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By *ikeC81 OP   Man
over a year ago

harrow

Hi all

I suppose this is a question that arose from Saturday where normally I would be a sub, getting spanked etc

On Saturday I ended up being a dom, blindfolding someone, hand cuffing them and spanking and teasing the hell out of there arse

A few people that know me were surprised as I am normally sub, and people were shocked that I could switch. I was also more dom than usual.

I wonder do other people switch or spend time as a sub or dom. this is not something it do very often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I suppose this is a question that arose from Saturday where normally I would be a sub, getting spanked etc

On Saturday I ended up being a dom, blindfolding someone, hand cuffing them and spanking and teasing the hell out of there arse

A few people that know me were surprised as I am normally sub, and people were shocked that I could switch. I was also more dom than usual.

I wonder do other people switch or spend time as a sub or dom. this is not something it do very often "

I tried switching years ago under advice that I explore to see if I would enjoy both sides of the coin. It felt inherently wrong to me so I know I'm not the least bit subby.

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick

In truth over the years I, like yourself have explored both sides of that coin. I wouldn't say I'm more one than the other because it depends who I'm with at the time.

I like to think of myself as more "role flexible"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I suppose this is a question that arose from Saturday where normally I would be a sub, getting spanked etc

On Saturday I ended up being a dom, blindfolding someone, hand cuffing them and spanking and teasing the hell out of there arse

A few people that know me were surprised as I am normally sub, and people were shocked that I could switch. I was also more dom than usual.

I wonder do other people switch or spend time as a sub or dom. this is not something it do very often "

I'm flexible, always have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a definite switch

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By *ikeC81 OP   Man
over a year ago

harrow

This is what I think I am if I have to put a tag on it - sometimes I am not sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I couldn't switch at all. I might be bossy in many aspects of my life but I'm too submissive in the bedroom.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Natural domme - I can play sub to a tiny extent with a very trusted partner but they say my facial expressions give away the dom more in me

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Subs are really the Doms but don't let the dons know about it....... , if you think about it being sub we create the environment to let ourselves go and have things we want but can't openly ask for done to us, as subs we create the role play scenario in most cases or if not create we agree to be the sub in that situation, by playing the sub role well we create the intensity that the domme thinks they are creating but really they are the ones providing the pleasure and satisfaction that the sub wanted anyway. I know for a fact that as much as Katie's plays the submissive sissy, nothing happens that she doesn't plan for, create the environment for and actually wants to happen to her, and the more sub she plays the more Dom she is being as it gives the "Dom" the scope to do to her what she wants anyway but it wouldn't have the same effect if she had asked for it and got it done to her........ if that makes sense

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick


"Subs are really the Doms but don't let the dons know about it....... , if you think about it being sub we create the environment to let ourselves go and have things we want but can't openly ask for done to us, as subs we create the role play scenario in most cases or if not create we agree to be the sub in that situation, by playing the sub role well we create the intensity that the domme thinks they are creating but really they are the ones providing the pleasure and satisfaction that the sub wanted anyway. I know for a fact that as much as Katie's plays the submissive sissy, nothing happens that she doesn't plan for, create the environment for and actually wants to happen to her, and the more sub she plays the more Dom she is being as it gives the "Dom" the scope to do to her what she wants anyway but it wouldn't have the same effect if she had asked for it and got it done to her........ if that makes sense"

That does make sense and you have the right of it.

As much as Doms are seen to be in charge, most understand that it's the subs that give the power over, the control to another in order to completely let go and yet remain safe at all times.....trusting another to watch over them and care for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Subs are really the Doms but don't let the dons know about it....... , if you think about it being sub we create the environment to let ourselves go and have things we want but can't openly ask for done to us, as subs we create the role play scenario in most cases or if not create we agree to be the sub in that situation, by playing the sub role well we create the intensity that the domme thinks they are creating but really they are the ones providing the pleasure and satisfaction that the sub wanted anyway."

That isn't the case for everyone, of course.

I'm not interested in 'subs really being dom'. That would make me walk away from a situation as far as humanly possible.

With my sub I control everything. He doesn't create any scenario. I generally don't provide him pleasure and satisfaction.

And you know, some people do indeed ask for things that they want. There's no such thing as 'can't openly ask for' - you have a mouth, so use it.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'm a Switch... depending on my mood and circumstances and who I'm with

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By *lwaysASinnerCouple
over a year ago

North West

Miss is a switch and loves it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a sub.

Only a select few (3 up to this point) can make me completely submit to them.

Anyone else I tell to do one.

Minx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naturally submissive here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like to Dom but also like to sub! I think been role flexible can be really fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both switch.

Our theory is if you have sat on both sides of the fence you become better at both roles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both switch, and while being the sub is more within my comfort zone I love to domme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a switch but not so far really let my submissive side loose. But I know it is there waiting to be dominated. Just need the right person to take control

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By *ire X IceCouple
over a year ago

coventry

I naturally sub, but can domme. It doesn't come naturally but I think it's getting easier the more we switch.

Mr likes being domme'd, need to keep practising lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We switch all the time. We know each other so well that it happens naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a sub.

Only a select few (3 up to this point) can make me completely submit to them.

Anyone else I tell to do one.

Minx

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This exactly

Im naturally submissive in a relationship where I have feelings for someone, otherwise I can't submit to someone I'm not connected to

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