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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

It's that old chestnut... let them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah the hints in the site name haha

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

Know what ur saying but know a few couples that met on here and are now exclusive

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

A lot of guys like the fantasy of a fuck buddy/ swinging relationship... in reality... an awful lot of guys get very very jealous indeed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of guys like the fantasy of a fuck buddy/ swinging relationship... in reality... an awful lot of guys get very very jealous indeed!"

Tell me about it. They know I'm a swinger yet didn't like the idea of sharing me. Bizarre.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

They love the thoughts of having lots of different women, but how dare you want more than one cock! Lol

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool

Don't quite get it myself

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I had one of those when I first got here - I didn't mind, I rather like it, as long as I can see them enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one of those when I first got here - I didn't mind, I rather like it, as long as I can see them enough

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It's fine if you're looking for a boyfriend, all well and good but I'm here to swing, and the childish attitude when I won't go exclusive is what's silly.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Ignore those single guys... come play with us instead! Xxxx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I had one of those when I first got here - I didn't mind, I rather like it, as long as I can see them enough

It's fine if you're looking for a boyfriend, all well and good but I'm here to swing, and the childish attitude when I won't go exclusive is what's silly."

Is that the kind of exclusive when you don't meet and they do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site name speaks for itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define a swinger for me. Please.

I know what I think it is, but there are lots on here (this site) that are not swinging. some don't meet at all.

Before this site, I always assumed swinging was only for couples. Little did I know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Define a swinger for me. Please.

I know what I think it is, but there are lots on here (this site) that are not swinging. some don't meet at all.

Before this site, I always assumed swinging was only for couples. Little did I know? "

Everyone's definition of swinging is different. However once thing it doesn't mean to me is being exclusive. That's a very 'normal' relationship.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Know what ur saying but know a few couples that met on here and are now exclusive "

Exactly or swing together ,best of both worlds

Miss

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Define a swinger for me. Please.

I know what I think it is, but there are lots on here (this site) that are not swinging. some don't meet at all.

Before this site, I always assumed swinging was only for couples. Little did I know?

Everyone's definition of swinging is different. However once thing it doesn't mean to me is being exclusive. That's a very 'normal' relationship."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't quite get it myself "

I dont get it either - but not for the want of trying

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

they don't want you to be exclusive for a relationship, they want to be able to access you any time they need to.

like you said, if they wanted an exclusive relationship they'd be looking for that.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

Sounds like s lack of confidence to me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Never had this problem in all the time ive been here. Think its pretty obvious im not going to be exclusive to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

that old chestnut...

then a few months down the line he would have said 'how do you feel about starting a couples account?....' like he'd only just thought about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

but on the flip side there are women who are looking for exclusivity..

so its always best to ask I guess..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

As our journey goes along we change, and our needs/desires change too. I guess you can set out to swing then meet someone who blows your world wide apart and makes you rethink swinging. They maybe weren't looking for a relationship when they met you.

The other side is that you said they were petty about it. We makes me think they didn't truly understand either you or swinging as the majority/minority(?!) understand it.

Best off without either guys and be confident about what you want and stick to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They love the thoughts of having lots of different women, but how dare you want more than one cock! Lol"

Agree with this statement! X

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I might become exclusive, actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might become exclusive, actually. "

I don't want to ask who too? But I'm dying to know.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exclusive isnt very fun

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I prefer elusive

If I'm going exclusive you can rest assured that fucker is too.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"I've met a couple of men in the past that both wanted me to be exclusive with them, and got all petty when I said no, that I'm not girlfriend material, I'm a swinger.

Surely they should be on a dating site, not here."

Its ironic. I could only be happy with a woman who continues to take other lovers (of her choice) but most women hate to be told this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I avoid this problem by making it perfectly clear from the start that I only want sex. Even with guys I meet regularly. If I get a sniff they are looking for anything more then I won't be meeting them. I can normally tell during the chatting stage who's going to be weird so fortunately they get ed out early on. I don't have a problem with those that are looking for more on here. As long as they are up front about it so I can choose to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones who want unprotected sex want you to be exclusive, so they can't catch something.

I tell them from the start, I don't do exclusive.

I had one man tell me I have too many regular partners and he doesn't want to be one of my harem. He expected me to bin all my long term relationships for a fuck with him once in a blue moon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm always honest and upfront from the start, and they are fine with it, then once they met me they decided they wanted me as a 'girlfriend' and didn't want me to meet anyone else. I ain't giving up swinging for no man

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm always honest and upfront from the start, and they are fine with it, then once they met me they decided they wanted me as a 'girlfriend' and didn't want me to meet anyone else. I ain't giving up swinging for no man "
just shows that even after you meet people there still only in it for themselves.

Glad the guys i meet have actually listened to my wants

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By *arvin35Man
over a year ago

penrith

I'd be happy to not be exclusive with you

Like you say the clues in the name at the top of the page and being here to have fun is what it's about

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I had one of those when I first got here - I didn't mind, I rather like it, as long as I can see them enough

It's fine if you're looking for a boyfriend, all well and good but I'm here to swing, and the childish attitude when I won't go exclusive is what's silly."

It doesn't necessarily make them a boyfriend, just 'enough'.

But yes, hissy fits and attempts to demand something not freely given don't work.

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