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"If you were a woman..... would you be attracted to your profile? The txt doesn't stand out, and neither do the photos. Your profile says your body type is athletic so why not show some of that in a photo for example. Inject some personality in to everything otherwise it a long road to nowhere.." hey thanks. an intelligent constructive answer. I'll address that | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. " Your profile and pics would me more suited to a dating site in my opinion. Sex it up a bit, your not a bad looking fella but you need to "sell yourself" a little more! After all your profile is where it all starts Good luck! | |||
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"I think more selection of photos. You cannot accommodate to me that screams that your either in a relationship or married. However there are other reasons. Maybe explain why. Again a friend referring you to this site again to me suggests a struggling relationship. " oh I never thought of that. Im neither married or in a relationship but I'll change that if it comes across like that. thanks. | |||
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"If you were a woman..... would you be attracted to your profile? The txt doesn't stand out, and neither do the photos. Your profile says your body type is athletic so why not show some of that in a photo for example. Inject some personality in to everything otherwise it a long road to nowhere.. hey thanks. an intelligent constructive answer. I'll address that" I can give an unintelligent non constructive answer too just for balance..... There not messaging you because they are too busy messaging me | |||
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"If you were a woman..... would you be attracted to your profile? The txt doesn't stand out, and neither do the photos. Your profile says your body type is athletic so why not show some of that in a photo for example. Inject some personality in to everything otherwise it a long road to nowhere.. hey thanks. an intelligent constructive answer. I'll address that I can give an unintelligent non constructive answer too just for balance..... There not messaging you because they are too busy messaging me " Tut! | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. " You have previously posted on a bare back thread. That is enough for me to never consider replying to a message, let alone meet. I know quite a few think the same. | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. You have previously posted on a bare back thread. That is enough for me to never consider replying to a message, let alone meet. I know quite a few think the same." The curse of the green arrow | |||
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"Now you've put a cock pic as profile?! Wtf" To sex it up a bit. Plenty of other guys put cock pics so I may as well. What's the green arrow mean as well? | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. You have previously posted on a bare back thread. That is enough for me to never consider replying to a message, let alone meet. I know quite a few think the same.don't know what a green arrow means The curse of the green arrow " | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. You have previously posted on a bare back thread. That is enough for me to never consider replying to a message, let alone meet. I know quite a few think the same.don't know what a green arrow means The curse of the green arrow " Honestly I would remove the cock pic quickly. Women don't like to see them. The green arrow shows every post that you have commented on in the forum. Hence how you were told about the bare back | |||
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"If you were a woman..... would you be attracted to your profile? The txt doesn't stand out, and neither do the photos. Your profile says your body type is athletic so why not show some of that in a photo for example. Inject some personality in to everything otherwise it a long road to nowhere.. hey thanks. an intelligent constructive answer. I'll address that" How have you addressed this with 'that' cock pic??? | |||
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"If you were a woman..... would you be attracted to your profile? The txt doesn't stand out, and neither do the photos. Your profile says your body type is athletic so why not show some of that in a photo for example. Inject some personality in to everything otherwise it a long road to nowhere.. hey thanks. an intelligent constructive answer. I'll address that Some woman advised to sex it up a bit but I removed it now. How have you addressed this with 'that' cock pic??? " | |||
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"No messages at least means no males pretending to be couples. " What? | |||
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"The cock picture isn't doing you any favours... Also one selfie is probably enough unless there is a talkimg point in the background or a change in your style.... Need more description in your profile too " Thanks, but I've only got me to take pictures of me. I'll add more to my profile later on. | |||
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"You're a good looking man but somehow to me they more portray someone I'd go to the pub with as opposed to getting naked with. I don't think anyone should have to justify not accommodating: personally I don't meet anyone who can't as I assume they don't want people off the internet into their home: fair enough...my home won't be accommodating either. Stating what you want/cam bring to the table without being needy/arrogant should improve the responses you get. Remember, there are loads more men than women so you have to make an effort. Good luck!" Thanks and it's that bit 'Somehow' that I don't know about. So I come across a a pub mate and not a bed mate. I know it's all about looks on here which is why I mentioned the six pack bit at the beginning but isn't the best sex organ the mind? I've got that perfectly but who can see that. | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. " Too much competion pal. Your up against Guys with... Better bodies Better looking Great personalities Bigger cocks And take into consideration that the ratio of Men to Women is about 100 - 1 in here. The odds of you getting lucky is slim to zero | |||
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"Hmmm...following the green arrow it seems you post this same thread every few weeks and ignore any advice. " I don't ignore it, it's not knowing what to put. I don't understand how guys have luck on here and I don't have any. Surely there is someone on here that wants to give me a chance but as I've just read, the ratio is way towards women. They have it so lucky on here. I constantly get told that women don't want cock pics but then I was advised to sex my profile up a bit. What the hell do I do!! | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Too much competion pal. Your up against Guys with... Better bodies Better looking Great personalities Bigger cocks And take into consideration that the ratio of Men to Women is about 100 - 1 in here. The odds of you getting lucky is slim to zero " It's actually not as bad as that. There are about 10 guys for each woman or couple who want to meet them. We did a survey But the general point still holds. Only the most attractive guys will get meets. | |||
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"Hmmm...following the green arrow it seems you post this same thread every few weeks and ignore any advice. I don't ignore it, it's not knowing what to put. I don't understand how guys have luck on here and I don't have any. Surely there is someone on here that wants to give me a chance but as I've just read, the ratio is way towards women. They have it so lucky on here. I constantly get told that women don't want cock pics but then I was advised to sex my profile up a bit. What the hell do I do!!" Nowt you can do apart from live in hope or try and a meet a bird in one of your local boozers or at work | |||
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"Hmmm...following the green arrow it seems you post this same thread every few weeks and ignore any advice. I don't ignore it, it's not knowing what to put. I don't understand how guys have luck on here and I don't have any. Surely there is someone on here that wants to give me a chance but as I've just read, the ratio is way towards women. They have it so lucky on here. I constantly get told that women don't want cock pics but then I was advised to sex my profile up a bit. What the hell do I do!!" For us the pictures are off putting. Sexing up a profile does not equal a cock pic. If you have a good body show us a full length pic either naked or in nice underwear. Most women react to a disembodied cock pic with urghh. | |||
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"Hmmm...following the green arrow it seems you post this same thread every few weeks and ignore any advice. I don't ignore it, it's not knowing what to put. I don't understand how guys have luck on here and I don't have any. Surely there is someone on here that wants to give me a chance but as I've just read, the ratio is way towards women. They have it so lucky on here. I constantly get told that women don't want cock pics but then I was advised to sex my profile up a bit. What the hell do I do!!" Being told to sex up your profile does not equate to just sticking a picture of your cock on If you were serious about improving your profile you would haven taken on board previous advice already given... And no excuse about taking your own pics, I have taken all of my own | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. " Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. " Would it make you happier if the blokes were slim and good looking ? | |||
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"OP you want honesty, well here it is, your profile is woeful, tells a reader nothing about you, nothing about what you're looking for or can offer, is just bland and looks like you knocked it together in 5 mins during an advert break at half time in the football!! Think of your profile as a shop window and be honest, would you want to go in your shop and buy something? Or would you go in the one next door that is attractively dressed and enticing? Your pics are a series of selfies and a disembodied cock shot that don't really hold any appeal either. Go back to square one, look around at other single male profiles that are successful for ideas. Re-write from scratch injecting some personality into what you write about yourself. Take some imaginative and tasteful shots that show off your body. I'm not going to lie, the bareback comment isn't going to help you but with time and more posts on the forums that will disappear. To any guys bemoaning their lack of meets, and putting it down to the imbalance of numbers on here - yes that does play its part, but it's not impossible either. As a past it, 51 year old who doesn't have the body of an Adonis, I do ok, and if I can, anyone can. It's all about being respectful, courteous and finding ways to stand out, such as a decent profile, some decent pics and things like being active on the forums in a positive way. But until you put the effort in and listen to the advice you're given, then nothing will change. You, and you alone, have it in your power to change things, no-one else can do it for you. " Nail on the head generally but we think you are assisted by the fact that you are also part of a couple with a rather hot woman ??. Other couples and women are likely to be far more comfortable playing singly with a guy in such a relationship. We speak from experience ?? | |||
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"Nail on the head generally but we think you are assisted by the fact that you are also part of a couple with a rather hot woman ??. Other couples and women are likely to be far more comfortable playing singly with a guy in such a relationship. We speak from experience ?? " I see where you're coming from, and the thought had occurred to me, and if people were using me to set up meets with our couple profile in some way I'd tend to agree. However as it's me they're meeting I don't think my couples profile or my partner has any relevance, other than to perhaps reassure people that I'm not going to go all "relationship" on them, and that maybe I'm genuine. I'd actually be rather insulted if I thought anyone was meeting me because of who my partner was, and think they'd be insulted if I suggested that was their reason for meeting me. At the end of the day there still has to be attraction and chemistry etc with me, not my partner. | |||
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"Nail on the head generally but we think you are assisted by the fact that you are also part of a couple with a rather hot woman ??. Other couples and women are likely to be far more comfortable playing singly with a guy in such a relationship. We speak from experience ?? I see where you're coming from, and the thought had occurred to me, and if people were using me to set up meets with our couple profile in some way I'd tend to agree. However as it's me they're meeting I don't think my couples profile or my partner has any relevance, other than to perhaps reassure people that I'm not going to go all "relationship" on them, and that maybe I'm genuine. I'd actually be rather insulted if I thought anyone was meeting me because of who my partner was, and think they'd be insulted if I suggested that was their reason for meeting me. At the end of the day there still has to be attraction and chemistry etc with me, not my partner. " Sorry. We weren't suggesting that. We meant the fact that you are in a relationship with a hot woman reassures couples and women that as someone who can attract someone nice you are not a complete arse. Wasn't suggesting that they were trying to use you as a path to your other half! | |||
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"Sorry. We weren't suggesting that. We meant the fact that you are in a relationship with a hot woman reassures couples and women that as someone who can attract someone nice you are not a complete arse. Wasn't suggesting that they were trying to use you as a path to your other half! " No apology necessary, is an interesting point and maybe it does play its part, although I do like to think that having a decent profile, some not too shabby pics (despite my body) and being respectful, considerate and able to show a level of intelligence in messages and on the forums are the main factors | |||
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"Hmmm...following the green arrow it seems you post this same thread every few weeks and ignore any advice. I don't ignore it, it's not knowing what to put. I don't understand how guys have luck on here and I don't have any. Surely there is someone on here that wants to give me a chance but as I've just read, the ratio is way towards women. They have it so lucky on here. I constantly get told that women don't want cock pics but then I was advised to sex my profile up a bit. What the hell do I do!!" we don't have it so lucky on here! Yes we get lots of messages and there are lots of men, but not all are suitable! | |||
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"Sorry. We weren't suggesting that. We meant the fact that you are in a relationship with a hot woman reassures couples and women that as someone who can attract someone nice you are not a complete arse. Wasn't suggesting that they were trying to use you as a path to your other half! No apology necessary, is an interesting point and maybe it does play its part, although I do like to think that having a decent profile, some not too shabby pics (despite my body) and being respectful, considerate and able to show a level of intelligence in messages and on the forums are the main factors" Oh yes those definitely play a part but all of us are more likely to be attracted to someone who another attractive person finds attractive than someone who says that no one finds him attractive! | |||
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"Sorry. We weren't suggesting that. We meant the fact that you are in a relationship with a hot woman reassures couples and women that as someone who can attract someone nice you are not a complete arse. Wasn't suggesting that they were trying to use you as a path to your other half! No apology necessary, is an interesting point and maybe it does play its part, although I do like to think that having a decent profile, some not too shabby pics (despite my body) and being respectful, considerate and able to show a level of intelligence in messages and on the forums are the main factors Oh yes those definitely play a part but all of us are more likely to be attracted to someone who another attractive person finds attractive than someone who says that no one finds him attractive! " True enough, the lesson for the OP being however to present himself better - as the point you've made aside there really is no reason he shouldn't be able to get meets if he takes heed of the advice given | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. Would it make you happier if the blokes were slim and good looking ? " As i'm Bi: Yes, it would, assuming they can actually string sentences together. Or are you lambasting me for being choosy? | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. Would it make you happier if the blokes were slim and good looking ? As i'm Bi: Yes, it would, assuming they can actually string sentences together. Or are you lambasting me for being choosy?" Certainly not sir | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. Would it make you happier if the blokes were slim and good looking ? As i'm Bi: Yes, it would, assuming they can actually string sentences together. Or are you lambasting me for being choosy? Certainly not sir " I was joking about the last bit Have fun. | |||
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"Will people please be honest and tell me why I never get any messages. I don't have a six pack and a bad boy attitude but plenty to give. Stop Bleating, the odds of YOU getting a message even with the best profile on fabs, is less than 3000:1 Although maybe a six pack and da bad boy @itude, might help you. I only get a couple a year if im lucky, apart from the "wonna fuck" one-liners from ugly fat blokes. Would it make you happier if the blokes were slim and good looking ? As i'm Bi: Yes, it would, assuming they can actually string sentences together. Or are you lambasting me for being choosy? Certainly not sir I was joking about the last bit Have fun." So was I | |||
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