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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they didn't get taught basic female anatomy 101 in secondary school and think that 'fingering' is the height of sexual pleasure for a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer kissing licking and teasing to just giving a quick rub, much more fun to hear a woman enjoying herself and then cumming on my tongue before moving on to other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way"

My response to that kind of comment is 'yes, lots of women are very good at faking orgasms just to get the bloke to move on...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts"

I think it's important to ask for what you want, and ask questions of your partner to learn what they enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way

My response to that kind of comment is 'yes, lots of women are very good at faking orgasms just to get the bloke to move on...'"

Oh yes they've been told that before, ive put in some oscar worthy performances myself!

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now"

Probably will, most likely about how great they are and they always make a woman cum!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

Probably will, most likely about how great they are and they always make a woman cum!! "

Of course they do. Always.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I've always found that asking helps but the other side of that coin is the woman needs to be honest

Some women like direct clitoral stimulation, some indirect so I would say show them what gets you off.

And guys,

Watch and learn

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts

I think it's important to ask for what you want, and ask questions of your partner to learn what they enjoy. "
yes this exactly....n I think we should get tought this stuff if sex Ed, so the sad truth is we take advice from friends that have no idea themselves.it took me years to know how to properly please a woman till she had trouble speaking lol. Communication is key especially when it cums to foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to her body

It'll tell you everything you need to know

I'm a pleaser so love this kind of thread xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky if they even go near my clit.

The majority of guys I've met just focus on the fingerings to make me squirt. I deliberately hold back. If I want to play watersports, I'll do it with someone I trust.

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By *osforthMan
over a year ago

newcastle on tyne

The lady i'm currently seeing regularly loves clit rubbing, so i asked how she liked it done. She took my hand & guided me as to how she liked it done. So the moral of the tale guys is ask directions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personaly I like to give all of it a lot of attention lips,clit fingers love to nibble all around the lips clit and even cover the whole thing and suck nice n hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree op. I've only had one person who has made me orgasm like that. It's the same if the toys come out, not a clue how to use my wand to tease me, it's so frustrating, I end up doing it myself and then it's game over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily I don't have that problem with my man

Kinky

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Gently and plenty.

I've been taught well . And I still recall the night I learnt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we have here is, failure to communicate

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Not all men?

I know someone who is rather good with his hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find guys generally have a series of steps, a bit like colour by numbers.

Usually things they learned from porn or giggling friends as schoolboys.

Rub this

Tweak that

Twiddle that

Jam you finger in there

Climb on board and satisfy her with your mighty woman pleasing weapon.

Unfortunately lots of women reinforce that 'technique' by faking orgasms.

Rare is the man who asks or acts on any information you give him. Rarer still is the man who watches and listens to your clues.

My partner blew me away by putting his ego aside and being willing to learn. Quite honestly the most stunning sex I've ever had.

I know there's lots of guys out there who are brilliant like this, but they're not the type to write messages to us girls along the lines of "I can make you squirt and pound you hard" lol

My guy benefits too because I put extra effort into pleasuring him and he gets 'birthday sex' all the time.

When you find a great lover girls, wrap your legs around him and never let him go!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Fact is that every woman is different and that needs to be considered. Unfortunately loads of men use one approach only. I find many man way to rough with my clit and I'm no fan of the fingering until she squirts manoeuvre. If I let them I'm numb by the time it comes to penetrative sex and it turns into an ordeal. However I stop them way before. Communication is the key, if you want to enjoy your meet and sex you've to tell them what you like and want.

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By *itscotsguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Seems like a bit of generalisation going on lol. To me, it's all about communication. In my younger days I wouldn't have known what to do but through experience and talking you learn from each other. Personally I love giving clitoral stimulation

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Miss doesnt cum through penetration just through clit stimulation. I guess the more you know a person and communicate the more you find what they like. I use 2/3 fingers on her clit and tend to use a circular motion with some variations and occasionally insert a finger or two. Jack.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're given the wrong thing in a shop and say nothing you go home unsatisfied. The same principle applies with sex.

Guide a hand, ask for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always show them how you like it. Tho saying that I've had to do that alot lately as they just didn't have a clue.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"Fact is that every woman is different and that needs to be considered. Unfortunately loads of men use one approach only. I find many man way to rough with my clit and I'm no fan of the fingering until she squirts manoeuvre. If I let them I'm numb by the time it comes to penetrative sex and it turns into an ordeal. However I stop them way before. Communication is the key, if you want to enjoy your meet and sex you've to tell them what you like and want. "

- I don't understand why any guy with any kind of sexual experience would come to the conclusion that all women are the same. Unless that sexual experience is rubbing a cock up and down on their own all the time...

If this happened to Kate (and it has) we call time in it. It maybe a wrong assumption but personally I'd expect people in this lifestyle to at least be thinking and considerate about these things.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, that's all very good, but what's a clit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, that's all very good, but what's a clit? "

It's that group of people on here that message each other in secret and hunt in packs

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Ok, that's all very good, but what's a clit? "

Yeah I've had a couple of guys trying to rub my pee hole...

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Pussyworshipping is a dying art. It's rare but lovely when I find one. That's my type of man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gently and plenty.

I've been taught well . And I still recall the night I learnt!"

That wouldn't work for me.

It's almost like every body is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts

I think it's important to ask for what you want, and ask questions of your partner to learn what they enjoy. "

That would make sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The easy answer is to get a women to do it. In my experience they are far more qualified to get the job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy a good fingering

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way

My response to that kind of comment is 'yes, lots of women are very good at faking orgasms just to get the bloke to move on...'"

I never get the point of faking an orgasm.... Surely it results in never getting that fine orgasm.....

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It's a bit like women thinking they know how to give a great blowjob; maybe they have met men who come really easily, or maybe they have met guys who will say "that was amazing, thanks" because they don't want to hurt their feelings, but the only solid fact is; every woman can put her lips around a cock and suck it. Not every woman gives a great blowjob though. To answer the OP's question; you just haven't met a guy who knows what he is doing, OR, you haven't told guys what works for you

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"The easy answer is to get a women to do it. In my experience they are far more qualified to get the job done. "

Pmsl! I'll happily take up that challenge

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Ok, that's all very good, but what's a clit?

It's that group of people on here that message each other in secret and hunt in packs "

Lmfao! Nice one mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple answer is some men are good at sex others arnt, if your with one that isn't, either show him what it is that you like or bin him. It's not like there's a shortage of men here.

Conversely there are plenty of ladies that are terrible at sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

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I think it's important to ask for what you want, and ask questions of your partner to learn what they enjoy. "

I agree! I always take their hand and show them how I like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit like handjobs for men.

Women have no clue how to give one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clit is a joy to play with and I love spending plenty of time on the clit either with my fingers or with my tongue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way

My response to that kind of comment is 'yes, lots of women are very good at faking orgasms just to get the bloke to move on...'

I never get the point of faking an orgasm.... Surely it results in never getting that fine orgasm..... "

Sometimes you just want to get them to move on without hurting their feelings. Some blokes are so dead set that they must give you an orgasm (I assume otherwise their pride and masculinity would be dented) that they won't stop until they think you've had one.

Now I'd just throw a bloke like that out of bed, but I didn't used to be so confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is all providing they actually know what a clit is

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By *akahCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It's all about listening to woman's body physically and vocally. That will let you if what your doing is right or not! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clit stimulation is vital for lubrication and clitorial orgasms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that most women change depending on how they feel,but most will tell you or guide you or if you fuck up they do it themselves, if all fails I go for the the 2 fingers and thump one finger in pussy,finger up ass and rub clit gently with thump not often fails,if it does play with yourself,multiple tasking but worth the practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversely, some women are rubbish at communicating what they like. Just tell the chap beforehand what works for you and what doesn't, and ask him what he likes.

Make the discussion part of the foreplay. It's fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies it works both ways. A vigorous wank works for some guys and not others in just the same way. I use a system of 26 different strokes on guys in my sessions.

As a Tantric Masseur I was taught how to arouse both sexes by engaging all the senses and erogenous zones. It's not a race to the finish line, it's a journey.

Sadly, like some have mentioned, no one ever teaches you this. It's impossible to know exactly what it feels like when we are so different anatomically. That's why women often have better sex with women and men often have better sex with other men.

Talk to each other, be prepared to listen and learn and sex can be so much richer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is all providing they actually know what a clit is "

I got a ring through my hood and some blokes still can't find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should've upgraded to the piercing that transmits football commentary. They'd have no problem then lol

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Tell the guy what you like.

Not everyone likes same things, some women love it and some find it far to sensitive while others are far more aroused by a different spot.

Much like nipples, some love it, some feel nothing, while others can barely be touched.

It takes time to learn what works on each lady, it's why we laugh when guys at clubs think they can turn wiggles on and touch her the same way I do after 20 years together. Sure they may get lucky and find few areas, but not all.

So ladies simply say what you want, I personally find it highly stimulating when a woman knows what she wants and says. But then I rather enjoy foreplay, rather than just sex.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"This is all providing they actually know what a clit is

I got a ring through my hood and some blokes still can't find it."

I have a tattoo on my pussy and some have suggested I need to make it into an arrow so it points the way for those who don't have a clue

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Some men are experts at doing it how i like it which is great for me it doesnt bother me if they dont make me cum because i can use my vibrator instead.

Some men seem to enjoy doing it so you both enjoy it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid I don't have that much experience so when I met Mo I was very nervous but I just went with the aim to start slow and excite her ?

I think I managed it as nearly 3 years later we now have a couples profile and I'm still finding ways to excite her !

This has only been done by communication and a bit of trial and thankfully not much error

Can't see how in a one off meet a guy can fulfil a ladies desires without putting in the ground work of asking what she wants ?

But then I'm a the woman's pleasure comes first type of guy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now"

Most guys are willing to learn just tell them what you want ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

Most guys are willing to learn just tell them what you want ??"

You keep believing that...

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If we have someone who doesnt know..... I tend to delicately push way with my leg and show them what I like.

Not everyone gets off the same way

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

To be fair there have been a few men that couldn't find my clit if they had a sat nav, Google maps and a huge neon sign about it pointing saying "here clit is"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

Most guys are willing to learn just tell them what you want ??

You keep believing that..."

Hey life is full of new experiences to learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different, I tend to watch and listen to the lady when we play and rest to what she is enjoying most, the problem is probably more for male gratification, where it should be about both getting full enjoyment. If the ladies feel they being short changed , maybe they should move on until they find their ideal fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just bought my own clit stimulator,it's sooo good

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's one of those times you have to speak up OP and say or show what it is you actually enjoy. Everyone is different and maybe they've been lucky a few times with that particular move and carry it on? Be more vocal and willing to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk to whoever you are with - we cant read minds and not all bodies respond in a way you can tell what is happening -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly I like to give all of it a lot of attention lips,clit fingers love to nibble all around the lips clit and even cover the whole thing and suck nice n hard "

Don't suck hard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's one of those times you have to speak up OP and say or show what it is you actually enjoy. Everyone is different and maybe they've been lucky a few times with that particular move and carry it on? Be more vocal and willing to help."

Being vocal is always good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly I like to give all of it a lot of attention lips,clit fingers love to nibble all around the lips clit and even cover the whole thing and suck nice n hard

Don't suck hard! "

Why not? I like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Orgasm Prescription for women is a really good book I would recommend any guy that says "I can make you squirt" on his profile to read it. It's really impowering for us women as many women can not not reach an orgasm with others or may have never had one! Go read it if you haven't already!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Orgasm Prescription for women is a really good book I would recommend any guy that says "I can make you squirt" on his profile to read it. It's really impowering for us women as many women can not not reach an orgasm with others or may have never had one! Go read it if you haven't already!! "

I don't say that I can make a woman squirt and I've never tried but I'm always keen to learn so I'll look it up. Thanks for the recommendation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Orgasm Prescription for women is a really good book I would recommend any guy that says "I can make you squirt" on his profile to read it. It's really impowering for us women as many women can not not reach an orgasm with others or may have never had one! Go read it if you haven't already!!

I don't say that I can make a woman squirt and I've never tried but I'm always keen to learn so I'll look it up. Thanks for the recommendation "

After reading this book I managed to reach my very first orgasm all by myself! It actually made me cry as I thought (and was once told by a guy) that I was broken and would never be able to do it. It's crazy to think how much control a women has with her orgasm and how comfortable and relaxed you are with the other person is sooo important. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a pleaser so love giving all of the woman my attention,including her clit.You need to listen and feel for what works,or doesn't work.My tongue and mouth usually work pretty well in that area

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts"

You're meeting the wrong guys..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

Probably will, most likely about how great they are and they always make a woman cum!! "

I love it when my partner gives feedback, to the right, slow and hard licks, light and fast, more fingers, clits to sensitive lick the hood etc it's all about her and not abut what I think I may know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Orgasm Prescription for women is a really good book I would recommend any guy that says "I can make you squirt" on his profile to read it. It's really impowering for us women as many women can not not reach an orgasm with others or may have never had one! Go read it if you haven't already!!

I don't say that I can make a woman squirt and I've never tried but I'm always keen to learn so I'll look it up. Thanks for the recommendation

After reading this book I managed to reach my very first orgasm all by myself! It actually made me cry as I thought (and was once told by a guy) that I was broken and would never be able to do it. It's crazy to think how much control a women has with her orgasm and how comfortable and relaxed you are with the other person is sooo important. Xx"

Definitely - sometimes the woman needs to let go for it to happen and I've also had occasions where she has 'missed it' - it was there and then gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fact is that every woman is different and that needs to be considered. Unfortunately loads of men use one approach only. I find many man way to rough with my clit and I'm no fan of the fingering until she squirts manoeuvre. If I let them I'm numb by the time it comes to penetrative sex and it turns into an ordeal. However I stop them way before. Communication is the key, if you want to enjoy your meet and sex you've to tell them what you like and want. "

. It's amazing how different you all are and what works for one doesn't for another. It's why I prefer repeat meets as it gives more time to learn and hopefully then please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A female orgasm?

Is that one of them there mythological thingummies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Orgasm Prescription for women is a really good book I would recommend any guy that says "I can make you squirt" on his profile to read it. It's really impowering for us women as many women can not not reach an orgasm with others or may have never had one! Go read it if you haven't already!!

I don't say that I can make a woman squirt and I've never tried but I'm always keen to learn so I'll look it up. Thanks for the recommendation

After reading this book I managed to reach my very first orgasm all by myself! It actually made me cry as I thought (and was once told by a guy) that I was broken and would never be able to do it. It's crazy to think how much control a women has with her orgasm and how comfortable and relaxed you are with the other person is sooo important. Xx

Definitely - sometimes the woman needs to let go for it to happen and I've also had occasions where she has 'missed it' - it was there and then gone"

I often find myself just on the edge and can't relax enough to 'let go' with others. I try not to put pressure on myself with others if it happens it happens. So I guy that wants me orgasm and puts pressure on me will often find he never will get that magic O from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't say that I can make a woman squirt and I've never tried but I'm always keen to learn so I'll look it up. Thanks for the recommendation

After reading this book I managed to reach my very first orgasm all by myself! It actually made me cry as I thought (and was once told by a guy) that I was broken and would never be able to do it. It's crazy to think how much control a women has with her orgasm and how comfortable and relaxed you are with the other person is sooo important. Xx

Definitely - sometimes the woman needs to let go for it to happen and I've also had occasions where she has 'missed it' - it was there and then gone

I often find myself just on the edge and can't relax enough to 'let go' with others. I try not to put pressure on myself with others if it happens it happens. So I guy that wants me orgasm and puts pressure on me will often find he never will get that magic O from me. "

Nothing worse than hearing 'are you nearly there?'

Not now I'm not

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"Pussyworshipping is a dying art. It's rare but lovely when I find one. That's my type of man "

Not in this house it isn't!!! Sir loves to partake in worshiping mine

Alex x

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way

My response to that kind of comment is 'yes, lots of women are very good at faking orgasms just to get the bloke to move on...'"

Exactly the same for ladies not being able to make a guy come from giving head !

Some girls just lick it and think that's all your do haha

Both sexes need oral 101 for sure !

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..


"What annoys me is most guys use one finger only on my clit and just rub up and down hard or worse when they are rubbing the skin above it!!

I find one finger puts way way to much pressure on and its pleasurable, when i say use a couple of fingers and do a circular motion because thats how i play i tend to get the reply 'well the other girls ive played with cum this way'

Erm sorry we arent identikit clones that all orgasm the same way"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly I like to give all of it a lot of attention lips,clit fingers love to nibble all around the lips clit and even cover the whole thing and suck nice n hard "

See thats what you like but do you take into account what she likes or just do what you want regardless

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By *blecoolerMan
over a year ago

Goole

Loving this thread!

I love a woman to tell me how she likes to be played with. I love fingering love gently teasing her 'g'spot, AND playing with and sucking her clit with my fingers lips and tongue. But do love to hear exactly what works for her and try to get it just right until she cums. Mmmmmmmm

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By *anillaguyMan
over a year ago

Kingston

Am always surprised by the compliments I receive on my finger work. Has even been commented on in verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let my fingers and tongue do the walking. Then I listen to her and her body and react accordingly. I ask questions too just to make sure she is enjoying herself

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By *inglenfreeMan
over a year ago

london


"I've always found that asking helps but the other side of that coin is the woman needs to be honest

Some women like direct clitoral stimulation, some indirect so I would say show them what gets you off.

And guys,

Watch and learn "

Well I'm up for watching and open to being instructed in what really gets you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had to be explicitly told what to do. I just explore, try different areas and techniques, and let her responses guide me.

I believe it was Bruce Lee who said "the best style, is to have no style".

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Listening to the reaction you get, and responding to make it better for the lady, is the most important thing.

It's also a good reason not to have the telly on, you can't hear her

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"A female orgasm?

Is that one of them there mythological thingummies? "

You know those things when I shake

Hang on no, that was a fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy doesn't take the time to find out what works for the woman he's playing with he's never going to be worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

I like to make a girl orgasm with clit play before I move on and give her an orgasm with intercourse got to have all basis covered I can't finish untill I know she is completely satisfied

Thoughts"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking, a finger on the clit does nothing for me, though a tongue or vibrator on my clit and fingers inside do the trick when done probably. But I'm extremely good at communicating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like to make a girl orgasm with clit play before I move on and give her an orgasm with intercourse got to have all basis covered I can't finish untill I know she is completely satisfied

Thoughts"

I hate it when guys insist on giving me an orgasm. Bodies don't work that way. You can't always have one. You're not always in the mood for one. Sometimes the guy is just shit and you want to move on.

Just enjoy yourself. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't then it doesn't. No harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to just move their hand to where I want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like to make a girl orgasm with clit play before I move on and give her an orgasm with intercourse got to have all basis covered I can't finish untill I know she is completely satisfied

Thoughts

I hate it when guys insist on giving me an orgasm. Bodies don't work that way. You can't always have one. You're not always in the mood for one. Sometimes the guy is just shit and you want to move on.

Just enjoy yourself. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't then it doesn't. No harm done."

Agreed, which can be frustrating since one of my biggest kinks is forced orgasms. Obviously if the lady isn't in the right frame of mind it won't work and we adjust play.

I certainly wouldn't keep going at the same thing through sheer obstinance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like to make a girl orgasm with clit play before I move on and give her an orgasm with intercourse got to have all basis covered I can't finish untill I know she is completely satisfied

Thoughts

I hate it when guys insist on giving me an orgasm. Bodies don't work that way. You can't always have one. You're not always in the mood for one. Sometimes the guy is just shit and you want to move on.

Just enjoy yourself. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't then it doesn't. No harm done.

Agreed, which can be frustrating since one of my biggest kinks is forced orgasms. Obviously if the lady isn't in the right frame of mind it won't work and we adjust play.

I certainly wouldn't keep going at the same thing through sheer obstinance."

I know so many tops who are into 'forced orgams'.

And so many bottoms who are great at faking them in order to flatter the top.

Every time I've been with a man who was into forced orgasms it's been genuinely awful for me. It works for men when they are the bottom, but rarely in my experience of clubbing and playing for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like to make a girl orgasm with clit play before I move on and give her an orgasm with intercourse got to have all basis covered I can't finish untill I know she is completely satisfied

Thoughts

I hate it when guys insist on giving me an orgasm. Bodies don't work that way. You can't always have one. You're not always in the mood for one. Sometimes the guy is just shit and you want to move on.

Just enjoy yourself. If it happens then it happens. If it doesn't then it doesn't. No harm done.

Agreed, which can be frustrating since one of my biggest kinks is forced orgasms. Obviously if the lady isn't in the right frame of mind it won't work and we adjust play.

I certainly wouldn't keep going at the same thing through sheer obstinance.

I know so many tops who are into 'forced orgams'.

And so many bottoms who are great at faking them in order to flatter the top.

Every time I've been with a man who was into forced orgasms it's been genuinely awful for me. It works for men when they are the bottom, but rarely in my experience of clubbing and playing for women."

I have always made it clear that I don't appreciate faking and that both parties will get much more out of a session when we're honest with each other about what works and what doesn't.

That's not to say someone hasn't faked it thinking they are doing me a favour. But in reality all they did was waste time that could have been better spent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rub yer what now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to just move their hand to where I want it. "

There you go! Not rocket science and it is a game two can play together!

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now

Probably will, most likely about how great they are and they always make a woman cum!! "

Pmsl

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I tend to just move their hand to where I want it. "

Ok

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley


"This is all providing they actually know what a clit is

I got a ring through my hood and some blokes still can't find it."

pmsl sounds like you met my ex

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By *BW Snowbunny OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I do communicate, they just never stay there long enough. There are times when I'm on the brink of an orgasm and they stop . I learnt at an early age where my clit was and how I liked it stimulated. Then taught several guys including my ex hubby. Most of my meets are in clubs and you just don't have the same experience nor time to teach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should've upgraded to the piercing that transmits football commentary. They'd have no problem then lol "

I loathe football, I'd run a mile

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Why do guys think it's okay to just give your clit a quick rub? I do orgasm by vaginal stimulation but not all the time and a clitoral orgasm is so much more intense and enjoyable. It just seems that the majority of guys spend more time fingering with an occasional clit rub but they just don't stay there long enough to produce an orgasm

Thoughts"

You guys lol..thats cute. Bless you hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy one .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the most important part. I always spend a lot of time playing and licking my other halfs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) don't tend to spend very much time fingering I prefer to play with the clit either licking sucking nibbling gently and always tend to use two fingers when I frig a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're just like Pringles to me

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"What we have here is, failure to communicate "

Some men you just can't reach. So, you get what we had here last week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clit should be treated with respect it should be played with licked sucked soothed handled like a frigile egg made to stand to attention and played with some more clitoral stimulation is an art form lost on meny males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks ladies. Good to know I'm not alone. Wonder if any guys will reply now"

I love sucking the clit hard then flicking my turn over it starting slowly and getting faster building up to the big O.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly I like to give all of it a lot of attention lips,clit fingers love to nibble all around the lips clit and even cover the whole thing and suck nice n hard

Don't suck hard!

Why not? I like that!"

Same as with nipples etc, always start out gentle until you're given the go ahead for more x

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By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge


"The easy answer is to get a women to do it. In my experience they are far more qualified to get the job done. "

Hell yes

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By *uperhorny69erWoman
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON

i find alot of guys think the more harder they rub your clit the better it feels for you & that your gonna cum,gentle is the way for me .

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"i find alot of guys think the more harder they rub your clit the better it feels for you & that your gonna cum,gentle is the way for me ."

Same here!

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By *ainaldoMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm not saying I'm an expert but I want to ensure the person I'm lucky enough to be with gets what she wants. I try to ask and that helps but sometimes I just have to listen, make a little adjustment and listen again.

If you want to be considerate and thoughtful you can, you've just got to put the effort in I think and it's something I like to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So fingering is a lost art...

It's rediscovery is I believe at the heart of the teenage pregnancy drop...

Now that said... fongering if done considerately should include clitoral stimulation not just blasting away like your in an arcade...

Now I am be ignorant but I remember reading just 17 about 25 years ago and it told me everything i needed to know about what to do around a lady garden...

Still works lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as with most things it comes with experience, my hubby always keeps me on the edge of orgasm with my clit during sex.

Unfortunately after i cum my clit is rediculously sensitive and it is hard to carry on so i am glad he learned to leave it until we are both dying to cum lol

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