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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What makes you think you're doing something wrong?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What makes you think you're doing something wrong? "

Perhaps you could be more specific and direct with what you want on your profile? It might avoid any confusion - though given your target audience, I doubt it (me-ow!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As I've not found what I'm looking for on either site lol x

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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no idea but most dating sites now are frequented by men wanting sex, so that explains your first bit.

i left the popular dating sites because i was sick of getting messaged on there for sex when my profile said i was looking for dating.

there will be guys on here looking for a relationship, i'm cynical about them and just think they say that coz they want bareback (which i'd be open to without a relationship if they made any effort to get me to trust them).

maybe look for sex on dating sites then the guys will only chat there? and on here look for dating and all the fuckbois will message you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If" you're going wrong its because youre compartmentalising. You're getting the results you want just not from the place you expect.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Depends what dating site your on .. the free ones like Pof or tinder are known as sex sites .

If u pay for a decent site u will find decent professional people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""If" you're going wrong its because youre compartmentalising. You're getting the results you want just not from the place you expect. "

good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong? "

Your profile text says you are looking to chat.....so obviously you get replies from people wanting to chat.

Change your text to "looking for someone to fuck me senseless" that may help!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what dating site your on .. the free ones like Pof or tinder are known as sex sites .

If u pay for a decent site u will find decent professional people "

Perhaps I need to change site then

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Depends what dating site your on .. the free ones like Pof or tinder are known as sex sites .

If u pay for a decent site u will find decent professional people "

I wouldn't say that,I was on Match for a year and didnt meet one person. All the one's that were pretty local to me were already on pof and had messaged me there. I couldn't find anyone who I found attractive.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Plus u say they're full of guys looking for sex . Actually both sexes are on there looking for sex . Meets are easier to get on pof than they are on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Plus u say they're full of guys looking for sex . Actually both sexes are on there looking for sex . Meets are easier to get on pof than they are on here"

Perhaps I was stereotyping men when it is both genders... Unintentional of me to do that

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

But if u seriously want to date u must pay for the site . I totally recommend It .

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"But if u seriously want to date u must pay for the site . I totally recommend It ."

i'm only using pay sites for dating now. i want a guy that can match my financial status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what dating site your on .. the free ones like Pof or tinder are known as sex sites .

If u pay for a decent site u will find decent professional people

I wouldn't say that,I was on Match for a year and didnt meet one person. All the one's that were pretty local to me were already on pof and had messaged me there. I couldn't find anyone who I found attractive."

This is the trouble i have.

The same men seem to be on every single site, and have been on there for years (i join then leave and go back etc) and i just don't find anyone i think "fwoar". It's a bit disheartening.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek


"But if u seriously want to date u must pay for the site . I totally recommend It .

i'm only using pay sites for dating now. i want a guy that can match my financial status. "

That is why im on pay sites ..

Im a professional person who works hard for what i have a like my lifestyle.

Whenever u see as a profession " stay at home mum " i swiftly move on lol

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"But if u seriously want to date u must pay for the site . I totally recommend It .

i'm only using pay sites for dating now. i want a guy that can match my financial status.

That is why im on pay sites ..

Im a professional person who works hard for what i have a like my lifestyle.

Whenever u see as a profession " stay at home mum " i swiftly move on lol"

yeah i figured out a while back that men who are on all the free sites don't have any money and have nothing else to offer either -all they're offering me is sex. i'm not a gold digger, just i like to go out on dates (and pay my way) but you're very limited if all they can afford is a coffee.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Dating sites are the same as this one for singles now, at least on here yoy can see if people are real x

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek


"Dating sites are the same as this one for singles now, at least on here yoy can see if people are real x"

What rubbish ..

Few people on here show face pics and most lie about where they live ..

Most on here just make up a false persona on here ..

It's the biggest place for bullshit and liars I've ever encountered..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong? "

I'm not sure where the problem lies here. If you meet people who want to fuck on as dating site, then decide if you want to fuck them. If you both hit it off, it may become more. As for people on here wanting to talk, chat for a while and see where it leads. I guarantee that while they may be happy to just chat, most people on here will wasn't sex too at some point.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

This site works for me irrespective of my finanacial background. It's a level playing field based not on ones ability to pay but on ones ability to interact and communicate and it's that skill or ability money can't buy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong? "

Men are men, most will always only be after sex but if you're serious about finding a relationship the it'll take alot of time and patience that'll be worth it in the end up oh and btw I'm originally from Kilmarnock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

I'm not sure where the problem lies here. If you meet people who want to fuck on as dating site, then decide if you want to fuck them. If you both hit it off, it may become more. As for people on here wanting to talk, chat for a while and see where it leads. I guarantee that while they may be happy to just chat, most people on here will wasn't sex too at some point. "

I think it's just I want to date from a dating site not sex only from a dating site. How often does sex only turn into happy ever after? For me... Never so far!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

Men are men, most will always only be after sex but if you're serious about finding a relationship the it'll take alot of time and patience that'll be worth it in the end up oh and btw I'm originally from Kilmarnock "

What made you move? I used to work in London

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

I'm not sure where the problem lies here. If you meet people who want to fuck on as dating site, then decide if you want to fuck them. If you both hit it off, it may become more. As for people on here wanting to talk, chat for a while and see where it leads. I guarantee that while they may be happy to just chat, most people on here will wasn't sex too at some point.

I think it's just I want to date from a dating site not sex only from a dating site. How often does sex only turn into happy ever after? For me... Never so far! "

every relationship i've had started that way for me...

know what you mean though, i got very disillusioned with POF coz (and i did date some guys off there, and other sites) but mostly all guys were approaching me for sex, and most of them guys were on fab and couldn't get round my filters here coz i'm way fussier for sex than i am for dating and getting to know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

Men are men, most will always only be after sex but if you're serious about finding a relationship the it'll take alot of time and patience that'll be worth it in the end up oh and btw I'm originally from Kilmarnock

What made you move? I used to work in London"

I was in the army and me and a couple of guys bought a house here and I've never went back lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

Men are men, most will always only be after sex but if you're serious about finding a relationship the it'll take alot of time and patience that'll be worth it in the end up oh and btw I'm originally from Kilmarnock

What made you move? I used to work in London

I was in the army and me and a couple of guys bought a house here and I've never went back lol "

sensible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong?

Men are men, most will always only be after sex but if you're serious about finding a relationship the it'll take alot of time and patience that'll be worth it in the end up oh and btw I'm originally from Kilmarnock

What made you move? I used to work in London

I was in the army and me and a couple of guys bought a house here and I've never went back lol

sensible lol"

Oh I know lol I tried to pm you but im to young

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"As I've not found what I'm looking for on either site lol x"

Bono, is that you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I've not found what I'm looking for on either site lol x

Bono, is that you? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting in real life, is the way forward, in my humble opinion.

Met guys from pof, tagged, badoo, and loads of fun from here, parties and clubs for nearly 3 years. But, 99% of these guys just want a shag, which is fair enough.

Celebrating 1 year next month, with a random guy I met in a pub, who doesn't do dating sites or fabswingers.

If you're looking for more than nsa, change the bait.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Get Verifications on here!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Depends what dating site your on .. the free ones like Pof or tinder are known as sex sites .

If u pay for a decent site u will find decent professional people

I wouldn't say that,I was on Match for a year and didnt meet one person. All the one's that were pretty local to me were already on pof and had messaged me there. I couldn't find anyone who I found attractive.

This is the trouble i have.

The same men seem to be on every single site, and have been on there for years (i join then leave and go back etc) and i just don't find anyone i think "fwoar". It's a bit disheartening."

It is very much so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on a dating site as I'm looking to meet a nice new person in my life. I seem to only attract those wanting sex, however on here I tend to get those only wanting to chat.

Where am I going wrong? "

I'm the same even paid for dating sites and no response. Very demoralising

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