FabSwingers.com forum: Turn the bloody lights off!

By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My personal preference is low level lighting or candles...enough to be able to get a visual appreciation of my partner(s)...whilst having the added benefit of not allowing them to be put off too much by the vision of me looming over them!!

That said there's something to be said for a completely darkened room where senses other than sight come into play. Definitely not a fan of full glaring lights on though...just seems so clinical, unless of course it's natural daylight.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"My personal preference is low level lighting or candles...enough to be able to get a visual appreciation of my partner(s)...whilst having the added benefit of not allowing them to be put off too much by the vision of me looming over them!!

Low or natural light for me too although I really struggle to keep my eyes open when I'm having sex and often put my arm over my face or bury my head in something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a point OP.

I dont mind lights on but prefer softer light. I love to see a guys body, and feel his muscles .. his torso..well everything.

As for cock pics.. they do nothing for me.. I want to suck and play with a cock not see a close up of it squirting cum in photos?

But hey who am I to judge .. maybe some women love those types of photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's not so much pics of cocks I object to personally...I have seen (and looked enviously at) some great pics of them either tastefully and artfully done where they're just a part of the overall pic.

The ones I don't understand are the disembodied ones where you can just see the shaft and/or the head, or they're buried in a woman who is actually the focus of the pic.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

See that would freak me out. No I have to know who is touching me in that club scenario anyway.

Personally I am really turned on by the visual too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

See that would freak me out. No I have to know who is touching me in that club scenario anyway.

Personally I am really turned on by the visual too.

I had a couple of drinks so was a little tipsy but not d*unk.. and i was getting turned on by watching others fuck and generally in a flirting mood. That and getting a bit of attention off men and women put me in the mood to be naughty. First time I have done it and I hope its not my last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo lights off for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Defo lights off for me

Seriously? Do you not like to see their body and watch their face as you tease them? My god .. its such a turn on watching a guy enjoying themselves.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences?"
I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes low level lighting is the way to go, but also when it's dark the senses do become heightened and things can be very erotic that normally not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Defo lights off for me

Seriously? Do you not like to see their body and watch their face as you tease them? My god .. its such a turn on watching a guy enjoying themselves."

Ummmmmm no that does nothing for me tbh but then I don't really do teasing lol x

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

From a fantasy standpoint I can totally appreciate, and be turned on by this scenario but in reality, the control freak in me almost certainly wouldn't be able to cope with the idea that the delicious sensations *might* be caused by someone I'd already seen who I wasn't attracted to. Does that matter if it feels good? .... well yes, to me it does because it would bother me feeling 'duped' potentially by someone I might have already turned down.

And so far as being visual is concerned, despite being a woman, that is very important to me. I like to make eye contact, see people's expressions and have a good look at (all of) them. Someone once told me they were a bit taken aback and concerned something was wrong due to my habit of staring intently until they realised it was a 'thing' of mine. I also really enjoy using mirrors to see yourself in action and to access views you wouldn't otherwise get

Having said all that however, I agree low level lighting is most flattering - I wouldn't usually be able to relax due to being too self conscious in glaring light. Not surprisingly, some of the clubs I've visited have this aspect spot on - light enough to see, but low enough to blur minor imperfections and make you feel sexy!

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

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think it's different when thers more than two of you as it's an added kink rather than a lady just being shy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lights on for me, ambient lighting is relaxing and sexy. I like to see what I'm playing with.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I prefer the flicker of a good grot film on the telly if the girl is into it

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Oh I care very much about what a cock looks like, yummy. As for the lighting hmmmm depends I like both, there is a certain something I love to see that is a massive turn on, so lights on!! Then again middle of the night sex when you're barely conscious and your other senses take over, that without doubt is very hot and satisfying. That isn't altogether to do with the lighting though

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Oh and I have been in a dark room at a swingers party and my god.. talk about heighten your senses. Was pretty hot and I felt very naughty not knowing who I was wanking or sucking.

perfect. I like mirrors too

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Lights on for me, ambient lighting is relaxing and sexy. I like to see what I'm playing with. "
i like to see what I'm up to too, a girl looking up at me as I push myself into her

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Lights on for me, ambient lighting is relaxing and sexy. I like to see what I'm playing with. i like to see what I'm up to too, a girl looking up at me as I push myself into her"

In those famous words of Jaqueline off the Tv programme Benidorm

"Ooooh yesssssd!"

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

No, the visual experience is part of it for us. Like to see each other having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it with lights off.

Maybe because I enjoy more sensual sex than porno sex?

Obviously not so dark that youre stumbling around crashing into things though ?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I like it with lights off.

Maybe because I enjoy more sensual sex than porno sex?

Obviously not so dark that youre stumbling around crashing into things though ?

Night vision glasses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences?"

I care what I look like, which is why I turn the lights off during sex generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences? I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off. "

Insecurity is definitely right in my case yes x

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences? I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off.

Insecurity is definitely right in my case yes x"
judging by ur pics thers defo no reason for insecurities girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it with lights off.

Maybe because I enjoy more sensual sex than porno sex?

Obviously not so dark that youre stumbling around crashing into things though ?

Night vision glasses?

Ha Ha good idea

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"No, the visual experience is part of it for us. Like to see each other having fun."
thats my view on it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences? I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off.

Insecurity is definitely right in my case yes xjudging by ur pics thers defo no reason for insecurities girl"

Ahhh but with pics I can control what people see if that makes sense in the bedroom it's not so easy. But thank you for your lovely comment

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I like it with lights off.

Maybe because I enjoy more sensual sex than porno sex?

Obviously not so dark that youre stumbling around crashing into things though ?

Night vision glasses?

Ha Ha good idea

I'm full of good ideas when it comes to enhancing the experience

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences?

I care what I look like, which is why I turn the lights off during sex generally.

Cum face?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sex is a very visual thing for both of us . When we are swinging , I'm primarily voyeuristic and my wife loves to see me watching her having fun . So lights off wouldn't do much for either of us . Together , we love to see each other , so it's very rare to have the lights off then too . Now and again an early morning sesh while it's still dark is nice though , in a half asleep kind of way

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Ambient lighting for me. I don't want to be floodlit or in darkness

*even though I close my eyes lots*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lights on... love to see facial expressions, their body responding, anticipating what's coming next etc adds so much to the whole intimate experience. Lights out dampens my receptors so it's never as good, also a turn off if someone isn't confident about their body and feels the need to hide.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences? I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off.

Insecurity is definitely right in my case yes xjudging by ur pics thers defo no reason for insecurities girl

Ahhh but with pics I can control what people see if that makes sense in the bedroom it's not so easy. But thank you for your lovely comment

x "
us blokes are the same, worries of a belly or that we won't measure up.a good camera angle defo helps but I think with ladies it's a state of mind, if a lady feels sexy it shines thru no matter what her shape

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Ambient lighting for me. I don't want to be floodlit or in darkness

*even though I close my eyes lots*

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id b forever asking u to open em as I love to see eyes roll with extasy lol

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

In my younger years when I was oh so much smaller, but not as confident, it was lights out every time.

Now I think if they don't like what they see then they shouldn't be with me. I am who I am.

This led me to realise that I am actually quite visual and I had been missing out for years by hiding in the dark. I love watching my partners face and how our bodies move together. Although I do close my eyes when I orgasm I love to look in his eyes as he reaches his.

So it's lights on for me.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Ambient lighting for me. I don't want to be floodlit or in darkness

*even though I close my eyes lots*

id b forever asking u to open em as I love to see eyes roll with extasy lol"

I get asked and I do try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once read that women prefer the lights off because they get turned on more by taste, touch, smell and sound. Men respond more to the visual aspect of sex.

It was the best pussy/best cock threads that got me thinking about this as the best cock thread is just not being posted on because women in general don't care about what they look like.

Your thoughts and experiences? I imagine it is insecure women who want the lights off.

Insecurity is definitely right in my case yes xjudging by ur pics thers defo no reason for insecurities girl

Ahhh but with pics I can control what people see if that makes sense in the bedroom it's not so easy. But thank you for your lovely comment

x us blokes are the same, worries of a belly or that we won't measure up.a good camera angle defo helps but I think with ladies it's a state of mind, if a lady feels sexy it shines thru no matter what her shape "

Yes I think your right it's in my head I'm sure it is. I have not had sex fully naked since my early 20's and even although not naked I still only like it in dark lol

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