FabSwingers.com forum: Is it normal.....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the single lady's we know meet at clubs or organised socials so they are safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it's a bit bit reckless, but i guess if they feel comfortable some do...but i certainly think some men like to give the impression its the norm,just trying it on..

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i used to. after my 2nd bad experience it's rare i will do that now.

plenty of guys expect you to be a free prostitute with your legs wide open for access at all times even if they haven't met anyone.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!"

Some do, some don't.

I meet at my place (with very rare exceptions) so I always social first and even those are carefully selected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have no problem accommodating but only after I've met them first somewhere neutral to check out chemistry/that they're not a nutter etc. But the frequency with which they expect to just come round made me want to take a reality check, in case I'm the unreasonable one!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!"

Yes it is called equality.

Think about it is as risky for a single man to invite others into his home.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We wouldn't expect a single lady to invite us straight over to hers (although it would be nice if it happened). We would expect to have a social first.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!"

its not common most woman have the sense to know social first and even the slightest doubt in the gut should mean social only

always trust your gut and that saying goes for both sexes .

because despite guys always getting a bum wrap on here there are some totally messed up woman on these types of site to .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems people have all sorts of expectations on here. Going with your gut is right though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tended to. No scary experiences, just one annoying one where a guy (met once, never again) expected to get a blow job with nothing in return (not for me, thanks).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!"
I did when I was on Facebook. Spoke to him many times previous to that and just thought what the heck. Didn't regret it then and I still don't.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

I've met at mine but I like extensive verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few first meets at the lady's place, but in my experience it's not common. Mostly the first meet is a social somewhere public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the past. On the basis no expectations. It's the same as anything. Some nice people. Some I've asked to leave after an hour, no click, not attracted etc. I've only proceeded further at my own decision to. I've had some lovely evenings. Even cooked for one person.

I had one treat me like a hooker. He didn't stay long. I told him his language was vulgar and aggressive and sent him on his way.

Meets are just like anything. It's a mixed bag. It's also no better than taking someone home for a one nighter you met on a night out. You don't know them and it is what it is.

I prefer a social public meet initially. And I find it easier if we've met in a club before.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

A first meeting at a house is a risk imo but if you feel comfortable then it's your call.

Bear in mind, there are risks all ways round :

- to a guy visiting a girl

- to a girl visiting a guy

- to a girl being visited by a guy

- to a guy being visited by a girl

The risks may be different but there are still risks - for some the level of risk will be part of the thrill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't understand why people care so much what other people think.

Even if 30,000 people on here invite people back to their house, I still wouldn't - and I couldn't give a shit what anyone thinks about that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True, I don't "care" what other people think, but am interested in their views. Thanks to everyone for their responses. It seems I am more risk averse than many on here, but to be otherwise would be unnatural to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think any first meet that isn't either in a club or public place is extremely risky. Until you actually meet someone you can never no for sure what they're like...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I have done in the past after lots of chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I do. I always do a social first so both parties can see what they think. I prefer a neutral place as well for future meets that's why I like hotels. To me safety is paramount for all concerned. And if someone doesn't like my approach I won't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I may be the odd one out here but I prefer to invite them to my house. I like to get to know them a bit before meeting though and chat on the phone plus I let my friend know so he checks on me. So far I've not had any bad experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done on a number of times. I like to get to know them first. A few phone calls just to make sure but I think you can tell from the weird ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!

Some do, some don't.

I meet at my place (with very rare exceptions) so I always social first and even those are carefully selected.

This!

We wouldn't as a couple let alone as a single lady. Always social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only had one person round mine but only after i had met him a couple of times before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem accommodating but only after I've met them first somewhere neutral to check out chemistry/that they're not a nutter etc. But the frequency with which they expect to just come round made me want to take a reality check, in case I'm the unreasonable one!"

Not as common as most guys will make out. It's probably a mix of awkwardness about being in public, genuine good guys who've been lucky, and the predatory guys hoping they can nudge you into it by making you feel it's normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...for single women to invite men straight to their home without having previously met them? Judging by the attitude of a lot of men on here, it is!"

I personally think its unsafe and putting yourself at unnecessary risk.

Im a guy and would never invite a complete stranger into my home.

But not everyone would agree with my view amd thats their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's certainly some odd types on here pretending to be normal, or trying to make you feel guilty for little things.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I think that's what a lot of guys expect on here but the majority of women want socials and to feel safe first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social meet is always good... I wouldn't invite a woman straight over through fear of being catfished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally wouldn't meet a women for that without getting to know them by messaging first and then social meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to meet first in public, to ensure your safty. Meet in clubs, bars, cafe ect. Sensible and safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm glad there are some men who think along the same lines as me. Was beginning to feel a bit of a pariah.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Sometimes I will

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

I never would. I watch too many murder programmes.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Some do, some don't.

A while back, ladies in our area were discussing swapping numbers so that, on a "social" meet, or if things were heading towards either meeting at hers, or elsewhere for that matter, they would have a "phone friend" they could text or call with details of where they were, and with who. Some even suggested taking a pic of their meet to send to the friend, which sounded like a sensible plan, although it got a bit out of hand with suggestions about having pics of his bank cards and driving licence lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking the what normal is might cause of problems here!

I've met some ladies who are up for meeting at their house without meeting them before for sex. Luckily for them I'm a nice respectfull chap - but I do worry about ladies who put themselfs in this position.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Asking the what normal is might cause of problems here!

I think what I was trying to discover is, whether it is considered "normal" behaviour on Fab, as it is so far from how I would ever behave. I'm not judging, just surprised that a single woman alone would take that risk, not only of inviting a complete stranger to her home, but of letting him know where she lives. I get that some people get off on the risk and if it works for them, great, just not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me."

I suppose it is rather unusual as I meet women who know from the offing that I am a dominant and that if they come to me I will probably hurt them. So that makes it even more unusual that so many women are willing to meet me first at my home. Maybe I give off calming vibes

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me."

I very rarely go to a mans house because I'm absolutely sure that most men's level of clean is not mine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me.

Well, you let them know so they can make the choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't understand why people care so much what other people think.

Even if 30,000 people on here invite people back to their house, I still wouldn't - and I couldn't give a shit what anyone thinks about that!

It's called a discussion. That's what forums are for...

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I very rarely go to a mans house because I'm absolutely sure that most men's level of clean is not mine!"

I'm always wary about meeting at someone's house for that reason, and careful check people's puctures for clues!

;-)

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By *entleman of GirthMan
over a year ago

Forest Row

I prefer to meet socially first, principally because I really enjoy meeting and talking first, if there is an element of "something may happen" it all adds to the excitement.

It does also have the advantage of relieving some of the concerns that the people I'm meeting aren't axe weilding, bunny boiling, rabid drooling psychopathic nutters...and hopefully it does the same for them too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to be murdered....

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

I've been back to many girls homes, but generally after we've met in a pub or club, on here is different as you don't have an idea of who you're meeting.

I know you can message, but it's not until you see someone in the flesh and see the whites of their eyes that you could take that chance...

I'm a safe bet though, lol...

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have met people in my home without a social. This is after a lot of chatting and also vetting. There are a lot of reasons, distance, lack of free time to arrange socials. Each to their own. It is up to the individual to arrange meets that satisfy their own safety and how they want to meet. I even allowed a man to enter my house whilst I was blindfolded and waiting on the bed for him, even though I had never met him. I treat each person as an individual, what I may do for one I may not for another. I do not meet on spur of the moment and when I meet its after getting to know them. I'm no fool and my way has worked for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me.

Just goes to show how different we all are. I only meet sexually submissive men. The men I meet are all "high fliers", alpha males.

I don't play nice. All have asked for a social. I wouldn't contemplate meeting without a social or meet anyone prepared to come directly to my home/invite me to theirs.

I've dodged many a bullet with a social meet first!

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Some do, some dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've so rarely played at the lady's home. They generally come to me and yes a fair amount have come to my house for a first meet.

I'd never insist on it, I'm more than happy to meet in pubs before going home with them and I give all of my details so the police know who to check out should they go missing

Similarly, I would never go straight to a man's home without meeting him first, but that's just me.

Just goes to show how different we all are. I only meet sexually submissive men. The men I meet are all "high fliers", alpha males.

I don't play nice. All have asked for a social. I wouldn't contemplate meeting without a social or meet anyone prepared to come directly to my home/invite me to theirs.

I've dodged many a bullet with a social meet first!

Takes all sorts to make a world

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