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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... start being offensive when they realise you not interested in meeting / chatting to them....

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Hmmm it's only a minority but I get what you're saying

I always try to be honest and polite but some do seem to think that it's their right to meet if they have messaged

It's a shame because most guys appreciate an honest answer ... I normally say 'thanks for your message, you're not really what I'm looking for but hope you find lots of naughty fun'

9/10 times a reply of 'thank you and you'

Ignore the nasties xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My profile does state I'm not looking for messages from single guys - and that I will find guys myself.. any messages will be deleted..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So block single guys, problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men just can't take rejection..

Especially on here, where some think we are just here solely for their use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile does state I'm not looking for messages from single guys - and that I will find guys myself.. any messages will be deleted.."

Oh well... use your filters then..

Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved "

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

By Xander_69Find posts by Xander_69 Man just this minute!

Lancashire

It shouldn't ever happen but, given how often it seems to no matter how politely a wonam says 'thanks but no thanks', it's obviously just one of those things that's a part of the fab experience and will never change.

Another part of the fab experience is that women have their pick of men, so it's not all bad for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect... "

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect... "

In the real world maybe. Sadly the relative anonymity the internet affords people, gives some licence to act the cnut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so stupid; even us guys get it. Ignore and block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... start being offensive when they realise you not interested in meeting / chatting to them....

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And women & couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do "

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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By Xander_69Find posts by Xander_69 Man just this minute!

Lancashire

It shouldn't ever happen but, given how often it seems to no matter how politely a wonam says 'thanks but no thanks', it's obviously just one of those things that's a part of the fab experience and will never change.

Another part of the fab experience is that women have their pick of men, so it's not all bad for you."

I agree with the first part however the second part is incorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or when ladies or couples do it too.

It's just people not taking rejection well. Fragile egos. It happens. Meh!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"It's not just guys."

Agreed, only happened the once so far though from a single female.

Nice message sent, fit all criteria, to receive back

"You've got to be joking haven't you? Minging!".

Couldn't be arsed to respond, block, move on.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag.... "

Then you are contradicting your profile, just block single men and stop moaning about 'unwanted' messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag.... "

I'm missing nothing..

You complain about getting messages off men yet you don't filter them out..

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"

By Xander_69Find posts by Xander_69 Man just this minute!

Lancashire

It shouldn't ever happen but, given how often it seems to no matter how politely a wonam says 'thanks but no thanks', it's obviously just one of those things that's a part of the fab experience and will never change.

Another part of the fab experience is that women have their pick of men, so it's not all bad for you.

I agree with the first part however the second part is incorrect "

Well obviously I didn't mean any and every man, I was speaking in general terms.

I've said thanks but no thanks to a lot of women and couples but I've never had any abuse back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I politely say thanks for getting back to me and leave it like that plenty more fish in the sea as they say lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag....

I'm missing nothing..

You complain about getting messages off men yet you don't filter them out.. "

Oh you are. I'm complaining about abusive messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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By Xander_69Find posts by Xander_69 Man just this minute!

Lancashire

It shouldn't ever happen but, given how often it seems to no matter how politely a wonam says 'thanks but no thanks', it's obviously just one of those things that's a part of the fab experience and will never change.

Another part of the fab experience is that women have their pick of men, so it's not all bad for you.

I agree with the first part however the second part is incorrect

Well obviously I didn't mean any and every man, I was speaking in general terms.

I've said thanks but no thanks to a lot of women and couples but I've never had any abuse back."

Fair point, unfortunately I have had a few instances of abuse from females and couples after I said no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... start being offensive when they realise you not interested in meeting / chatting to them....

"

Yes same with women too !

Unfortunately offensive behaviour isn't gender specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag....

I'm missing nothing..

You complain about getting messages off men yet you don't filter them out..

Oh you are. I'm complaining about abusive messages. "

Yes but you say you are only looking for women and couples and if you want men you will find them, but you don't filter them out! So maybe if you did that in the first place you wouldnt get any messages let alone abusive ones ...

But it's probably too late now anyway

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag.... "

Do you not see that you are possibly the type to piss off other women on here? "Do not message" on profile, but not blocked & when they do message you instead of telling them to go forth, you chat to them.

Now, that's fine for you but these same guys will now message other females who also have "Do not message" on their profiles & probably get told to fuck off thereby continuing the "Why are single guys aholes?" & "Why are women up their own bums?" Type of mentality

The other thing I fail to understand is you are happy to chat to someone who quite patently couldn't even be bothered to read your profile or believes they are so special it doesn't apply to them

Basically either block them & go look yourself or maybe put the fact you like chatting to guys but won't be meeting any on your profile. Then at least its accurate.

S

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"

By Xander_69Find posts by Xander_69 Man just this minute!

Lancashire

It shouldn't ever happen but, given how often it seems to no matter how politely a wonam says 'thanks but no thanks', it's obviously just one of those things that's a part of the fab experience and will never change.

Another part of the fab experience is that women have their pick of men, so it's not all bad for you.

I agree with the first part however the second part is incorrect

Well obviously I didn't mean any and every man, I was speaking in general terms.

I've said thanks but no thanks to a lot of women and couples but I've never had any abuse back.

Fair point, unfortunately I have had a few instances of abuse from females and couples after I said no thanks. "

I've experienced a lot of things on this site in 5 years of being a member, including a man setting up a couples profile to contact me and offer me £1000 for him to massage and pleasure me. I said "no thanks" btw, and he wasn't abusive, nor has anyone else been.

Your experience is unfortunate but it is not the norm for men, it is for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag.... "

Wtf!! Does this really happen?? What is wrong with some people?? Honestly

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By *dstar01Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"It's not just guys."

Most definitely not just guys...i have come across some propper pieces of work

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name


"... start being offensive when they realise you not interested in meeting / chatting to them....

"

I understand what you mean, but believe me, being offensive without aparent reasons is not an exclusivity of men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So block single guys, problem solved

I think I might have too...

I like to think respect equals respect...

Not on here...

Can't really understand when people complain about something that is down to something they didn't do

You are missing the point. I like messages off single guys (even tho my profile says I don't want them) and I do reply and chat to many

But when my inbox reaches the late 100s - I will bulk delete messages from guys.

I don't expect to then get a barrage of messages telling me I'm fat, and how I'm going to get r*ped by him and his mates because I'm a fat dirty slag....

Wtf!! Does this really happen?? What is wrong with some people?? Honestly"

Indeed it does. I get quite a few because I'm obese, which oddly, I am aware of.

I've had messages from guys to say I shouldn't be on the site, or I'm a fat slagging and ugly.

One guy proceeded to tell me on the forums that I should be shot dead by the Taliban. I told him he was a cunt. Guess who got a forum ban? Me!

I am well aware not many will be attracted to ladies my size, I have no issues with that. However I'll only lose weight on my terms, not when society thinks I should.

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