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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious about when couples advertise for a single guy for a meet!! Obviously there will be tons and tons of messages from hopeful guys, But how do you couples filter through the messages and pick the right guy for you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trick is not to message them....wait for the couple to contact you first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The trick is not to message them....wait for the couple to contact you first."

Wow thanks for the tip!!

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We don't pick them. More the profile does it.

Our profile says in capital letters that we don't want guys to contact us but we'll do it if we're interested.

You'd be amazed how many can't read capitals! These are definitely eliminated.

We check for boxes ticked, tone of the profile, no text speak, swearing or childish crudities etc. If he can write decently then we assume he can hold a conversation.

Verifications, if there's been a social meet that was "fantastic" and no follow up then that's a delete.

Pictures, anymore than one cock pick and we don't bother. Sue knows what a cock looks like.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


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Verifications, if there's been a social meet that was "fantastic" and no follow up then that's a delete.

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I haven't always gone on to arrange a play meet after a social meet, even when I have blatantly been offered sex on a plate, then and there. I'm sorry, but 'automaton' sex with a stranger who offers, is not for me, I need attraction in some form. I'm sure I'm not the only guy who thinks this way, however much we are stereotyped in to the 'they just want to empty their balls in any willing hole' norm in here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't bother. I'm here if they want me. I'm not needy (see forum thread in the lounge)

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


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Verifications, if there's been a social meet that was "fantastic" and no follow up then that's a delete.

I haven't always gone on to arrange a play meet after a social meet, even when I have blatantly been offered sex on a plate, then and there. I'm sorry, but 'automaton' sex with a stranger who offers, is not for me, I need attraction in some form. I'm sure I'm not the only guy who thinks this way, however much we are stereotyped in to the 'they just want to empty their balls in any willing hole' norm in here "

Yes,from this perspective I understand but if the enthusiasm for a play meet is from the guy then you have to ask why wasn't it followed up?

We, and others we know, look at the veris on the other party to check.

Maybe some might think it a bit ott but it works for us and to date only met with one guy who didn't live up to his billing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a combination of things for us, so the guy who ticks the most boxes would be the guy we'd want to play with. So the profile and messages matter. It's a mix of knowing we're all looking for the same sort of experience, attitude, appearance and vital stats. Some people you just click with and get chatting to easily which we find a good start.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


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Verifications, if there's been a social meet that was "fantastic" and no follow up then that's a delete.

I haven't always gone on to arrange a play meet after a social meet, even when I have blatantly been offered sex on a plate, then and there. I'm sorry, but 'automaton' sex with a stranger who offers, is not for me, I need attraction in some form. I'm sure I'm not the only guy who thinks this way, however much we are stereotyped in to the 'they just want to empty their balls in any willing hole' norm in here

Yes,from this perspective I understand but if the enthusiasm for a play meet is from the guy then you have to ask why wasn't it followed up?

We, and others we know, look at the veris on the other party to check.

Maybe some might think it a bit ott but it works for us and to date only met with one guy who didn't live up to his billing."

If this works for you, then that's fine. I just hope people don't stop publishing their verifications on the back of this slant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction

Good conversation via messages

Maybe a few good veris (though do meet some without )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of the times it feels rather like pot luck if I'm picked by a couple or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We add single guys we are attracted to on our friends list so when we post a status or meet they get to see it....then it's first come first served

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