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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" who says they aren't interested.... just because you can't first contact them, it doesn't mean if they are interested in you and your profile that they can't contact you... maybe they are doing the searching..... | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" A lot of couples block single males due to the sheer volume of messages received on a daily basis. They just go looking for one when and if desired xx | |||
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"Or they get 300 messages a day saying U ok?" Ain't that the truth lol | |||
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"I get the same results any suggestions ready to discuss" Read your own profile as if you were a couple wanting to meet a single guy. How does it stand out from the crowd? What do you have to offer a couple? Do you tailor your messages so that couples know you are exactly what they're looking for as described on their profile? | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" Are you saying because they are on Fab they have to meet single men? | |||
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"You can always have sex with couples or goto a club or do dogging or lower your values and fuck a really ugly girl and then walk home with shame flashbacks like a Vietnam vet " He's 53 and "curvy". On a site like this where because of the ratios even the less attractive women and couples can get hot men, he has little or no chance here. He is best going to a greedy girls night at a club where all comers are welcome. | |||
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"It's harsh but I would suggest the main reason the op can't get meets is because he is a 53 year old curvy man with only a pic of his cock. Given that single men wanting to meet women and couples out number women and couples wanting to meet single men by about ten to one his chances are something between remote and zero. " Is this me in ten to fifteen years.. I must grt rich | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" Because the men in couples normally run their Fab account and in they ain't into MMF etc it ain't happening. Doesn't fill up inbox etc and echoing other stuff said above. | |||
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"There are 2 main reasons a couple would have cause to pursue a single man in the swing scene. One is if they are interested in MMF threeesomes, and the other if they are interested in cuckolding. If the couple are not interested in either, then I guess they would have no need for a single male. It's nothing against single men, it's more about what the couple's interests and fantasies are. There however plenty of couples who do enjoy pursuits that require a single man, therefore will look for the right kind of man who is able to meet their needs and fantasies. Mrs" as above And nobody,that i know of,joins a swinging group to give "a chance" to anybody,male or female. | |||
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"I see plenty of couples profiles on here looking for single guys. Had some great meets with couples on here. " I've mostly met with couples over the years. Couples who block single guys either...want to meet other couples/women Or want to do the looking themselves. It ain't rocket science. | |||
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"It probably because most couples seem to want to meet a unicorn** not a man. I say i specifically do not meet couples but i still get loads messaging me saying come and join us. ** = unicorn is a single bi female who wants a MF+f meet. " Ditto! | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" It's a question of numbers sometimes. We block single guys for a while, then when we're in the mood to meet we unblock for a couple of days then try to deal with all the mails. After just 3 days I've got 65 unread mails in my inbox. | |||
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"We used to have it where single guys could contact us, but then we got bombarded with one line messages from pictureless profiles- or constantly asked 'can you meet now' clearly showing they hadn't read the profile. But we are still very much up for meeting single guys and we've got one single lad who is a genuine friend now and a great playmate- we just look for them now and reach out if we find one that takes our fancy. $- " We do the "put the word from our profile text in the subject heading" thing on our profile, and out of the 65 mails we've had in the past few days NOT ONE of them has the right word. | |||
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"We used to have it where single guys could contact us, but then we got bombarded with one line messages from pictureless profiles- or constantly asked 'can you meet now' clearly showing they hadn't read the profile. But we are still very much up for meeting single guys and we've got one single lad who is a genuine friend now and a great playmate- we just look for them now and reach out if we find one that takes our fancy. $- We do the "put the word from our profile text in the subject heading" thing on our profile, and out of the 65 mails we've had in the past few days NOT ONE of them has the right word." Jupiter! | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" We meet single guys, but have recently blocked them from messaging us and have decided to have repeat meets with the friends we've made, or to do the search ourselves. The reason being (as you've pointed out), we had quite a few messages from guys who haven't clearly read our profile, are fantasists, send several unsolicited pictures of their cocks or who show no effort in writing a decent message or profile and think they can get away just writing in text speak or a couple of words. No disrespect if that's how they are, but not for us. We realise that there are decent and respectful guys out there, so to save theirs and our time, we do the searching ourselves. | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" The men in couples feel threatened and worried that their wives will leave them. Or, in our case, we have a different taste in men and I am worried my OH will run off with the single man involved .... if he is bi | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" We definatley welcome single guys, so much so that we don't go to the couples only sessions at our local club. | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*We definatley welcome single guys, so much so that we don't go to the couples only sessions at our local club. " We're the same. Can't stand couple's night at clubs. And when we have a party we always recruit in 2 or 3 extra guys. We believe a good party has more men than women. Has to be the right kind of men though. | |||
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"This site is not realy up to scracht " I think the site works fine. | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" Because they get inundated with tons of messages from single guys. So they prefer to use their filters to block them as they prefer to message the single guys that are of interest to them. I use that option myself for women too . As I prefer to choose who I get mail from | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand* who says they aren't interested.... just because you can't first contact them, it doesn't mean if they are interested in you and your profile that they can't contact you... maybe they are doing the searching....." | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. " Whats the point in allowing single males to message you then if you dont meet them ? | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. " But you have 54 verifications from men | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. But you have 54 verifications from men " The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. But you have 54 verifications from men The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. " No wonder single guys get confused then | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. But you have 54 verifications from men The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. No wonder single guys get confused then " It's not exactly difficult. Our profile says I (Candy) was on here as a single and met men, it says we're not looking for single men, and I believe there is a warning when someone sends a message that says 'stop! This profile isn't looking to meet men, do you still want to message?'. It's not rocket science. | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" To be fair you've only been here 9 weeks and your profile doesn't stand out from the many many single guy profiles on here. And although fair play for putting on your profile that you're bisexual, that will scare a lot of couples off, who simply won't meet a bi guy! And as others have said, the messages simply don't stop coming with silly one liners. Nice tits (I know I have nice tits), love to fuck you (I'm sure you would) etc!!!! | |||
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. But you have 54 verifications from men The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. No wonder single guys get confused then It's not exactly difficult. Our profile says I (Candy) was on here as a single and met men, it says we're not looking for single men, and I believe there is a warning when someone sends a message that says 'stop! This profile isn't looking to meet men, do you still want to message?'. It's not rocket science. " Unfortunately we aren't dealing with rocket scientists but desperate walking hardons looking for sonewhere to dump their muck | |||
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"This site is not realy up to scracht " Not sure I know what that means? Not up to scratch how? In that you don't get a meet every time you message a woman or a couple? Have you ever tried stopping a woman or couple in the street and asking them to jump into bed with you right there and then? This site is fucking awesome, dare I even say Fab, you got to make the effort, appreciate that the numbers are stacked against you as a single guy, and don't take it too seriously. Aren't we mainly here for fun, not hassle and stress. If you're finding you're not getting meets or people chatting to you, look at the reasons why that might be, but don't hold other's accountable for it, it's all down to how you engage with people. Good luck | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand* The men in couples feel threatened and worried that their wives will leave them. Or, in our case, we have a different taste in men and I am worried my OH will run off with the single man involved .... if he is bi " Got more chance of H running off with another woman! But its a risk I'll just have to take S | |||
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"Well guess what we seek? However first put off is no profile pic (even a cock pic is better than a silhouette) then profile has no pics, need to show off the goods. " Nice bike! First year? Red/white scheme, the "wanted" colour, made a few quid on one of those last year & bought two yzf750's S | |||
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"Well guess what we seek? However first put off is no profile pic (even a cock pic is better than a silhouette) then profile has no pics, need to show off the goods. Nice bike! First year? Red/white scheme, the "wanted" colour, made a few quid on one of those last year & bought two yzf750's S" Saw a lovely mint LC 350 yesterday in red & white. Completely original apart from Allspeeds. Brought back happy memories | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" You may want to try social events near you. At least you become a real person and more than a profile, and who knows what may happen after! Good luck! | |||
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*" It's simply not what they're looking for, it's often the people who've been swinging for years. Newer couples are more likely to be open to the idea; I just happen yo usually meet them and have a good time with them. | |||
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"Reasons we've blocked single guys: 1) ########################## 2) Most don't care about anything except their own needs/desires" So are you say your not here to satisfy your own needs/desires? Are you one of the golden couples that are here only to fulfil the needs of their chosen playmates? Two many couples are here for 2) as well. | |||
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"So are you say your not here to satisfy your own needs/desires? Are you one of the golden couples that are here only to fulfil the needs of their chosen playmates?" We're here for meets where everybody is satisfied. It's a huge turn-off (and quite rude) when somebody says "I want", "I need" etc Look at the pegging topic for example, a couple of dozen guys who'd no doubt be happy to be pegged by Mrs SKC but bring absolutely nothing to the party. We wouldn't dream of trying to meet someone without making sure their needs are fulfilled as well as ours. Surely that's basic social skills? Which sadly seem missing from a fair few people on this site. | |||
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