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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia

I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

What you're missing is that we're all different and what seems logical or right to some people might not to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the same thing said to me by someone I met on here.

He told me that I'm "far too active with other guys for his liking" so he won't be seeing me again

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"What you're missing is that we're all different and what seems logical or right to some people might not to others "

I couldn't agree more, Kinky Minx, I'm all for different opinions. But then don't judge me. I just had a message that was unprovoked 30 mins ago, from a woman saying she thought I was too promiscuous.

Go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"What you're missing is that we're all different and what seems logical or right to some people might not to others

I couldn't agree more, Kinky Minx, I'm all for different opinions. But then don't judge me. I just had a message that was unprovoked 30 mins ago, from a woman saying she thought I was too promiscuous.

Go figure!"

It might be a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you're missing is that we're all different and what seems logical or right to some people might not to others

I couldn't agree more, Kinky Minx, I'm all for different opinions. But then don't judge me. I just had a message that was unprovoked 30 mins ago, from a woman saying she thought I was too promiscuous.

Go figure!"

just block ...unless she has blocked you first

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is."

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective. "

Most of mine are social veris and are we only supposed to meet one guy a year so that, after 4 years on here, I should only have 4 veris?

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"What you're missing is that we're all different and what seems logical or right to some people might not to others

I couldn't agree more, Kinky Minx, I'm all for different opinions. But then don't judge me. I just had a message that was unprovoked 30 mins ago, from a woman saying she thought I was too promiscuous.

Go figure!

just block ...unless she has blocked you first "

She's not blocked me. She actually originally messaged me to find out who the man was with the huge cock, who's been fanning all my pics. Talk about double standards!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

60, meh, amateur lol.

Seriously though, I wouldn't let it bother you, they are probably just jealous.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

This is beginning to look remarkably like an advert for your profile

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is."
Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow."

LOL! Think what you like, you're not me therefore your opinion doesn't count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the - lots of veris = not selective argument . If 400 people contact you and you sleep with 40 (just an example ) that's not 'not being selective '

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"This is beginning to look remarkably like an advert for your profile "

Believe me, it's not. I don't need to advertise and I'm emigrating soon. It's just really bothered me of late and the last message has me a little angry. I just can't understand the hypocrisy and wondering if I'm missing something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is."

I'm exceptionally picky and don't forget you've no idea how long a person has been on this site once it hits over a year. 6 years for me.

It's a swinging site but each persons view differs.

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By *uzi Jones 26Woman
over a year ago

The Devil's Lair

Ive had this a lot lately which after the irritation dissapeared, made me laugh as I haven't so much as been close to a man or woman in over two years but according to the fab police I'm putting it about and it's unbelievable that I've not "been fucked today" go figure

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I don't know how people find the time .

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"Ive had this a lot lately which after the irritation dissapeared, made me laugh as I haven't so much as been close to a man or woman in over two years but according to the fab police I'm putting it about and it's unbelievable that I've not "been fucked today" go figure "

Mad. I thought the one thing about a swinging lifestyle is that people didn't judge you. I'm probably being naiive. So it seems.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"I don't get the - lots of veris = not selective argument . If 400 people contact you and you sleep with 40 (just an example ) that's not 'not being selective '"

Exactly

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I actually found the lack of promiscuity song a good proportion of site members the shucks big factor upon joining as a naive newbie, I personally thought promiscuity was the name of the game

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby


"Ive had this a lot lately which after the irritation dissapeared, made me laugh as I haven't so much as been close to a man or woman in over two years but according to the fab police I'm putting it about and it's unbelievable that I've not "been fucked today" go figure

Mad. I thought the one thing about a swinging lifestyle is that people didn't judge you. I'm probably being naiive. So it seems."

I should not be surprised by it, but I am taken aback by how people are quick to make assumptions when they see things rather than even ask questions (sure people can lie but still)

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby


"I actually found the lack of promiscuity song a good proportion of site members the shucks big factor upon joining as a naive newbie, I personally thought promiscuity was the name of the game "

Yeah considering it proves you're real and not dangerous many veri's was what I saw people desired to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't take it personally. People develop a bigger backbone online. If they met you in real life they wouldn't say shit.

I just block nonsense.

I'm not personal enough with anyone to let it bother me. We're all just text and a username til proved otherwise.

I got called fat and ugly by someone on pof who had no pic.

I just laughed. It can only bother you if you let it.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"I wouldn't take it personally. People develop a bigger backbone online. If they met you in real life they wouldn't say shit.

I just block nonsense.

I'm not personal enough with anyone to let it bother me. We're all just text and a username til proved otherwise.

I got called fat and ugly by someone on pof who had no pic.

I just laughed. It can only bother you if you let it. "

Thank you.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised."

Why?

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt"
Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume."

L O L

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume."

That's bollocks.

I've always liked those competitions where people try to break the world record for most cream crackers eaten in an hour without water.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume."

Huh. Interesting view. I don't see what those tools/attributes/looks/status etc have to do with it. Sounds more like you think Jack The Stud should be celebrated but not Lucy The Slut. Why the double standard?

-Matt

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume.

That's bollocks.

I've always liked those competitions where people try to break the world record for most cream crackers eaten in an hour without water."

...whilst wanking over pics of Donald Trump? now that would be impressive.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt it why we are here? Why are people so judgemental

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume.

That's bollocks.

I've always liked those competitions where people try to break the world record for most cream crackers eaten in an hour without water.

...whilst wanking over pics of Donald Trump? now that would be impressive.

-Matt"

Shit. You've been looking at my webcam again Matt.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia

Don't knock Trump wanking until you've tried it yourself....

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"Don't knock Trump wanking until you've tried it yourself...."

I bumped into him yesterday and said you'd be over to see him soon.

-Matt

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"Don't knock Trump wanking until you've tried it yourself....

I bumped into him yesterday and said you'd be over to see him soon.

-Matt"

Fake sex!!!! Fake sex!!!!!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

Slut shaming ain't cool.

Having said that, some of the veris on my profile are "character references" from guys (I'm straight) and club owners to say that I'm basically a gentleman. Or whatever. I've actually hidden some of the veris where there are multiple ones from the same person. Because they actually enjoyed me so much the first, second and third time! Lol

Shameless plug over...

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?

Slut shaming ain't cool.

Having said that, some of the veris on my profile are "character references" from guys (I'm straight) and club owners to say that I'm basically a gentleman. Or whatever. I've actually hidden some of the veris where there are multiple ones from the same person. Because they actually enjoyed me so much the first, second and third time! Lol

Shameless plug over... "

Yeah I have Veri's from men and Women I've just chatted with, and happy to do so for others to confirm the people I meat are decent people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't have to justify yourself OP. Ignore them and move on. I really believe some people should be on a Christian dating site rather than swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume.

That's bollocks.

I've always liked those competitions where people try to break the world record for most cream crackers eaten in an hour without water."

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Tricky one this, and another example of 'you can't really win.'

Some people on here will fuck anything that moves, then if you're too selective you feel like you should be on match.com

Be you. Fuck everyone else. See what I did there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All our veris are from people I've had sex with (shock horror) and if anyone has an issue with them they aren't the type of person I want to meet anyway Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

I think people like to feel a bit special despite the nature of many encounters here.

I say as long as you aren't misleading anyone crack on. Don't explain or justify.

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By *iss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Coventry/Bristol

I hid most of my veris now but most are from partys where I social, but I don't think 56 over 2 years is a lot, I probably only got 20 actual play ones and they regularly guys I used to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is."

I guess as someone who hasn't had a new veri in 3 years, you either can't get a meet, or you are so selective that nobody in 3 years has been good enough for you. Having multiple partners is normal for swingers. Being selective in choosing those partners is also normal, but over a period of time the numbers do build up for those who choose swinging as a lifestyle choice. Maybe a dating site would be better for your needs as you seem to frown on people having multiple partners, which is very much the ethos of what this site is about.

Mrs

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I love promiscuity. In fact i can speak for Sir too, we both do

That's why we are here

Haven't a clue how many lovers I've had over the years - must be hundreds - yes thank you I enjoyed them all.

As for verifications, clearly a poor way to assess someone, because ours don't tell the full story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

Most of mine are social veris and are we only supposed to meet one guy a year so that, after 4 years on here, I should only have 4 veris?"

I've been here several years too so devided I've not got that many. Quite a few are social meets too.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is."

So you'd have sex with a woman with say, five veris?

She could be fucking three different guys a day for the last 25 years. How about the woman with 90 veris but she'd only shagged 2 of them?

How about the woman with 50 veris over ten years?

How about the woman who has been shagging for 30 years but hasn't had any veris because none of them were from Fab?

Veris mean nothing.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Those who judge people for having too many veris are invariably the ones who want to feel special . Chances are they won't be special at all - more likely they will be the type who are clingy and entitled . Not for us thanks .

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I don't give a rats ass what people think about our veri's - Ms

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume."

Stop copy pasting Superfreaks opinions and get some of your own. Preferably some not quite so misogynistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow."

I'm interested as to why you (and others) post veris from the same people? Each to his or her own, but I tend to avoid those as it seems to smack of possessiveness/inability to attract different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

I guess as someone who hasn't had a new veri in 3 years, you either can't get a meet, or you are so selective that nobody in 3 years has been good enough for you. Having multiple partners is normal for swingers. Being selective in choosing those partners is also normal, but over a period of time the numbers do build up for those who choose swinging as a lifestyle choice. Maybe a dating site would be better for your needs as you seem to frown on people having multiple partners, which is very much the ethos of what this site is about.

Mrs"

Exactly This is a swingers site so no one should be surprised by any number of meets anyone has ??

The older we get the number can only build (unless you create another profile )

Think people obit look at previous meets though and make certain judgements on their tastes ? Think that's only natural though?

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

I guess as someone who hasn't had a new veri in 3 years, you either can't get a meet, or you are so selective that nobody in 3 years has been good enough for you. Having multiple partners is normal for swingers. Being selective in choosing those partners is also normal, but over a period of time the numbers do build up for those who choose swinging as a lifestyle choice. Maybe a dating site would be better for your needs as you seem to frown on people having multiple partners, which is very much the ethos of what this site is about.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid I'm the same. I wouldn't meet someone with a long list of verifications from lots of different people. And have avoided playing with people at group meets when I know they have. But I wouldn't judge them for it, that's just my preference.

I like real quality over quantity and like to see a man or woman is selective too. But I also look at he time frame the veris are spread over. If you're seeing two a week, you're not for me. But I admire your keenness x

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Someone on a swinging site criticising someone for being promiscuous? The ironymeter is broken.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow.

I'm interested as to why you (and others) post veris from the same people? Each to his or her own, but I tend to avoid those as it seems to smack of possessiveness/inability to attract different people."

Hi Pash,

I tend to post veris from the same people because, as I said in my original post, that it shows a consistency.

I hear how some people are given a veri out of politeness, even some who nag for a veri after a bad meet. Some couples and females on here say they're looking for someone who won't be a one off, 'wham bam thank you mam'. As I've said on my profile, I tend to prefer regular partners. I hope my veris put my money where my mouth is.

I hope that answers your question.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia

Gosh! Thanks for all comments. I think most of those comments reinforce what I already thought tbh. Thanks for the time taken to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand, I've been out for a coffee with guys and they've said things like 'I'm so glad you don't have veris on your profile, it means you're not a slut.'

No mate. All it means is that I ask people not to verify my profile. Needless to say, I quickly make my excuses to leave.

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

I say good for you OP you're doing much better than most and if it puts people off so be it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging or swingers by definition is liberated and promiscuous. Go figure lol

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"On the other hand, I've been out for a coffee with guys and they've said things like 'I'm so glad you don't have veris on your profile, it means you're not a slut.'

No mate. All it means is that I ask people not to verify my profile. Needless to say, I quickly make my excuses to leave."

That always astonishes me. To the great vanilla world everyone on here is a disgusting perv, yet still people on here slut shame.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is. Different for a man than a woman though. A single guy with a lot of Veris and if they are quality too should be praised.

Why?

-Matt Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex. Its the same attitude people have toward drug abusers or the obese...no one really admires excessive consumption of that which doesnt take any effort to consume.

Stop copy pasting Superfreaks opinions and get some of your own. Preferably some not quite so misogynistic. "
But he was on the money there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow.

I'm interested as to why you (and others) post veris from the same people? Each to his or her own, but I tend to avoid those as it seems to smack of possessiveness/inability to attract different people.

Hi Pash,

I tend to post veris from the same people because, as I said in my original post, that it shows a consistency.

I hear how some people are given a veri out of politeness, even some who nag for a veri after a bad meet. Some couples and females on here say they're looking for someone who won't be a one off, 'wham bam thank you mam'. As I've said on my profile, I tend to prefer regular partners. I hope my veris put my money where my mouth is.

I hope that answers your question."

I think whatever you (not just you, I mean everyone) does is open to misinterpretation. For example I would say I am the same as you in that I prefer regular partners, and am certainly not into "wham bam" encounters, but would not post more than one veri from the same person. I use mine to give an overview of what I'm like from several different viewpoints, and to show the kind of people I enjoy meeting too.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I like seeing very long verifications on female and couple profiles cause it makes me know they are genuine swingers.

The important thing for me is the woman has to be very hot, that's why I swing, the more slutty the women are the more am attracted to them, that is what I like, their husbands like watching them fuck too.

So please let the women be happy and free to enjoy themselves, all I ask is for the women to be able to get people looking at them when they enter any space cause of their beauty .

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"

So please let the women be happy and free to enjoy themselves, all I ask is for the women to be able to get people looking at them when they enter any space cause of their beauty .

"

Mmm.... I'm not so sure. I prefer they wear Burkas, and when they're interested, they can flash an ankle at you to show they're interested. The only problem then is that it's a real lottery when the sheet comes off. You might end up with Hilda Ogden.

All the more reason for veris.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow.

I'm interested as to why you (and others) post veris from the same people? Each to his or her own, but I tend to avoid those as it seems to smack of possessiveness/inability to attract different people."

We post multiple verifications from the same people for a number of reasons. Firstly our verifications tell a story for us - they are a history of our journey, which is probably irrelevant to others but it's an important account to us. Repeat veris are part of our story. In fact we find it very irritating when playmates remove their profiles and we loose substantial portions of our story. Secondly we use our verifications as an informative addition to our profile. They give an indication of how we like to do things, the nature of our meets etc. Repeat veris indicate that our playmates are willing to come back for more, and that we are the sort of people who will have regulars. If someone becomes a valued friend to us, we wouldn't want it reflected in our verifications that they were just a one-off, which is how it would look if we only have a verification from the first ever meet.

Mrs

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"If I see a long list of veri's I wouldn't even entertain getting in touch.

I just see it as they're not very selective.

But as you say, people could hide them and I wouldn't even know.

So at the end of the day, you're probably right, but there's something instinctive it about it so no doubt I'll continue to discriminate based on the number of veri's.

It is what it is.

But as I've said. My veris tend to be from the same people over and over. I think you're being a tad shallow.

I'm interested as to why you (and others) post veris from the same people? Each to his or her own, but I tend to avoid those as it seems to smack of possessiveness/inability to attract different people.

We post multiple verifications from the same people for a number of reasons. Firstly our verifications tell a story for us - they are a history of our journey, which is probably irrelevant to others but it's an important account to us. Repeat veris are part of our story. In fact we find it very irritating when playmates remove their profiles and we loose substantial portions of our story. Secondly we use our verifications as an informative addition to our profile. They give an indication of how we like to do things, the nature of our meets etc. Repeat veris indicate that our playmates are willing to come back for more, and that we are the sort of people who will have regulars. If someone becomes a valued friend to us, we wouldn't want it reflected in our verifications that they were just a one-off, which is how it would look if we only have a verification from the first ever meet.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds counterintuitive for a website that literally has swingers in the title, but not everyone on here is here to swing. It's part and parcel of it being an open and popular website with a low barrier to entry - Some people are here to fantasise, some to have a perv, some are here for the attention, some might of had a shit sex life in the past and are looking to date people a bit more ambitious....there's a whole host of individual reasons for joining this site beyond actually swinging, and people might actually find the reality of swinging quite off-putting.

My hot take; if you want to actually swing, go to a swingers club. This is just naughty facebook.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"It sounds counterintuitive for a website that literally has swingers in the title, but not everyone on here is here to swing. It's part and parcel of it being an open and popular website with a low barrier to entry - Some people are here to fantasise, some to have a perv, some are here for the attention, some might of had a shit sex life in the past and are looking to date people a bit more ambitious....there's a whole host of individual reasons for joining this site beyond actually swinging, and people might actually find the reality of swinging quite off-putting.

My hot take; if you want to actually swing, go to a swingers club. This is just naughty facebook. "
Is you're username intentionally ironic? Fab definitely doesn't need more single men.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"...

My hot take; if you want to actually swing, go to a swingers club. This is just naughty facebook. "

Abso-fucking-lutely!

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby

Yeah I think using veri's especially multiple from the same person helps tell a story, but I'm sure some people look and go: "that's a lot of veri's and I can't be bothered to read them, so let's b safe and avoid them." At the end of the day it often is people trying to stay healthy in these situations and that is respectable. But in cases where they have issue with you seeing you've shared someone of another ethnicity, that would be rasism, but that's another issue. .... (Interesting fact my iPad just auto corrected "racism" to "Rastermouse" ... Go figure :s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

Why should anyone on here worry about promiscuity when this is a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're open and honest

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"You're open and honest "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds counterintuitive for a website that literally has swingers in the title, but not everyone on here is here to swing. It's part and parcel of it being an open and popular website with a low barrier to entry - Some people are here to fantasise, some to have a perv, some are here for the attention, some might of had a shit sex life in the past and are looking to date people a bit more ambitious....there's a whole host of individual reasons for joining this site beyond actually swinging, and people might actually find the reality of swinging quite off-putting.

My hot take; if you want to actually swing, go to a swingers club. This is just naughty facebook. "

Do alright on here thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been suggested on this thread that lots of veris gives the impression the person is not selective and that they may not go for quality over quantity. I would like to point out that promiscuity doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how selective one is or the quality of their meets. As I said earlier, swinging is a lifestyle choice to us. We usually have 2 or 3 regular guys and we will probably see one of them about once a month. We also go to a swing club or party every couple of months and we make sure someone is also attending who we would be interested in and playing with. Are we promiscuous? Most definately. Are we selective? God yeah, there are loads of people we have both turned down for play, and we have been to parties and left empty handed. Quality over quantity? We think we are lucky enough to play with a reasonable quantity of quality people. If we cease to find quality people we will play with less people. We do not play with people we don't like or don't find attractive. There will however be people on Fab who will fuck anybody, but rarely get a meet. Those people are not selective nor do they care about quality. It is not a linear equation between numbers of meets and selectivity. Quite understand that our lifestyle would make us unsuitable for people on a Fab who use this site for other purposes, e.g. to find a friend with benefits. But I don't think it fair to assume people who are embracing the swinging lifestyle are not being selective.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been suggested on this thread that lots of veris gives the impression the person is not selective and that they may not go for quality over quantity. I would like to point out that promiscuity doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how selective one is or the quality of their meets. As I said earlier, swinging is a lifestyle choice to us. We usually have 2 or 3 regular guys and we will probably see one of them about once a month. We also go to a swing club or party every couple of months and we make sure someone is also attending who we would be interested in and playing with. Are we promiscuous? Most definately. Are we selective? God yeah, there are loads of people we have both turned down for play, and we have been to parties and left empty handed. Quality over quantity? We think we are lucky enough to play with a reasonable quantity of quality people. If we cease to find quality people we will play with less people. We do not play with people we don't like or don't find attractive. There will however be people on Fab who will fuck anybody, but rarely get a meet. Those people are not selective nor do they care about quality. It is not a linear equation between numbers of meets and selectivity. Quite understand that our lifestyle would make us unsuitable for people on a Fab who use this site for other purposes, e.g. to find a friend with benefits. But I don't think it fair to assume people who are embracing the swinging lifestyle are not being selective.

Mrs"

Well said

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"It's been suggested on this thread that lots of veris gives the impression the person is not selective and that they may not go for quality over quantity. I would like to point out that promiscuity doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how selective one is or the quality of their meets. As I said earlier, swinging is a lifestyle choice to us. We usually have 2 or 3 regular guys and we will probably see one of them about once a month. We also go to a swing club or party every couple of months and we make sure someone is also attending who we would be interested in and playing with. Are we promiscuous? Most definately. Are we selective? God yeah, there are loads of people we have both turned down for play, and we have been to parties and left empty handed. Quality over quantity? We think we are lucky enough to play with a reasonable quantity of quality people. If we cease to find quality people we will play with less people. We do not play with people we don't like or don't find attractive. There will however be people on Fab who will fuck anybody, but rarely get a meet. Those people are not selective nor do they care about quality. It is not a linear equation between numbers of meets and selectivity. Quite understand that our lifestyle would make us unsuitable for people on a Fab who use this site for other purposes, e.g. to find a friend with benefits. But I don't think it fair to assume people who are embracing the swinging lifestyle are not being selective.

Mrs"

Spot on.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"It's been suggested on this thread that lots of veris gives the impression the person is not selective and that they may not go for quality over quantity. I would like to point out that promiscuity doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how selective one is or the quality of their meets. As I said earlier, swinging is a lifestyle choice to us. We usually have 2 or 3 regular guys and we will probably see one of them about once a month. We also go to a swing club or party every couple of months and we make sure someone is also attending who we would be interested in and playing with. Are we promiscuous? Most definately. Are we selective? God yeah, there are loads of people we have both turned down for play, and we have been to parties and left empty handed. Quality over quantity? We think we are lucky enough to play with a reasonable quantity of quality people. If we cease to find quality people we will play with less people. We do not play with people we don't like or don't find attractive. There will however be people on Fab who will fuck anybody, but rarely get a meet. Those people are not selective nor do they care about quality. It is not a linear equation between numbers of meets and selectivity. Quite understand that our lifestyle would make us unsuitable for people on a Fab who use this site for other purposes, e.g. to find a friend with benefits. But I don't think it fair to assume people who are embracing the swinging lifestyle are not being selective.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex."

Translation: Women who have lots of meets with different men are obviously sluts who gladly lie back and open their legs for every bloke who comes along. Men who have lots of meets with different women obviously work hard to improve their looks/tools/personality/status/attributes...

As has been pointed out to you already, you're just recycling TheSuperfreak's misogynistic, fat-shaming, slut-shaming garbage...if you're going to insult people on here, at least practice what you preach and put some effort into coming up with ORIGINAL material...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds counterintuitive for a website that literally has swingers in the title, but not everyone on here is here to swing. It's part and parcel of it being an open and popular website with a low barrier to entry - Some people are here to fantasise, some to have a perv, some are here for the attention, some might of had a shit sex life in the past and are looking to date people a bit more ambitious....there's a whole host of individual reasons for joining this site beyond actually swinging, and people might actually find the reality of swinging quite off-putting.

My hot take; if you want to actually swing, go to a swingers club. This is just naughty facebook. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh im very selective.. I see cock and I select

each and everyone to their own on here that's how it should be play by your own rules and let others play by their's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being promiscuous takes absolutely no effort as a woman. For men, we need to gain tools/attributes/looks/status/personalities which make us desirable to the opposite sex.

Translation: Women who have lots of meets with different men are obviously sluts who gladly lie back and open their legs for every bloke who comes along. Men who have lots of meets with different women obviously work hard to improve their looks/tools/personality/status/attributes...

As has been pointed out to you already, you're just recycling TheSuperfreak's misogynistic, fat-shaming, slut-shaming garbage...if you're going to insult people on here, at least practice what you preach and put some effort into coming up with ORIGINAL material..."

Actually I do see where he's coming from. In very basic terms it is easier for a woman to be promiscuous than for a man. That is if one removes standards and selectivity from the equation. Most women could go on Fab and get a fuck whenever they like if they were to drop their standards, whereas there are men who don't care who they fuck. Some men dish hundreds of messages to random women in the hope that one fish in the sea will bite. Such guys would love to be promiscuous but dont get the opportunity. When my husband and I go to a club, I know that I can convince someone to play with me. I might choose not to because I have standards, but as a woman the opportunity will always be there. Men go to a club and know that with the best will the world they might not get lucky. It is easier for women to be promiscuous than men. However, it should not be assumed that a promiscuous woman is easy. For women who want to attract the right kind of men, and have the treat her accordingly and come back for more, that requires effort.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I do see where he's coming from. In very basic terms it is easier for a woman to be promiscuous than for a man. That is if one removes standards and selectivity from the equation...However, it should not be assumed that a promiscuous woman is easy"

Unfortunately, that is PRECISELY the assumption that Rock-Hardy is making.

Earlier in this thread, he stated that a man with lots of verifications - if they are quality - should be praised, because it's a sign that the man in question has worked to improve themselves.

By contrast, when faced with a woman with lots of verifications, he simply states that 'promiscuity for women requires no effort'...implying that her large number of veris is the result of having lower standards.

For the Rock-Hardys and TheSuperfreaks of this world, if a woman has lots of veris, that is a sure sign that she is a slut; if a man has lots of veris, that is a sure sign of his commitment to self-improvement...

I would also point out that their model assumes that the men and women concerned are HETEROSEXUAL, and that ALL verifications are the result of SEXUAL encounters.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"Actually I do see where he's coming from. In very basic terms it is easier for a woman to be promiscuous than for a man. That is if one removes standards and selectivity from the equation...However, it should not be assumed that a promiscuous woman is easy

Unfortunately, that is PRECISELY the assumption that Rock-Hardy is making.

Earlier in this thread, he stated that a man with lots of verifications - if they are quality - should be praised, because it's a sign that the man in question has worked to improve themselves.

By contrast, when faced with a woman with lots of verifications, he simply states that 'promiscuity for women requires no effort'...implying that her large number of veris is the result of having lower standards.

For the Rock-Hardys and TheSuperfreaks of this world, if a woman has lots of veris, that is a sure sign that she is a slut; if a man has lots of veris, that is a sure sign of his commitment to self-improvement...

I would also point out that their model assumes that the men and women concerned are HETEROSEXUAL, and that ALL verifications are the result of SEXUAL encounters.

"
This isn't just fantasy land. The same sentiment from real life can apply here that is why the OP is being judged. I know women who have mets loads of men on here but will hide the verification summary or not show verifications. That obviously shows we aren't the only 1's who think like this. It is a general consensus and only on a swinging site would you get a conflicting view about it. I will point out that The SuperFreak has bisexual as his sexuality so you are mistaken there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm promiscuous but I'm still selective. I turn down far more than I shag.

I go to a club I turn down 5 and might shag 5 - I'm still being selective!

(If you have a beer belly it's most definitely a NO)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have alot of verifications and could pretty much get a fuck every day of the week if I wanted but my standards never have to drop! I like alot of sex with guys I am attracted to...be that only one or many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a general consensus and only on a swinging site would you get a conflicting view about it. I will point out that The SuperFreak has bisexual as his sexuality so you are mistaken there."

First off, what 'general consensus' are you referring to?

Second, the OP's point - entirely valid IMO - is that you cannot simply look at the NUMBER of verifications a person has.

Third, TheSuperfreak may be listed as bisexual, but his original comments - which you have regurgitated - referred ONLY to heterosexual couplings, not same-sex activity.

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia


"It is a general consensus and only on a swinging site would you get a conflicting view about it. I will point out that The SuperFreak has bisexual as his sexuality so you are mistaken there.

First off, what 'general consensus' are you referring to?

Second, the OP's point - entirely valid IMO - is that you cannot simply look at the NUMBER of verifications a person has.

Third, TheSuperfreak may be listed as bisexual, but his original comments - which you have regurgitated - referred ONLY to heterosexual couplings, not same-sex activity."

Shhhh. Don't be so angry. There's no need. Have a Cadbury's Caramel.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"It is a general consensus and only on a swinging site would you get a conflicting view about it. I will point out that The SuperFreak has bisexual as his sexuality so you are mistaken there.

First off, what 'general consensus' are you referring to?

Second, the OP's point - entirely valid IMO - is that you cannot simply look at the NUMBER of verifications a person has.

Third, TheSuperfreak may be listed as bisexual, but his original comments - which you have regurgitated - referred ONLY to heterosexual couplings, not same-sex activity."
It is a general consensus that if a man is promiscuous he is considered a player, stud etc while if a woman is they are considered easy, slutty. Women tend to be the worst for shaming other women who are promiscuous. It maybe misogynistic and a double standard but that is how it is. Just because you join a swinging site don't expect people to radically alter their views. I'm not sure how you apply that to the LGBT community. It was more relative to the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shhhh. Don't be so angry. There's no need. Have a Cadbury's Caramel. "

You wouldn't have any Creme Eggs on you by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure how you apply that to the LGBT community."

That's pretty much my point though...

The twin assumptions of:

Promiscuous Man = Player/Stud

And

Promiscuous Woman = Slut/Whore

Are rarely, if ever, applied to bisexuals or gay people. In fact, it's often the reverse...

Far from being praised as 'studs' or 'heroes,' promiscuous gay or bi men will often be looked upon as potential carriers of STDs such as AIDS.

Conversely, far from being dismissed as 'whores' or 'sluts,' promiscuous gay or bi women are treated as the 'Holy Grail'...

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester


"I'm not sure how you apply that to the LGBT community.

That's pretty much my point though...

The twin assumptions of:

Promiscuous Man = Player/Stud

And

Promiscuous Woman = Slut/Whore

Are rarely, if ever, applied to bisexuals or gay people. In fact, it's often the reverse...

Far from being praised as 'studs' or 'heroes,' promiscuous gay or bi men will often be looked upon as potential carriers of STDs such as AIDS.

Conversely, far from being dismissed as 'whores' or 'sluts,' promiscuous gay or bi women are treated as the 'Holy Grail'..."
Interesting, I'd like to hear The SuperFreak's views on this I think people would think gay men are more promiscuous and easier to be so. Perhaps that's why they aren't viewed the same as heterosexual. I don't really know about bi or lesbian women though I still can't imagine that being the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

Perhaps they're jealous about how many veris you have.

...I know I am. Lol.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

I'm in the same boat. . the vast majority of my verifications are as a result of small intimate house parties I've hosted. Just because they've attended doesn't mean I've had sex with everyone. . . verifications can be a double edged sword. . . .,popular and promiscuous are two very different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I do see where he's coming from. In very basic terms it is easier for a woman to be promiscuous than for a man. That is if one removes standards and selectivity from the equation...However, it should not be assumed that a promiscuous woman is easy

Unfortunately, that is PRECISELY the assumption that Rock-Hardy is making.

Earlier in this thread, he stated that a man with lots of verifications - if they are quality - should be praised, because it's a sign that the man in question has worked to improve themselves

By contrast, when faced with a woman with lots of verifications, he simply states that 'promiscuity for women requires no effort'...implying that her large number of veris is the result of having lower standards.

For the Rock-Hardys and TheSuperfreaks of this world, if a woman has lots of veris, that is a sure sign that she is a slut; if a man has lots of veris, that is a sure sign of his commitment to self-improvement...

I would also point out that their model assumes that the men and women concerned are HETEROSEXUAL, and that ALL verifications are the result of SEXUAL encounters.

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all too promiscuous

We're all sluts and whores

Who gives a fuck?

I do!

I give lots of fucking indeed! It's what I'm here for!

'Slut' and 'Whore' are legitamate sexual orientations just like any other and we meet with whom we want.

Sounds like a lot of overly promiscuous people contact you to project something onto you that they are uncomfortable with in themselves. I would take it as flirting and proceed to philosophically dominate them by countering their bullshit ideas and help them to feel at ease and comfortable about their own promiscuity.... and then fuck their brains out like they want to be fucked... because, make no mistake about it, that's why they are contacting you. Don't you know flirting by now when you see it? They're challenging you to a hunting game. Some women can't resist poking with intriguing beasts. Chin up, you've pulled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

Plus veris can be based solely on socials, it's not a bed post notch count. People have different wants, some are funny and will look for any excuse to be "different" from everyone else or holier than thou, but it's also their perogative whatever the reason is.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

sod them what I'm more impressed is that you have got 54 verifications but only been on here 10 months.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?"

All women have different likes and dislikes some find a man worth loads of varis a bit icky like they will sleep with anything and anyone, those people like the connection between two bodies.

while there are women or there who like an experienced man.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I've had the same thing said to me by someone I met on here.

He told me that I'm "far too active with other guys for his liking" so he won't be seeing me again "

Notice how he did it after he had the meet. Coward

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

Most of my veri's are from blokes watching me get my pussy eaten in angels and sinners

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Actually I do see where he's coming from. In very basic terms it is easier for a woman to be promiscuous than for a man. That is if one removes standards and selectivity from the equation...However, it should not be assumed that a promiscuous woman is easy

Unfortunately, that is PRECISELY the assumption that Rock-Hardy is making.

Earlier in this thread, he stated that a man with lots of verifications - if they are quality - should be praised, because it's a sign that the man in question has worked to improve themselves

By contrast, when faced with a woman with lots of verifications, he simply states that 'promiscuity for women requires no effort'...implying that her large number of veris is the result of having lower standards.

For the Rock-Hardys and TheSuperfreaks of this world, if a woman has lots of veris, that is a sure sign that she is a slut; if a man has lots of veris, that is a sure sign of his commitment to self-improvement...

I would also point out that their model assumes that the men and women concerned are HETEROSEXUAL, and that ALL verifications are the result of SEXUAL encounters.

Well said "

here here well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?

All women have different likes and dislikes some find a man worth loads of varis a bit icky like they will sleep with anything and anyone, those people like the connection between two bodies.

while there are women or there who like an experienced man. "

Again it's this assumption that loads of veris means they will sleep with anybody. It should be taken that there are loads of quality people available.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?

All women have different likes and dislikes some find a man worth loads of varis a bit icky like they will sleep with anything and anyone, those people like the connection between two bodies.

while there are women or there who like an experienced man.

Again it's this assumption that loads of veris means they will sleep with anybody. It should be taken that there are loads of quality people available. "

and I absolutely agree with you. people make assumptions on how a profile reads, there pictures and there poetically in real life is totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few comments lately in messages on here, saying that I'm too promiscuous and I'm a little taken aback by it. Apparently I have too many veris.

The truth is that my veris tend to be from the same people that I see regularly again and again, and I'm astonished to get that attitude on Fab - a swinging site of all places. I keep them on show as I think it's a sign that you're not some kind of one off one-night-stand nightmare male.

And don't these people realise that the number of veris you have aren't anything to go by - it's so easy to hide how how many you've got if you want to?

I'm just a bit staggered by the double standards. Or ami missing something here?

All women have different likes and dislikes some find a man worth loads of varis a bit icky like they will sleep with anything and anyone, those people like the connection between two bodies.

while there are women or there who like an experienced man.

Again it's this assumption that loads of veris means they will sleep with anybody. It should be taken that there are loads of quality people available.

and I absolutely agree with you. people make assumptions on how a profile reads, there pictures and there poetically in real life is totally different."

I don't think in this instance it's so muchthe profile. I think it's people coming to the swing scene with vanilla values. In vanilla life lots of partners means no standards, and people, despite wanting this lifestyle, just can't get past that vanilla inbuilt attitude, and realise that it's possible to have lots of high quality carefully selected partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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sod them what I'm more impressed is that you have got 54 verifications but only been on here 10 months. "

Regular visits to an active club for ten months could easily get you that many *new* verifications. Let alone repeats.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x

Who cares .. good luck to the guy!! Jealously comes in many forms.. block and more on.. simple

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Really don't get this verification thing. For us its just ego stroking. We have never asked anyone to verify us and perhaps that it why we have so few.

We have been asked on a number of occasions to verify others who we have played with. Remember on one occasion when the guy asked us if we would verify him even before he had pulled the condom off following a less than startling performance. We should have posted "Could have done better".

The only time we have been tempted to leave a verification was after meeting a couple who were absolute horrors. In the end we refrained from "Avoid at all costs" Perhaps we should have had the courage of our own convictions!

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By *redfreddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Valencia

Well, I've since moved to LA, and I can safely say, the couple's and single ladies here are nowhere near as funny about verifications. There's also far less stigma about being a single male too.

Though they're just as selective about who they'll play with, I have to say they're far more sociable and approachable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Promiscuous = definition of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hypocrites are everywhere and they're very vocal online these days lol

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Promiscuous = definition of swinging "

The wierd thing is I dont really see myself as being promiscuous becasue I dont play that often.

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