FabSwingers.com forum: No interest from my preferences

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My profile says I'm not looking for men, but that is the only profiles I'm getting any messages from, I'm not offended, but I'd really like to hear from women & couples,occasional tv's , as that's who I want to meet.

What am I doing that is so wrong?

Apart from the obvious answer, I'm a massive uggo!

Would really appreciate some help, as I do think I have a lot to offer, to the right people :/

Thanks in advance...hopefully!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No clue man, your profile and pics seem on the spot!

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

You haven't blocked single men you know as you're not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks man

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

You need to configure your message filters in account message filters

https://m.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah that explains the messages from fellas, I don't mind having a chat to be fair...

I'd like to know why so little interest from couples & women tho, am I that unappealing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Status is a bit crap. I wouldn't stay to chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Status is a bit crap. I wouldn't stay to chat "

Ok, thanks...

So if the status was more up your street, would that be enough for you to message?

Or is the status only the beginning of my issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't wanna message you reading that status

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

I can totally see why men are attracted to you..

I think your status would appeal to more men than women..

As a tv. I Defo would so come to Bristol and I will sort you out! Ax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

status implies you're looking for bareback

your marital status would put many people off

anyone who says they have no limits is an immediate red flag for us because it suggests they may not respect ours

the way you describe yourself may suggest humour but isn't particularly appealing, self deprecation doesn't come across well in a purely written form

the spunk picture is awful. not sure what it's intending to convey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need to configure your message filters in account message filters

https://m.fabswingers.com/my/filters"

Yeah that would stop the fellas, but It still wouldn't make me popular with everyone else!

Might just have to except I ain't interesting enough, bad times.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock covered? But your not interested in men? Makes you look a bit desperate. We don't like desperate men. They make us feel worthless.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't wanna message you reading that status

Right, I can see a theme here!

This status is not doing me any favours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same , I once blocked on the message filters then turned them back on as i enjoy reading them. End of the day I'm straight to the point on my initial reply but keep the conversation going, it's good to chat to people who've never met before. It could turn in to an all day drinking session.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"status implies you're looking for bareback

your marital status would put many people off

anyone who says they have no limits is an immediate red flag for us because it suggests they may not respect ours

the way you describe yourself may suggest humour but isn't particularly appealing, self deprecation doesn't come across well in a purely written form

the spunk picture is awful. not sure what it's intending to convey"

Thanks, this is the kind of reply I was hoping for.

Very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cock covered? But your not interested in men? Makes you look a bit desperate. We don't like desperate men. They make us feel worthless.

PTU xxx "

Yeah I can see the confusion, I meant as part of a bi couple, rather than 1-1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples. "

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It comes across as negative, calling yourself a bastard, talking about how you're over weight and how you have a small cock is so off putting imo.

And you really don't need so many photos of your cock!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can totally see why men are attracted to you..

I think your status would appeal to more men than women..

As a tv. I Defo would so come to Bristol and I will sort you out! Ax"

Hahaha thanks for the invite!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It comes across as negative, calling yourself a bastard, talking about how you're over weight and how you have a small cock is so off putting imo.

And you really don't need so many photos of your cock!"

Ahh, ok, thought that was a bit of honesty.

Thanks

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page"

Humour's always a good thing but you seem to be putting yourself down. That's not sexy. As PTU said, you seem to be up for anything, with anyone so ladies and couples will feel like a 'hole' and not much more. Read your profile and ask yourself if you'd be attracted to it. What do you like to see in the profiles you look at?

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Do you think your status, pics and profile are appealing to the ladies?

Your status is the first turnoff..

Your endless cock pics are the second turnoff..

Finally, your first profile paragraph ("married bastard, in my 40's & out of shape, smallish cock, biggish belly, lots of fun tho...") is also a turnoff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

Thanks for feedback, I think by trying to put a bit of humour in I've shot myself in the foot.

The up for anything is to much of a sweeping statement too, bloody hell ain't got much right have i

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think your status, pics and profile are appealing to the ladies?

Your status is the first turnoff..

Your endless cock pics are the second turnoff..

Finally, your first profile paragraph ("married bastard, in my 40's & out of shape, smallish cock, biggish belly, lots of fun tho...") is also a turnoff

Thanks, this is the general feedback I'm getting.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

Thanks for feedback, I think by trying to put a bit of humour in I've shot myself in the foot.

The up for anything is to much of a sweeping statement too, bloody hell ain't got much right have i"

Give it time. You've only been on here over a year.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your input fabbers.

I've basically gotta re do my profile as there is not one thing about it that any of you ladies like.

Hopefully once I've had a re write I may get some interest.,,, fingers crossed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember your profile can be changed as you change. It's like a shop window think of what you have to offer us. Also don't jump onto the sex bit cos socialising is often just as important as the sex. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

Thanks for feedback, I think by trying to put a bit of humour in I've shot myself in the foot.

The up for anything is to much of a sweeping statement too, bloody hell ain't got much right have i

Give it time. You've only been on here over a year.

Hahaha yeah I know, I go through stages, might not be on for months, then have a mad few weeks.

At least I don't get bogged down replying to loads of messages

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Remember your profile can be changed as you change. It's like a shop window think of what you have to offer us. Also don't jump onto the sex bit cos socialising is often just as important as the sex. Xxx"

Sound advice, will be re doing my profile very soon

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

Thanks for feedback, I think by trying to put a bit of humour in I've shot myself in the foot.

The up for anything is to much of a sweeping statement too, bloody hell ain't got much right have i

Give it time. You've only been on here over a year.

Hahaha yeah I know, I go through stages, might not be on for months, then have a mad few weeks.

At least I don't get bogged down replying to loads of messages

lol"

Haha, I was only pulling your leg. Give us a shout when you're done and we can have another look for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, are you sending any messages yourself or just waiting for women to message you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're married and your profile pictures is deeply unflattering.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

All of it is very unappealing tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol it's the cum pic and the uggo part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't get past the status. If it wasn't there I probably wouldn't get past all the cock pics. Your profile needs work if you want it to appeal to women and couples.

Thanks, think I need to re address my page

Thanks for feedback, I think by trying to put a bit of humour in I've shot myself in the foot.

The up for anything is to much of a sweeping statement too, bloody hell ain't got much right have i

Give it time. You've only been on here over a year.

Hahaha yeah I know, I go through stages, might not be on for months, then have a mad few weeks.

At least I don't get bogged down replying to loads of messages

lol

Haha, I was only pulling your leg. Give us a shout when you're done and we can have another look for you.

Will do, gotta get some new pics uploaded first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, are you sending any messages yourself or just waiting for women to message you?"

Yes I am, but going on the replies to this I'm not supprised I've had no interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol it's the cum pic and the uggo part."

Good point!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All of it is very unappealing tbh

Thanks, even with a complete re write I wouldn't be doing it for you would I!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're married and your profile pictures is deeply unflattering."

Thanks, don't wanna try & pass myself off as something I'm not.

I am married & I am fat.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Huge difference now you have updated ...

Have you had any meets since joining the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like you've followed some of the advise

. The profile picture is seriously unflattering. Do you not have pictures that show you in a better light? Doesn't have to be naked - often clothed or semi-clothed pictures can be very sexy. One thing that's worth remembering is that women on Fab are not that different from any other women. All they are is more sexually adventurous. So have a think about what turns women on in the vanilla world - it won't be very different here.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Huge difference now you have updated ...

Have you had any meets since joining the site?"

Thanks.

I've had one meet with a lovely couple a long time ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks like you've followed some of the advise

Mrs"

Yeah I had to take on board the feed back, I wasn't appealing to anyone!

No no better pics on here, will have to upload some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're married and your profile pictures is deeply unflattering.

Thanks, don't wanna try & pass myself off as something I'm not.

I am married & I am fat."

With regards to being fat, I think you are making a mistake by flaunting it before anybody has got to know you. I myself love cuddly men. But that type of body shape doesn't photograph well naked. That photo puts me off, whereas a slightly overweight man in a sharp suit (for example) would not put me off.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks like you've followed some of the advise

Mrs"

You recon lose the profile pic completely then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're married and your profile pictures is deeply unflattering.

Thanks, don't wanna try & pass myself off as something I'm not.

I am married & I am fat.

Mrs"

Thanks, taken that on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like you've followed some of the advise

Mrs

You recon lose the profile pic completely then?"

The other picture was ok. Maybe use that one for your profile picture until you get some others taken

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for everyone who has given me honest feedback, I really appreciate it.

Hopefully after my update I will appeal more to the people I really want to.

happy fabbing x

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