FabSwingers.com forum: Idiotic excuses for no shows

By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Apparently an hour before the time agreed, my meet was in bed, of course yes that's where you'd wait for a meet...

...and then he 'accidentally' fell asleep

No wonder most guys are getting a meh from me when even well verified guys with good profiles who arrange meets do this.

I'm sure you all have some corkers to beat mine

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Just to point out - We weren't meeting at his, otherwise waiting in bed might be a very good idea

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

Best excuse we've had was"sorry I forgot I was decorating my flat" just one of many God knows why they just don't say I've lost my bottle we could talk them through it!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

'I tripped at the gym'

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Had them all. From Grandma had a heart attack to the cat was ill.

More often though they simply don't bother to turn up. No apologies. No explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'I was on the motorway on my way to you when I witnessed an RTA..as I am a doctor, I had to stop and offer my services....' that was the first I'd heard that he was a doctor!

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Sorry,my hubby was took ill at work" fair enough,but profile says your single

Not long after she went UNLOS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to turn back. Just remembered my wife tracks my phone!!

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

At least you got an 'excuse' OP

My last no show didn't give me the curtesy of one. Silly me even agreed to meet again..

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"At least you got an 'excuse' OP

My last no show didn't give me the curtesy of one. Silly me even agreed to meet again.."

Did he show the second time. Id have been so mad

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"At least you got an 'excuse' OP

My last no show didn't give me the curtesy of one. Silly me even agreed to meet again.."

It was only the day after though. Doesn't excuse leaving me waiting for the meet the night before. Idiot - next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After exchanging both face pics (straight away) and messages on kik and here for 3 weeks, I arranged a cuck related scenario at a hotel with a couple on here...it was a fantasy for them and they were ready to see the plunge...

An hour or so before, I got a message saying that "after re reading my profile" I may be a bit too hardcore for them and that they they want a guy who is new to swinging?

I didnt even bother replying..

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By *ournemouthbusinessguyMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I cant be the only one thats had this but the first meet from here i got 'sorry i got my days mixed up and booked in 2 meets on same evening, do you want to come over after?' er no.

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We've only had 2 and both just went silent with no excuses given.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Was on my way to meet you, had a slight accident and the guys in the other car got out and stabbed me. Turned out to be very serious, I was in the hospital for months as it got infected and wuoldn't heal."

He did show me the scar on cam half a year later---pink and right at spleen level.

And no, never arranged another meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had them all from

"My landlord needs an urgent meeting with me and he just called to say he will be here in 30 mins"

"My cat has gone missing and I need to find her, can we rearrange?"

"My cat just died"

"I just found my cat dead outside"

(I seem to choose men who have cat issues

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"My nan has just popped round for a brew"

"I've cracked my tooth and need to go to the emergency dentist"

"I've locked myself out of my house"

"My horse has an infection and I need to sort it with the vet"

Yes I've been on here almost 5 years as a single woman now... I've heard every excuse to cancle going. The worst is when they just stop texting or don't turn up though. Which is why I pretty much have stopped meeting through the site and just tend to now go to clubs and events now

SL xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading these makes me realise I've been very lucky so far. Had no cancelled meets or no shows yet but it's bound to happen one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had so many excuses it's laughable. But yes you're right the least respectful is the ghosting. I lose all respect for a guy who thinks this is ok.

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By *randnew23sumsCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We had a social meet with one woman all went well and we wanted to arrange a play meet. Stayed in contact on kik swapped a few pics/vids flirty messages etc. Eventually got round to arranging a play meet and an hour before she was due round at ours she left the group conversation on kik and blocked us both! No explanation or anything!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

My best one on my old single profile was from a man,claming he had a change of plans and was having his children that day.

Fair enough i got that,however didnt get the new verification he then displayed the next day!.

Just be honest if you get a better offer

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cancelled on twice by the same lass,though at least it wasn't a no show!

First she wasn't well....fair enough.

Then her cat was run over.....followed by radio silence n a status thanking the guy she did meet for a wonderful time!

It's fine by me,she obviously just changed her mind....which I've done myself a couple of times!

Though I've never arranged a meet n repeatedly cancelled,I've had correspondence with a couple of lasses in which meeting up for a drink in the near future was mentioned n I've just changed my mind n not followed up the convo.

The only person that can waste my time here is myself!

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We had a social meet scheduled,turned up at a bar in the city which was mobbed and after a few back and forth messages of "what part are you at" they said they had went back to their hotel for a bit instead

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By *ive it to usCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Cats seem to have a lot to answer for in the swinging world!

That's why on our now rare meets we always do them at a club, so if they don't show we can still have fun xx

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

He messaged me on fab ....

The bayliffs had turned up at his door , over an unpaid bill .

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We've had a few long chats, plans made for a meet, just the date to tie up & they either go quiet or just say they'll get back to us.

Only actual no show was a third meet at their request which they then no showed for, no contact prior or since.

We just let contact slide as we don't meet that often & would rather have meets than conversations about meets.

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

most recent for me has been a couple who said that they want someone to go out for meals and the beach etc with. Not really swinging at all just wanted some friends by the sounds of it..

Not as bad as some of the excuses on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had the fell off a ladder at work, been in hospital with a hernia, fell over d*unk and broke my leg, family have turned up for excuses then theres the no shows who say they are on there way but then say they are still at home when asked and one or two who havent shown up and have blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A list of pleasant veris still doesn't guarantee they're not just simply an idiot...

one guy change time to an hour later right as he was due to meet me as he had gone to visit friends in another town this was OK as I was running late anyway but then when the time came round again he said he had nipped in to visit his mum! He definitely wasn't the sharpest tool in the box, I had approx 30 phone calls and same in texts before penny dropped I was no longer interested in meeting him!! Can't fix stupid...

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

"Need to replace a dead budgie" - 30 minutes before the meet

"Got called into work" - whilst we were en route

"auntie passed away" - whilst we were waiting in a hotel. We decided to stay anyway and early hours of the morning he displays a verification from someone he met in a club that evening

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

agreed a meets 2 weeks in advance- both of us forgot and didn't turn up. we rearranged though and have actually met then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urgh the worst one I had was...

I had been chatting to a guy for a few months on and off via here and texts before I moved back to the UK. We had spoke on the phone a couple times etc and agreed to meet up. He had veries and seemed very genuine anx interested.

The day arrives. We were texting back and forth and even spoke on the phone before i left to go meet him. He had booked the hotel and I booked the restaurant. Fast forward to me sitting in the restaurant waiting for him... for a no show

Was so embarrassed. He didn't answer my calls so I reported and blocked him as a time waster.

6 weeks later I got a text "I've only just got out of hospital"

Are you kidding me?!?!?! It's a wonder I don't give up on here... but I meet lots of lovely men and couples too so it's not all bad. Just gotta take the rough with the smooth I guess...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't invited in the first place, damn it! You did say idiotic excuse!!!

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"He messaged me on fab ....

The bayliffs had turned up at his door , over an unpaid bill .

Clearly wasn't his phone bill, must have been the car bill unpaid hence he couldn't make it

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By *aughtyguy1Man
over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge

Got let down by time wasters last week when asked for a reason didn't give one just blocked me

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By *xoticMermaidWoman
over a year ago

NORTH WEST

Ivr had a few corkers...

- Meet in a club...no show! He ended up going to another club with someone else...even displayed veri

- Meet in a club. He had docs appointment where docs was 10 mins away from club. Messaged me 15 min, just getting prescription. No show ended, he had to drive 45 mins away to get his prescription!!?

So many timewasters even if they have been veried!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I arranged to meet a couple. Had been exchanging messages and pics. All seemed ok. I arrived at agreed meeting place. No show.

I then got a message from the female saying her husband was on the other side of town and was not doing as he was told!!

They disappeared from fab not long after that.

Lesson learnt from that was to be cautious of profiles with no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dog ate my.. genitals

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By *dstar01Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I arranged to meet a couple. Had been exchanging messages and pics. All seemed ok. I arrived at agreed meeting place. No show.

I then got a message from the female saying her husband was on the other side of town and was not doing as he was told!!

They disappeared from fab not long after that.

Lesson learnt from that was to be cautious of profiles with no verifications. "

Holding my sides at this.... laughter ripping through me.... what do veris have to do with anything?....ive been stood up a few times.... i dont check to see if the reason was cos of veris !!! Steange thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been involved in a car accident"

"I've just walked out of my job and not in the mood to meet"

"Sorry I lost my phone."

I wonder if the same people use the same excuses, and someone will recognise them here!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"My car battery blew up"

No it really did. Thankfully still made it to the meet

Thankfully I've no excuses given to me that I can share as all have shown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got stood up by a girl who messaged the next day asking how my night had been?!? Erm....rubbish as I sat at home alone waiting for you?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe speaking too soon, but never had a no show (we don't accomodate so that helps) and we've never failed to show for a meet! think it's easier if you are a couple meeting a couple sometimes one of us has doubts or nerves but we have each other to talk to, singles however don't have that luxury, if they have doubts or get nervous they've no one to talk to and then bottle out.

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