawn, as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so the 200056 verifactions of people saying ur pussy is nice, is just people tripping and fell on a cock lol

i am not talking about just any verications as i have many from epople who i have not shagged so i know others will do as well, its the blanten ones and i am talking loaaaaaaaaaaaaads which put me off, and i am just talking about me before u all hve a fucking fit,

if i slept with every guy in the pub its not something i would wanna shout about next time i went back there, who should swinging make it diffrent and because i would not be proud to state yes look guys i have fucked everything that moved high five, that is someone who i would not like to fuck. my choice the same as its anyone choice to do what i dont do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"puresilk, am sure all men would loveto do more than rub your back.

Would you like me to mow your lawn, as well "

i have no lawn to mow,

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

kitty, i was only pointing out just how people could get a good few reviews, and to honest i agree with what your saying.

I just makin g light harted chat really.

i was not out offend or piss anyone off.

regards

Ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have played with people that have swong with a fair amount of people, they may full swing but we do not. Al; the people with played with we have liked enjoyed a chat with maybe over several weeks etc. ( at clubs) people do different things when they feel like it.

for example you might feel like shagging five or six guys. as your horny as fuck (if you read the meets section its a common pharse that why i used it.)

so they are totally different to us. as they full swing or enjoy orgies, so if you have done one orgy every three months, and in that orgy the is 4 couples two signle ladies and five guys you could have 11 verications on just one happy evening, the gys may have only rubbed your back, yet they said say thats for a coll horny night. so in one year you could have upto 44 verications and you only been to four parties, yet the is nothing to point this out.

ok i'll get me coat and hide

ian

if a guy only rubbed my back, he'd be getting more than his fekkin coat , pmsl

only 44 verifs in a year, thats a poor effort lol

glad u cant see all mine "

that was a joke lol yeah i dont show them all, but i havnt got tons, well i dont think i have

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Ok no lawn and potting to do LOL

am very good at prunning bush's

Ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"kitty, i was only pointing out just how people could get a good few reviews, and to honest i agree with what your saying.

I just makin g light harted chat really.

i was not out offend or piss anyone off.

regards

Ian"

oh i aint pissed of, just saying my views on it too lol

not often u get to piss kitty off u know lol

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

glad to read i did not piss the kitty off, hate think what the said kitty might shred LOL

Ok what the secret of lady holes ?

Ian

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"remember one persons minger is anothers god/godess

your dead right there, wot i class a minger is my opinion only. "

So let's get this straight.... if a guy/couple shagged a minger then a lot of folk on here would look at the verification and think 'no way I'm meeting you

Well we better avoid them mingers then for our own future sexual pleasures...

Add that to the fact we sometimes like to bareback it's really weird we ever met anyone on this site apparently isn't it.

So what actually is a minger by your opinion? What physical attributes make them ming? Have we met any so far?

xxx

j&r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"remember one persons minger is anothers god/godess

your dead right there, wot i class a minger is my opinion only.

So let's get this straight.... if a guy/couple shagged a minger then a lot of folk on here would look at the verification and think 'no way I'm meeting you

Well we better avoid them mingers then for our own future sexual pleasures...

Add that to the fact we sometimes like to bareback it's really weird we ever met anyone on this site apparently isn't it.

So what actually is a minger by your opinion? What physical attributes make them ming? Have we met any so far?

xxx

j&r"

wot i class a minger is MY OPINION ONLY.

what part of that did u not get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"remember one persons minger is anothers god/godess

your dead right there, wot i class a minger is my opinion only.

So let's get this straight.... if a guy/couple shagged a minger then a lot of folk on here would look at the verification and think 'no way I'm meeting you

Well we better avoid them mingers then for our own future sexual pleasures...

Add that to the fact we sometimes like to bareback it's really weird we ever met anyone on this site apparently isn't it.

So what actually is a minger by your opinion? What physical attributes make them ming? Have we met any so far?

xxx

j&r"

like i said, its wot i think is a minger, everyone has different tastes. if i dont look twice at a guy i aint interested . and if i look at who a fitty has met and i think omg thats ruff, then i aint interested . yeah i get called shallow, but do i care.. nope.

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"

wot i class a minger is MY OPINION ONLY.

what part of that did u not get?"

So are you saying it is not OK to express your opinion on here?

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

wot i class a minger is MY OPINION ONLY.

what part of that did u not get?

So are you saying it is not OK to express your opinion on here?

xx"

man u need some clever pills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey , it seems we arnt allowed to express ours, cuz now we're getting hundred questions on it,

i dont shag mingers , or men who shag mingers ... end of story, im bored with this thread now. off to cause mayhem on another lol

you coming kitty

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

don't leave me can i cum too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"don't leave me can i cum too"

course ya can, come on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well without all the argueing (its tiresome pmsl) We look at how many more than who.. Not bothered about met at socials etc.. but if its like 3 a week and yeah... seems like anyone will de, then yeah too right we'd not bother.

Some seem to think it makes them stud muffins if they have lots...

I think it safe to say most could just shag 'anyone' not exactly flattering to be another notch

But... each to, suits us thats all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"blimey , it seems we arnt allowed to express ours, cuz now we're getting hundred questions on it,

i dont shag mingers , or men who shag mingers ... end of story, im bored with this thread now. off to cause mayhem on another lol

you coming kitty "

they read a post but see something diffrent pain in the arse yea i see ya about lol

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

i found you both am lucky LOl

We added we like social saide as well as the fun, We sent a few messages to couples and twice we got back we not here to be your best friend we just here fpr sex.

Best part about it as on both profiles they state we like to socialise as well as have fun LOl

right off to bed

night all take care

Ian and Sue

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By *eznhannah OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

in 1997 noel gallagher was voted worlds sexiest man and worlds ugliest man in 2 seperate magazines so yup

one persons junk is anothers treasure, our final say is dont mind if peole think we are shallow we are happy, and as we dont tell the people exactly why they are not right for us, hopefully not offending anyone

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

If from verifications I could see people where meeting others I knew I did not get on with, I would be carful; the same with if they appeared to be taking lots of risks.

That’s common sense to me, but from an of site vanilla position where do you think we would stand?

We all live in glass houses!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Firstly, just so's ppl dont throw a wobbly, I would like to say that we respect everyone's right to decide for themselves who they swing with, and how many (or few) ppl they will meet etc.

After all, swinging would be very dull if everyone was the same!!

We like to swing, and also like to make friends, but neither is neccessary for the other, we tend to go with the flow. Some of our best friends that we have met thru this site we havent swung with, and some we have. We have met "beautiful" ppl, and some not so "good-looking", but it is definately a mix of personality and attitude that sparks our interest.

As for checking out ppl's verifs, we do, but more for the purposes of finding out if they are genuine, although if we see that they have played with someone we dislike (and it takes a lot for us to not like someone!), then we tend to be cautious.

There are certain things that do red-flag a possible meet, such as we do not do bareback, however that doesnt mean we will not chat or socialise with someone if they play that way.

As for not meeting ppl who seem to have played with "lots" of ppl, it doesnt bother us, for us thats what swinging is about. Ppl shouldnt get to hung up on the why's and wherefore's of others preferences.... as I said at the beginning, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have played with people that have swong with a fair amount of people, they may full swing but we do not. Al; the people with played with we have liked enjoyed a chat with maybe over several weeks etc. ( at clubs) people do different things when they feel like it.

for example you might feel like shagging five or six guys. as your horny as fuck (if you read the meets section its a common pharse that why i used it.)

so they are totally different to us. as they full swing or enjoy orgies, so if you have done one orgy every three months, and in that orgy the is 4 couples two signle ladies and five guys you could have 11 verications on just one happy evening, the gys may have only rubbed your back, yet they said say thats for a coll horny night. so in one year you could have upto 44 verications and you only been to four parties, yet the is nothing to point this out.

ok i'll get me coat and hide

ian"

Isn't this a question from last years Advanced Level Maths Paper?

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Reading through the posts it seems rather amuzing that folks identify people to shag by who they have shagged before and if the have done bareback etc!

Forgive me here, but when we shag someone do really don't know who they have shagged before? Feedback can be deleted and there are loads of sites that most of us are on, never mind outside of the net and d*unken Fri/Sat nights!

At the end of the day it comes down to choice, gut instinct and luck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go along with that.... Instinct, choice as in if you like them etc.. We find it slightly hypercritical of ourselves even.. We hate a string a mile long, actively avoid if they seem to shag anyone and everyone.. but if they hide them we don't know so less worried.. Stupid eh!

We tend to think others are like ourselves... All of us maybe?? But rarely the case...

Its a case of what you don't know doesn't hurt maybe?? We hide ours mainly.. (All 4 lol) but now and then show them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me (and ME only) dont thinks swinging is about shagging as many people as you can, i do it to spice up my sex life, and i dont feel i need to shag every tom dick and harry every other day to do that. however i understand some people are into that and its their choice and its my choice to choose not to swing with them.

if i just wanted to fuck anything that moves i could go to my local pub to do that i would not have to become a swinger.

so i limit who i shag as i respect myself and feel good enough about myself not to let just anyone poke my hole.

if u do just shah anyone i am not calling u a minger or a tramp, i am just saying its something i choose not to do. quite simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love it....

swingers moralizing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i love it....

swingers moralizing... "

So just because we swing we're not allowed or devoid of morals then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i love it....

swingers moralizing... "

Turn offs ?

Apparent attitudes like this one.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"i love it....

swingers moralizing... "

Yet another guy who thinks swinging equals no morals..... definately the wrong attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think that was the point being made to be fair. I think if you follow this thread, at the beginning there appeared to be posts claiming some sort of moral high ground for whatever reason, which didn't really make sense. But I think now people have accepted that it is simply a difference of opinions.

Of course swingers have morals, no different from the rest. It is just some seem to have overinflated ego's and self-righteous beliefs! But i guess that is no different from non-swingers either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you all make me laugh, some of u seem to think that having some morals for YOURSELF and a way fo swinging that suits you personailly is wrong. whats wrong is people not understand that not every 'swinger' has to shag everything that moves to be classed as a swinger the same way i would nnot think less of someone who shags anything that moves. i would just not choose to swing with that person.

if that gives me a overinflated ego so be it i would rather have that then and issues with keeping my legs shut when it comes to any tom dick or harry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm..

i think i have been misunderstood.....

moralizing : To think about or express moral judgments or reflections

morals: concerned with the judgment of the goodness or badness of human action and character

i never said swingers do not have morals

moralizing and morals are two different words with 2 different meanings...

surely live and let live....

fuck who you like...

but lets not be critical of who other people like the look of...

Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged!

and Let He Who is Without Sin Cast the First Stone.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold my hands up.. i AM guilty of judgement by verifications. If a bloke hasnt any i look to see how long he has been on the site. If he has some i look to see who he has humped and if its a Pat Butcher lookalike then its an instant turn off for me. And its not because i think im a goddess! But simply because if the bloke is fit , i cant understand how why he shags mingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi,pat butcher here,well i dont know what to make of all this.we came on this site to meet people.as yet we have,nt shagged anyone.maybe its because we,re too far away,i dont know.but when we joined we accepted friends invites because we didn,t know what they were.we dont want a list of verifications from anyone.we just want to meet nice people.now you can get the sick bag.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Hehe if people won't/don't meet us, because of a dumb arse misguided idea, that the people who verified us, aren't to their taste, then great, we have been spared the the hassle of meeting people who can barely string a set of competent thoughts together..

Reason I say the above is simple.. most of our verifications, came from people we MET, not people we played with, so if us making friends with a fun couple and being social, puts someone off, it's fine by us..

amazing how many people think a profile, verifications or friends list = who they shagged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

although, by joining in this thread i am infact guilty of moralizing myself by commenting on the comments of people contributing......

ooh the irony.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you all make me laugh, some of u seem to think that having some morals for YOURSELF and a way fo swinging that suits you personailly is wrong. whats wrong is people not understand that not every 'swinger' has to shag everything that moves to be classed as a swinger the same way i would nnot think less of someone who shags anything that moves. i would just not choose to swing with that person.

if that gives me a overinflated ego so be it i would rather have that then and issues with keeping my legs shut when it comes to any tom dick or harry"

fookin hell kitty talking sense. you been taking sensible pills hun. think i prefer you when you do yer one liner minge remarks babe

kitty stop being depressed and just tell em all wot you really think

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