FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging Couples

By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha

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By *arkside2698Man
over a year ago

luton

I can't speak for others but if I'm messaging a coupes account, I address them both. After all, if I'm intending on playing with them as a couple, I think it's just rude to only address the female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're quite lucky that this rarely happens to us. On the odd occasion it does, it's usually from a profile that's questionable to if it's actually a couple.

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By *ed111Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I agree only polite

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Ww normally try and address any message to both as we know we both like to messages so know guarantee who your talking too and presume other couples are the same.

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss"

Yeah that's why we mentioned it was probably our fault it's occurring so often. Maybe we should remove the majority of solo photos. But Mrs likes to post sexy snaps of herself often as I am not playing with other females seems pointless for solo photos of myself. But I get where you're coming from. We'll scale back slightly and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

All the time.

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

May have to try this reply ourselves

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

Lol yeah I do the same thing as well. They assume they are talking to Mrs despite the fact it is me 95% of the time on this profile.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.

like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with

Adam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

haha I do this.. "yeah sure mate, but don't tell the wife. she doesnt know I'm bi" haha they so go running.

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

Yes, we get a lot of messages from guys who clearly only respond to the profile picture and not read our message. Or say ask if I'm free but not want to know about Mr N.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

All the time, I think it's pretty rude TBH.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Most of the time tbh

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

All the time, I think it's pretty rude TBH."

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

I just assumed they were all calling me sexy

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

haha I do this.. "yeah sure mate, but don't tell the wife. she doesnt know I'm bi" haha they so go running.

Adam."

Haha that's a good one ... I can be a bit of a wind up so catch me in a mischievous mood and I'm away

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge

All the time i will sometimes answer as him just for the funof it if it appears one sided

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"All the time i will sometimes answer as him just for the funof it if it appears one sided"

Think we'll start to have fun with it also. Seems a good way to teach a lesson

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Ww always message the couple

Never just that lady or gentleman

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Happens a lot to us..

Yes i am active on thr forums more than dax but dax tends to manage the mailbox apart from messages i am involved in.

Its on our profile we only play as a couple and it is not just rude but actually quite insulting especially with hun, babe, ect ect...chose your term of endearment

Boo x

Boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss"

Spot on. Lots of couples seem to hide the male half when it comes to profile pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss

Spot on. Lots of couples seem to hide the male half when it comes to profile pictures."

They do. Many profiles only have pics of the female half too.

We have had several messages in which only female pictures were sent to us.

Makes me angry ha ha.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is equally frustrating when you start messaging back and forth with a couple and it isn't clear whether you are conversing with him, her, or both.

If only one of you could write in pink, the other in blue and... what colour for a MF couple? Haha, answers on a postcard...

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Initially, we prefer that the messenger addresses the both of us. If 'him' answers, he always declares that it is him. I don't

If the messenger then only writes to me, ignoring the fact there is two of us, then he gets ignored in return.

There's a hotwife couple on here that, in one of their pics, states quite clearly - he's not giving you permission to fuck his wife, he's giving his wife permission to fuck you. There's a difference

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Initially, we prefer that the messenger addresses the both of us. If 'him' answers, he always declares that it is him. I don't

If the messenger then only writes to me, ignoring the fact there is two of us, then he gets ignored in return.

There's a hotwife couple on here that, in one of their pics, states quite clearly - he's not giving you permission to fuck his wife, he's giving his wife permission to fuck you. There's a difference

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Newton Stewart

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

We tend to answer in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just recently we have received lots of messages from cpls who only want to play with the female even though the profile gives no indication of her playing on her own

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

We tend to answer in the same way."

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

Yes we get this all the time, why do guys assume it's just the female on line? If they can't be bothered to address us both then for me it's an easy no thanks.

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

Yes we get this all the time, why do guys assume it's just the female on line? If they can't be bothered to address us both then for me it's an easy no thanks.

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...

I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm

straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?

Profuse apologies followed

All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does

Pink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it a fair bit and I find it quite disrespectful. Yes our pics are mostly of me (her) but that's because we are mostly looking for single guys, and if they read the profile we're clear that we come as a pair. I think for the guy who said he wants to know who he's talking to, why? Both probably read it and I think we both deserve the same level of respect. If you wouldn't want to message it to him why is it OK to message it to me?

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

That is so true men from couples have messed us loads of times saying hi babe do u fancy a shag xx

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

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tbh I would usually address the f in a couple but if the m is friendly and chatty I will happily carry on chatting, as long as m accepted the fact I'm straight

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

OP, it happens quite often, we either recieve messages from the male half of a couple, who have a fetish for watching their wives with a black man or there dream is to have sex with a black woman. We had to block single men unfortunately, the messages became overwhelmingly annoying.

We have a simple rule, nobody is eft out. If only one within the couple is attractive, we politely decline. -Marquis

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

We are very similar, Frisky rarely uses Fab. I have more online time than her and she gets fed up with the " wanna fuk" messages that people send as soon as they know it's the female online...

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

We are very similar, Frisky rarely uses Fab. I have more online time than her and she gets fed up with the " wanna fuk" messages that people send as soon as they know it's the female online..."

It's such a shame but I guess it's something we have to put up with. We've just started deleting messages directed at just one part of the couple, unless we're in a playful banter mood like some of the profiles that have replied on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a couples profile for 3 years. I don't remember ever getting a mail just addressing me. However all our pics were both of us together.

Lots of couple profiles look like just a single woman. No wonder people get confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.

like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with

Adam "

Even now I just ignore couples where there's no man pics. It's fucking rude to expect me to want to meet someone I haven't seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.

like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with

Adam

Even now I just ignore couples where there's no man pics. It's fucking rude to expect me to want to meet someone I haven't seen. "

Sarah gets frustrated with some couple profiles being all female. We at least like to see both of the people we would potentially meet or it can lead to awkward no's later

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss

Having fewer pics wont make much difference, you will still get the same sort of messages lol.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Yes we have the same problem , most messages come from the males with a little x on , I tell them on site they are talking to male half and to keep the kisses for the wife till we meet , and as for the number who ask to meet wife alone thinking they are talking to wife just get deleted ??

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By *hat The Cuck OP Couple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Hi op

I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.

You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.

So it will appeal to men .

Miss

Having fewer pics wont make much difference, you will still get the same sort of messages lol.

Yeah we've realised so thought sod it, We'll keep posting whatever photos we like and live with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been ok so far.

Most of the people/couples who message us are polite and civilised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the messages we get are to me George,

but asking me if they can do something or other to mildred,

as if I decided who and when she met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get this too often luckily. We do have a lot more picture of me (female) than my other half but that's because we enjoy taking photos of me! Should we try and take more male ones?

K x

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

"I can't speak for others but if I'm messaging a coupes account, I address them both. After all, if I'm intending on playing with them as a couple, I think it's just rude to only address the female"

ditto, manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?

We find it's only from single guys, and it does start to grate you after a while, we will admit. So much so our stock reply has become

"We are a couple"

Then Block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to the men that mail couples- all couples are different. The men might think it's polite to ask the man in the couple for permission to shag his wife. Or they might think that because they want to shag the woman they need to talk to her directly. They can't really win.

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

If it says couples on the tin, until otherwise told always factor in and reply accordingly that it could be either/or you are presently chatting too

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

We have had similar situation with males sending messages focussing only on Andrea but gradually people are accepting us as a couple. We did have one who just didn't care about me in the relationship and said so in very direct words realised He got blocked.

Robin

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