FabSwingers.com forum: DISCRETION -- what does it mean to you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i found that someone i met on a regular basis had discussed things about me with others

this week my friend has had a similar experience

i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a hard and fast rule but you might find that married women or blokes playing away are usually very discrete because they don't want to get caught.

If you're swinging as a couple, most don't give a flying fook who knows what they are getting up to, despite telling all and sundry that they are the epitomy of discretion.

You just need to chose your playmates carefully.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

It's not just about this site, but about life in general, even about other jobs!

I'd a career in Hotel Management for over 25 years, and yes, the hanky panky and various other indiscretions, I witnessed in various establishments, especially involving well known Celebrities, would have filled several volumes, had I been tempted to write about it all.

But I haven't; in my job, being discreet was de rigeur; it was a natural way of life nor did you breach that code!

As for this site, I extend that same application to those I know and have met up with; yes, mention some things, but keep it general, and never, repeat, never mention names or personal data!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

A few weeks ago a guy asked what I did specifically with **** a guy who had verified me

I politley replied that that was between him and me

He then said, well I'll tell you what I did with !!!!!

I then told him that he'd cooked his goose and I would no way meet him if he was prepared to tell all and sundry

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Walls have ears !

Did I really have an afternoon of fun and frolics with a dutchess while the duke was out shooting ?

I couldn't possibly comment

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Walls have ears !

Did I really have an afternoon of fun and frolics with a dutchess while the duke was out shooting ?

I couldn't possibly comment

Phew! When I saw the word Duchess, I thought you'd sunk a bit low to consider Camilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few weeks ago a guy asked what I did specifically with **** a guy who had verified me

I politley replied that that was between him and me

He then said, well I'll tell you what I did with !!!!!

I then told him that he'd cooked his goose and I would no way meet him if he was prepared to tell all and sundry"

Good for you. What a plonker to ask a question like that. Still, at least you found out early.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i found that someone i met on a regular basis had discussed things about me with others

this week my friend has had a similar experience

i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle "

There are rules?

Ignoring the fact a lifestyle is what you buy at ikea,people are all different.Some keep everything private,others do not.If it is a rule you consider necessary, in future make it clear to your meets.

Do not assume because you find something unacceptable everyone will agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i thought ikea sold furniture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Walls have ears !

Did I really have an afternoon of fun and frolics with a dutchess while the duke was out shooting ?

I couldn't possibly comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Walls have ears !

Did I really have an afternoon of fun and frolics with a dutchess while the duke was out shooting ?

I couldn't possibly comment

Phew! When I saw the word Duchess, I thought you'd sunk a bit low to consider Camilla

In fairness the first thing that popped into my head when I saw her was:

"wtf"

followed swiftly by:

"he's no looker, but that's a fooking horse!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i thought ikea sold furniture

And hot steamy gang-bangs amongst the furniture after the store has 'closed'.

What! You didn't know?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Mind your own business

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mind your own business

Mistress x"

to me discretion is meet fuck and never speak of it again except wet dreams about meets are an exception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone I'd not actually got round to meeting, a female of a couple who was a single again, recommend me to a single male. She also told him personal details about me such as what I do for a living and where I live, which I wasn't impressed with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't like being discussed in detail like that and we wouldn't do it to others. If someone contacts us to say they know or have met someone we know by way of an intro and doesn't discuss them any further then not got a problem with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion to me means that my business stays my business, I don't discuss who I've met, or what may (or may not) have taken place with them, and would expect the same in return.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"i found that someone i met on a regular basis had discussed things about me with others

this week my friend has had a similar experience

i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle "

You must be joking.... give it an hour of a large social gathering and the who fucked who pm's are flying.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle "

For some its very important but you obviously cant assume its the same for everyone - have you seen some verifications and forum posts?

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle

For some its very important but you obviously cant assume its the same for everyone - have you seen some verifications and forum posts?

If someone verifies me or displays a verification from me and someone else asks me about those then I will talk in general terms about them but not in detail. Other than that what happens ata meet stays at the meet. No names and no personall info ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i found that someone i met on a regular basis had discussed things about me with others

this week my friend has had a similar experience

i thought total discretion was an unwritten rule of this lifestyle "

I would agree but its something you have to discuss with people .If you ask them to be discreet and not talk to others about you then they shouldn't. People do like to gossip though and if you haven't asked them to be discreet maybe they thought it was ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Discretion to me means that my business stays my business, I don't discuss who I've met, or what may (or may not) have taken place with them, and would expect the same in return."

That's the real problem though, isn't it.

Discretion can only ever extend as far as you can have control over it.

You meet someone for a coffee, or a drink, or a shag and once the event is over you can have no control over how it's reported by the other party.

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