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By *orksCouple25 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Well I think people can class themselves however they like. You don't have to agree with it. Its the internet. What does it matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to sound blunt.....but does anyone genuinely care?

The days of swingers being wife swappers, keys in a bowl sort of thing are long gone.

Welcome to the future, embrace it. Everyone's here for the same reason (well mostly)

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Good question. I've been on here as both single and couple. Still looking for the same kinda thing. Maybe its more an umbrella term.i mean those holidaymakers likely wouldnt be doing clubs, socials and couples though will they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

No they're not, unless they are looking to meet couples, otherwise they are just singles looking for nsa sex. That said, if you removed all those only looking for 1-2-1 meets it would be a lot quieter on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i joined here i was single (i'm now with a fellow fabber and occasional fourumite) and came looking for...something more, there are easier ways of hooking up than fab and after a short while i found i liked meeting couples and being in group situations and that's easier to find on here so if not a swinger, i certainly think i was a small cog in the swinging world as it were, single guys have their place in this world, and obviously the single women do too.

and what of me now? i have a gf yet more often meet alone. am i a swinger? or only one if i meet along side my gf?

i'm not sure the line id=s that clear cut but ya know, i don't think it really matters, it's fun, who cares what the label says?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

they're not wife swappers and can't be.

they can be swingers though, they can join in 3sums or have orgies or just fuck people for the sake of fucking them, just like couples can do that also.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm single and looking for Nsa sex, is that wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id=s* is. dunno what i did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're in the process of setting up two singles accounts. So yes... "singles" can be swingers. On Fab it's not so much a designation of relationship status as a sign you're willing to meet singley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab. "

Agree, why can couples be the only swingers? Arnt we all allowed to join in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab.

Agree, why can couples be the only swingers? Arnt we all allowed to join in?"

Nope, singletons who wander into a 'proper' swinging environment should be ostracized in disgrace and never allowed to see daylight again.

(Sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm)

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab.

Agree, why can couples be the only swingers? Arnt we all allowed to join in?

Nope, singletons who wander into a 'proper' swinging environment should be ostracized in disgrace and never allowed to see daylight again.

(Sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm)"

Lol, better find a man then xx

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab.

Agree, why can couples be the only swingers? Arnt we all allowed to join in?

Nope, singletons who wander into a 'proper' swinging environment should be ostracized in disgrace and never allowed to see daylight again.

(Sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm)"

But is OK if we wanna meet them lol

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

if we're single and not what someone is looking for they can block us from search. most of us are fucking other singles. not sure how not being here would solve any problems couples have with us?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

actually most the guys i met were not single but pretended they were. so hey most the single guys here are part of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you saying that every couple who fucks other couples always forms a relationship with them first? Or that single people aren't in relationships so can't be called swingers?

Technically, couples who swap partners are the traditional swingers. If they only have 3 sums, they're just shagging around, in pairs.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, the OP is right, only couples should be allowed to call themselves swingers officially.

Perhaps any single who is found to be calling themselves a swinger should also be subject to the trades descriptions act, and prosecuted for 'passing off'. Maybe a jail sentence imposed rather than a fine.

Otherwise, how will anyone ever treat the honourable designation of 'swinger' with the dignity and respect it deserves?! Maybe the EU could get involved and make it an official historical marque, like Champagne and Cornish Pasties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term swingers is for old people. I don't want to be lumped in with them.

Let's call ourselves the people of the liberated sexual freedom fighters.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Op, not met singles, bitter?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, not met singles, bitter?????"

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

I suppose it's true though as a single I don't have a guy to share. But il happily play with couples so maybe just greedy

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

They should simply rename the site 'Fab Filthy Sods', it would stop all this confusion in an instant.

All welcome! As long as you're a filthy sod.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"The term swingers is for old people. I don't want to be lumped in with them.

Let's call ourselves the people of the liberated sexual freedom fighters. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They should simply rename the site 'Fab Filthy Sods', it would stop all this confusion in an instant.

All welcome! As long as you're a filthy sod."

Or FFS! For short

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"They should simply rename the site 'Fab Filthy Sods', it would stop all this confusion in an instant.

All welcome! As long as you're a filthy sod.

Or FFS! For short "

A curious coincidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, us singles just shag around lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They should simply rename the site 'Fab Filthy Sods', it would stop all this confusion in an instant.

All welcome! As long as you're a filthy sod.

Or FFS! For short

A curious coincidence! "

Isn't it just

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

We are Lepers unless we wanna meet the real swingers, this post has really got my back up!!

I had a fb, was willing to meet as a couple and the others only wanted him....

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events. "

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single and looking for Nsa sex, is that wrong?"

Yes it is.. now get to my room.. you should be ashamed

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events.

This ^^ "

We can but will be hounded by proper Swinging couples ?? ?? ??

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events.

This ^^

We can but will be hounded by proper Swinging couples ?? ?? ?? "

Ohhhh. What horror...

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I'm on here and single. I don't know that I'd call myself a swinger, I'm not entirely sure. Whatever I'm doing here, I certainly don't think it can be likened to 'shagging as many people as possible' ......

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Well one thing is for sure, I won't be meeting any narrow minded couples like the OP! Would rather enjoy my 'single Swinging Life' lol Good Luck with the Mff pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does it really matter what the label says? it doesn't change the dynamic each of us has within the community..i'm here to enjoy fab, not worry about what box i should go sit and wait in

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

I'm not a swinger and I don't 'shag as many people as I can' either but I sometimes shag a swinger - they're so easy you know......

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Interesting topic we can quickly clarify.

Swinging is defined as a non monogamous behavior where singles in a relationship or outside a relationship and couples in a relationship, engage in sexual activities for the purpose of relaxation or recreation.

As a result of this definition, singles are swingers and should be classed as swingers.

Swinging can never be compared to what singles do on holidays mostly because of alcohol related intoxication.

With swinging, single swingers know they are going to a party for sex, no emotions, no strings attached, no baggage, no excess alcohol. The single men and women know that they can walk over to the opposite sex they like and say, Hi, I like you would you have me , if yes fine, if no they move on. There is safety,security,no risk and satisfaction guaranteed.

I have noticed a lot of single ladies taking over the scene at parties and I would say more power to them, they don't have to be sexually frustrated anymore, they don't need to try and pull one guy at the normal clubs who is not discrete when now with swinging they can have 10 guys in a party on the same night,better dressed, higher quality,better behaved, discrete, thank her for the play and keep their mouths shut. Single swingers rock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello.. single 23 year old male here, the very sort you singled out on your post.

Believe it or not, but there's actually a need for single on the swinging scene, as I'm sure my veris can prove. Even younger ones like me. Everything in this world evolves, from technology, to medicine, and in this case; swinging.

Gone are the days of adverts in a magazine for wife swapping. Swinging has evolved into a more explorative world, where people can find and satisfy themselves sexually with others in the same mindset, and feel safe doing so. I'm not gonna find people near my age or older in a club or party resort who'd be willing to explore some of the wilder sides of sex, let alone feel comfortable or safe doing so with them. Who do you turn to when you want someone to join you and your partner for a threesome? You're not gonna ask the bloke in the bar, nor the lady in the shop. You'll turn to an online community like fab, and look for a single.

And that, OP is why singles swing. Male and female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a single fem b4 I met mr k in here...was I a swinger? I think so had meets with couples went to parties abs clubs and played with couple/groups...not having a partner at the time made no less of a swinger than I was in previous swinging relationship and i am now...and saying to ban singles loads of couples only want to meet singles so how would that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP, I've noticed you're interested in meeting single women, as shown in your profile.

Don't go throwing stones in glass houses.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Singles brigade speak up, contribute and let us correct things, swinging belongs to us too , single females and males. On fabs and at the clubs, everywhere you look it's always no single females and males at this party or that party.

However when you attend the couples parties as a couple, you see its not as interesting without the hot single men and women.

Swinging like everthing has changed and I believe the number of single men and women at parties should be rationed to balance the party but they should not completely shut out the singles as they are doing at the moment.

We like and enjoy swinging single for as long as we are single , when we become a couple we will enjoy it too, please couples that stand with singles and enjoy their company speak up too and maybe we can change things.

I personally don't like pulling in normal clubs and don't do it, I prefer talking to a female swinger in a swingers party , single or in a couple, their standards are much higher, they are not heavily intoxicated with alcohol, they are mentally more matured and you can be straight to the point with them in a safe and secure environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.. single 23 year old male here, the very sort you singled out on your post.

Believe it or not, but there's actually a need for single on the swinging scene, as I'm sure my veris can prove. Even younger ones like me. Everything in this world evolves, from technology, to medicine, and in this case; swinging.

Gone are the days of adverts in a magazine for wife swapping. Swinging has evolved into a more explorative world, where people can find and satisfy themselves sexually with others in the same mindset, and feel safe doing so. I'm not gonna find people near my age or older in a club or party resort who'd be willing to explore some of the wilder sides of sex, let alone feel comfortable or safe doing so with them. Who do you turn to when you want someone to join you and your partner for a threesome? You're not gonna ask the bloke in the bar, nor the lady in the shop. You'll turn to an online community like fab, and look for a single.

And that, OP is why singles swing. Male and female."

Spot on.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

If it wasn't for single males and females, couples wouldn't get their 3sums!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Always something eh? why not start your own site where you can have only couples that are site supporters and you can send face pix without logos on it,I notice you are looking for single females on your page which is a tad ironic ( I would have said hypocritical but I shan't)

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Two singles can be a 'couple' in the sense of being each other's FB. It's called moving with the times.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think it matters. It's not going to stop anyone meeting anyone so rather a meaningless worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

I,m single and I,m a swinger. Why should the term be reserved for couples OP? X

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

Okay OP this quickly escalated didn't it? I skim read so maybe I missed a post. I don't see you suggesting that singles should not be allowed, just that they shouldn't be called swingers.

Did I class myself as a swinger when I was single? No. Just a woman with a high sex drive.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

I think the term has evolved.

I consider myself a swinger because I have the same views and attitudes towards sex when single or with someone. I don't dismiss the scene when I meet someone. Perhaps the actual ACT of 'one to one sex' I engage in at the moment is not swinging as such, but I am still a swinger

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab.

Agree, why can couples be the only swingers? Arnt we all allowed to join in?"

Probably because some couples like to think they're part of some elite society and not like us single people who are just shagging around,although that's exactly what they're doing as well.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I think the term has evolved.

I consider myself a swinger because I have the same views and attitudes towards sex when single or with someone. I don't dismiss the scene when I meet someone. Perhaps the actual ACT of 'one to one sex' I engage in at the moment is not swinging as such, but I am still a swinger "

Never thought of it this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the term has evolved.

I consider myself a swinger because I have the same views and attitudes towards sex when single or with someone. I don't dismiss the scene when I meet someone. Perhaps the actual ACT of 'one to one sex' I engage in at the moment is not swinging as such, but I am still a swinger "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.. single 23 year old male here, the very sort you singled out on your post.

Believe it or not, but there's actually a need for single on the swinging scene, as I'm sure my veris can prove. Even younger ones like me. Everything in this world evolves, from technology, to medicine, and in this case; swinging.

Gone are the days of adverts in a magazine for wife swapping. Swinging has evolved into a more explorative world, where people can find and satisfy themselves sexually with others in the same mindset, and feel safe doing so. I'm not gonna find people near my age or older in a club or party resort who'd be willing to explore some of the wilder sides of sex, let alone feel comfortable or safe doing so with them. Who do you turn to when you want someone to join you and your partner for a threesome? You're not gonna ask the bloke in the bar, nor the lady in the shop. You'll turn to an online community like fab, and look for a single.

And that, OP is why singles swing. Male and female.

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Excellent

I read the OP as just a question. Didn't think they were being abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a lifestyle and anyone who chooses to partake of that lifestyle would be a swinger...wife swapping was in 60s /70s...

swinger

noun

1.

informal

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

2.

informal

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

Either way...hits most things on the list of swingers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single and looking for Nsa sex, is that wrong?"

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I suppose my single/couple periods on here can be likened to my bisexuality.

If i am in a relationship with a man am i now straight or a woman am i now gay? No i am always bisexual.

Just like if im on my own or with a partner at a club or social... im still a swinger. Not a swinger OR a single girl muscling in where i shouldnt be.

This said i met two young lads in quest who didnt know what fab was nor had been to a social. The bloke i was with complained that swinging was now getting too 'mainstream'... thats another line of thought altogether. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to your question op.

Yes. No. Maybe? But are you looking for a single female swinger, or a Female that's into NSA? As per your profile. With out her being warmly welcomed on this site, you'd have to rely on other couples only.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why have some people got so defensive and wound up? The op asked a question...a pointless one as people will describe themselves how they like and the site administrators accept all, but a question nonetheless, I didn't think it deserves this shit storm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

I agree to a point. Singles looking for someone to shag is not really swinging. I also think that a lot of singles on Fab are just looking for NSA sex and would not claim to be swingers. However I regard swinging as a lifestyle choice, of which singles might choose to join. We are a swinging couple who regularly plays with single men. By and large we only play with men who are swingers. We do not play with men who are looking for a shag. We regard these men as swingers because they have embraced the lifestyle of combining socialising and sex, attending parties, and sex that involves more that 2 people. In short they do the same things we do.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I've been a swinger for over 10 years as a single and part of a couple in the past.

Swinging is a lifestyle it's not something you just tend to do once. The social aspect is a huge side of it. I love meeting open minded people. You try half the shit in the 'vanilla world' and you're a slut, a weirdo, have no morals, a relationship wrecker.

As a single I meet singles and couples. You never know who out of those singles you meet can lead to swinging partners or fb's or whatever really.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events. "

I go to clubs and social events all the time on my own

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events.

I go to clubs and social events all the time on my own "

She was being sarcastic hun x

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"The problem with single people not being swingers is we can't go to swingers clubs or events.

I go to clubs and social events all the time on my own

She was being sarcastic hun x"

Ha I am blonde sometimes haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was a single fem b4 I met mr k in here...was I a swinger? I think so had meets with couples went to parties abs clubs and played with couple/groups...not having a partner at the time made no less of a swinger than I was in previous swinging relationship and i am now...and saying to ban singles loads of couples only want to meet singles so how would that work?"

This is probably the closest to my situation. I still classed myself as a swinger when I was single because I knew I'd want to find another mr I could swing with.

On the other hand I do understand what op means, singles who only meet other singles for private meets isn't swinging. Surely the pof lot looking for the same thing wouldn't call themselves swingers??

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps."

He didn't, he said lads and lasses

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

When I went to wife swapping parties in the late 60s early 70s there were plenty of singles taking part

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps.

He didn't, he said lads and lasses "

my bad I got caught up in the reaction posts thanks for the correction but I still think it's a holier than thou post x

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

In my 5 years experience,swinging has evolved,it's different to when it started with wifeswapping/keys on the table

Singles are a big part of the community,I meet single men,also I do life ffm,alot of couple's don't play with couples,they like the additional single man/lady.So those couples welcome us to the swinging lifestyle

Couples that meet only couples will never approve of singles being swingers,and argue that we are not,unless they want a ffm then we are accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps."

He or she didn't single out males only actually. His or her view is very clear that single men and women looking for a shag is not swinging. You may disagree and feel that is swinging, but on that basis all those looking for a shag on Tinder are also swinging. Not sure how the OP is hypocritical - that would imply the OP is doing something that he/she is criticising others for doing.

Mrs

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps.

He or she didn't single out males only actually. His or her view is very clear that single men and women looking for a shag is not swinging. You may disagree and feel that is swinging, but on that basis all those looking for a shag on Tinder are also swinging. Not sure how the OP is hypocritical - that would imply the OP is doing something that he/she is criticising others for doing.

Mrs"

I addressed my faux pas a couple of posts previously

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps.

He or she didn't single out males only actually. His or her view is very clear that single men and women looking for a shag is not swinging. You may disagree and feel that is swinging, but on that basis all those looking for a shag on Tinder are also swinging. Not sure how the OP is hypocritical - that would imply the OP is doing something that he/she is criticising others for doing.

Mrs"

The hypocrisy part is chastising singles for being on a swingers site yet looking for single females to swing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Singles are not swingers, they're playthings for couples. Thought everyone knew that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was a single fem b4 I met mr k in here...was I a swinger? I think so had meets with couples went to parties abs clubs and played with couple/groups...not having a partner at the time made no less of a swinger than I was in previous swinging relationship and i am now...and saying to ban singles loads of couples only want to meet singles so how would that work?

This is probably the closest to my situation. I still classed myself as a swinger when I was single because I knew I'd want to find another mr I could swing with.

On the other hand I do understand what op means, singles who only meet other singles for private meets isn't swinging. Surely the pof lot looking for the same thing wouldn't call themselves swingers?? "

Oh yeah I agree you if you are a single that only meets other singles and if you was to get in a relationship you wouldn't be meeting ur not a swinger and there are probably better site out there for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ?

Ever get the feeling this was wrote by the male half of the couple and it's one of those "I am in a couple therefore I am superior" posts if it were a proper question the OP would have not singled out males only but I guess hypocrisy is a good colour on some peeps.

He or she didn't single out males only actually. His or her view is very clear that single men and women looking for a shag is not swinging. You may disagree and feel that is swinging, but on that basis all those looking for a shag on Tinder are also swinging. Not sure how the OP is hypocritical - that would imply the OP is doing something that he/she is criticising others for doing.

Mrs

The hypocrisy part is chastising singles for being on a swingers site yet looking for single females to swing with."

Fair enough, I hadn't read their profile, and had assumed they were 'traditional' swingers. I would assume that a single lady joining them would be a swinger, otherwise she wouldn't be looking to play with a couple.

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By *orksCouple25 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Well well ,a straightforward question has got people debating which is perhaps what forums are for.

We would actually go further and say there is no such thing as 'swingers ' whether it's couples or singles but just people who enjoy sex with different people without any commitment .We don't want to be labelled anything actually. Why should anyone enjoying sex with different people have any label ?

If someone in our local pub asked us if we were 'swingers' as they had heard such a rumour , we would probably tell them to mind your own business but would be very tempted to say 'we like having sex with different people in all different combinations as we have a very adventurous sex life that we enjoy it tremendously and maybe you should try it too' .We wouldn't even use the word Swinger .

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Singles are swingers,I hope all the swingers clubs grow the confidence to say on a couples night we are going to allow x amount of single guys and x amount of single ladies who are swingers and our members and have booked before the party.

Swingers are really amazing people, very intelligent and very well behaved, when talking to a single female swinger and a single female in a normal club the difference is too much.

1. Single female swingers are never very d*unk .

2. They talk a lot of sense and you can be straight to the point with them

3. Very polite, no unnecessary attitude even if its a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well well ,a straightforward question has got people debating which is perhaps what forums are for.

We would actually go further and say there is no such thing as 'swingers ' whether it's couples or singles but just people who enjoy sex with different people without any commitment .We don't want to be labelled anything actually. Why should anyone enjoying sex with different people have any label ?

If someone in our local pub asked us if we were 'swingers' as they had heard such a rumour , we would probably tell them to mind your own business but would be very tempted to say 'we like having sex with different people in all different combinations as we have a very adventurous sex life that we enjoy it tremendously and maybe you should try it too' .We wouldn't even use the word Swinger ."

We find the label very important. As I said earlier we won't play with a single guy unless he is a swinger, or at the very least interested in the lifestyle. Why? It's hard to explain, but we have found by experience that for us it doesn't work with guys who are not, by our understanding of the definition, in the swinging lifestyle.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thank you classy swingers , you are thinking in the same line of direction as I am thinking.

The brand swinger is very important and all single swingers should ensure we hold on to that brand because to me it means someone who is a member of a club, that has been re-trained in a way of behaving when it comes to sexual relationships.

I have no business with a single female in a normal club, I don't even look at them no matter how fine but when you say single swinger, that is a whole different story. I can walk up to her standing with her boyfriend or lover in a swingers club and ask to play with her while he is there and I will have no problems.

I have introduced my single female friends to the lifestyle and they love it , it changed their life, I noticed they have more confidence and they don't drink as much anymore also the quality of guys they see has improved and increase d, they dress very classy and sexy , they have become a new person, they are always thinking of improving, they are no longer sexually frustrated as now they are meeting guys who know what they are doing with a woman's body.

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

Chester

Well I am a swinger not a single bloke looking to get notches on bedposts.

For me swinging is about meeting great people who have the same interests want to experience new things and have NSA fun together.

It would sure be good to find a partner who likes swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab. "

Is there an irony emoji?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see shoot of people criticising the OP needlessly.

They haven't said anything about swingers not being allowed on here, or at clubs or anything of the sort.

They simply asked if they should be called swingers.

But hey, don't let the facts get in the way of a true bashing folks...

OP, in actual answer to your question.

I think the term "swinger" is outdated now, it's more sexually liberated, which anyone can be, whether as a single or a couple.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We are encouraging a lot of singles to speak up because a lot of couples feel this way silently, people have to realise that the owners of swinging clubs and party groups follow these treads or have someone following the treads to check the pulse of the system.

We can change a lot of things by having these debates because the underlying feeling by some couples is once you are single you would not know how to behave when approaching married couples or any kind of couples, also another underlying feeling is that you might not respect and abide by the swinging rules once you are single, another feeling is one half of the couple will not enjoy the meet if singles are in the party, all these feelings are not true.

We can get to the point where the owners would say singles are swingers , we recognize and appreciate them as swingers, they are valuable patrons also and we are going to let a certain number of our highly appreciated single swingers, male and female into the couples party.

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

If you google swinging

It defines sexually liberated or promiscuous .

Therefore those that swing are collectively swingers .

I suppose it stops people (in the real world) using words like slags & sluts .

Its an interesting debate

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have been single for many years and this site for a long time now. I know exactly how to behave in this world often more than newbies. The knowledge comes with experience and mot with marital status x

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

People should know this, everthing starts with an opinion or question, if you are against that opinion and you don't shut it down collectively that opinion would become law. Then its too late.

The question was are singles on here swingers? If we don't repond intellectually and shut it down, then it would be , with the right momentum, if they are not swingers, why are they on fabs and allowed into swingers clubs? And by that time it would be too late and singles would be back to the normal clubs talking to normal people you don't want to have anything to do with.

Remember couples already have Saturday nights in most swingers clubs which is solely for couples and we have to change that , we singles have the attitude, momentum and finances as a group to effect that change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why have some people got so defensive and wound up? The op asked a question...a pointless one as people will describe themselves how they like and the site administrators accept all, but a question nonetheless, I didn't think it deserves this shit storm.

"

Indeed.....

Welcome to the forums... are you new here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet... you're looking for single women OP. If this should be a site just for couples by your logic, single women shouldn't use fab. "

i thought that -

ive have a single profile and had a couples profile (hacked so hence the new one) - my play is exactly as it was then - same partner in crime - the same friends as before - no difference

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Well I think people can class themselves however they like. You don't have to agree with it. Its the internet. What does it matter?"

Yea it does lol..hence their thread about it . Who cares what they class themselves as. Long as their respectful,clean and here for the same thing as many..then let them get on with it,and you do the same

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I partake of the swinging lifestyle, so I am a swinger.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

After your post maybe I shall clarify. I am single and have been on this scene as a single swinger for many years. As others have said in the past that the term swinger to some people seems old and may suggest you have to be a couple to swap and therfore be a swinger. I see myself as a sexually liberated lady who loves this scene. X

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I have been single for many years and this site for a long time now. I know exactly how to behave in this world often more than newbies. The knowledge comes with experience and mot with marital status x"

You said it girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

Why should I have to sign a government contract in order to be classified as a swinger?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I think 'swinger' is a mindset not a relationship status.

I am a swinger. I love socials, clubs, the open mindedness (in most cases), the whole mentality. I love it regardless of whether I'm in a relationship or not.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I wasn't having a pop at the OP's question as to whether singles can be classed as swingers. I'm not qualified to answer that (yet). The only part I took offence to was that singles (if not swingers) are simply here to fuck as many people as possible without any sort of relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't having a pop at the OP's question as to whether singles can be classed as swingers. I'm not qualified to answer that (yet). The only part I took offence to was that singles (if not swingers) are simply here to fuck as many people as possible without any sort of relationship. "

Ditto. And the stab at being young and out to fuck as many as possible.

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't having a pop at the OP's question as to whether singles can be classed as swingers. I'm not qualified to answer that (yet). The only part I took offence to was that singles (if not swingers) are simply here to fuck as many people as possible without any sort of relationship.

Ditto. And the stab at being young and out to fuck as many as possible."

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Not sure what I am..But i wouldn't like to label myself if I'm honest..im quite young and still newish to the scene..but I certainly don't just go around fucking for fucking. As someone said earlier,maybe "swinger" is an out of date term. We should collectively come up with another one. There's a thread to start lol

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

"

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then"

You're right, it's not a judgment. It's a description. Do they say this is good/bad one is better/worse? We see no judgement, just a description of a behaviour.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Not sure whether singles are "really" swingers but we do know that without them our swinging would be greatly impoverished. Single guys (and girls) make our visits to clubs much more enjoyable than when just couples are present.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


" Not sure whether singles are "really" swingers but we do know that without them our swinging would be greatly impoverished. Single guys (and girls) make our visits to clubs much more enjoyable than when just couples are present. "

So do you think clubs would work the same,better or worse without single guys and girls as I see single men get a hard time on here and rough deal at clubs..with prices etc?

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Some are, some get then idea of why swingers share and what each side gets out of it.

Others are just looking for a single of opposite sex to find a perminent thing and have no clue how rest of us can share.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Singles who are not very experienced in swinging don't understand where the question can lead am sure the op is innocent of understanding where this question can lead .

There are a lot of couples who don't want singles in this game because of one insecurity or the other and their numbers are very large , swinging opened the door for them to enjoy sexual activities with others using their beautiful or handsome partners as a bargaining chip and it is their momentum as it affects singles we have to stop.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


" Not sure whether singles are "really" swingers but we do know that without them our swinging would be greatly impoverished. Single guys (and girls) make our visits to clubs much more enjoyable than when just couples are present.

So do you think clubs would work the same,better or worse without single guys and girls as I see single men get a hard time on here and rough deal at clubs..with prices etc?"

Far worse. We stopped going to Liberty Elite a few years ago when single men were (temporarily) not allowed.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Who said we all call ourselves swingers?

Some people seem so precious over a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's a swinger, no ones a swinger, it's just fun, why people need labels we can't fathom, there is no hierarchy, some people like to be called swingers, some don't....

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham


"I think 'swinger' is a mindset not a relationship status.

I am a swinger. I love socials, clubs, the open mindedness (in most cases), the whole mentality. I love it regardless of whether I'm in a relationship or not."

exactly what I said earlier in the thread. Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Singles who are not very experienced in swinging don't understand where the question can lead am sure the op is innocent of understanding where this question can lead .

There are a lot of couples who don't want singles in this game because of one insecurity or the other and their numbers are very large , swinging opened the door for them to enjoy sexual activities with others using their beautiful or handsome partners as a bargaining chip and it is their momentum as it affects singles we have to stop."

A lot of couples? Based on what statistics?

It also seems to suggests that when two couples play together, one member of each couple are "taking one for the team" every time, as by your reasoning, the other partner is using them as a bargaining chip? And nor do they have a choice in the matter?

So all couples HAVE to accept and include singles in their play because it's unfair to exclude them?

Your statement shows a clear lack of understanding around couples on the scene, and would say exposes your sense of entitlement.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Sandb69 thanks, every single swinger, male or female should look at that example instead of spotting the difference between single males who just go to the club and single swingers who are males, and rationing the numbers they temporarily stopped all single guys, this is what am talking about.

Why do you think they did that , obviously couples who don't like singles made a complain.

This applies to women too my girlfriend tells me she gets stern looks from some women , when she approaches them and they are a couple, however she is what some couples want and they are very nice.

For me, I might not be everyones cup of tea but when am in my kind of party with single females and couples that like me , my fans, am a super star and that's good enough for me.

This is what swinging does ,bringing like minds together.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Singles who are not very experienced in swinging don't understand where the question can lead am sure the op is innocent of understanding where this question can lead .

There are a lot of couples who don't want singles in this game because of one insecurity or the other and their numbers are very large , swinging opened the door for them to enjoy sexual activities with others using their beautiful or handsome partners as a bargaining chip and it is their momentum as it affects singles we have to stop."

Rubbish

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

In response, I know what am saying and the majority of ladies I play with are part of a couple, very nice and very receptive.

However, I am very experienced and I have attended a lot of parties and I have had a lot of guys within a couple complain to me that the single guys in the party give their partners a lot of play options but does not give them a chance and they are nice guys too.

So I would point out to them that they are not making any effort to chat to anyone, then I would introduce them to some of my female friends and they would get options too.

These are the ones I talk to, some others will just walk over to the organizers and start giving them stress and this leads to ok lets stop all the singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what swinging does ,bringing like minds together."

But not everyone is like minded.

Some seem to struggle to understand and accept that..

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Also please note everything I say is an opinion , if you disagree ,intellectually state your point, we are debating based on experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

Did you also leave your doors open and know all your neighbours names

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah I agree not everyone is like minded , that is what the party theme helps to solve, so if you see the theme you know if the people at the party would be of the same mindset as you

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


" Not sure whether singles are "really" swingers but we do know that without them our swinging would be greatly impoverished. Single guys (and girls) make our visits to clubs much more enjoyable than when just couples are present.

So do you think clubs would work the same,better or worse without single guys and girls as I see single men get a hard time on here and rough deal at clubs..with prices etc?

Far worse. We stopped going to Liberty Elite a few years ago when single men were (temporarily) not allowed."

Oh really.. That's very interesting to hear. Personally I understand how annoying single men can be but at the same time I think that single guys make clubs a lot better as it's very hard to please all when meeting couples as a couple. If never take one for the team. If both of us didn't like then it's a no go and when I was a couple we had a better experience with singles more so than with couples

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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The social side of it is just as important as meeting people for me I like being around like minded people,

I wouldn't class myself a swinger just someone who likes sex and being in Women's company,

I would like to try the likes of MFMF, MFF, MFM but one on one's with Women is my preferred meet as I find it a bit more intimate, Flirting,

Having sex, Chatting then having more sex, I know not everyone wants that type of meet but just turning up for sex doesn't do it for me, Meeting a couple would feel like am just a sex toy for their enjoyment, I would like to have something in common/talk to the Male as well as the Female

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP I'd say your interpretation of 'swinger' is flawed for three reasons:

A) Swinging is a lifestyle, not just meeting people for random sex, like the 21 year olds in Benidorm.

B) The dictionary definition of Swinger includes the following "a person who indulges in promiscuous sex. A person, esp. one of a married couple, who exchanges partners with another for sexual activities." One does not have to be in a couple to be promiscuous.

C) If it's only couples who can swing why do so many of them want singles involved? Why do they want to meet "people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship"? If the answer is just for sex then I'd question the couple's ability to actually 'swing'.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship and the term 'Swingers' should be reserved for couples only (wife swappers in the good old days)

After all , 21year old single lads or lasses shagging as many people as they can when on holiday in Benidorm wouldn't be classed as a Swingers would they ? "

I'm trying to decide if I want that mob of 21 year old singles to declare themselves swingers and start turning up at my local swingers club or not. Might be interesting at first.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'm trying to decide if I want that mob of 21 year old singles to declare themselves swingers and start turning up at my local swingers club or not. Might be interesting at first. "

Can I come too?

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

In response, am not saying that couples have to include singles in their play niether am I saying when two couples are playing together one half has used the other as a bargaining chip.Niether am I saying there is anything wrong when couples want to play with only couples, I think this is very good as swinging is about choice.

Couples specifically look for singles, male or female I must point out, so am not talking about all couples.

What I would say is I noticed that when you have couples who just don't want to see singles at all , guys or girls, this is case and please note that they don't just stop at not wanting to see singles, they will take actions that force the hand of club management to stop singles all together.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Busted..... I'm just someone who fucks random strangers outside a relationship ...... AND I have the audacity to go to clubs.

Shall I get my coat?

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single female, I class myself as a swinger as I enjoy the group & party scene and getting involved with couples, also enjoy the MMF side of swinging.

It is what it is!

Shwing shwing away and enjoy the social aspect that goes with it.

Meeting some fabulous people in the scene.

I hope to meet a future boyfriend who I can swing with but I get what you mean as well

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"In response, am not saying that couples have to include singles in their play niether am I saying when two couples are playing together one half has used the other as a bargaining chip.Niether am I saying there is anything wrong when couples want to play with only couples, I think this is very good as swinging is about choice.

Couples specifically look for singles, male or female I must point out, so am not talking about all couples.

What I would say is I noticed that when you have couples who just don't want to see singles at all , guys or girls, this is case and please note that they don't just stop at not wanting to see singles, they will take actions that force the hand of club management to stop singles all together."

No, if we don't want to meet singles we only go to couples events.

A lot of generalisation going on

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

DiamondsRforever , more power to you , am sure you will find an amazing guy .

Couple only events , not sure why that should exist can someone intellectually put me through on why we should have couples only events

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then

You're right, it's not a judgment. It's a description. Do they say this is good/bad one is better/worse? We see no judgement, just a description of a behaviour."

it was indeed a judgement,saying "they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship" is a judgement call no matter how many rose tinted couples glasses you look through,

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"it was indeed a judgement,saying "they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship" is a judgement call no matter how many rose tinted couples glasses you look through,"

I agree

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I am single.

been in a few relationships in the past 10 years, all have been open relationships and with all I have swung.

So yes, I consider myself a swinger, who is single at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then

You're right, it's not a judgment. It's a description. Do they say this is good/bad one is better/worse? We see no judgement, just a description of a behaviour.

it was indeed a judgement,saying "they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship" is a judgement call no matter how many rose tinted couples glasses you look through,"

No it's an opinion.

Rather than use rose tinted glasses, I'll go by the English definition of the word, and what it actually does mean

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then

You're right, it's not a judgment. It's a description. Do they say this is good/bad one is better/worse? We see no judgement, just a description of a behaviour.

it was indeed a judgement,saying "they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship" is a judgement call no matter how many rose tinted couples glasses you look through,

No it's an opinion.

Rather than use rose tinted glasses, I'll go by the English definition of the word, and what it actually does mean "

Judgement......is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shocked how aggressive the response to the OP is given they offered no judgement or made any suggestions of removal.

"Swinger" is just a label you can let define you or define yourself. We wouldn't use it to define ourselves as it's limiting.

Why are singles on Fab classed as swingers ? Surely they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship

That is not a judgement? hmmm ok then

You're right, it's not a judgment. It's a description. Do they say this is good/bad one is better/worse? We see no judgement, just a description of a behaviour.

it was indeed a judgement,saying "they are simply people who will fuck someone without any sort of relationship" is a judgement call no matter how many rose tinted couples glasses you look through,

No it's an opinion.

Rather than use rose tinted glasses, I'll go by the English definition of the word, and what it actually does mean

Judgement......is what it is."

Of course, don't let the facts get in the way of your indignation

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

No reponse on intellectually putting me through on why couples only events should exist?

Exactly, that's what I thought would happen, because it should not exist.

Please don't get me wrong, a couple can throw a house party and invite couples only, they can hire out a club and invite couples only , they can be in a club and play with only couples and say no thanks babe to every single swinger that approaches them , all these scenarios are perfectly fine.

What I don't think is right is to treat single swingers as if they are not swingers and force the club management to ensure no single swingers come in on a normal night even though they are real swingers , this is not right

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"No reponse on intellectually putting me through on why couples only events should exist?

Exactly, that's what I thought would happen, because it should not exist.

Please don't get me wrong, a couple can throw a house party and invite couples only, they can hire out a club and invite couples only , they can be in a club and play with only couples and say no thanks babe to every single swinger that approaches them , all these scenarios are perfectly fine.

What I don't think is right is to treat single swingers as if they are not swingers and force the club management to ensure no single swingers come in on a normal night even though they are real swingers , this is not right"

No one said they should. We just choose to go to them. It could be turned around and said why should clubs allow singles? It's the same argument turned around. Our experience with single men on here have been mainly negative and predatory (our experience) so why would we go somewhere when that's not what we are looking for?

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

near lincoln

We don't call ourselves swingers any more , we just like having naughty sex and occasionally like our sex to involve other people.

We get far more fun when out in a normal dance club than a swingers club. Because there are no labels and no expectations . It used to be a fun world but there's so many negatives and rules being brought in over the last few years.

The swingers world is generally a world run by groups of single women now rather than couples and most events are organised by women and the female half of a couple.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I like what you said "single men" ,these are not single swingers who are male, they are not known to the clubs nither do they have the the etiquette, niether should single female swingers be classed on the same level as single females they are not the same.

Its for the clubs to differentiate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reponse on intellectually putting me through on why couples only events should exist?

Exactly, that's what I thought would happen, because it should not exist.

Please don't get me wrong, a couple can throw a house party and invite couples only, they can hire out a club and invite couples only , they can be in a club and play with only couples and say no thanks babe to every single swinger that approaches them , all these scenarios are perfectly fine.

What I don't think is right is to treat single swingers as if they are not swingers and force the club management to ensure no single swingers come in on a normal night even though they are real swingers , this is not right"

I hear what you're saying.

And what I take from it is, a sense of bitterness and entitlement.

Perhaps the clubs do it because it works for them?

Ooooh I don't know, from a business sense it seems perfectly acceptable to supply the demand? To cater for the main demographic of your business income? To fairly provide a service to all demographics? Now there's a crazy concept!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I had 1-2-1 meets, my main interest was group situations. The only reason I stay on the site now is for social purposes, engaging in types of conversation that I cannot have in my normal every day life.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

No bitterness at all lol, nothing personal , just debating what I noticed, as I said me and girlfriend have attended couples parties and we did not like it at all because it was just too slow and to be honest very scanty , not as interesting as the parties when the hot singles are there

So we attend parties together but we play as singles.

Now when it comes entitlement nothing like that, swinging is choice and you are entitled to nothing lol

When it comes to demographic some of the clubs are loosing as a result of the couples party and balance out when the couples and singles parties are thrown together so why continue in the same line of direction.

All great inventions arrived when someone decided that the status quo needs to be changed , same thing with this debate lol

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