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By *uckscouple2007 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

often read profiles which seem to have contradictory statements..

foir example just seen a profile that says (editted)..

Looking for a couple to meet for a drink, then back to ours for same room/seperate room sex/voyeurism. NOTE: We do not swop. Girls might play but only if it goes this way.

so the question to the panel is ...

how would you interpret that they are looking for separate room sex but don't swap - and even then the girls might not play?

we,ve moved on but just flabergasted by the statements some peeps make on their profile

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

And it's because you get contradictions like this that people don't believe anything that they read in profiles and message others who don't want to hear from them. But of course it's always the single guys who get the blame, never the couples who put out the mixed messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"often read profiles which seem to have contradictory statements..

foir example just seen a profile that says (editted)..

Looking for a couple to meet for a drink, then back to ours for same room/seperate room sex/voyeurism. NOTE: We do not swop. Girls might play but only if it goes this way.

so the question to the panel is ...

how would you interpret that they are looking for separate room sex but don't swap - and even then the girls might not play?

we,ve moved on but just flabergasted by the statements some peeps make on their profile "

Oh c'mon, it's obvious what it means!: the two men go into a room on their own and look at each other (that's separate room and voyeurism covered) while the girls sit and chat about whether they want to play or not. Sounds very exciting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room.

Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them? "

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want."

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental.

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By *uckscouple2007 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


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Oh c'mon, it's obvious what it means!: the two men go into a room on their own and look at each other (that's separate room and voyeurism covered) while the girls sit and chat about whether they want to play or not. Sounds very exciting! "

we were thinking the same lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"

Oh c'mon, it's obvious what it means!: the two men go into a room on their own and look at each other (that's separate room and voyeurism covered) while the girls sit and chat about whether they want to play or not. Sounds very exciting!

we were thinking the same lol"

maybe it is exciting for them!!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"often read profiles which seem to have contradictory statements..

foir example just seen a profile that says (editted)..

Looking for a couple to meet for a drink, then back to ours for same room/seperate room sex/voyeurism. NOTE: We do not swop. Girls might play but only if it goes this way.

so the question to the panel is ...

how would you interpret that they are looking for separate room sex but don't swap - and even then the girls might not play?

we,ve moved on but just flabergasted by the statements some peeps make on their profile "

Its simple... all of the above:

1) they don't swap so no full sex

2) the girls only playing

3) including separate room.

Result: a girl in each room playing on her own as her partner watches

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By *uckscouple2007 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"Its simple... all of the above:

1) they don't swap so no full sex

2) the girls only playing

3) including separate room.

Result: a girl in each room playing on her own as her partner watches "

you sure they dont mean 1 girl playing with herself in 1 room. whilst the other is doing the same in a 2nd room, whilst the guys are watching the footie together in the living room?

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By *uckscouple2007 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"2) the girls only playing

"

oh and it did say "Girls might play but only if it goes this way" so you're wrong there lol

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

I think what they meant was 1 cpl go in 1 room with video camera set up to play in the other room and have wild sex while the other cpl watch it on telly ... As for the fem fem same thing the 2 girlies go in room while the guys sit in other watchin and have a beer lol

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By *uckscouple2007 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"I think what they meant was 1 cpl go in 1 room with video camera set up to play in the other room and have wild sex while the other cpl watch it on telly ... As for the fem fem same thing the 2 girlies go in room while the guys sit in other watchin and have a beer lol "

you fantasising again?

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast


"I think what they meant was 1 cpl go in 1 room with video camera set up to play in the other room and have wild sex while the other cpl watch it on telly ... As for the fem fem same thing the 2 girlies go in room while the guys sit in other watchin and have a beer lol

you fantasising again? "

I'm a man its my duty to fantasise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental. "

Oh dear, sense of humour failure

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

I always have a laugh at profiles that go:

Not looking for single guys

Then a bit further down:

Update: Now looking for single guys

Then even further down:

WHAT PART OF NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS CAN YOU NOT LOT READ

Then on the Meet today:

Looking for a single guy for MMF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental.

Oh dear, sense of humour failure "

Not really, I laugh at things that are funny but not sure other people's profiles are funny really nor their preferences. I'd be quite upset to find my profile being disssected with such cavalier attitude on here.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental.

Oh dear, sense of humour failure

Not really, I laugh at things that are funny but not sure other people's profiles are funny really nor their preferences. I'd be quite upset to find my profile being disssected with such cavalier attitude on here. "

Another slave to PC!! Bright, get out a bit more! It is a light hearted post and is not even the origional text from a profile..

Oh, and by criticising the OP and the other poster, aren't you being a tad "Judgemental"??

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I always have a laugh at profiles that go:

Not looking for single guys

Then a bit further down:

Update: Now looking for single guys

Then even further down:

WHAT PART OF NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS CAN YOU NOT LOT READ

Then on the Meet today:

Looking for a single guy for MMF "

And then you try to message them and you're blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always have a laugh at profiles that go:

Not looking for single guys

Then a bit further down:

Update: Now looking for single guys

Then even further down:

WHAT PART OF NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS CAN YOU NOT LOT READ

Then on the Meet today:

Looking for a single guy for MMF

And then you try to message them and you're blocked. "
its usually means that the user talks with her select single males, that is on her profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental.

Oh dear, sense of humour failure

Not really, I laugh at things that are funny but not sure other people's profiles are funny really nor their preferences. I'd be quite upset to find my profile being disssected with such cavalier attitude on here.

Another slave to PC!! Bright, get out a bit more! It is a light hearted post and is not even the origional text from a profile..

Oh, and by criticising the OP and the other poster, aren't you being a tad "Judgemental"?? "

I'm just sick of the way people on this site are always criticising the way other people use it is all. Does my head in . Pretty much every day there's a "should we make everyone do this" thread, or a "why is it people do this" thread. Live and let live I say. If the profile wasn't for them, move on - I don't feel the need to start threads rolling my eyes at the way other people choose to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bright has a point: people's profiles are dissected every day on here. People feel the need to change their preferences because people abuse them!

People ask for advice on their profiles and are told sell yourself, state what you like, make it work for you...then they are ripped apart for doing just that!

It's their profile: it works for them! Don't get me wrong, I roll my eyes at some profiles: some are downright offensive, but you know what? I stop reading or block so not to offend my sensitivity again: there's no need to start a thread ridiculing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the spirit of living and let live, surely if people feel the need to question and even crticise because thats what works for them who is anybody else to say that is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the spirit of living and let live, surely if people feel the need to question and even crticise because thats what works for them who is anybody else to say that is wrong"

Because the people the op are questioning aren't hurting anyone. Whereas discussing their profile and using words like flabbergasted and the rolling eyes emoticon could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they like the idea of being in the same room while each couple has sex with their respective partners - hence saying they don't swap except possible fem/fem. And like the idea of staying with their partner but hearing what the other couple is doing in another room. Shall we not knock people for what they've decided works for them?

He wasn't knocking 'what works for them', he was just asking if anyone could work out what they want.

Come on, it wasn't exactly a "guys, I'm confused, can you help" post was it? The tone was generally derisive towards someone they class as not knowing what they want on their profile. The eye roll, "flabbergasted" and "we've moved on" kind of underline that. And your own post, taking the piss out of the situation, was equally as judgemental.

Oh dear, sense of humour failure

Not really, I laugh at things that are funny but not sure other people's profiles are funny really nor their preferences. I'd be quite upset to find my profile being disssected with such cavalier attitude on here.

Another slave to PC!! Bright, get out a bit more! It is a light hearted post and is not even the origional text from a profile..

Oh, and by criticising the OP and the other poster, aren't you being a tad "Judgemental"??

I'm just sick of the way people on this site are always criticising the way other people use it is all. Does my head in . Pretty much every day there's a "should we make everyone do this" thread, or a "why is it people do this" thread. Live and let live I say. If the profile wasn't for them, move on - I don't feel the need to start threads rolling my eyes at the way other people choose to play. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bright has a point: people's profiles are dissected every day on here. People feel the need to change their preferences because people abuse them!

People ask for advice on their profiles and are told sell yourself, state what you like, make it work for you...then they are ripped apart for doing just that!

It's their profile: it works for them! Don't get me wrong, I roll my eyes at some profiles: some are downright offensive, but you know what? I stop reading or block so not to offend my sensitivity again: there's no need to start a thread ridiculing them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the spirit of living and let live, surely if people feel the need to question and even crticise because thats what works for them who is anybody else to say that is wrong"

In fact, a scenario for you. Say I went to a profile and saw a pic with an outfit I hated. So I decide to start a thread describing it and rolling my eyes saying, yuck what a vile dress etc I'm flabbergasted by the rubbish some people wear. I've not put in a link, but it's recognisable from the description. Fair? or unneccesary?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"I always have a laugh at profiles that go:

Not looking for single guys

Then a bit further down:

Update: Now looking for single guys

Then even further down:

WHAT PART OF NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS CAN YOU NOT LOT READ

Then on the Meet today:

Looking for a single guy for MMF

And then you try to message them and you're blocked. "

lol or you can't message then because singles are still blocked? even though they want you to get in touch? lol

whats the point advertising a meet if the peeps you want can't message back...and before some clever dick says they are picking the guys themselves what difference does it make having a meet flag?

just search as you would normally...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always have a laugh at profiles that go:

Not looking for single guys

Then a bit further down:

Update: Now looking for single guys

Then even further down:

WHAT PART OF NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS CAN YOU NOT LOT READ

Then on the Meet today:

Looking for a single guy for MMF

And then you try to message them and you're blocked.

lol or you can't message then because singles are still blocked? even though they want you to get in touch? lol

whats the point advertising a meet if the peeps you want can't message back...and before some clever dick says they are picking the guys themselves what difference does it make having a meet flag?

just search as you would normally...

"

seen five or six of those so far -.0

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"In the spirit of living and let live, surely if people feel the need to question and even crticise because thats what works for them who is anybody else to say that is wrong

Because the people the op are questioning aren't hurting anyone. Whereas discussing their profile and using words like flabbergasted and the rolling eyes emoticon could. "

OK..I think a little clarity is required here...

I'm 'flabbergasted' by your response to a question asked...

I'll put it in words that may be more clear..

gobsmacked,surprised,staggered,confused over whelmed and there's a few more...all of these would possibly cause my eyes to roll...

non of these are a criticism...

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Kitty likes to look for singles to chat with online - we have that in our profile - but we still get meet requests. Is it confusing or just not taking the time to pay attention?

Looking for "a" single guy does not mean looking for "every" single guy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why are so many bitching about other folk profiles

is there profile let them choose an get on with it

it seams there having fun an not the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK..I think a little clarity is required here...

I'm 'flabbergasted' by your response to a question asked...

I'll put it in words that may be more clear..

gobsmacked,surprised,staggered,confused over whelmed and there's a few more...all of these would possibly cause my eyes to roll...

non of these are a criticism...

"

Many thanks for that, I'm well aware of the meaning of the word. However, I'm flabbergasted etc by the need folks have to pick over profiles. I think there was more than a general expression of surprise from the op, it came across as criticism to me. Perfectly harmless topic but not fair to use a real example in my view as it makes it personal and this is my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the spirit of living and let live, surely if people feel the need to question and even crticise because thats what works for them who is anybody else to say that is wrong

In fact, a scenario for you. Say I went to a profile and saw a pic with an outfit I hated. So I decide to start a thread describing it and rolling my eyes saying, yuck what a vile dress etc I'm flabbergasted by the rubbish some people wear. I've not put in a link, but it's recognisable from the description. Fair? or unneccesary? "

I agree with Bright as well, there is too much disserting other peoples profile in a negative way.

I personally cannot understand why this thread was started but I believe it was for a negative reason. If somebody didnt understand my profile I would hope that they would message her and say, hey Iconic, whats that mean, instead of starting up a thread on the forum. What is it hoping to achieve, how do any of us know what those people mean in their profile, our views are just heresay.

Maybe if the couple whose profile is being dissected here see this forum thread, hopefully they can report it to Admin.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

If I wasnt sure about a profile but something interested me I would ask for clarification, if not I would move on without being bothered. Then again I am pretty laid back. Have more important things going on in my life to give it more than a moments thought really.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heyyy ITs friday...im going shagging tonite and tomorrow...but actually Im not...sorry for sending out mixed messages...but iam...am not..Iam...am not...

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"OK..I think a little clarity is required here...

I'm 'flabbergasted' by your response to a question asked...

I'll put it in words that may be more clear..

gobsmacked,surprised,staggered,confused over whelmed and there's a few more...all of these would possibly cause my eyes to roll...

non of these are a criticism...

Many thanks for that, I'm well aware of the meaning of the word. However, I'm flabbergasted etc by the need folks have to pick over profiles. I think there was more than a general expression of surprise from the op, it came across as criticism to me. Perfectly harmless topic but not fair to use a real example in my view as it makes it personal and this is my point. "

I see this as more of a critique of a profile than a criticism and asking for others views as you can in a forum.

I accept that you may well contact to ask what it is they mean as to you it seems a little unclear if faced with a similar dilemma.

however, as I pointed out just above you do find the profiles where you can't contact because of the incongruity between meet and profile requirements.

simple answer is move on, don't worry and or in these circumstances either post in a forum or hope they realise for themselves..

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Heyyy ITs friday...im going shagging tonite and tomorrow...but actually Im not...sorry for sending out mixed messages...but iam...am not..Iam...am not..."

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I see this as more of a critique of a profile than a criticism and asking for others views as you can in a forum.

however, as I pointed out just above you do find the profiles where you can't contact because of the incongruity between meet and profile requirements. "

I guess the thing for me is the critique wasn't asked for and it would be easy for them to feel hurt although I don't imagine the op intended that for one minute. The difference with your post is it's non- specific and I don't think I would have felt so uncomfortable with it if the op had been in the same vein

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't give a flying fuck what other profiles say!!! If it ain't for us we ignore it. Simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"often read profiles which seem to have contradictory statements..

foir example just seen a profile that says (editted)..

Looking for a couple to meet for a drink, then back to ours for same room/seperate room sex/voyeurism. NOTE: We do not swop. Girls might play but only if it goes this way.

so the question to the panel is ...

how would you interpret that they are looking for separate room sex but don't swap - and even then the girls might not play?

we,ve moved on but just flabergasted by the statements some peeps make on their profile "

I think at times we all mess about with our profiles. I may just have to go check mine now to see if it makes sense. That or get another beer and leave it

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