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Do Couples and single Females really get swamped by single men ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

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By *iffraffMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

I asked this question recently in the forums titled just a thought. In short yes, they are swamped. In some cases so much it actually puts them off and they leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't. I'm pretty average though. And a bit specialist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days I get 20 some days I get 700

They come in swarms like a plague

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the beginning I got swamped. Now I scare them away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I asked this question recently in the forums titled just a thought. In short yes, they are swamped. In some cases so much it actually puts them off and they leave. "

Good point....i searched the forums first before posting this thread as didnt want to repeat a thread previously given, i would like to hear what others think the ratio is............ say guys to couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we put photos up we instantly get inundated with messages. I've realised it's best to keep photos for friends only. Nowhere near as many messages that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we generally average 3-5 messages a day. 4 of those 5 will be along the lines 'your pussy is gorgeous, can I fuck you, want to meet today' etc etc. Needless to say these ones are ignored. Any that have had some thought put into it get read and replied to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked this question recently in the forums titled just a thought. In short yes, they are swamped. In some cases so much it actually puts them off and they leave. "
this is very true. I've been on and off here for 6 years now through similar things. It can get a bit daunting sometimes. Personally made me feel like I was a piece of meat or prey lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some days I get 20 some days I get 700

They come in swarms like a plague"

So i am assuming single females get more response than couples from guys......i suppose there is an old saying "if you dont ask" but that must be tedious if you get 700, you would be on fabs all day just to say no thanks........ no wonder us genuine guys never get a reply ???.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I just block all men and then message ones I like. Works for me!

Red x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the beginning I got swamped. Now I scare them away "

Take it as a compliment because you are fitt Hun

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We do get a steady supply of messages but can't claim to be swamped.It's all quite manageable and we do get to play with some great guys!

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By *iffraffMan
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I asked this question recently in the forums titled just a thought. In short yes, they are swamped. In some cases so much it actually puts them off and they leave.

Good point....i searched the forums first before posting this thread as didnt want to repeat a thread previously given, i would like to hear what others think the ratio is............ say guys to couples"

There have been many suggestions on the ratio. But it's got to be in excess of 20-1.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We get plenty messages from guys , but it's amazing how many of them can not accommodate. And as for those who pluck up courage to go to clubs ,they need to be a little more brace , and start chatting instead of walking around aimlessly, the guys who have chatted or winked at wife , normally go home with big smiles on there faces ,

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We probably get about ten to twenty messages a day. That's probably less than the average couple as (a) we are both bi and (b) we are 45 and 50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol my wife and I have a couples profile that we didn't use or put a pic to and we had 50 msg after a day !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't, but then I'm hardly what the majority here are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not swamped at all, as we make good use of the filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile receives at least 30 messages a day. The day I joined fab it was over 600.

My couples profile gets a lot lot less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if they use filters properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes particularly single girls when they first join. All the current members (mostly single guys) who have been around a bit and already tried everyone else, suddenly see a fresh opportunity and have to message at once!

After being on the site a bit and/or changing their filters, the volume does drastically reduce.

Like you say though, a few new hot pics on a profile can reinvigorate the madness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some days I get 20 some days I get 700

They come in swarms like a plague

So i am assuming single females get more response than couples from guys......i suppose there is an old saying "if you dont ask" but that must be tedious if you get 700, you would be on fabs all day just to say no thanks........ no wonder us genuine guys never get a reply ???."

Yes there's no way you can reply or even read all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I added up how many messages I got yesterday from *new* people. It was about 15. That was a busy day because I was at my computer most of the day with Fabs open in a tab. I also got three Kik messages from new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been swamped. I guess I've found the recipe for a truly repulsive profile

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I get more if I upload photos but still not 100s maybe around 30 and on a normal day 3 or 4

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

In the past I have been when you stick a new pic up etc,but not now I'm getting on a bit and just here to chat.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We are not swamped and when i had my songle profile I wasn't,due to filters.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we don't get swamped as much as others. But if we do a status update or add new pics it sometimes happens.

I guess me being bi scares guys of

-Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get quite a lot from single 'straight' guys although since making our profile more specific (bi singles/bi couples only and to send nice messages lol!), the quanity has slightly decreased but the quality of our messages received has dramatically increased!

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

I don't reckon many single guys get swamped either.

I have 2 or 3 people I message and chat to regularly and that's it.

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By *xotic indianCouple
over a year ago

leicester

Why don't use the filter to let only type of people you are looking for to contact you Thats what we do if we want something different we look and contact them

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It's all a question of managing your profile. With filters set and no attention seeking through pic, status, cam it boils down to a few a day.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Nope I don't. But I manage my account and set filters

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why don't use the filter to let only type of people you are looking for to contact you Thats what we do if we want something different we look and contact them "

I'm not sure there is a 'dickhead' filter is there?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have made good use of the filters so we receive on average between 5 and 20 new messages a day. Posting in the forums makes a difference too.

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge


"It's all a question of managing your profile. With filters set and no attention seeking through pic, status, cam it boils down to a few a day."

This and we are luckyto get a few a week

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

As a single female i do at times but most are polite when i say no thanks

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I put a new pic on I can log on to maybe 40-50 new messages and if I start answering them that number will never go down as they are replaced faster than I can answer.

I dread to think how the ladies who flash a bit of flesh go on. I can see how it gets overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This Bi couple profile gets about 40-50 a day, far more on weekends.

When I have my single bi female profile open I get about 200-300 a day.

If you engage at all, even to politely decline, you get flooded with whining and begging, arguing their points or abusive messages. Easier just to scan and block delete.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"If I put a new pic on I can log on to maybe 40-50 new messages and if I start answering them that number will never go down as they are replaced faster than I can answer.

I dread to think how the ladies who flash a bit of flesh go on. I can see how it gets overwhelming."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my whole time here I think I've sent around 8 messages... I like to think I don't contribute much to the swarm ha

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women "

I don't get loads and loads,in fact I don't even get loads,just a handful. I'm happy with that though as I can't be arsed meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I average about 10 messages a day unless I put new pics up...

Only ever got swamped when I first joined and didn't know how to set my filters but soon got wise to that!

What does make me laugh is those that say they get inundated every single day yet they clearly haven't set their filters..

#wasteofarant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i blocked single men - sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I put a new pic on I can log on to maybe 40-50 new messages and if I start answering them that number will never go down as they are replaced faster than I can answer.

I dread to think how the ladies who flash a bit of flesh go on. I can see how it gets overwhelming."
that's why mine are private. I admit by flashing I was asking to be inundated so I decided time for privacy. Now I get where have all your photos gone lol.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"

I invariably get more messages than I can possibly read. I DO have a lot of filters up (age, no newbies, no unverified's, no without pics) - and if I could filter by body type and height too (as I'm quite tall for a woman) it would help a lot more! I get no satisfaction when some poor guy I'm not interested in spends ages writing a bespoke message to me!

I'm aware that a lot of the messages I get are because I'm a picture tart though - I like taking pics and they tend to get on hot photos - and that gets me a lot of views/messages. I do this partly to get noticed by the guys I might be interested in. I search male hot photos to find potential meets - and I know a lot of men do the same with females!

I don't complain about the number of messages I get - and neither should any other woman. Just get your filters right. It's the guys who make an effort to write decent messages but are constantly ignored who deserve the sympathy - not the women who receive them. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a about half a dozen messages per week. Very few really. We do have maximum filters on. And we also state that we only meet new people in clubs, so I guess a lot of people realise there's no point in messaging us.

Mrs

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

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Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here."

try a search for Ladies seeking men, check how many are online, then reverse the search and check how many more men than ladies are on line

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Should add that this is with the age range filter set.

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By *rs slut n himCouple
over a year ago

dartford

Yes.... but mostly by people who don't read your profile and are not what your looking for in first place..... READ PROFILES....

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you."

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently."

Why? You don't want men to message you, you want to send them a message first. So stop them messaging you, and just send messages first!

They can reply to you once you have sent them a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my filters set although some days I set them more tightly than others. I wouldn't say I get swamped as much as some. I've currently got 394 unread messages and they've built up over almost 3 days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked this question recently in the forums titled just a thought. In short yes, they are swamped. In some cases so much it actually puts them off and they leave. "

I don't get swamped lol but I think most do

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently.

Why? You don't want men to message you, you want to send them a message first. So stop them messaging you, and just send messages first!

They can reply to you once you have sent them a message."

Accept your point and certainly thought about it but at the same time you don't want to appear to be isolating yourself from the guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently."

You just do the looking yourself - it doesn't stop you messaging the ones you are interested in, which is what you would prefer. Having said that, we tried a couple of times to block guy's from messaging, but that action prevented us from seeing guys on 'who's looked at me' including those who we are actually friends with! That created a problem because we use 'who's looked at me' to find men. I don't know if you put a restriction on age - that's made a difference with us. We also block non-site supporters as a way of reducing mail. Those actions have got our mail down to minimal. E.g. We haven't had a message for about 3 days, but we can see and message those who are outside our restrictions if we choose to.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't get lots of messages I wouldn't be getting any sex, because I don't search for people myself. I can control, to some extent, the amount and, to some degree, the content of messages by using filters and choosing which pics to display.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently.

You just do the looking yourself - it doesn't stop you messaging the ones you are interested in, which is what you would prefer. Having said that, we tried a couple of times to block guy's from messaging, but that action prevented us from seeing guys on 'who's looked at me' including those who we are actually friends with! That created a problem because we use 'who's looked at me' to find men. I don't know if you put a restriction on age - that's made a difference with us. We also block non-site supporters as a way of reducing mail. Those actions have got our mail down to minimal. E.g. We haven't had a message for about 3 days, but we can see and message those who are outside our restrictions if we choose to.

Mrs"

Not being able to see the "who's looked at us" profiles is the main reason we don't just block everybody.

Don't want to appear standoffish but at same time there's a limit to what what's acceptable.

We only block guys who come back with abuse when we refer them back to our profile and tell them to read the stuff in capital letters!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently.

You just do the looking yourself - it doesn't stop you messaging the ones you are interested in, which is what you would prefer. Having said that, we tried a couple of times to block guy's from messaging, but that action prevented us from seeing guys on 'who's looked at me' including those who we are actually friends with! That created a problem because we use 'who's looked at me' to find men. I don't know if you put a restriction on age - that's made a difference with us. We also block non-site supporters as a way of reducing mail. Those actions have got our mail down to minimal. E.g. We haven't had a message for about 3 days, but we can see and message those who are outside our restrictions if we choose to.

Mrs

Not being able to see the "who's looked at us" profiles is the main reason we don't just block everybody.

Don't want to appear standoffish but at same time there's a limit to what what's acceptable.

We only block guys who come back with abuse when we refer them back to our profile and tell them to read the stuff in capital letters!!!"

I think that's a flaw in the system though. I mean to have men on our 'friends list' who can message us hidden from 'who's looked at me' is crazy. Other restrictions aren't hidden from 'who's looked at me'

Mrs

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Our profile says we're only looking for single guys and in capital letters we say not to contact us but if we're interested then we'll contact you.

Simple enough request I'd have thought. Might as well not have bothered. Everyday we get either a long essay from a guy down to the classic "lets meet and fuck". On average we'll get 5 to 10 a day.

If we post a few new pictures we have peaked at 58 requests for meets, over 100 friends requests and winks and 590 profile hits.

So in answer to the OP, yes some couples are innundated. Innundated to the extent that we regularly hide our profile to have a break from those who can't read plain English.

As has previously been posted, it can put you off and certainly makes you think about leaving the site.

Just set your message filters so that single men can't contact you.

If we did that then might as well just keep the profile hidden permanently.

You just do the looking yourself - it doesn't stop you messaging the ones you are interested in, which is what you would prefer. Having said that, we tried a couple of times to block guy's from messaging, but that action prevented us from seeing guys on 'who's looked at me' including those who we are actually friends with! That created a problem because we use 'who's looked at me' to find men. I don't know if you put a restriction on age - that's made a difference with us. We also block non-site supporters as a way of reducing mail. Those actions have got our mail down to minimal. E.g. We haven't had a message for about 3 days, but we can see and message those who are outside our restrictions if we choose to.

Mrs

Not being able to see the "who's looked at us" profiles is the main reason we don't just block everybody.

Don't want to appear standoffish but at same time there's a limit to what what's acceptable.

We only block guys who come back with abuse when we refer them back to our profile and tell them to read the stuff in capital letters!!!

I think that's a flaw in the system though. I mean to have men on our 'friends list' who can message us hidden from 'who's looked at me' is crazy. Other restrictions aren't hidden from 'who's looked at me'

Mrs"

Will probably just block everybody for a while. See how that goes.

In some respects it's a nice problem to have!

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Can fully understand why women and couples can get irritated by being inundated with messages that have had no thought put into them, and clearly indicate that they haven't read their profile. There must be some real meatheads on here if they think women are so desperate that they will meet anyone. Seems like some elements of the male population have the ability to disprove Darwin's "Theory of Evolution"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can fully understand why women and couples can get irritated by being inundated with messages that have had no thought put into them, and clearly indicate that they haven't read their profile. There must be some real meatheads on here if they think women are so desperate that they will meet anyone. Seems like some elements of the male population have the ability to disprove Darwin's "Theory of Evolution" "

I don't think these men think women are desperate. I think it's the men that are desperate (not all men before someone judge MPs on me). But it's a legitimate tactic that some men - send out hundreds of quick messages in the hope that one out of those hundreds will result in shag. The cleverer guys will send out less messages but more time and thought will have gone into each individual message. It's a different tactic.

Mrs

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My wife, my girlfriend and several other female friends are on fab.

Yes. Women get swamped.

At a social gathering last weekend three ladies remarked that they had all received the same "meet now?" Message from the same guy within one minute.

The conversation then turned to all the yellow in their inboxes.

Try sitting next to a lady when she logs onto Fab after work....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, we don't. We sometimes get three four messages if we post a new picture.

That's fine by us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tactic is, let hundreds of men message me, in the hope that one or two will fit the bill.

I'm no better in the men on here

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We don't get swamped with messages. We just get a few now and then.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Can fully understand why women and couples can get irritated by being inundated with messages that have had no thought put into them, and clearly indicate that they haven't read their profile. There must be some real meatheads on here if they think women are so desperate that they will meet anyone. Seems like some elements of the male population have the ability to disprove Darwin's "Theory of Evolution"

I don't think these men think women are desperate. I think it's the men that are desperate (not all men before someone judge MPs on me). But it's a legitimate tactic that some men - send out hundreds of quick messages in the hope that one out of those hundreds will result in shag. The cleverer guys will send out less messages but more time and thought will have gone into each individual message. It's a different tactic.

Mrs"

Some guys try to be "clever". They send a very polite, brief, chatty message complimenting the pictures on our profile.

It's unfair not to reply and say "thanks" knowing full well what's going to follow on.

A couple of emails later he's asking to meet for a social.

This happens 99% of the time, as one guy did admit, he'd broken tbe ice so thought he'd try his luck.

Can't blame him for trying.

Be a bit difficult now though, just blocked all single guys from contacting us!

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield


"I don't, but then I'm hardly what the majority here are looking for"
I've just looked at you profile and I can't see why, your gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not if they use filters properly."

Agree. Sometimes I see status updates from single ladies and couples along the lines 700 messages just deleting them all. It's almost like a badge of honour. A form of self validation that if they boast of lots of messages, they assume the they are loved and popular. A bit like Facebook likes.

I set up a couples profile and a single girl profile as an experiment to test this. No filters lots if mail, typically 20-30 per day slightly more on the single girl. With filters it dropped to a very manageable 2-3 messages per day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our couples profile doesn't, even when we have meet requests up, that only attracts 3 or 4 messages.

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By *rs slut n himCouple
over a year ago

dartford

Put at end of profile a code word... saying start message with said "code word".... all messages with out this just delete.... then you know who has took time to read your profile instead of just looking at pics lol x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have never been swamped on here, even with my filters open. Yes, I still get the odd message from people I will never meet or want to who haven't managed to figure that out before wasting their time writing said message by actually reading my profile but dealing with the few messages I get isn't exactly onerous. Very occasionally I wonder what might be wrong with me as a single woman who I think looks OK to not be getting inundated like I see other women apparently are on so many local status updates and forum threads but that soon passes.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Some blokes get inundated with messages and winks from other blokes lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't, but then I'm hardly what the majority here are looking for I've just looked at you profile and I can't see why, your gorgeous "

Thanks, but I'm not bisexual, young or blonde (in any sense) which seem to be the most popular categories on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some blokes get inundated with messages and winks from other blokes lol. "

Same here ???.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife, my girlfriend and several other female friends are on fab.

Yes. Women get swamped.

At a social gathering last weekend three ladies remarked that they had all received the same "meet now?" Message from the same guy within one minute.

The conversation then turned to all the yellow in their inboxes.

Try sitting next to a lady when she logs onto Fab after work...."

I've done just that. ..I think I can cope with the one new message I got

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We don't. We had filters on when we joined so probably avoided most of it. Had our first "wanna meet?" message for ages yesterday with filters off.

Perhaps we're fugly

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"

We have been swamped in the past , but not any more . Perhaps the fact that this is now our fourth profile on here may be why .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't. We had filters on when we joined so probably avoided most of it. Had our first "wanna meet?" message for ages yesterday with filters off.

Perhaps we're fugly"

Your definitely not fugly xxxxxx.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

All the freaks are lurking looking for new joiners to prey on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the freaks are lurking looking for new joiners to prey on

"
I wouldnt call them freaks more like wannabees, lets face it a single guy on a saturday night goes on the town on the hunt for a woman to meet ......he meets one and buys her drinks etc etc then at the end of the night a peck on the cheek with a promise of a phone call later which never comes and a wallet empty of say £50.00.

OR....go on to fabs which is free swamp every couple and every single female with a mail or a wink or a friend invite and you might get lucky ......and what has it cost him NOTHING so what has a single guy to lose.

In the wake of what these wannabees do is put off couples and single females to block men, nothing wrong in that and especially if they use their filters they can then choose the men they want to meet and not the wannabees.

Incidently go in to CHAT sometime and see how many guys are on there to the ratio of couples and single females and some of the things said to people is disgusting, yet again they have nothing to lose ???.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"We don't. We had filters on when we joined so probably avoided most of it. Had our first "wanna meet?" message for ages yesterday with filters off.

Perhaps we're fugly

Your definitely not fugly xxxxxx."

Awww thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as a single female I do get swamped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldnt call them freaks more like wannabees, lets face it a single guy on a saturday night goes on the town on the hunt for a woman to meet ......he meets one and buys her drinks etc etc then at the end of the night a peck on the cheek with a promise of a phone call later which never comes and a wallet empty of say £50.00"

I've thought of this analogy and it's actually far worse on here! In a club, with a ratio of male/female same as here... let's say 100(m):1(f) for a ballpark... once a few guys are trying to chat the woman up, the rest would ignore/feel threatened/feel inadequate and as such, the woman is only having to tell a few at a time to piss off.

On here, when a narrow-minded man views a new hot-looking woman, they absurdly forget about the rest of the world and think their message is the only and most important contact... as if she was waiting patiently and quietly in the corner of that club for you to break the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple no nor swamped at all hardly get any messages unless chatting with friends on here ,also little interest if we post a meet unless from bi guy's which are of no interest to us

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, sometimes I get 2 messages and sometimes 10 or 20 max, and most just say 'I like your pics' so there is nothing for me to answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldnt call them freaks more like wannabees, lets face it a single guy on a saturday night goes on the town on the hunt for a woman to meet ......he meets one and buys her drinks etc etc then at the end of the night a peck on the cheek with a promise of a phone call later which never comes and a wallet empty of say £50.00

I've thought of this analogy and it's actually far worse on here! In a club, with a ratio of male/female same as here... let's say 100(m):1(f) for a ballpark... once a few guys are trying to chat the woman up, the rest would ignore/feel threatened/feel inadequate and as such, the woman is only having to tell a few at a time to piss off.

On here, when a narrow-minded man views a new hot-looking woman, they absurdly forget about the rest of the world and think their message is the only and most important contact... as if she was waiting patiently and quietly in the corner of that club for you to break the ice."

Excellent point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hardly get any messages, most people are too lazy to read past the first paragraph and as such think we are weird, suits us means we are not subject to the scatter gun approach that many employ on here.....

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We hardly get any messages, most people are too lazy to read past the first paragraph and as such think we are weird, suits us means we are not subject to the scatter gun approach that many employ on here..... "

Yeah , it's a much better experience on here now we don't get so many messages .

I think we may be perceived as weird too , it's not a bad thing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We hardly get any messages, most people are too lazy to read past the first paragraph and as such think we are weird, suits us means we are not subject to the scatter gun approach that many employ on here.....

Yeah , it's a much better experience on here now we don't get so many messages .

I think we may be perceived as weird too , it's not a bad thing though "

Oh you are weird, just like us! Come on we actually go out and have naughty fun, rather than just talking about it....

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We get very few single guys approaching us and those that do are always very polite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get very few single guys approaching us and those that do are always very polite."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's depressing reading for a single guy, pretty discouraging really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's depressing reading for a single guy, pretty discouraging really."

blame it on the wannabees on here ???.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Nope. I don't get many messages at all.

I used to get a handful a day before I used my filters. But nothing like the hundreds that some get.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"

We dont oh hang on we block men.

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

We dont oh hang on we block men."

Arrghh then dammed filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope...we've got a good balance of filters, minimal pictures and a clear profile. We get the odd contact especially if we've given someone a veri but it's not too onerous to just delete...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

We dont oh hang on we block men."
even i as a male had to block males as got pesterd......jeeze does it never end ??????

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

We dont oh hang on we block men.

Arrghh then dammed filters "

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No we rarely get messages

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If I change my avatar I get swamped. I noticed earlier I had over 350 views earlier today.

If I have a status that implies fun at weekend or free time then loads of messages.

I have blocked many people over the years I have been on here so that helps too.

Its lovely to get so many options but being a single mum with money and transport issues It can be frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the freaks are lurking looking for new joiners to prey on

"

Having had a few profiles on here this is certainly the case. The thing is it's always the same sad fuckers that jump on newbies with a message. These men are socially inept fuckers who in reality would not have a clue how to treat a woman. Filters are certainly necessary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the freaks are lurking looking for new joiners to prey on

Having had a few profiles on here this is certainly the case. The thing is it's always the same sad fuckers that jump on newbies with a message. These men are socially inept fuckers who in reality would not have a clue how to treat a woman. Filters are certainly necessary. "

I have personally finally spoken via mail to a single female on here and she told me she takes her profile off until she finds a guy she likes then contacts him with her profile on once contact is made she then takes it off again.........i asked her why ???? simples was the reply.....guys come back with a fake couples profile trying to contact her again SO JUST BLOCKING MALES IS NOT THE ANSWER ADMIN ?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the freaks are lurking looking for new joiners to prey on

Having had a few profiles on here this is certainly the case. The thing is it's always the same sad fuckers that jump on newbies with a message. These men are socially inept fuckers who in reality would not have a clue how to treat a woman. Filters are certainly necessary.

I have personally finally spoken via mail to a single female on here and she told me she takes her profile off until she finds a guy she likes then contacts him with her profile on once contact is made she then takes it off again.........i asked her why ???? simples was the reply.....guys come back with a fake couples profile trying to contact her again SO JUST BLOCKING MALES IS NOT THE ANSWER ADMIN ?.

"

Yeh its easier to search yourself. Guys will try anything to get round filters. Quite sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got too many so we block men and search for ourselves now.

H x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We got too many so we block men and search for ourselves now.

H x"

i personally even as a single male think this is the way forward for couples and single females block males and do the searching your self and dont advertise for men, also click on the personal section so that it does not show you have looked at someone.Its a shame it has to be like this but the majority "wannabees" spoil it for the rest of us as always ???.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been swamped! Lol, but I also have my filters set. May take them off for some bank holiday madness, haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages I receive are manageable, and that's down to very tight filters, a long comprehensive profile, and not constantly posting 'Look at me' photos/statuses/meets/forum posts. Works perfectly well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes particularly single girls when they first join. All the current members (mostly single guys) who have been around a bit and already tried everyone else, suddenly see a fresh opportunity and have to message at once!

After being on the site a bit and/or changing their filters, the volume does drastically reduce.

Like you say though, a few new hot pics on a profile can reinvigorate the madness!"

This

I very nearly left after the first week, it was horrendous. Added to that guys started getting arsy because I wasn't responding; I couldn't......it was too much.

So I just forgot about the profile and left for a few weeks, then went into stealth mode until I figured out the filters.

I still get idiot messages and one liners but having just emptied my inbox of 84 unread messages, it's not so bad anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to us, for some reason we dont know what we are getting a lot of messages from guys, we have been enjoying the attention lol but to get through all the messages and not offend anyone is exhausting. We are fairly new to swinging and it isnt our life we just enjoy it sometimes but dont want to give the impression we are time wasters, a few guys seem to get a bit annoyed i dont type fast enough lol we are looking into why all of a sudden getting these messages and turn off what ever has been turned on to give ourselves a break, this doesn't mean we havnt chatted to some interesting guys though just cant comitt to meeting at the snap of a finger with familly and work commitments xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting x"
we have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx"

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x"
thanks hun im normal after all have a great day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x"

Despite being on your friend's list I still struggle to get you to see my messages as they just get swamped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x

Sorry Hunni xx

Despite being on your friend's list I still struggle to get you to see my messages as they just get swamped."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x

Sorry Hunni xx

Despite being on your friend's list I still struggle to get you to see my messages as they just get swamped."

No need to apologize, I just think the way the site works could be improved so it's not such a chore to use sometimes.

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By *t8880Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

We would like a threesome, but we got so many messasges from single men we have now blocked them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x

Despite being on your friend's list I still struggle to get you to see my messages as they just get swamped."

Maybe the inbox could be set up to trigger an alert when a friend's message is received....or could be highlit somehow. Just a thought.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We have filters on so single guys can't message us. Solves the problem of a potential influx... Expecially when new photos go on.

When we are looking for a single guy or two we'll do the messaging or just go to a club.

Nita

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

We used to get a lot more before we put a few requisits on our profile - unfortunately most of the messages we get now are from single guys who only look at pics ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a good few everyday but tbh we take it as compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't . Even when I unblock single men I might get 10 or 15 a day . Most of them are utter twaddle , but ocassionally there are some gems !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

THERE IS AN OPTION TO BLOCK SINGLE MALES.

I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY SOME COUPLES OR FEMALES MOAN ABOUT SINGLE MALES CONTACTING THEM WHEN THEY CLEARLY HAVE THE OPTION TO BLOCK THEM.

AND WHY WOULD YOU MESSAGE SUCH PEOPLE WHEN THIS SITE REMINDS YOU THAT YOU DIDNT GET A REPLY TO YOUR FIRST MESSAGE.

ONE MESSAGE IS ENOUGH. IF YOU GET A REPLY THEN CHAT AWAY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have filters In place but still get swamped, some guys will send as many as 12 messages in one go. As flattering as it is, it's also incredibly exhausting xwe have filters also this has happened about 4 days ago, dont know why, very flattering esoecially at my age lol but its like having a second job and i am shattered today as silly as that sounds xx

It's not silly, I know exactly how you feel x

Despite being on your friend's list I still struggle to get you to see my messages as they just get swamped.

Maybe the inbox could be set up to trigger an alert when a friend's message is received....or could be highlit somehow. Just a thought."

Definitely this, It seems so logical. Or even a separate inbox for friends messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just love the attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have filters on so single guys can't message us. Solves the problem of a potential influx... Expecially when new photos go on.

When we are looking for a single guy or two we'll do the messaging or just go to a club.

Nita "
great advice to any single females.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have filters set and barely ever add a new pic so I can cope with my inbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

This sums everything up ???? there is a girl that has been on here for 2 hours only and both her profile pics have been fabbed over 90 times and she has a friend allready without even meeting she is only 18 years old ......god alone knows how many replies she has had.......that is of course if its a she ?????

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes well over a 100 a day if we ask for a meet .but we always end up at a swingers club as not one of the single men ever read the profile . waste of time asking now it really is

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Some days I get 20 some days I get 700

They come in swarms like a plague

So i am assuming single females get more response than couples from guys......i suppose there is an old saying "if you dont ask" but that must be tedious if you get 700, you would be on fabs all day just to say no thanks........ no wonder us genuine guys never get a reply ???."

This..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"
yes in the past... not so much now thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't

We have only ever received messages from single women to tell us that they agreed with something we have posted on the forums. We would like to meet them but don't want to appear 'stalkerish'

We have had a few messages from couples and met one

From single men; well, yes they do message quite a bit but don't read the profile, so useless for us

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some days I get 20 some days I get 700

They come in swarms like a plague

So i am assuming single females get more response than couples from guys......i suppose there is an old saying "if you dont ask" but that must be tedious if you get 700, you would be on fabs all day just to say no thanks........ no wonder us genuine guys never get a reply ???.

This.."

if it is less then a few lines we just block and delete it

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,"

Yes we do get constantly swamped.

It doesn't just make us wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

It makes us wonder just how many cannot be bothered to read and respect profiles.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

Yes we do get constantly swamped.

It doesn't just make us wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

It makes us wonder just how many cannot be bothered to read and respect profiles."

99% don't read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

Yes we do get constantly swamped.

It doesn't just make us wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

It makes us wonder just how many cannot be bothered to read and respect profiles.

99% don't read profiles"

yes you are so right that is why the site just does not work most of the time .we have been swinging over 11 years at clubs and find sites like this a waste of time to meet know people .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't. I'm pretty average though. And a bit specialist."

A bit specialist is one way of putting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!!!!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

Yes we do get constantly swamped.

It doesn't just make us wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

It makes us wonder just how many cannot be bothered to read and respect profiles.

99% don't read profiles

yes you are so right that is why the site just does not work most of the time .we have been swinging over 11 years at clubs and find sites like this a waste of time to meet know people ."

Unfortunately my nearest club is 3 hours drive, Cornwall isn't great for swinging

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By *iolet2000Woman
over a year ago

Ormskirk

Yes I get it all the time.

Have now hidden my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we put photos up we instantly get inundated with messages. I've realised it's best to keep photos for friends only. Nowhere near as many messages that way "
yea I get that when I put a pic up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get hundreds and hundreds a day, it's insane, the only chance a guy has got with me chatting to him if he's read the fucking profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a chat with a couple last night and during the conversation the subject came up of profiles on here, they told me that sometimes when they have revamped their profile they can get up to 300 replies in a single day from guys.

It makes you wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

Have any other couples single females been swamped by replies,

Yes we do get constantly swamped.

It doesn't just make us wonder exactly how many guys are on here.

It makes us wonder just how many cannot be bothered to read and respect profiles.

99% don't read profiles"

I rest my case

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

If we remove our message filter and then post a new pic or comment in the forums, we'll usually get 10-20 messages a day from guys. 'how's u?' or 'want sum dick?' are the usual variety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has a single profile just for finding ladies but doesn't filter males as she is happy to receive some mail.

However the first line reads 'not looking to play with men just ladies' and she still get endless 'wow your hot want to fuck now' or 'meet me now I'm hard for you' or 'hi how's you sexy i want you see you now" etc

which proves hardly any of them get past the picture stage when viewing her profile

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Swamped no but if we did take up the offers in the messages B would be meeting a different man every hour of the day and night non stop.

We try to answer every message but often have to cut chat down to a couple or three messages.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Not really to be honest no , mrs own profile on the other hand yes

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

Maby 3 a month and all single guys never cpls single girls don't exist

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"At the beginning I got swamped. "

Now I have filters

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

As a single woman if I unblock single men temporarily for 10 mins even in the middle of the night I can get 20 emails It's unmanageable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its 2.30am and this is the amount of people in different categories online in Ireland:

Couples 24

Women 9

TV/TS 7

Men 111

That gives you an idea of the ratio of people on here. Single guys outnumber everyone combined almost 3 to 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its 2.30am and this is the amount of people in different categories online in Ireland:

Couples 24

Women 9

TV/TS 7

Men 111

That gives you an idea of the ratio of people on here. Single guys outnumber everyone combined almost 3 to 1. "
ooooo I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its 2.30am and this is the amount of people in different categories online in Ireland:

Couples 24

Women 9

TV/TS 7

Men 111

That gives you an idea of the ratio of people on here. Single guys outnumber everyone combined almost 3 to 1. "

3 to 1 isn't too bad. But for guys who are only looking for single women, it seems a bit pointless. Why come to a site where there are 10 men for every single woman? There must be easier ways of getting sex.

Mrs

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Nope I don't. Either my filters are working fantastically well or I'm just a moose.

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women "
im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope I don't. Either my filters are working fantastically well or I'm just a moose.

V xx "
you definitely don't look like a moose, the filter must be fantastic haha

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

there's no substitute for a good message, these always get read and replied to, we get less than we used to but still a high level of "wanna fuck" type messages and people who've clearly not looked at profile for what we ask for. But I promise you most people will respond to a well written message (even if it may still be a no!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers"

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the beginning I got swamped. Now I scare them away

Take it as a compliment because you are fitt Hun "

Thanks . ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get hundreds and hundreds a day, it's insane, the only chance a guy has got with me chatting to him if he's read the fucking profile lol "

You've shortened your profile, reads better now

All i would add is your age band, interests and who you are looking for covers a wide range of people, you'll show up on a lot of searches.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Ours depends. If we are active on the forums or make profile changes, new pics we get inundated if our filters are down. 1-200 messages a day if we let it.

Compare that to filters up. Maybe 10 on a busy day lol

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth


"At the beginning I got swamped.

Now I have filters "
Iknow now I cant contact...lol

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly we dont, we've found 99% of the single guys who contact us to be very respectful, we've not blocked them, we're not looking for single guys.

We do block the ones who send friend requests though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing. "

I'll send some if I feel it's right but it's ok I'm not disheartened, and not obsessing just noticed then will exploring what all the buttons and links do on the page, thank you though for your comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing.

I'll send some if I feel it's right but it's ok I'm not disheartened, and not obsessing just noticed then will exploring what all the buttons and links do on the page, thank you though for your comments "

Sorry, my post may have been patronising, it was intended that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing.

I'll send some if I feel it's right but it's ok I'm not disheartened, and not obsessing just noticed then will exploring what all the buttons and links do on the page, thank you though for your comments

Sorry, my post may have been patronising, it was intended that way. "
all taken as light hearted banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing.

I'll send some if I feel it's right but it's ok I'm not disheartened, and not obsessing just noticed then will exploring what all the buttons and links do on the page, thank you though for your comments

Sorry, my post may have been patronising, it was intended that way. "

Oops! I meant it wasn't intended that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes single fems get loads and loads of mail ... doesn't matter what age, shape or sexual preference as long as men are not blocked the messages will come in

A new female account with no pictures will get 200 messages in the first hour of opening ... many of them saying how beautiful they are even without the pics !

Be interesting to know the ratio of men to women im new to the site and only sent a few message to people that have genuinely caught my eye, but messages have been deleted unread, your post explains why, so maybe best to stick to the forums and join in with the banter, cheers

You shouldn't let that stop you sending messages, don't get too disheartened.

You're best bet is to send messages and just forget about them, delete them from sent messages so you're not obsessing.

I'll send some if I feel it's right but it's ok I'm not disheartened, and not obsessing just noticed then will exploring what all the buttons and links do on the page, thank you though for your comments

Sorry, my post may have been patronising, it was intended that way.

Oops! I meant it wasn't intended that way. "
haha I guessed you meant that, predictive text can be a pain sometimes

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