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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a couple message me this week saying "it's a shame I'm too close". They then went on to say that they don't meet locals because of privacy,their reputation, their kids etc etc.. And this got me pondering - do many swingers have this rule as usually it's because someone's too far away?... And even more so, if many have this rule then maybe that's why I see so many statuses and forum posts about why people think that the local talent is full of time wasters or that the site is overloaded with people who don't meet..

What are you thoughts...?

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I met someone local eons ago, and now run into him on an almost daily basis. It sort of freaked me out at first, but we nod, smile, occassionally chat or have a drink, and move on.

There have been a few I've met who I'd hope to never run into again, though.

If both sides are respectful and discrete about Fab, I actually quite like the thought of running into them.

Problem is, you never can tell before meeting if they will be or not.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I occasionally go on who's near and block some peeps who I think may possibly be familiar....

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have had one meet who was stupidly closed... We put our rules down and because of life outside we added a few more bits

We still cross paths now and then and it doesnt bother us

Dax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a couple message me this week saying "it's a shame I'm too close". They then went on to say that they don't meet locals because of privacy,their reputation, their kids etc etc.. And this got me pondering - do many swingers have this rule as usually it's because someone's too far away?... And even more so, if many have this rule then maybe that's why I see so many statuses and forum posts about why people think that the local talent is full of time wasters or that the site is overloaded with people who don't meet..

What are you thoughts...? "

I always travel. Never meet in my area. Much happier doing that

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't mind it saves faffing about travelling and good if you don't have much time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer not to play locally too. I did when I first started out but after having a few close shaves (like shagging a work client before I realised who he was) and also seeing half the parents from my kids school on here, I realised that I don't want to be hiding every time I go to the supermarket!

I don't have my postcode locally on here and like to be a bit private.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I tend not to play in my post code x but I have made two very naughty exceptions!!!! X

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By *aughtyladyYummymanCouple
over a year ago

In a place not far from Exeter

I don't meet local people either mainly because of my job and through it knowing too many people. Also don't want to bump into them in the aisle at Tesco

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We meet a couple who are quite near us and never have a problem.

If we suspected we knew someone in real life we would block them.

Miss

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

It's not something I have ever felt would be a problem. I'm not one to shout from the rooftops but I'm also not really ashamed about my lifestyle either. I ten minutes from town anyway, but I wouldn't have any issue if I was approached from someone in my village either.

The only exception was someone who was in the same block of flats as a family member. That was never going to happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet local guys now

Not after being outed twice by two different guys on nights out

Now I won't meet within a 15 mile radius

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually meet anyone within a 20 mile radius..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting so far... Quite an even split which is what I suspected. Great points of view as always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer meeting people away from home. It gives us the excuse to travel the country.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't meet ppl near our home town purely for the reason that we may bump into each other in our normal everyday life

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge


"We are just greedy i guess as others location usnt an issue. If by chance i see you out and about i would smile but i smile at everyone even perfect strangers as i believe it cheers ppl up"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a couple message me this week saying "it's a shame I'm too close". They then went on to say that they don't meet locals because of privacy,their reputation, their kids etc etc.. And this got me pondering - do many swingers have this rule as usually it's because someone's too far away?... And even more so, if many have this rule then maybe that's why I see so many statuses and forum posts about why people think that the local talent is full of time wasters or that the site is overloaded with people who don't meet..

What are you thoughts...? "

Doesn't bother me if someone is close, or if I see them out and about after we've shagged.

IMO closer is better - I don't need to find as much time to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We won't meet ppl near our home town purely for the reason that we may bump into each other in our normal everyday life "

We are exactly the same. We dont play in the same townwhere we live which is a bit of a shame as decs is only up the road

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I travel all over for the right people who are genuine and I've built up a rapport with.

I reeeeeeeally don't get people who message .... If only you lived closer

If distance is your only problem then the point of messaging seems futile. It's like saying "Here's what you could have met" although in some cases that could be a god send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't meet anyone from the small rural villages where Mrs SKC is from, it's too close to home.

Bit different in a big city.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I had a couple message me this week saying "it's a shame I'm too close". They then went on to say that they don't meet locals because of privacy,their reputation, their kids etc etc.. And this got me pondering - do many swingers have this rule as usually it's because someone's too far away?... And even more so, if many have this rule then maybe that's why I see so many statuses and forum posts about why people think that the local talent is full of time wasters or that the site is overloaded with people who don't meet..

What are you thoughts...?

Doesn't bother me if someone is close, or if I see them out and about after we've shagged.

IMO closer is better - I don't need to find as much time to see them."

We agree with this , and are very happy to play with those close to us . We have kids and a family business , but aren't ashamed nor afraid of locals finding out what we do . We have bumped into playmates at the local shops and so on , never a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My policy is never to play in my own back yard as i dont want to bump into them on a regular occurance...my nearest playmate is about 15 miles away and not on site anymore so its all good.x

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By *itandSteveCouple
over a year ago

Stroud

Size matters lol...We live in a small market town so we have a no locals rule as its just too small and we have kids etc... However we work in Ipswich, but have no problems meeting people local to work.. only time we broke that rule..(early days) K ended up being badgered by the guy so we have a 10 mile radius that we use.. close enough to travel..far enough to reduce "risk"..

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By *ittyskitchenWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I love that there are some wonderful sexy fabbers literally on my doorstep! One guy is across the road. I literally just throw a long coat over my stockings and heels! Perfect. About 3 other people within 10 mins walk. I occasionally bump into them in local shops/ pubs. We say hi. They are all lovely. Much easier!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I love that there are some wonderful sexy fabbers literally on my doorstep! One guy is across the road. I literally just throw a long coat over my stockings and heels! Perfect. About 3 other people within 10 mins walk. I occasionally bump into them in local shops/ pubs. We say hi. They are all lovely. Much easier! "

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

We tend not to meet people in our town just cause we dont like the idea of bumping into past meets in tesco etc but think we would make exeptions if the right meet came along but for now we are loving our dirty road trips.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

We don't meet locals or play locally either.

For the sake of family n kids plus we are both in public jobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet the fem half of a couple last week, she Videos it to send to her partner. I know they lived close which would normally put me off, but I risked it because they most be one of the sexiest couples within about 30 miles. I didn't recognise them at all from their pics so thought it would be safe enough.

So the meet went well I leave, she send the vid to him and they get their rocks off.

2 days later I walk into a quiet pub with a date, and they are sat at a table, my date quickly spots a spare table and sit down right next to them. First time this has ever happened to me but I fronted it out gave a nod and all was well. I've been wanting to tell people that for days but not get any mates that are into this so had to keep quiet it's been killing me.

Thanks for the therapy guys. ??

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By *reeneyedbuddhaCouple
over a year ago

on tees

When I started playing as a single I met minimum of 30 miles from home to ensure no chance of complications . Then I met buddha we are now married .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with people from my home town (I have made one exception but I know she's lovely). Tend to stick to Manchester or Liverpool only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I travel all over for the right people who are genuine and I've built up a rapport with.

I reeeeeeeally don't get people who message .... If only you lived closer

If distance is your only problem then the point of messaging seems futile. It's like saying "Here's what you could have met" although in some cases that could be a god send "

Get ya arse up here lol.

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