FabSwingers.com forum: Wasting my time?

By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

I often wink at someone who's profile I'm attracted to, my reasoning is that I'm mindful of the endless messages some ladies receive on here.

I'm hoping that the lady in question will have a quick look at my profile and message me if she likes what she sees.

I'm wondering if it appears lazy and if ladies think I'm scatter gunning my winks in the hope of getting lucky.

Any ladies care to offer their thoughts ?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Wink at me, I might offer a few pearls of wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From observations on the forums some people never look at their winks, others just delete as they find them lazy, others like us might look once in a while and many seemed confused as to the point of them.

I kind of assumed that they were to indicate an interest and that if you reciprocated with a wink that it would be followed by a message. That doesn't always happen, and I see some people on here say they just wink to show appreciation for a good profile. I think if you're genuinely interested in someone just send them a decent initial message, save any confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally I don't really bother with winks as I have found that they are usually sent by people who I wouldn't be interested in anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i like the look of the Winker lol then i wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sending a message is the best way to show appreciation for someone's profile and to let them know you like the look of them.

A personal message where you have taken the time to read the recipients profile is much more well received than a wink that some people may not even check

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"If i like the look of the Winker lol then i wink back"

I misread that pmsl

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I never look at my winks, so it is something I would never notice, so a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any couples want to do some cock sucking?

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Winks are like messages for single women tho for couples maybe a different story from personal experience. Guess with a message its more effort.

There is no sure fire way to get the interest of a woman on fab tho maybe offering next weekends lottery number maybe help

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"Any couples want to do some cock sucking?"

Huh?

I think you got the wrong thread mate

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"If i like the look of the Winker lol then i wink back"

Us too and ignore if they dont match what we are looking for .I think they are quite harmless ,but some don't like them.

Miss

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

As I thought some like them and see them as I do, an unobtrusive way of saying 'hi I like your profile', but for others just a waste of time !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any couples want to do some cock sucking?

Huh?

I think you got the wrong thread mate "

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I currently have 720 'new' winks. I don't look at them. Every so often I'll go in and bulk delete. Same with friends invites.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I currently have 720 'new' winks. I don't look at them. Every so often I'll go in and bulk delete. Same with friends invites."

Wow.....

So messaging is your preferred choice? But how many of those do you get?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I currently have 720 'new' winks. I don't look at them. Every so often I'll go in and bulk delete. Same with friends invites.

Wow.....

So messaging is your preferred choice? But how many of those do you get?"

Not so many. Depends when I'm online. A weekend I'll get more or if I'm online when I'm working nights. At the minute I have 8 unread. They are from last night and today.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I currently have 720 'new' winks. I don't look at them. Every so often I'll go in and bulk delete. Same with friends invites.

Wow.....

So messaging is your preferred choice? But how many of those do you get?

Not so many. Depends when I'm online. A weekend I'll get more or if I'm online when I'm working nights. At the minute I have 8 unread. They are from last night and today."

So you would say messaging is the best way??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an avid winker and I have had more luck success than failure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ever look at my winks, occasionally delete them all but don't look at who has winked at me.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We used to respond to them, but not anymore. Too many times we've either responded with a wink or a message to have them ignored.

They just sit there unloved now.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I currently have 720 'new' winks. I don't look at them. Every so often I'll go in and bulk delete. Same with friends invites.

Wow.....

So messaging is your preferred choice? But how many of those do you get?

Not so many. Depends when I'm online. A weekend I'll get more or if I'm online when I'm working nights. At the minute I have 8 unread. They are from last night and today.

So you would say messaging is the best way??"

I usually reply to a message. Unless the profile and the message contain less than 10 words combined (more common than you imagine).

For me winks are futile, I don't pay any attention to them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just assume the winks meant they liked our profile, then we just delete them.

Those interested in further, need to message.

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"We used to respond to them, but not anymore. Too many times we've either responded with a wink or a message to have them ignored.

They just sit there unloved now.

That seems a shame

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I sometimes look at my winks,if I like the look of them I'll wink back. If they are hot and fit my preferences I'll send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at my winks and say so in my profile. So if anyone does wink I know they can't read. I never delete friend requests because then I will get sent another one and I'm just to lazy keep deleting the same people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I occasionally look at who's winked at me... very rare though.

I do wink at guys sometimes, though, if I like the look of a profile I will always message.

I hate random friend requests. Never delete them though as they will always ping you one back so I just leave them unanswered...occasionally these make it to my block list as well.

I don't know if this will help you... lol

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I don't even look at who's winked at me, every so often ill mass delete along with the random friend requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks just suggest you don't think the recipient is worth the 2 minutes it takes to write a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks just suggest you don't think the recipient is worth the 2 minutes it takes to write a message"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

used to say i didnt look in my profile,so obviously anyone who winked hadnt bothered reading it..dont even do that now, just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefere polite conversation and see how it goes .find winks are a bit lazy. Had winks and I winked back if I think mmm .But where men fail is in connection with conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay any attention to winks

Ruby

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I sometimes look at my winks,if I like the look of them I'll wink back. If they are hot and fit my preferences I'll send a message

How are you my lovely, still in demand I bet??

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I never look at my winks and say so in my profile. So if anyone does wink I know they can't read. I never delete friend requests because then I will get sent another one and I'm just to lazy keep deleting the same people.

But you've blocked males from messaging you!! All we have left is winks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message men, if they wink I will look at there profile. If the are really that interested, they will message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks just suggest you don't think the recipient is worth the 2 minutes it takes to write a message"

exactly this. if someone can't be bothered to write a message (not a copied and pasted one) then why should I put in any effort either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you've blocked males from messaging you!! All we have left is winks....

Only for the time being. Until I fancy another laugh at their ridiculous messages. Can males still wink me if I've blocked them messaging? X

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Winks are good sort of thing yiu would do in the vanilla world a wink or a look.....shame the OP didn't look at my wink lol

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By *umumCouple
over a year ago

LEEDS

I look at all winks and reply if I like what I see. I don't find it lazy and sometimes I prefer it to "hi babe wanna fuck? "

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I'll respond to winks if I like the profile

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I look at all winks and reply if I like what I see. I don't find it lazy and sometimes I prefer it to "hi babe wanna fuck? ""

Yes yes, this is what I think too, really don't want to hassle or add to a ladies already bulging inbox!!

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By *ertsguy2000 OP Man
over a year ago

hertford

But you've blocked males from messaging you!! All we have left is winks....

Only for the time being. Until I fancy another laugh at their ridiculous messages. Can males still wink me if I've blocked them messaging? X"

It appears not

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"We used to respond to them, but not anymore. Too many times we've either responded with a wink or a message to have them ignored.

They just sit there unloved now.

That seems a shame

Well, We sometimes get a response but a lot of the time getting a decent convo out of them is akin to torturing a secret agent for info! Hence probably why they didn't message in the first place

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm wondering if it appears lazy and if ladies think I'm scatter gunning my winks in the hope of "

You wonder correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do winks, so if you're winking this way it's to no avail....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do winks, so if you're winking this way it's to no avail...."

You winked me three years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we always check our winks and will wink back if we like the look of them. I think they are a good way to show interest both ways. I know this might not work for single women though who gets hundreds.

K x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I often wink at someone who's profile I'm attracted to, my reasoning is that I'm mindful of the endless messages some ladies receive on here.

I'm hoping that the lady in question will have a quick look at my profile and message me if she likes what she sees.

I'm wondering if it appears lazy and if ladies think I'm scatter gunning my winks in the hope of getting lucky.

Any ladies care to offer their thoughts ?

I've been here for many years and have never looked at who has winked. I daresay there are thousands by now and I'm not wading through all those profiles to see if I may find any of them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do winks, so if you're winking this way it's to no avail....

You winked me three years ago

Hush you

I may occasionally well wink but I don't look at them.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"I often wink at someone who's profile I'm attracted to, my reasoning is that I'm mindful of the endless messages some ladies receive on here.

I'm hoping that the lady in question will have a quick look at my profile and message me if she likes what she sees.

I'm wondering if it appears lazy and if ladies think I'm scatter gunning my winks in the hope of getting lucky.

Any ladies care to offer their thoughts ?

I delete without looking, they annoy me, it's like a look at me thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a couple we always check our winks and will wink back if we like the look of them. I think they are a good way to show interest both ways. I know this might not work for single women though who gets hundreds.

K x"

Yes, winks are very useful for couples. Still, a well written message is much nicer.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have no idea how many winks i have now as i dont pay attention to that at all. I do read messages though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at who has winked me. I assume if they're interested they'll send me a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never look at who has winked me. I assume if they're interested they'll send me a message."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do genuinely think I'm wasting my time sometimes.

Just got the shrug it off and carry on I guess

Somebody for everyone out there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sometimes I do and sometime I don't respond to either winks or messages. It's part of my viewers' frisson - will he?/won't he? Makes for clock watching excitement, for sure.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I think it's a good idea to show an initial intrest in a person or people,as I do explain in my profile why I use the wink function. Some do see it as lazy and that's their opinion,which is fine. Once they read my profile then a wink is usually sufficient to get the fab ball rolling. But everyone is different so what works for one may not necessarily work for another. It's why fab can be a real mission at times. Just don't let it get you down and move on

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