FabSwingers.com forum: Single fems and single guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to say but me personally, been alone a very long time, struggled to find relationship and scared of it, don't particularly want one either but just want someone to socialise with and make hot steamy love

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??"

I think that one of the reasons is that we are still catching up with men after female emancipation. It was less than 200 years ago women were still considered property, so I guess being open enough to swing is taking a while.

I am sure in twenty years things will be more equal. God help us all then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the more men for meeeeeeee !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes good point...make that reason (f) !

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"All the more men for meeeeeeee !

That too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think there are less women out there looking to meet then men.

Plus I would be very very very careful if I was single and looking as its a lot more dangerous for a single woman to meet me thinks ....

Sandra x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure in twenty years things will be more equal. God help us all then!

lol I hope we will still be swinging in 20 years time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure in twenty years things will be more equal. God help us all then!

lol I hope we will still be swinging in 20 years time!

Lol what a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??"

I've been mainly single the last three years - I've had a few short relationships during that time, including one with a friend with benefits I met on here, but nothing has lasted. I'm very open to NSA sex and I'm also open to a relationship - the two are not mutually exclusive and while I'm not looking on here for a relationship if I fell into one I wouldn't complain. And I certainly wouldn't say I'm less randy than men - my sex drive is huge.

I *am* cautious about who I meet, what single woman isn't? My last meet, about 6 weeks ago, turned out badly. I was lucky to be unscathed but it could have been so much worse. I've now changed my own rules about first meets as a result as I took a stupid risk with my safety and ignored my gut instincts.

But it hasn't stopped me wanting to play casually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??

But it hasn't stopped me wanting to play casually. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??

But it hasn't stopped me wanting to play casually. "

Sounds like reason (a) has much in it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don;t fear meeting strangers, though. I never said that.

As I said, I took a silly risk with my safety and ignored gut feelings. Partly because I'd had a few glasses of wine and partly because I hadn't done enough research prior to the meet, by which I mean I hadn't asked him enough questions about what he was looking for in an encounter. I'm still kicking myself for inviting him back to mine without knowing enough about him, especially as I didn't even fancy him that much when we met in the pub first. So, my bad. But I won't make that error again.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

"All the more men for meeeeeeee !

oi mrs - thought we were sharing ?????

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yes, as a single fem, I am very cautious of who I meet, and I need to get to know someone really well before I meet, a lot of guys on here don't want that as they just want to meet straight away regardless of what my profile says, so they get kicked to touch pretty quickly, if they get pushy with me, it is a no go.

So I am left feeling pretty frustrated lol but I have my own rules and I do stick to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, as a single fem, I am very cautious of who I meet, and I need to get to know someone really well before I meet, a lot of guys on here don't want that as they just want to meet straight away regardless of what my profile says, so they get kicked to touch pretty quickly, if they get pushy with me, it is a no go.

So I am left feeling pretty frustrated lol but I have my own rules and I do stick to them

You and me both girl, They are damn fine rules

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I have my own rules and I do stick to them

You and me both girl, They are damn fine rules

Glad to hear it's not just me!!!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Good question!

I know a few girls who would fit right in on fab - very sexually adventurous, enjoy no strings fun with multiple partners etc, but it wouldn't even enter their heads to join a site like this for the simple reason that they feel that they can get what they want by going out on a saturday night.

They might be right, they might be wrong - I don't know - but I think there is a certain "does not compute" factor when it comes to fab and single women.

That and the fact that so many get scared off or pissed off within a week of joining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree. If youre single and just looking to get laid then its easy for single girls to go out on a Saturday night and pick up a guy. Why would they even think about a site like this

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Yeah I agree. If youre single and just looking to get laid then its easy for single girls to go out on a Saturday night and pick up a guy. Why would they even think about a site like this"

Hmm I can honestly say I have not picked anyone up in a bar since my mid twenties also been single now for 5 years and the older I get I seem to be getting fussier, there needs to be an attraction for me, which is hard to find, maybe I should just go out more often and put my beer goggles on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More women need beer goggles. Then I might have a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I agree. If youre single and just looking to get laid then its easy for single girls to go out on a Saturday night and pick up a guy. Why would they even think about a site like this"

Are you kidding? Maybe when you're in 20s and out clubbing and drinking but I'm 49 and haven't been clubbing for a decade. I would far rather be on here where I can message men at my own pace instead of shouting over thumping music and wandering off d*unk with a total stranger. It's a lot less risky on here.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Yeah I agree. If youre single and just looking to get laid then its easy for single girls to go out on a Saturday night and pick up a guy. Why would they even think about a site like this

I'm totally with you there! My last message was tounge in cheek, but I'd rather 'vet' people as such than invite a 'complete' stranger into my home and not having my wits abouts me, it's just a shame that some men on here just don't understand that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficult to say but me personally, been alone a very long time, struggled to find relationship and scared of it, don't particularly want one either but just want someone to socialise with and make hot steamy love

well said that women xx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well for me it is just the convenience of one place where I can find people who share the same interest in group sex, who I know are not bad in bed...there is nothing worst than picking up someone from a normal club that had too much to drink and ends up being really bad at sex)...

After all I am not here just to have regular sex, but to explore the wilder side of it ....

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??

I am sure in twenty years things will be more equal. God help us all then!

Thats basically the answer,although popular culture suggests that 20 years might be an over optimistic estimate.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I think historically it's men who tend to be unfaithful and play away and they see swinging as an easy way to find sex without the commitment of an affair or getting caught out.

The tides are turning though and women are becoming more independant and open to trying something more daring.

I only discovered the life style 3 years ago and it suits my circumstances for now. Who knows what the future holds...that's part of the fun!

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By *rs ColourfulCouple
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

"well for me it is just the convenience of one place where I can find people who share the same interest in group sex, who I know are not bad in bed...there is nothing worst than picking up someone from a normal club that had too much to drink and ends up being really bad at sex)...

After all I am not here just to have regular sex, but to explore the wilder side of it ....

I have to agree.. I have found meeting single guys from here much safer than from a regular club..

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By *rs ColourfulCouple
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

After all I am not here just to have regular sex, but to explore the wilder side of it ....

I have to agree.. I have found meeting single guys from here much safer than from a regular club..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I dunno, I've met some dodgy geezers from this site!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I have to agree.. I have found meeting single guys from here much safer than from a regular club.. "

well my point was never going to hit the right audience on here - pointing out that sites like fab "do not compute" for women who aren't on fab to people who are on fab and have seen the benefits.

a case in point is a friend of mine whom I've fooled around with once or five times over the years - she is absolutely renowned amongst her friends of continutally hooking up with complete tossers (which probably includes me)- getting treated like shit (not me honest!) and getting down over it - I've subtly mentioned that there are websites were she can meet fun guys - but she won't do it because she's worried she might meet a nutter or an arsehole.

go figure!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good question!

They might be right, they might be wrong - I don't know - but I think there is a certain "does not compute" factor when it comes to fab and single women.

That and the fact that so many get scared off or pissed off within a week of joining."

Your absolutely right, the overall majority of sexually adventurous confident women I know feel they can get all they need in the 'vanilla world'. That does not mean 'one night stands' from noisy nightclubs, I'm not sure why some people only seem to have this image of the vanilla world.

We should not forget that most people outside of this scene see swinging as 'seedy' or a little weird. The (wrong) perception people have of women in this scene is enough to put of most from taking a closer look. In time that will change.

Just look at the web dating scene, some women already only use it for sex. It's just a matter of time and branding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??"

my honest opinion on that is kind of C lol

i think most single guys on here arnt single at all they are playing away, now im not saying more women wouldnt play away if they could but its just harder for women to get away from the family than it is men, as as a rule we have to sort out sitters etc so maybe its a case of less women wanting to cheat and not as many women able to cheat cause of family commitments men dont seem to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree.. I have found meeting single guys from here much safer than from a regular club..

well my point was never going to hit the right audience on here - pointing out that sites like fab "do not compute" for women who aren't on fab to people who are on fab and have seen the benefits.

go figure!!!"

If a girl mentions she's been out with 'lotsa losers', that sends me a red flag asap. Chances are, she's the one who is the nutter or that she has no intuition about risk and continually ignores any danger signals, making her a liability in either case.

I guess you have to give her a break if she's young, but not really by that much. Some people are just more mature than others, and age is a relatively weak factor in influencing that.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Maybe it's not the women, but the "swinging scene", that is the problem. If you've been on forums of a swinging nature, for as long as I have, and I know some of you out there have, you'll all know how regular the "can you still swing if you a single male/female" argument pops up. Not as often as the "I'm not getting laid, am I fat/ugly/old/sending crap messages" argument, but still quite frequently.

Many people in the big, weird, scary, "normal" world _iew swinging as a "car keys in bowl, and married people swapping wives, hoping they don't get the fat one sat in the corner", type of hobby. So that could be a reason as to why single women don't even consider joining sites like this, and stick to 'nilla dating sites.

Personally I love the freedom side that swinging gives me. I can't go up to a guy in a bar and say I really fancy you and your mate can I take you home, and have one of you fuck me anally, while the other takes the front? Whereas if I met 2 guys at a swing social, I could, and until I can walk into a pub and say that, I'll carry on swinging!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

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reason more men than women..

they have watched too many pornos and get carried away with their 'cor I wanna gang bang, do 3sums and all that '...

then reality sets in and they settle for a wee wank looking at the pics..

less ladies, but most do actually meet

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps..... and the ones who don't meet, still feel great as they have had their egos stroked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"reason more men than women..

they have watched too many pornos and get carried away with their 'cor I wanna gang bang, do 3sums and all that '...

then reality sets in and they settle for a wee wank looking at the pics..

less ladies, but most do actually meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Personally I love the freedom side that swinging gives me. I can't go up to a guy in a bar and say I really fancy you and your mate can I take you home, and have one of you fuck me anally, while the other takes the front? Whereas if I met 2 guys at a swing social, I could, and until I can walk into a pub and say that, I'll carry on swinging!!! "

I have actually been lucky enough for this to happen, but it was ages ago and it certainly isn't the norm.

Looking for sex on a night out is like having a burger chucked at you. Looking for sex on here is like sitting down with a menu and a glass of wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think a lot of the time people become scared of liking someone to much because of past failed relationships.

i understans a woman for hating men after she has been treated so badly and hurt.

some of the woman ive been lucky to meet all have stories of guys being abusive and making there lifes a misery.

and after meeting them and building a sort of friendship with them i just dont understand how some guys behave.

i must be very hard to trust someone again after being hurt so badly and i suppose swinging and meeting for nsa is a sort of way to cure the hunger for a while.

but im sure these lovely woman would love to trust someone and build a relationship which would make them happy.

but the past always jumps up and makes it impossible for them and that is very sad.

but i do understand it and also understand the freedom swinging brings someone.

but people do form relationships on sites like this when not looking.someone comes along who they like and it just happens.

all id say is not all guys are the same (even though i know some of you on here think im a wanker) and not all of us are out just for massive amount of verifications.

dont give up hope. the worlds a big place and you just havnt met the right one yet.

past is just that and you shouldnt let one mistake ruin the fun you could have with someone who does care.

enough said i think.

have a good day ladies xxx

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

"We have been looking for a single fem but noticed there are about 100 single guys for each single fem....is this because:

(a) Women fear meeting strangers.

(b) Women want relationships not casual sex.

(d) Women are less randy than men.

(e) Any other reason??"

All of the above, plus they are too busy buying shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on the single scene it was a few things that stopped me meeting up with others.

a) was one of them, but fear isn't the word, but more careful. My biggest fear was to meet up with a guy then for him to not understand the word no or to have had him bring along his friends without me knowing, etc.

A girl can not be too careful.

Also as a single fem I got on average 30 messages a day & some were downright rude & disturbing. I ended up having to block a lot of guys. Having so many jerks message you, it makes you more weary of meeting other guys.

Guys you want more response from women? BE POLITE!!! Just because she's on a singles/swinging site does NOT mean she wants to fuck you! So don't make assumptions. Yes, she wants casual sex, but she still has her standards! You may not be her type.

Also I still believe there is a strong level of sexism, not just by guys but other woman. I was very quiet about my meet ups but I had a friend who was open about her meets & the abuse she got from others about it. She was called everything from slut, whore, to a bad mother & that her kids should be removed!!

I think a lot of woman don't feel they are capable of fulfilling all of their sexual needs/desires without slandering their name & ruining their reputation.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"but people do form relationships on sites like this when not looking.someone comes along who they like and it just happens.

all id say is not all guys are the same (even though i know some of you on here think im a wanker) and not all of us are out just for massive amount of verifications.

dont give up hope. the worlds a big place and you just havnt met the right one yet.

past is just that and you shouldnt let one mistake ruin the fun you could have with someone who does care.

enough said i think.

have a good day ladies xxx"

Unfortunately this is a symptom of the fact that women were chattals for so long - men want to rescue us and believe we are only playing around til Prince Charming comes along.

I cannot speak for any other woman on here, but I'm am not on here either looking for a relationship or marking time til I find one. I have been single for 5 years and intend to remain so. I am not looking for Mr Right, and I reckon any man would soon regret trying for a relationship with me.

I am a single woman who wants sex. There is nothing to be ashamed of in that, and I hope more single women become bold enough to swing right alongside me.

Sisters doing it for themselves etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but people do form relationships on sites like this when not looking.someone comes along who they like and it just happens.

all id say is not all guys are the same (even though i know some of you on here think im a wanker) and not all of us are out just for massive amount of verifications.

dont give up hope. the worlds a big place and you just havnt met the right one yet.

past is just that and you shouldnt let one mistake ruin the fun you could have with someone who does care.

enough said i think.

have a good day ladies xxx

Unfortunately this is a symptom of the fact that women were chattals for so long - men want to rescue us and believe we are only playing around til Prince Charming comes along.

I am a single woman who wants sex. There is nothing to be ashamed of in that, and I hope more single women become bold enough to swing right alongside me.

Sisters doing it for themselves etc etc

Viva le Revolution!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but people do form relationships on sites like this when not looking.someone comes along who they like and it just happens.

all id say is not all guys are the same (even though i know some of you on here think im a wanker) and not all of us are out just for massive amount of verifications.

dont give up hope. the worlds a big place and you just havnt met the right one yet.

past is just that and you shouldnt let one mistake ruin the fun you could have with someone who does care.

enough said i think.

have a good day ladies xxx

Unfortunately this is a symptom of the fact that women were chattals for so long - men want to rescue us and believe we are only playing around til Prince Charming comes along.

I am a single woman who wants sex. There is nothing to be ashamed of in that, and I hope more single women become bold enough to swing right alongside me.

Sisters doing it for themselves etc etc

no nothing wrong with that at all.

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