FabSwingers.com forum: Getting my girlfriend into swinging.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good evening everyone.

So me and my girlfriend have been talking about going swinging.

What's the best way to then go on from this convo?

I have been dogging before, wondered if we should try that and see what she thinks about being watched and then possible move on to her playing with one or two others.

Would love to try a swinging party personally, and would love to go with her. I have no issues with her playing with another, in fact I find it a real turn-on.

I think that where she is worried, in the fact that she thinks I might actually not like It and then not like her for doing it.

Hope you can all advise me.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

show her this post pretty much...talk to her about what you've said here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get her on fab, tell her to have a look about maybe,see what sparks her interest. a couples profile maybe.

the answer is always going to be communicating with her though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Maybe show her your profile blurb that suggests you're looking to meet solo and see how she reacts to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tried dogging and hated it, i would say a club would be the best way, set your boundaries decide what you are and aren't happy to do before hand

You can even just go sit at the bar and talk to people without any pressure to do anything until you feel comfortable enough to dip your toe in

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good evening everyone.

So me and my girlfriend have been talking about going swinging.

What's the best way to then go on from this convo?

I have been dogging before, wondered if we should try that and see what she thinks about being watched and then possible move on to her playing with one or two others.

Would love to try a swinging party personally, and would love to go with her. I have no issues with her playing with another, in fact I find it a real turn-on.

I think that where she is worried, in the fact that she thinks I might actually not like It and then not like her for doing it.

Hope you can all advise me.

Thank you

Talk to your girlfriend. You say you think she's worried...if you talk to her you'll know. Whatever her concerns are, reassure her that they are unfounded (you must genuinely believe that they are) and really open up to her. For many women the increased emotional openess a man shows when they embark on a swinging adventure together is a lovely surprise and bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd say exactly what the others have said...

Communicating is the key factor.

Good luck op

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"We tried dogging and hated it, i would say a club would be the best way, set your boundaries decide what you are and aren't happy to do before hand

You can even just go sit at the bar and talk to people without any pressure to do anything until you feel comfortable enough to dip your toe in"

Totally agree with this...there are times even now when we go to the club and just feel like being together and nothing else, so we are sociable, soak up the atmosphere but only play with each other....it's perfectly ok to do this.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"We tried dogging and hated it, i would say a club would be the best way, set your boundaries decide what you are and aren't happy to do before hand

You can even just go sit at the bar and talk to people without any pressure to do anything until you feel comfortable enough to dip your toe in

All of this!

Check out a few clubs and find the ones that have a recognisable bar area separate from the play areas and that aren't dress down. Just go with the intention of having a couple of drinks and to get chatting to people. Don't even suggest playing.

If she feels like taking a look around the play areas then great! If not, call it a night and talk about the experience in as much detail as you can.

The key is constant communication and zero expectations or pressure.

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