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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle " They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful. | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful." Totally agree, they shouldn't have spoke to your swingers unwritten rule!!! | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle " This is bad protocol on their part . A knowing smile is inevitable , but to try and engage in conversation is bad form , and I can only guess they were new to the scene or unaware of the correct way to behave . | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful." Oh come on, they hardly outed the woman did they? If they had said "Ohhh fancy seeing you here! Are you going down xyz later for some naughty fun you cheeky girl" and winked, that would have been disrespectful in my opinion. | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful." Exactly, a cheeky and discrete wink would suffice. | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful. Oh come on, they hardly outed the woman did they? If they had said "Ohhh fancy seeing you here! Are you going down xyz later for some naughty fun you cheeky girl" and winked, that would have been disrespectful in my opinion. " Nah it shouldn't be done, they made the lady uncomfortable obviously. | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 5 Oh come on, they hardly outed the woman did they? If they had said "Ohhh fancy seeing you here! Are you going down xyz later for some naughty fun you cheeky girl" and winked, that would have been disrespectful in my opinion. " Clearly you have never been in the company of a nosey in-law. And who is this? Aren't you going to introduce us? How do you each other? I am no good at making up believable lies on the spot so alarm bells would be ringing. If I was good at making up lies on the spot I would be working as a politician or a journalist for the Daily Mail. A nod and a smile is enough. | |||
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"I frequently smile/say hello to people I recognise. But with no clue as to where I know them from! And often get people acknowledging me who I don't recognise. But there is nothing there to read into, or draw conclusions from. It's just normal social interactions." | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 5 Oh come on, they hardly outed the woman did they? If they had said "Ohhh fancy seeing you here! Are you going down xyz later for some naughty fun you cheeky girl" and winked, that would have been disrespectful in my opinion. Clearly you have never been in the company of a nosey in-law. And who is this? Aren't you going to introduce us? How do you each other? I am no good at making up believable lies on the spot so alarm bells would be ringing. If I was good at making up lies on the spot I would be working as a politician or a journalist for the Daily Mail. A nod and a smile is enough." My friends and family are all used to me saying "I've no idea" when asked that after someone has moved on! | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere." If you had kids or a job that frowned on swinging you may feel differently ? | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. If you had kids or a job that frowned on swinging you may feel differently ?" Not really. I've had jobs that cared about my private life before. But my job doesn't come to the supermarket when random people say 'hello'. | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere." You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here " If they did though what would you think? You seem pretty easily identifiable. | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here If they did though what would you think? You seem pretty easily identifiable." Its about being respectful ... if I was with my children or something then please keep your distance .. if I'm at the gym (normally a hot sweaty mess) then say hello lol and yes I guess I do stand out | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here If they did though what would you think? You seem pretty easily identifiable. Its about being respectful ... if I was with my children or something then please keep your distance .. if I'm at the gym (normally a hot sweaty mess) then say hello lol and yes I guess I do stand out " Interesting so you are open to it just depending on the circumstances. Yeah like a hot sore thumb | |||
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"OMG you picked up broccoli and darted in public!!! Oh the shame of it. You'll have to emigrate. " A cucumber or courgette would have been more appropriate surely ? I'd have said nothing have been in a hospital lift with family glad lady never spoke to me . Send a message through here would be my action . | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle " That's not on. You could have at least picked up a cucumber or aubergine | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. " No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later. | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here If they did though what would you think? You seem pretty easily identifiable. Its about being respectful ... if I was with my children or something then please keep your distance .. if I'm at the gym (normally a hot sweaty mess) then say hello lol and yes I guess I do stand out Interesting so you are open to it just depending on the circumstances. Yeah like a hot sore thumb " I guess so lol I mean most people know me from fab when I go to swinging clubs around the U.K. So I guess those same people would recognise me in normal life ... only ever had it once where someone came up to me in a shopping centre vanilla wise the rest of the time just message | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later." my fab and RL are seperate. There are very few folk off here that I'd be happy if they approached me while I'm shopping with my daughter. | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later." for many people, it's something they choose to keep separate from 'real' life, they keep a distinction between their sex life and day to day life and for the most part seem to be happily meeting others who think the same. i can totally see why folk would do that, and they're not wrong in running their sex lives that way, it's their sex life. i probably have more in common with you in the sense i really don't mind who comes and talks to me, as you say, i was willing to sleep with them. but that's me, how i like top be, i'm no more right than those who like to keep things top secret, there are just degrees of doing things and we all fit somewhere different on that scale. | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later. for many people, it's something they choose to keep separate from 'real' life, they keep a distinction between their sex life and day to day life and for the most part seem to be happily meeting others who think the same. i can totally see why folk would do that, and they're not wrong in running their sex lives that way, it's their sex life. i probably have more in common with you in the sense i really don't mind who comes and talks to me, as you say, i was willing to sleep with them. but that's me, how i like top be, i'm no more right than those who like to keep things top secret, there are just degrees of doing things and we all fit somewhere different on that scale." My problem is when people say 'there's a protocol to swinging'. No, there isn't. If it's important to you that someone blanks you in the street then you need to discuss that with them before you play 'hide the sausage'. I mean honestly, a quick 'hello, how are you doing, isn't the weather nice?' isn't going to kill anyone - even if it's in front of your kid. Your kid does not know every adult friend that you have, and does not need to know *how* you know every adult friend that you have. | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle " some idiot recognised me in m&s one day and followed me round saying are you really _londiedd? | |||
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"Seems many here have no memories of not being a swinger or else live in a city. We often meet strangers who we have never seen before walk past us and say "hello how are you" its called being polite! Just because you have a guilty conscience it does not mean other people should not be polite to you. If they had said something further or referred to meeting you in the club etc., then that would be different but simply greeting you in a polite manner is perfectly acceptable in polite society. " I always say hello to people, nope i don't always know them I'm just friendly & was brought up that way. People from club have had said hello to me whilst out or I haven't spoken & they've said well why not! General conversation is fine to have in Asda without feeling uncomfortable. Unless in the day light you regret playing with them then that's different | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here " Hard not to notice you Red. Lol. X | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later. for many people, it's something they choose to keep separate from 'real' life, they keep a distinction between their sex life and day to day life and for the most part seem to be happily meeting others who think the same. i can totally see why folk would do that, and they're not wrong in running their sex lives that way, it's their sex life. i probably have more in common with you in the sense i really don't mind who comes and talks to me, as you say, i was willing to sleep with them. but that's me, how i like top be, i'm no more right than those who like to keep things top secret, there are just degrees of doing things and we all fit somewhere different on that scale. My problem is when people say 'there's a protocol to swinging'. No, there isn't. If it's important to you that someone blanks you in the street then you need to discuss that with them before you play 'hide the sausage'. I mean honestly, a quick 'hello, how are you doing, isn't the weather nice?' isn't going to kill anyone - even if it's in front of your kid. Your kid does not know every adult friend that you have, and does not need to know *how* you know every adult friend that you have." again, that wouldn't fuss me, i'm ok with folk coming and saying hello...unless they start shouting about that great party or whatever they're welcome to come chat to some though, it blurs the line, they decide they want that hard line and that's their thing. i agree you ought agree with whoever you meet what stance you take on these things though and not just assume a stance of 'lets blank each other' i think because so many do take the line that the two things are to be kept well apart that people do take that as a base line and neglect to check what the other persons stance is. it's an easy enough assumption to make i think. i never check to be honest, if they come up to me some time after, fine, but i just assume not to with others because there's a good chance they wouldn't like it. | |||
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"Seems many here have no memories of not being a swinger or else live in a city. We often meet strangers who we have never seen before walk past us and say "hello how are you" its called being polite! Just because you have a guilty conscience it does not mean other people should not be polite to you. If they had said something further or referred to meeting you in the club etc., then that would be different but simply greeting you in a polite manner is perfectly acceptable in polite society. " | |||
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"Wasn't aware there was a swingers 'protocol'... I only meet people who I would be happy to be seen in public with, so I guess that's why it's never been a problem to chat to people when I've bumped into them elsewhere. You are the last person I would expect to take this stance. You wanted men to get the sack over a wolf whistle. As experienced swingers have posted it just isn't the right thing to do. No - I wanted a man to get the sack over sexual harassment. That's a little different to saying hello in public to someone I've had sex with. Don't have sex with people if you don't want to acknowledge they exist later. for many people, it's something they choose to keep separate from 'real' life, they keep a distinction between their sex life and day to day life and for the most part seem to be happily meeting others who think the same. i can totally see why folk would do that, and they're not wrong in running their sex lives that way, it's their sex life. i probably have more in common with you in the sense i really don't mind who comes and talks to me, as you say, i was willing to sleep with them. but that's me, how i like top be, i'm no more right than those who like to keep things top secret, there are just degrees of doing things and we all fit somewhere different on that scale. My problem is when people say 'there's a protocol to swinging'. No, there isn't. If it's important to you that someone blanks you in the street then you need to discuss that with them before you play 'hide the sausage'. I mean honestly, a quick 'hello, how are you doing, isn't the weather nice?' isn't going to kill anyone - even if it's in front of your kid. Your kid does not know every adult friend that you have, and does not need to know *how* you know every adult friend that you have." Exactly this If I'm asked 'who is that' it's easily explained away as a colleague, client, someone from the gym etc etc.... | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle some idiot recognised me in m&s one day and followed me round saying are you really _londiedd?" This ^^ is where the line has been crossed imo. Saying 'Hi' is one thing using your username is another. A discreet 'leave me alone you twat' springs to mind! | |||
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"Try Waitrose in future? A better class of swinger " A better class of stalker | |||
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"I used to work for a menswear store that did hirewear and I had a guy in who I had played with to pick up his hirewear for his wedding Neither of us knew where to look and his fiancé was insisting he try the outfit on !! Most uncomfortable half hour of my life !!!! " Did you see him again after that? | |||
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" shopping with the Mr today in Asda also with sister in law and got recognised by not one but two people from a swinger club the one guy was in his early 50's and yes he watched us in club and other guy was fit and he played with me both gave big smile and said hi how's things ? Omg didn't know what to do so replied yes good thanks.. picked up broccoli and did a dart for another isle They shouldn't of done that. It is not protocol for swingers, they should of been more respectful." Bollocks, treat them as you would any other friend. Why wouldn't you | |||
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"At least a couple times a week for me - shopping, gym or even driving No one actually comes and says but they message me on here Hard not to notice you Red. Lol. X " Haha true xx | |||
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"I used to work for a menswear store that did hirewear and I had a guy in who I had played with to pick up his hirewear for his wedding Neither of us knew where to look and his fiancé was insisting he try the outfit on !! Most uncomfortable half hour of my life !!!! Did you see him again after that?" Funnily enough about a year later he popped up on another site and we got together again | |||
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"I frequently smile/say hello to people I recognise. But with no clue as to where I know them from! And often get people acknowledging me who I don't recognise. But there is nothing there to read into, or draw conclusions from. It's just normal social interactions." Exactly what's wrong with being friendly it's not like openly talking about sex is it x | |||
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"This actually happened to me this evening.. We both (she was with a female friend) adopted the knowing smile approach. Respect is an acknowledgement, discretion is not making it obvious. " Exactly | |||
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