FabSwingers.com forum: Are there genuine people out there?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Our question is are there actual people that are looking for a proper meet, as we have experienced countless amounts of people that get horny over the thought but don't actually make it to the "Meeting Stage" even for a social drink prior to the fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our question is are there actual people that are looking for a proper meet, as we have experienced countless amounts of people that get horny over the thought but don't actually make it to the "Meeting Stage" even for a social drink prior to the fun."

yes there are genuine people here for sure

the key to it is patience. don't expect everything to happen in a week or 2 of getting on here.

i would say that there are more people here for the females rather than the males tho

so with the fem part of your couple being in a 'delicate state' shall we say than may be other couples are postponing meets (social or sexual) until such a time that you can both play

good luck with it all - am sure someone will enjoy swinging with you in the near future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are people on here that meet: and you know that. The thing is people are not interested in meeting you, and to be honest you'll struggle.

Your age will put some people off. Add to that being pregnant and you'll appeal less.

Search forum posts for swinging while pregnant to understand how most that posted felt about that.

A mature approach is to realise you won't appeal to everyone. Petulance is not attractive!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You have been on here for 1 week do you really expect people just to drop everything including their pants to meet you 2..

firstly... welcome and have relaxed non pressurised fun..

secondly... reread your original post about genuine people and think how insulting that may be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with the responses posted - added to that - the op profile states the pregnant lady in question is a smoker!

I'm not quite sure what they were thinking when they joined fab - if it was for sex, think he'd be better off visiting a - 'professional' - at least that way there is no need to build friendship & respect into the equation....

Sorry OP but swinging is most definitely not about instant sexual gratification.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No all the verifications you see on profiles are, in fact, lies. No one meets, we all just come on here to waste other peoples' time and give them false hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you serious? One week on and you are whinging about not getting to the "meeting stage"

Joining a swinging site does not guarantee you the instant gratification you obviously seek.

Sit back for five and think about this... you are looking for a four-way attraction... that's one of the hardest things to achieve whilst swinging.

Also, as previously mentioned... the lady is in a 'delicate' state at the moment... this may hamper your chances of getting any meets as some folk will worry about hurting your un-born child. Sorry if that's sounds harsh and something you didn't want to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are people on here that meet: and you know that. The thing is people are not interested in meeting you, and to be honest you'll struggle.

Your age will put some people off. Add to that being pregnant and you'll appeal less.

Search forum posts for swinging while pregnant to understand how most that posted felt about that.

A mature approach is to realise you won't appeal to everyone. Petulance is not attractive!"

Neither is your bad attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@ Brightbabe - do you do that too - I thought it was just me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am actually plastic, like Barbie.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Youve been on ere a week thats all so if you give it time they will come lol

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By *outhlondondudeMan
over a year ago

london

This topic seems to be a variation of the complaint by some single guys of not getting meets or not even being told 'no-thanks'. I enjoy reading the forum messages due to the mixed and thoughtful _iews on here. The problem as many have noted is a mis-understanding as to what a swinging site actually does-it is not a certainty of sex. I wish more of us could take this on board. Swinging means the usual social graces and manners, and charm which we all use in 'normal' life, and I think more of use don't appreciate this truth. For example, no-one, even with the best will in the world finds complainers fun to be around, and what is Fabs if not about fun? A more attractive way is not to go into one, but to ask for advice on improving a profile, etc. You should, as one person advised, be able to wait, and as someone esle advised , that you may not be to the taste of some on here-but you will be to the taste of some. No-one appeals to everyone. While you are waiting you may wish to find sites that are specific to your particular circumstances (age, region, etc), and also attenting any socials that you can would help make friends and contacts. It is the contacts, as in all walks of life, that will open the doors, so you may never need to really place an ad again.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"This topic seems to be a variation of the complaint by some single guys of not getting meets or not even being told 'no-thanks'. I enjoy reading the forum messages due to the mixed and thoughtful _iews on here. The problem as many have noted is a mis-understanding as to what a swinging site actually does-it is not a certainty of sex. I wish more of us could take this on board. Swinging means the usual social graces and manners, and charm which we all use in 'normal' life, and I think more of use don't appreciate this truth. For example, no-one, even with the best will in the world finds complainers fun to be around, and what is Fabs if not about fun? A more attractive way is not to go into one, but to ask for advice on improving a profile, etc. You should, as one person advised, be able to wait, and as someone esle advised , that you may not be to the taste of some on here-but you will be to the taste of some. No-one appeals to everyone. While you are waiting you may wish to find sites that are specific to your particular circumstances (age, region, etc), and also attenting any socials that you can would help make friends and contacts. It is the contacts, as in all walks of life, that will open the doors, so you may never need to really place an ad again.

This sums it all up, in a non aggressive manner.

I must admit, there is one positive factor in your favour. You have been upfront and honest about your situation, whereas some people may have ommitted that from the start, and only let on once they received replies, to the extent of pissing off those replying!

You've only been on a week. Be patient! The good times will happen!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

There are 7152 people currently logged on. 38 of them are genuine cos Ive just counted them. Go get 'em....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, youth, pregnancy and looking for only couple meets seriously cuts down any amount of playmates for you to choose from. I wish you happy swinging. xx

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over a year ago

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By *ustpartyCouple
over a year ago

Blackwater

There are genuine couples. More in some areas than others.

There are more timewasters however. The downside of a freesite. You'll figure it all out in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots do meet and some don't. Some want to meet but others don't find them attractive enough to meet them. Others live too far away. Even more are scared of meeting and more get so many offers they can be choose. As they say life is a bitch at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are people on here that meet: and you know that. The thing is people are not interested in meeting you, and to be honest you'll struggle.

Your age will put some people off. Add to that being pregnant and you'll appeal less.

Search forum posts for swinging while pregnant to understand how most that posted felt about that.

A mature approach is to realise you won't appeal to everyone. Petulance is not attractive!

Neither is your bad attitude "

I don't really know how to sugar coat things. I suppose if I was looking to meet and impress others I would...then again...nah!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Pretty much every person is genuine, cloning humans is against the law.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Just think of this site as a place to make connections, after that, patience, sense of humour and openmindedness may payoff and result in some great friends and hot times. A networking site is not a quick route for sex. Would be quicker to have a night out I guess. Welcome and hope you find the fun you seek.

Mistress x

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Never had a meet, wouldn't know what to do if we did as both virgins and thought sex was a myth

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks very much for the different _iews and perspectives, we will take these to heart and rethink our strategy and be more patience and friendly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks very much for the different _iews and perspectives, we will take these to heart and rethink our strategy and be more patience and friendly..."

Usually on these types of thread you never hear from the OP's again, so well done you!

Hope you find what you're looking for here!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"There are 7152 people currently logged on. 38 of them are genuine cos Ive just counted them. Go get 'em....

Interesting math, factor how many of the 38 genuine are couples. How many of those meet smokers, then further eliminate by those seeking the OP's age bracket. Finally wittle down by those who have no issues with the female being pregnant. For good measure, how many of those are actually free to meet. Possible answer is 1. Now pray they fancy you

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