FabSwingers.com forum: Read then keep or delete??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people keep messsges and not reply?? surely if you not interested delete the message..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a no thanks or deletion can invite rudeness or abuse,or stupid questions,and just leaving the message alone can avoid that...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i do it to confuse men and hope they keep busy looking in their sent box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've started to read and if I'm not interested I mark unread and leave It there

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

do they not disappear after a time if unread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of timescale? I sometimes leave messages read because I want time to compose a proper reply, other times with it being the two of us I want to have a look before responding, other times I'm trying to decide how to reply, and sometimes I just plain forget if I don't reply instantly and that message gets pushed down the page. Focus on your inbox rather than your outbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people keep messsges and not reply?? surely if you not interested delete the message.."

For us we leave it as a message for the sender not to bother us again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Sometimes I just can't be bothered to reply to someone dull/boring/crude/ignorant etc.

I save it for when I'm in the mood

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"do they not disappear after a time if unread?"

yes they do delete themselves.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

I'd say that's ludicrous. Why can't we pick and choose who we want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i do it to confuse men and hope they keep busy looking in their sent box."

and this of course..men seem rather obsessed by what happens to their messages,so,yes,it's funny as well...i dont get it,if theyve not had a reply,then thats pretty much the reply surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

Over picky?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

How very dare they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

Fancy coming on here to fulfil fantasies and holding out to do just that

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i do it to confuse men and hope they keep busy looking in their sent box.

and this of course..men seem rather obsessed by what happens to their messages,so,yes,it's funny as well...i dont get it,if theyve not had a reply,then thats pretty much the reply surely? "

lol, i was kidding. but to know they are looking in their sent box and stressing about this stuff is funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

in what way do you find them over picky?

are you of the opinion that every woman should fuck anyone who contacts them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lazy. No other reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a no thanks or deletion can invite rudeness or abuse,or stupid questions,and just leaving the message alone can avoid that... "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

Yeah only fucking people they find attractive.... selfish fuckers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i do it to confuse men and hope they keep busy looking in their sent box.

and this of course..men seem rather obsessed by what happens to their messages,so,yes,it's funny as well...i dont get it,if theyve not had a reply,then thats pretty much the reply surely? "

That's a defo not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

We would say we are all entitled to choose exactly what and who we want.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Because I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone should be picky

You wouldn't meet just anyone

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why do people keep messsges and not reply?? surely if you not interested delete the message.."

What does it matter? If someone is interested, you'll get a reply, everything else is fairy dust.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same."

Exactly this. There seems to be a lot of guys on fab that think they are guaranteed a shag because it is a swinging/sex site. It's ironic that they believe only they have the right to choose who they have sex with!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

So you'd fuck anyone then? People aren't meeting you for a reason and that reason is preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say the members here are over picky when seeking fun

So you'd fuck anyone then? People aren't meeting you for a reason and that reason is preferences. "

There are some desperate people on here, and we guess they would fuck anyone.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

he isn't like that and will listen to constructive advice if you have any for him. and that's for both who posted this.

but yes he does not get any attention really, like not even friends to chat to. and he is open to talking to people in that way as he does with me.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

he isn't like that and will listen to constructive advice if you have any for him. and that's for both who posted this.

but yes he does not get any attention really, like not even friends to chat to. and he is open to talking to people in that way as he does with me."

He comments often about not getting meets and blames it on everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

he isn't like that and will listen to constructive advice if you have any for him. and that's for both who posted this.

but yes he does not get any attention really, like not even friends to chat to. and he is open to talking to people in that way as he does with me."

We hate to contradict you, but he doesn't take constructive advice well at all.

If it is the guy we are thinking about, he gets quite rude very quickly.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

he isn't like that and will listen to constructive advice if you have any for him. and that's for both who posted this.

but yes he does not get any attention really, like not even friends to chat to. and he is open to talking to people in that way as he does with me."

Maybe he needs to re-evaluate his approach to fab. Maybe then people might be prepared to chat to him. If he's struggling to meet anyone through messaging, he should try going to a social if it means that much to him. Is that constructive enough?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"We find it hilarious that someone can actually say members are over picky!

Surely that would only be said by someone who feels he/she isn't getting enough attention, and if that is the case they should maybe look at what they are doing wrong?

In our world, our choices will always be ours and we will be as picky as we want to. We are sure most on here feel exactly the same.

he isn't like that and will listen to constructive advice if you have any for him. and that's for both who posted this.

but yes he does not get any attention really, like not even friends to chat to. and he is open to talking to people in that way as he does with me.

He comments often about not getting meets and blames it on everyone else."

most of the time he doesn't blame it on someone else, he just mentions he hasn't had any meets.

and i'm guessing he is venting about that and maybe fishing for meets but it doesn't work and neither does him being nice and polite, so he is gonna want to vent about that. he's not a nasty person, he's human and has feelings and sometimes is frustrated that's all. he certainly doesn't expect anyone and everyone to open their legs for him but on a site where almost everyone is looking for sex, and where loads go on about socialising, i can imagine he would expect some sex and socialising.

i don't expect anyone to pity fuck him either, but he's a nice guy and i don't like to see him being lumped like that.

anyway, i'm off to bed. got to get my kids up on the morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately we are all judged by what we say.

If we don't want to be thought bad of, then simply don't say anything bad.

If we say it, of course we will be judged by it, and rightly so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do"

You use Fab the way you want to and others will do the same. Why even bother checking? Either you'll get a reply or not. That's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do"

There's no reason to delete it, it will soon drop off so we can't see it anyway

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I do a Delete All at the end off the day/week. If I'm going to reply I do so immediately or mark it Unread to reply when I have time or thought it over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do

There's no reason to delete it, it will soon drop off so we can't see it anyway"

I delete messages from people I'm not interested in so they understand and I don't fill my inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do

There's no reason to delete it, it will soon drop off so we can't see it anyway

I delete messages from people I'm not interested in so they understand and I don't fill my inbox "

How many of the women whose messages you deleted have come back asking why you did that?...or who you think you are daring to delete their message,or that they just realised they messaged you by accident,and they wouldn't touch you with a barge pole, or that they only messaged you as a joke to see how stupid you were?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Why do people keep messsges and not reply?? surely if you not interested delete the message.."

Wait. Are you really telling people how to use their own messaging system?

Next you'll be specifying how many rings to leave it before answering the phone!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Why do people keep messsges and not reply?? surely if you not interested delete the message.."

If it has a photo to remind me, us why

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Still don't get why people read a message don't reply but don't delete the messsge. Surely if you not interested your ll delete the messsge I do

There's no reason to delete it, it will soon drop off so we can't see it anyway

I delete messages from people I'm not interested in so they understand and I don't fill my inbox "

You're assuming people check what's happened to their messages. Just because you check, doesn't mean everybody else does. Like I said, either a reply will be sent or it wont and that's all you have to worry about. The receiver of your message can do what the fuck they want with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jeez Why people so rude over it

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Jeez Why people so rude over it"

Nobody knows who you are replying to, try using the quote function.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez Why people so rude over it

Nobody knows who you are replying to, try using the quote function."

People it's plural meaning multiple individuals not just one but one of them is you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez Why people so rude over it"

i wasn't being rude, i was trying to point out that as a man you will have a very different experience regarding replies...i very much doubt many women will go out of their way to give you grief over a deleted message...sadly the same is not true of many men on here,hence it's easier to just leave the message be..

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

"What sort of timescale? I sometimes leave messages read because I want time to compose a proper reply, other times with it being the two of us I want to have a look before responding, other times I'm trying to decide how to reply, and sometimes I just plain forget if I don't reply instantly and that message gets pushed down the page. Focus on your inbox rather than your outbox."

What they said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez Why people so rude over it

I always send a woman I polite no message then delete their message. I just don't get why they keep it for wether it's got pic or not, what's the point?? That's what I want to find out

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Jeez Why people so rude over it

I always send a woman I polite no message then delete their message. I just don't get why they keep it for wether it's got pic or not, what's the point?? That's what I want to find out "

Why? It doesn't change a thing and as already explained on the thread, there are many, many reasons, none of which matter because it's means nothing.

Oh, could you explain to me what was rude about my last post? Was it because I used the word 'fuck' in a sentence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez Why people so rude over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez Why people so rude over it

I always send a woman I polite no message then delete their message. I just don't get why they keep it for wether it's got pic or not, what's the point?? That's what I want to find out "

and its been explained to you ad nauseam!

..ok, once again..many men are not happy if they get a 'no thank you', or if the message is deleted

..they argue, they insult, they repeatedly ask why, as they are different from all the other men on here, and it is the womans loss..etc,etc.

If the message is just left, they are very unlikely, in my experience, to come back with their stupid questions or lame insults..and by the time the message eventually goes, they will have moved on to someone else and forgotten all about it...i cannot put it much clearer than that.

Also, as has already been said, some of us just don't bother deleting, or may be doing something else, and forget

But ultimately, as has been said numerous times,if you haven't had an answer, then that is your answer!

send your message, delete it from your sent box and forget about it. No amount of thinking about it is going to make 1 iota of difference.

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